I received a very shocking news again.

@indahfth (11173)
Indonesia
April 23, 2011 7:28pm CST
Saturday yesterday, I visited my parents house. In addition to trying to talk about what happened between my parents with my brother, I attended the wedding one of my parents' neighbors. When I attended the wedding, many people who say the behavior of my sister-in-law. There is one story that really surprised me, and I heard from my aunt's sister-in-law. That the wedding my brother, only considered temporary by my sister-in-law. Only until my sister-in-law, gave birth to her child. I almost fainted, hear this. I am not able to deliver this to my parents. I am very confused what should I do?
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16 responses
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
Hi indahfth, maybe you shouldn't brought this thing up to your parents yet. I hope you brother and sister in law will change their minds about separating. An innocent baby can give a miracle, they'll find out when looking in baby's eyes. I hope everything will work out fine with your family. Good luck.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 11
This morning, I already spoke with my brother and his wife. And it turns out this news is true. My sister-in-law, wants a divorce after the baby is born. because my sister-in-law, did not love my younger brother.
• Indonesia
25 Apr 11
I'm very sorry to hear that. I'll pray for the best of you and your family.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Maybe once the child is born they will change their minds about separating. I know after experiencing having a baby together, many couples feel closer, though not always. Before you tell anyone, I would wait and think about it some more.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
I also hope like that. But, because my sister-in-law, consider this only a temporary marriage, brother- in-law I do not care about my parents. And my parents, very sad because of this. I should immediately discuss this matter as soon as possible.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
25 Apr 11
You need to do what you feel in your heart is the best action to take. Good luck to you and everyone involved.
• United States
28 Apr 11
Hi indahfth I was away for five days and am now catching up with the discussions. Oh my dear I am so very sorry you and your family have to experience this. Wow how terrible that any human being think this is okay to affect families in this way. I so hope that by now you managed to explain to your parents and they are well. I do hope your mother does not get ill after such shocking news. It was very devastating for you and I can only imagine how difficult this will be/was for her. Do take care of yourself and hope all goes well.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 11
I've talked about this to my mother, my mother initially very emotional, and felt cheated. But I managed to reduce my mother's emotions. I just asked my mom to be patient, because very soon all this will end.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 11
It was uncomfortable for you to hear that your sister might think your younger brother is a temporary solution to her problems. Maybe she married him so she didn't have to be a single mother. When your sister-in-law gives birth to her baby I hope it will make their relationship stronger. It would be lovely if they can become a happy and secure family together with their darling little baby. For now I don't think it would be worth you mentioning what you heard at the wedding to your parents. I think you should keep quiet and listen to all that is happening. Good luck.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
27 Apr 11
I also hope they can become a happy family, but it seems it will never happen, because they did not marry for love. They were married just for their baby.
• Indonesia
25 Apr 11
Well.. We already start discuss your sister-in-law behavior in other discussion, and now you got another news, which in my opinion is ignominy. If you don't mind, I suggest you and your family sit and start to talk about this. Because you got this news from somebody outside your main family.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 11
Before I talked to my parents, I would seek out the truth of this news first. This morning I've discussed this with my sister and his wife. And it turns out it is true. Sister-in-law I want a divorce, after her baby was born, The reason I want a divorce-in-lawsister, because she did not love my younger brother.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
24 Apr 11
This comes under hearsay and is not a fact. Keep this to yourself and wait to see what happens. Always give yourself time before you pass on bad news. Make sure you ask yourself why you wish to pass it on, is it going to help anyone? As you said your brother's wife is very young, after she gives birth she may begin to look at the world differently and would feel very foolish about something she said before. Haven't we all made silly judgements and silly statements in our youth. Blessings
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 11
Yes. you're right. This morning, I spoke with my sister and his wife. And the news, it's true. Sister-in-law I want a divorce after the baby is born. I give advice to my sister-in-law, to think about this carefully, however, the decision of my sister-in-law, can not be changed anymore.
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
24 Apr 11
I would probably decide to stay out of it. You and your parents may be traditional and think that marriage is for ever. She may think herself a "modern" woman and only agreed to marry your brother because of pressures from both sides of the family. That, and the fact that she might not want it said to her child later that he was born out of wedlock.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 11
They got married not because of pressure, my younger brother-in-law who has claimed responsibility my younger brother, to marry him. And last, I have talked with both of them, and my sister-in-law said he wanted a divorce, after their baby is born.
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@johnpillai (2083)
• Germany
24 Apr 11
Have faith and patience. Don't get pannic. Ladies change themselves after giving birth to a child. try to explain the girl that a father is important for a child. without a loving and caring father everything will be difficult for a child. There are enough months. you and your family members may get chances to win her heart by helping her in her needs. and prayers can solve each and every problem. do you think A sixteen year girl is almighty than God.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
I try to be patient and not panic. Today, I will discuss this.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
24 Apr 11
I appreciate your concern but it is wise to consider that it may just be a rumor and not how your brother really feels. I would ignore comments from others and disbelieve anything that does not come from ‘the horse’s mouth’ being your brother and his fiancé. I see no point upsetting your parents with this information.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
Before that, I will find out the truth first, by talking to my sister and isrinya. I do not want my parents know from others.
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@cream97 (29166)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Hi. indahfth. I am sorry that you had to hear this sad news. It seems as if your brother was just getting married to your sister-in-law all because she was carrying his child. In relationships sometimes, two people are forced to get married to each other when the woman is pregnant. I wished that they could stay married to each other and not just for the baby's sake. I am sorry that you had to find out this way. If there is one thing that is for sure, I hope that your brother really loves her.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
I also really hope the same thing as you. I will talk about this, to my sister-in-law.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Don't say anything to your parents. It would prejudice them against your brother's wife. She may change her mind about the marriage, if she is treated right. If y ou feel that you must talk to someone about what you heard, talk to your sister-in-law. There is a chance that what you heard was incorrect.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
I'll talk to my sister-in-law. In order for me, get clarity, and hear directly about this news from my sister-in-law. If this is true, I must immediately take action.
@dlpierce (489)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Stories like that always get twisted by the time they are retold over and over. If there was enough care for that baby to make it legal then there should be enough to keep them together to raise the child. In time their love for the baby will make their relationship stronger. I wait and see what happens.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
I also hope, the presence of infants could deepen and strengthen their relationship. I will talk about this, so that unwanted things did not happen.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Apr 11
hi indahfth oh my that is sad but think of this perhaps he is doing that also so the child will have his name and maybe its a joint decision . if not then I can see that you and your parents will really be shocked.I am sorry for all concerned as this will not be pleasant for your parents either.You will have to tell them and hope your aunts sister in law gtot this all wrong. sometimes people can spread false rumors that hurt so many people.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
What I heard from my aunt's sister-in-law, marriage is only to cover the shame. I was very surprised, and my body became very weak, I can not say anything anymore. Until now I have not been able to tell this to my parents. I also want to ask this to my sister-in-law first, before talking about this to my parents.
@celticeagle (119823)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Apr 11
It just never ends for you does it? I think you need to tell the ones this affect. If I were one of proud parents I would certainly not want this information kept from me. The sooner you know news whether it be bad or good the sooner you can do something. I feel so sorry for your brother.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
Eventually I had to do something, so this news does not get to my parents. I do not want my parents to know this news, from other people.
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@celticeagle (119823)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Apr 11
Ya. Good luck. Dang families anyway! lol
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@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 11
Hi indahft!. I think if I am not wrong you told me if you sister in law just 16 years old. I think at thats age she just not think the consequence of his word can made every thing complicated. I think its will be wise if you told this matters to her parents and solve this problem together. There is always chance thats was her parent plant but by knowing it before its happen maybe will be better so you can be prepare. I think she will tend to change her mind when she see her baby. I hope she will had common sense because the baby will need both parent.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 11
At first, I really want to talk about this, to parents, from my sister-in-law. But, when I talked to my sister-in-law, very surprisingly, parents of my sister-in-law, knowing this since the marriage has not been implemented. I became very disappointed. Even more disappointing, they do not want to care for the baby to be born.
@kheydia (883)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
You talk to your brother about that matter, maybe he knows something about it, maybe that is also the reason why she is acting like that to your parents because of that plan. You clarify it with them what is really their plan about it, so that you can also make plan on how you can tell it to your parents that their heart wont broke.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 11
Yes. I also have a plan like that