Don't toss my wine...
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
Shingle Springs, California
August 26, 2011 7:22pm CST
I tried to post this discussion using my phone, and it was a big, fat fail!
Last night I had to pick the twins up. R was running late at work. By the time I got home, I barely had time to feed the animals and the twins in time for their karate class. R showed up, assumed we had all eaten, and made himself a sandwich. So they left, and I asked Dearra if she wanted to go out and eat. She likes to do her homework after dinner, and eating out would take too long, and leave her too little time for homework. So she made herself some pasta, and I made myself a nice canneloni dinner that was sitting in the freezer.
There was a bottle of wine that I had started the other day, so I poured myself a glass to go with dinner. I left the bottle out for R, since he was due back in just a few minutes. He walked in after I was done eating, and was practicing on the piano. So I told him about the wine, but he didn't want any.
I finished practicing, and went to put the wine away. No wine.
So, assuming he had done the logical thing and put the wine away, I asked him which refrigerator he had put it in. Weird look on his face. Uh oh, I know what that means. He didn't put the wine away. "You didn't toss my wine!"
"Well, I thought you were done with it."
"Well yeah, I was, for tonight."
Sigh. It was a really nice Riesling too!
You know, he's constantly saying that he can't get anything right with me. Well, maybe that's because he doesn't open his mouth and ASK. Ya think?
But I didn't say anything. We've seen in the past how good he is at behavior modification. NOT!
Such a nice Riesling, and I do so hate wasting food, and wine, and so on. Sigh....
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@GardenGerty (157645)
• United States
27 Aug 11
If I remember correctly he always throws out your gravy as well. He is not trainable at all.
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Cannot believe it
@GardenGerty (157645)
• United States
27 Aug 11
I have never had curry, need to try it. The gravy was tossed out at a meal before Dawn could even get any. And she is the one who likes it. I like gravy as well, can you tell?
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@BarBaraPrz (45560)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
30 Aug 11
Operative word being "was"...
If it had been less than lovely, Murphy wouldn't have touched it.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Aug 11
Ooh, do ya think I could get him arrested for it? :D
@TigerSpirit (320)
• Australia
28 Aug 11
Tell him "When you ASSUME something, you make an A*S out of U & ME"
Next time, don't toss ANYTHING without asking, as everything is re-usable, and he shouldn't be so wasteful!
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Aug 11
I think I could tell him until I'm blue in the face, and next time it would be the same thing all over again!
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Aug 11
I would but we're divorced and hopefully selling this house and not living together any more, can't be bothered!
@TigerSpirit (320)
• Australia
31 Aug 11
Good point.. that trick only works when you're still together lol
@vkatrix (78)
• India
28 Aug 11
Hi dawnald...
That is one really frustrating thing to do! Tossing an edible item away. It's SUCH a waste!!
I hate it if food is wasted so I can understand to some extent how irritating that would be. It's well said "When in doubt, ask!"
But, then, from what you have written, I assume, it can be inferred that he's not really the type. Guess old habits die hard.
Well all the best with him!
Good Luck!
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Aug 11
Nope, assume first, ask questions later. lol
Or perhaps "it's better to ask forgiveness than permission". :D
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Aug 11
oh my now i see why you are so sick of his antics. its like he never communicates about anything. like the first response said, maybe you should try some the things he does to you on him. 
might wake him up enough you can survive all this till hes gone at least
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Aug 11
Sometimes I feel like I want to, but then I can't really make myself play games like that. Mostly not.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Miscommunication is the root of many human problems. Hubby loves to ask me for help and then proceeds to slap me down by calling me names. Moran is a great favorette of his. You would think that after 50 years I would beware and just keep my mouth shut, but my excuse is that once in a great while he listens. Blessings
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Aug 11
That isn't miscommunication, it's abuse....
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
27 Aug 11
I would have thought that putting it away would be the logical thing to do as well, especially since you were obviously being nice to him by leaving it out in case he would like some. I can't understand why he would throw it away without asking. It is not like you said "If you do not want any then toss it, because I am done with it".
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Aug 11
apparently that's where his mind went though!
@much2say (53945)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Aug 11
Why did he do that for? My first reaction was "didn't he do that with your gravy" - and looks like some others above thought the exact same thing!! So weird not to ask . . . I mean, if he's not the one who brought it out or was drinking it in the first place, why would he even touch the bottle, let alone dump the contents. Ah, he gets another slap in the head for that one! I love Riesling, although I haven't had any in a lonnnnnnnnnng time (still nursing, can you believe it).
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