Failure is forever??

keep remembering failure - success is fleeting, failure is forever
@bounce58 (17524)
Canada
May 26, 2011 5:18pm CST
So, I was watching a rerun of House this morning, and one of the dialogues between the characters mentioned something like… Success is only good up to the next failure, but failure is forever. Now that I’ve had a chance to reflect on this, I believe it’s true. And it’s not necessarily a bad thing. We can keep remembering failure (forever) to remind us, and to learn from it. And then, not to sit on success because sooner or later, it’ll be just another form of failure. Just wondering if you agree with this. Or if you have different views. I’d be appreciative if you can enlighten me.
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@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
27 May 11
No I don't believe this is true. I believe failure leads to success. You learn why you failed and how to improve, and when you try again you'll succeed. I think successes last forever. If you've been successful, you never have to do that task again because it's done.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
Great way of looking at it! I think when this character said that failure is forever, I think he just meant that it should be remembered forever so it could be used to motivate oneself for the next success. Thanks.
• United States
30 May 11
If House said it.. it's just because he's an extremely negative person and cannot see the bright side of things at all.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
Still, I can't stop watching him. He's a very interesting fella!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
28 May 11
I do agree. This discussion reminds me of my 12 and a half year employment history at the comapany I am in now. I didn't walk in a manager..I walked in an electronics tech and was taking an assembly job until I found something better in this town I had just moved to. I have been discouraged, I have "failed", and I have went up and come down and then back up...it has been a roller coaster. I remember the vice president of the company..who primed me..unknown to me..for the position I have now, once told me that careers go up and down, but nothing has to be forever. I was young when I started and there was a lot to learn...lol Another thing that I have learned is that you can do a ton of good for a person..a ton..but one thing bad..and that's what they remember. The fear of failure is what keeps us on our toes..so it can be a good thing.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
31 May 11
I think this is the proactive approach! That not only failures, but fear-of-failures can be used as motivation to drive success. I know what you mean by the 'other thing', it's 'what have you done for me lately-attitude', it's sad but people are just like that sometimes. Thanks Jen.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
19 Oct 11
Thanks for the best response! Fear of failure can actually be a great motivator sometimes if we learn how to control that competitive edge..lol. Take care.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 May 11
You will never feel how to be successful when you will not experience failure. Success always partnered with failure. Failure is your motivation to succeed. Never give up when you fail. Never quit because failure is a part to become successful in whatever you do.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
31 May 11
Hello Bebs08. I too believe that to be true. That success is nothing, if failure isn't experienced. Now that trick is to use these failures as motivation. Thanks.
27 May 11
You should never hold on to failures. Learn from them, apply them to future endeavors and move on. Overcoming failure is a success... Success is forever. No one can take that away from you.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
Hello WilsonMaple. I like your point of view. On how you view overcoming failure as a form of success. I guess it is such, specially if you learn from them. Thanks.
• Philippines
27 May 11
Failure is always there to remind us and that's not a bad thing because we are only humans. We commit mistakes, we stand up and learn from our mistakes. Sometimes we end up in failure because we choose the bad choice. That's life! everything we face in this world is full of choices. It's up to you what to choose. Just remember. Life isn't fair, it never was. Just continue to aim high and if all else fails. Don't give up and try again. Don't forget that an ordinary you has an extraordinary God to back you up. Just do your best and stop thinking about failure.. always think positively so that positive outcomes will come to you. Failure is just a second option in our life. Make that failure as your inspiration to do right thing next time.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
You're absolutely right in categorizing failure as a just a reminder. An object that can move us to the next success. Although the failures may seem to be there forever, it shouldn't hinder us from moving on, and learning from it. Thanks ordinarygirl88.
• United States
28 May 11
I think it is the opposite. Failure is only good until your next success.success is forever. Wow1 My guy will be happy to hear this! I must be Total recovered perfectionist! To a perfectionist and a pessimist Failure is forever. The old Sarah would not only remember each failure but take it as evidence that I didn't deserve to live. But I think for most of us, it is the littl;e successes we will remember.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
I think it's the little pessimist in me that wants to believe that failures are forever. Even though I also want to believe that it is the opposite. But from your response, maybe I should just look at your recovery. That it is possible. Then maybe I would start believing that the opposite is true. Thanks Sarah.
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• United States
31 May 11
You are welcome.Hang in there. Just take it one day at a time. And if you Ever need to vent, send me a private message. Hey , You Can't be depressed! Wednesday The Canucks start their journey to the Cup!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
31 May 11
Speaking of failures not being forever... If the Canucks win, then this is oing to be 40 years of failures that would be forgotten!
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
27 May 11
Failure is just part of the learning curve of life. So we fail? So what? But we must learn from the mistakes and when we reach success, we remember those we passed on the way up as we may be passing them again on the way down. No it isn't forever. Nothing is forever and this is why when success comes one must live simply still in order to have a cushion for the future. Blessings. your posts are always interesting. No time to comment more. Apologies.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
I could view your response in many different ways... I like your comment about some of them that we may pass on the way up, we might still pass on the way down. I like the reminder of staying humble even when successful, because like failures, it is definitely not forever too. Thanks cynthiann.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
31 May 11
Oh Bouncy - be kind to yourself and accept the things that make you simply you. You are an individual and I am sure that you are loved just as you are by your family. am under pressure this week so may not be on line. Can read everything on my BB but cannot respond from such which is a pity. As I could use the time in banks and post offices etc fruitfully by mylotting
@tarachand (3895)
• India
28 Jul 11
We don't get this program on our tellys in India. Now onto your discussion- Yes that particular failure could be forever, unless sometimes one has an opportunity to right that fialure. But then there is that old cliche - Failures are stepping stones to success. So one must learn from the actions or lack of actions that lead to the failure and rectify them or not repeat them when the situation arises.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
31 Jul 11
Hello tarachand. Even if it's a cliche, if you really reflect on it, it can really ring true! I guess some form of failures must first be experience to let us appreciate success more. Thanks.
@sanijas83 (271)
• Latvia
8 Jul 11
Unfortunately one might be afraid to start something in the life as it might turn out to be a failure. Perhaps it could even mean wasting one's life if they deny some choices that could improve their life and it would not mean destroying one's life. Maybe there could be less failures if people would believe more in their future, success.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
13 Jul 11
Hello sanijas83. I guess the first step really is to overcome this fear that any thing started would just result in failure. And maybe by overcoming this, we would believe in our future success. Thanks.
@maezee (31964)
• United States
2 Jun 11
I agree too in a way. Although I don't think, for example, failure in the "bigger" sense of the word is permanent/forever. I think we can fail at smaller tasks in life but not life in general. I don't know if that makes sense. lol. I don't think anyone can enlighten you; you are probably one of the few most enlightened people on MyLot!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Jun 11
You just made me smile from ear-to-ear maezee! Thanks. I think I get the 'failure in smaller tasks' reference. It's either we learn from it, or we accept it. For example, directions -one can be such a failure in getting or giving directions that we one can just accept it. It is forever/permanent, but hey! That's why they invented the GPS!
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
30 May 11
If you learn from your failure, then it can't be considered a "forever failure" as it help you progress and evolve and not repeat it (in this way) in the future. I agree with it as long as you don't learn anything and you keep failing the same thing over and over again.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
31 May 11
Thanks for the qualifier elitess. I guess that's put a stop to failure being forever. If we can learn from it, and use it for the next success. Then we could look at it as a necessary set back to whatever success we have. Thanks.
@maximax8 (27943)
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
Failure is not forever. I learned how to drive and failed my practical driving test around 4 times. I moved to a different area and failed my practical driving test again. It was easy every time I had to pass my theory test. I did that many times. I tried to pass my practical driving test and got a lady examiner and told myself she was my friend and we were out for a drive together. That made me feel less nervous and amazing I passed my practical driving test. I believe in the saying "try and try again". It is true for me and I am so pleased I can now drive my car. A child at school should try again if he or she fails an exam. The second result is likely to be better.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
It's great that you can approach this subject with a little bit of patience. That even if you fair a few times, you never get discouraged in trying again and again, until you make it. Learning from failures, is I think the message here. Thanks.
• Philippines
27 May 11
I somewhat agree with you.. Failure is always there to remind us and that's not a bad thing because we are only humans. We commit mistakes, we stand up and learn from our mistakes. Sometimes we end up failing because we chose the bad choice. That's life! Everything in this world is full of choices. It's up to you what,where,who to choose. Just remember. Life isn't fair, it never was. Just continue to aim high and if all else fails. Don't give up and try again. Don't forget that an ordinary you has an extraordinary God to back you up. Just do your best and stop thinking about failure. always think positively so that positive outcome will come to you. Failure is just a second option in our life. Make that failure as your inspiration to do the right thing next time.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
Ditto.
• United States
26 May 11
I must disagree. Failure is not forever. I do admit that success isn't permanent, but failure isn't either. Even though people do fail more than they succeed, I don't think failure is forever. If failure was forever, one wouldn't continue to try because they'd always fail. How does success turn into failure if you just sit on it? If you succeed in something and benefit form it, it is not failure. Whoa. I think I confused myself there.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
It actually makes sense! How would we explain people learning from their mistakes if they just dwell on their failures? Yes, remembering it might be forever, but sometimes people use this as motivation for the next success. Thanks SetphanieAnnC.
@iwrite (5042)
• Singapore
26 May 11
I do not agree, I think the memory of humans are short, they only remember the last memory of you. So if your last memory is success and continue to be successful they would remember you as a success. However if you fail, but you do not move out of the failure situation, then they would remember you as a failure. Once you move out of the being a failure, they would say you have strong character.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
30 May 11
Great point iwrite! I think some people label people whatever they want. And it is a matter of perspective if they want to call somebody a failure or not. But I think I agree that it could be viewed as a matter of character if one moves on from failure. Thanks.