Well I filled out an adoption form :)

Canada
May 24, 2011 11:12am CST
I've posted before that I haven't had a dog since 2005 when my scottish terrier/bichon mix had to be put down at the age of almost 11 years. For so many reasons, I have not been ready for another dog. All along, though, I've regularly followed the website of a rescue that's not terribly far from where I live. Over the weekend, they listed a miniature dachshund for adoption -- one of the main breeds I've researched and been interested in. He is the common red coloring, male, approximately one year old. I looked at his photos over and over and his eyes just reached right inside of me. Maybe... maybe... he's the one I've been waiting for all these years. So, I took their first step and filled out their adoption form. It asks for TONS of information and I know that they are very careful about where they place each dog. The idea is, of course, to find a good match and a home where the dog will stay forever and not be returned to them after an "impulse buy." I will have to wait now and see if they contact me. My sister recently rescued a yorkie mix from them and found it all to be a very positive experience. Funny thing is, I'm so nervous. It has been so long since I allowed myself to even think about having a dog in the house again... and most people just assume I don't want one. SO far from the truth!! Have you ever had an emotionally hard time deciding to adopt a dog (or any pet, for that matter)?
10 responses
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
24 May 11
Bless your heart. I am so glad you found this little dog. I worked as a volunteer for years at a local no kill shelter. The atrocities some of these animals have been through would rip your heart out. We have adopted a few pets over the years. Most have just been dropped here where we work or at our home. One we adopted was 5 years old and a history of cancer. We didn't want him to spend his remaining years in a small pen. So, though we knew we would lose him some day, we brought him home. We had him for about 5 years before the cancer got him. And knowing that he had love, even for a few years, was worth the pain. 3 years ago someone dumped an older Rottweiler here at work. She had arthritis so bad. We took her and had her checked out and put her on some meds and she did well. Up until October of last year that is. She suddenly became lethargic and I noticed a small lump on her side. I called the vet immediately. He told me to calm down, that most likely it was the arthritis and to bring her in. Well, it wasn't arthritis. It was bone cancer. And when she laid flat from the tranquilizer it wasn't a small lump at all. It was as large as half my rib cage. I was devastated. I asked if she could have had it the whole time. He said no, that it is just that aggressive. She was so sweet. Had the best manners. Didn't bother anyone. I miss her still. So, I understand. I do hope that they contact you soon.
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• Canada
24 May 11
My previous dog I bought from a pet shop. I never regretted him for a moment but I told myself, in future, I would never purchase again. So many animals need homes and I know I can provide a good, caring and safe one. I just needed to wait for the right time and this little guy might be it :) According to the profile, he was found wandering and no one was apparently looking for him. So a good samaritan, as they were called, dropped him at the rescue. They say he's a little nervous and anxious but who wouldn't expect that, right? He looks to be strong and healthy and, at this rescue, the adoption fee is $350. Included in that is a thorough vet exam, sterilization, vaccinations, microchipping, anti-flea treatment and deworming. But, as you experienced, there are things we can never predict. I'm so glad you were able to give those dogs a good quality of life while you had them. The little yorkie my sister just adopted is 7 years old. She got her quite quickly and I assume it's because everyone wants a puppy... it's so much harder for the shelters and rescues to place older dogs. I'm not sure why. It's often a wonderful experience to bring an older dog into the home because they may have had the benefit of training already, can be less destructive, etc. Thanks for your kind words, Carolyn... I'll be on pins and needles until I hear from them!
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
24 May 11
Excuse me, $350? Wow. I know the place I volunteered for spays and neuters them if they are old enough prior to placing for adoption. If they are too young, they give you a certificate to do so. They don't microchip, but they are examined and treated upon arrival to the facility. They even treat for heart worms if need be. And it's less than $100 dollars. And you are right, most of the time people want puppies or kittens. Sadly, when they aren't perfect, or they have to actually work with them, they too often do return them. The Min Pin we recently adopted actually didn't cost us to adopt. We carried supplies, hay and feed to donate. We decided to take him to our vet to have him neutered and everything. It was a different rescue organization and I wasn't actually impressed. I would have taken all the animals from there had I been able to. The dog loved this guy so much that he urinated on him 3 times while we stood there. He hasn't done anything like that with us. The guy claimed to have just given the animals their shots. I didn't see any paper work. Usually we go through another organization, the one I worked for, but they were closed that day. My husband was bound and determined to find a dog that day! So, there are reputable places and some not so much. I know the place you are looking is because of all the red tape. Good luck!
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• Canada
25 May 11
Yup! $350 and, if it's a senior dog 8+ years of age, it's $250. They are a non-profit rescue that relies heavily on donations and such (as most do) and they do take care of the things that are needed in that price. I truly believe the price is set to avoid people coming in and getting dogs they don't really want to keep. Putting money down can certainly make some people stop and think and not be so swayed but a cute face or a wagging tail. As you've said, not all rescues are reputable, that's for sure! I've been following this one for about five years or so and I've seen and heard nothing but good things about their work. In addition to my sister, I know others that have adopted from them and all very positive outcomes. My sister says they do provide you with all the paperwork they have on the dog including the information from the vet and all so at least I wouldn't be starting with nothing - and I find that more comforting. The good news is - they called me this morning! I had about a 20 minute call with the owner of the rescue. She asked me lots of questions and we had a good chat. Then she asked, "Would you like to come and meet him?" I'm SO excited. I go on Friday night... I hope we turn out to be a good match, he and I. I'm really ready to give him a good home. Keep crossing your fingers, if you don't mind? LOL ;)
@GreenMoo (11834)
25 May 11
I have my fingers crossed for you that they get in touch and you're able to rehome this little dog. I've previously adopted cats, and although a few of them were a challenge due to the cruelty that their previous owners had inflicted on them, it is something that I wouldn't hesitate to do again.
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• Canada
25 May 11
Thank you GreenMoo! I received a phone call this morning from the rescue owner. She asked for lots of information and I answered all her questions. Then, she invited me to meet the dog on Friday night! He's being neutered today so he needs a couple of days before I can see him. I'm really anxious to go! I understand what you mean about the challenge... this little fellow is evidently quite nervous but she says he is coming out of his shell. They have had him at the rescue for about a week now and she said he's made strides in that time. He is sociable and is starting to run around but he's still skittish with people coming up to him... no doubt because he was a stray for a bit and who knows what could have been done to him prior to that :( She says on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the most nervous of what she has seen, she ranks him about a 3. I consider that pretty normal for a pup that's been having a hard life so far. I hope I earn a little of his trust when I see him :))
@GreenMoo (11834)
26 May 11
Who would not be nervous, being stuck in a brand new place with lots of other dogs? Best of luck on Friday!
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25 May 11
Growing up we ended up adopting a cat after a neighbour moved away and their cat ended up in the local cattery. It was a hard decision and there was quite a lot of criteria to be met to adopt the cat. Which was a little funny as she'd always lived next door and come in our garden anyway. Our cat, fluffy, was amazing and lived to be 15 or so from what I recall. I have lots of brilliant memories of her growing up and can remember just how excited our household was when she finally arrived. I'd definitely recommend, if you know for sure it's what you want, that you do whatever the rehoming place needs you to do. If you want this dog then do whatever it takes to make sure he comes home to you. Good luck with it all :)
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• Canada
25 May 11
Thanks so very much, katykicker! I did pass the phone interview this morning and the lady was really nice to me. She made me feel very good about my decision to wait until I felt emotionally ready for another dog. She mentioned that they have had lots of mini dachshunds go through their facility over the years and I told her that, yes, I've seen them all on the website LOL But something about this little guy reaches out to me so it feels like this is the one :)) I will meet him Friday night and see if we seem ok together. If so, I think I can bring him home right away. I'm beyond excited! :))
@umabharti (3972)
• India
25 May 11
yes it happens when we are too much attached with our pet animals , and the depart of it hurts a lot .We cant or let ourselves again to such situation as we can not handle it ,When we see the things or photos or any memorable things of the pet we just crash off into tears as we knw every single thing of it and every sec we get along with it. Good that u are trying for an adoption , The decision is all urs whether u can handle the new one or no.Good luck , however the though of adoption is a great one.
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• Canada
26 May 11
Thank you umabharti! I went through a lot with my previous dog - including a divorce where he was left with my ex and was so badly neglected. The day my ex moved out of town, he took the dog to a kennel and paid for them to keep him for three days. I got a phone call to tell me and when I asked, "what happens after the three days?", I was told he didn't care and it wasn't his problem. I managed to get to the dog in time (and was screamed at by the kennel owner for his condition, which had not even been my fault) and it cost me $500 that day to have him seen by a vet, taken to a groomer (his coat was so long it was dragging on the ground under him) and to get all his necessities. I cried when I saw what had been done to him and I spent the rest of his life making sure he never suffered that way again. When he was put down, part of me went with him in many ways. So, yes, it has been a very long time since I felt I could bring another dog into my life. This little fellow that I am hoping to adopt, when I see his photos they really touch me. I feel some kind of connection to him. I hope, when I meet him tomorrow, that the connection is really there :))
@farooq1 (33)
25 May 11
thats really good :) hopefully it will be just like old happy times with your old dog for you. i haven't really had an emotional time with my pets (fish).
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• Canada
25 May 11
I've had fish too, farooq... I had several bettas and really appreciated their beautiful colors and interesting personalities :)) I'm hoping for a happy life with this new dog. I'm ready to give him everything he needs and the best home I can. I hope he's ready for me too
• China
25 May 11
I didn't keep dogs ,but I love then.It's kind of you.
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• Canada
25 May 11
Thank you fenweilun! It has been six years since I had a dog in my home... and it finally feels like it is time for one again :)) Now that I am in the process of making this decision, it is making me happier and happier. I am glad I waited because it feels like I'm really doing the right thing :))
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
26 May 11
No.. I did exactly what they try to screen against. I adopted a dog on impulse and later realized it wasn't right for us. I wish they'd screened us to realize this dog wasn't right for us and we weren't right for him. Now I know a lot of people might be judgemental towards this.. so let me first say it was a long time ago, and I was only in my early 20's and just didn't know.. it was a mistake and I've learned. My kids love dogs.. but I generally do not. I do love animals, but dogs are my least favorite pet. I was attacked by one as a child and have basically never forgiven the entire species for it. I don't want to see harm come to a dog, but I also don't want to be too close to one I don't know very well. Anyways, when my kids were little and showing an amazing love for dogs, I realized they did need a playmate. Having a dog is kind of a part of growing up.. it's like a best friend to them, you know. I felt bad that my fear was stopping them from having such an important part of life. My husband also loves dogs and had always had one while growing up. And of course there was a small part of me that felt that having a dog to play with would be fun. I generally have cats.. but cats aren't friends really.. and they don't play with you. They just sleep all the time and attack your feet while you're sleeping, LOL. So, one night we decided to go down to this adoption center and we brought the dog home the same night. The only thing they asked us was if we brought our pets to the vet, and they wanted documentation.. so I brought them a recent receipt from getting my cat fixed to prove we did use a vet. I brought home a yellow lab.. I think he was a bit over a year old.. but definitely under 3 years old (hubby says they're super hyper until 3 years old.. and this dog was super hyper!). Well the dog was not fully house trained which frustrated me to no end because I was the one to have to clean up after it and attempt to house train it. And, as mentioned, it was super hyper! Unfortunately we only lived in a 2 bedroom condo with 3 kids. We shared a backyard with 4 other families...so the width of our yard was equal to the width of our house.. maybe 10 feet wide and 20 feet long. Not much room for a crazy hyper dog. Then my neighbor on one side pitched a fit about the dog.. she didn't want him even touching her portion of yard.. so I couldn't tie him up out back at all anymore. We were frustrated.. and he was being stifled. It wasn't a good situation for us or the dog. After a few months I found him a new home. I visited many different families who didn't seem interested until finally a family with 3 boys living on a farm decided to take him. I'm not certain it was the best choice.. I later visited and the dog was tied up in the garage with the door open. I'm not certain he was free to run and play like he needed.. but at least being tied up in their garage was better than being stuck inside our tiny home. I convinced myself that when their boys were home they let the dog play, and the dog was only tied up while the boys were at school.. so that made me feel better. As I said, I learned a lesson. I've not attempted to own another dog since. The kids and my hubby want one desperately, and I've told them that as soon as we have a big house with a big yard we will look into getting another dog. Hubby wants a husky.. I will have to research that breed to make sure I can handle it since I know I will be the one to take care of it most of the time. I'd prefer a small dog, like a terrior or something.. but hubby doesn't like small dogs. I just need to make sure whatever dog I get isn't extremely hyper.. because even with a lot of space I don't have the patience for a hyper dog.. I want active, but not hyper!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 May 11
Yes..I have recently been going through a bit of turmoil. I have dogs and have not had a cat for years. This cat just happens in to my life..a stray. Just when we thought the owner would never call us back and the cat was going to stay..the owner calls and comes for her. Well..I guess it was to remind me how great cats are too...lol...I have been considering going to the animal shelter here and adopting one. I think it's great that you are adopting an animal. So many poor little souls are down there just waiting..never knowing anything better. Thank goodness for great people like you.
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• Canada
25 May 11
Awww Jen! Maybe you're right... maybe that cat came to you for a reason! I would honestly love to have a cat, too, but I am seriously allergic to them and so is one of my daughters. Neither one of us has a problem with dogs. If I could give a cat a home, I certainly would. My sister, as I was mentioning, currently has 3 dogs and 2 cats so I call her house "the zoo" LOL but you go there and, outside of the happy greeting at the door, you wouldn't know all those animals live there. She is meticulous with her animals. It's really wonderful to see. This little guy was an unclaimed stray too. I found out today that he was picked up by someone that actually volunteers at the rescue and she owns three dachshunds herself. They think that "maybe" someone abandoned him near her house on purpose - either because they know she's a volunteer or because they thought maybe she'd take in another one to her home since she clearly loves the breed. Who knows... but I can't imagine how anyway just does that. Drops them somewhere and walks away? ughhhh I've been given permission to meet him on Friday night! I had a phone interview this morning and the rescue owner made the offer. I'd have been there today, if I could, but he is being neutered so he needs a couple of days to rest up before I can see him. Cross your fingers! According to my sister's experience with them, if it works out, I could bring him home with me that night. I'm a ball of nerves now LOL!
@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
24 May 11
Hello Thinkingoutloud, It took you some time to decide to bring home another dog! I couldn't wait too much until I got another dog after my previous dog had to be put to sleep at the age of 13. Binne came home four weeks after Nera had to go. Those four weeks seemed like ages for me. Especially the last two weeks, when I had already knew the puppy but I had to wait until she was able to leave her mother. I can imagine how excited you must be, thinking about the moment when your little teckel will come to his new home. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you to have your adoption approved.
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• Canada
24 May 11
Hello inu1711! Yes, it's been a long wait... and I wasn't really actively looking either. This little fellow just jumped off the screen at me when I saw him and applying for him felt very right. Losing my other dog was difficult for many, many reasons, not all of which were about the dog himself. There were other family matters involved and such and it just tore up my heart. Bringing another dog into my life when I was feeling that way didn't seem right so I knew I had to wait. I find myself looking around my house and my yard, today, and I can imagine him running and playing :)) I'm running through a list in my mind of the things I would want and need to get for him. It makes me happy to think they may choose me. As I mentioned above, my sister successfully adopted from this same rescue but she also adopted a much older dog (7 years of age). I know they are hard to place and she had been available for quite a bit of time when my sister applied so they called her very quickly. I'm not sure how long the process takes for the younger dogs and this little guy is about one year old. Thanks so much for your good wishes! I'm crossing my fingers too... I will let you know!
@paopaolar (226)
• Philippines
25 May 11
Wow! It's really glad to know that there are still a lot of people that care so much for the dogs. Adopting a less cared dog and giving him a new life is really fantastic. I hope more people follow your act.
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• Canada
25 May 11
Thank you for your kindness, paopaolar! If all goes well, he could become part of my family on Friday night :)) I will drive out to the rescue to meet him and to see if he seems ok with me. I know you can't tell immediately but you can definitely get a sense if you are ready to give each other a chance If I'm chosen, I'll definitely share some photos of him soon!