There are some cruel people in the world.

@bonbon664 (3480)
Canada
September 10, 2011 12:27am CST
I won't get into the details, but, I wanted to tell everyone that there's some very nasty, cruel people in the world. I was scammed by one of these people over the internet. I believed someone when they told me they were in trouble. I helped them as I would hope someone would help me when I needed it. I feel used, betrayed, and that I can never trust anyone ever again. Has this happened to you, and how did you deal with it?
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@wolfie34 (26877)
• United Kingdom
10 Sep 11
Unfortunately I confided in someone over the internet about myself and they turned against me and started to harrass me, it wasn't very nice, I had to change my email addresss, passwords, everything, it taught me a valuable lesson. Sadly bonbon you have to learn the hard way and it makes you toughen up and in the end you feel you can't trust anyone! You label everyone the same way, it's a way of protecting ourselves. It's a great shame because you are a warm, giving, friendly person, and yet people will take advantage of your good nature. I believe in karma and one day someone will drop a large piece of cruelty on them too!
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@bonbon664 (3480)
• Canada
14 Sep 11
I'm hoping karma will kick their butt one day!!
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
10 Sep 11
I think we are twins!!! I would like to repeat the words what you are written here. I helped a lot and cheated and betrayed heavily. I took major bank loans and given to someone to help as his flat was about auctioned by the bankers as he didn't pay back the EMIs. He took away my money and now I am paying the EMI of my loan which I took from the bank. He was a liar and there was no flat in his name and he runway with my money and now absconding. Also the flat he was staying alongwith his family was a rented one. This is just an example only. The fact is that we cannot blame anybody. We kept blind faith on people and in this world which is not necessary. Live like anything and don't care about others. If we got a slender mind, the surroundings will definitely exploit us. It was my desire to donate all my usable organs to the most needed people as a favour and help. Now I am thinking why should I do? For whom I need to do? The world around me are so cunning and greedy. There is no place to good people over these days. Now my situation is that I had to sell my flat on various grounds of my helping mentality. A blind trust is not trust worthy and my lesson from the life so far is no mercy to others, they will dig our grave.... Thank-s
@sjvg1976 (16808)
• Delhi, India
10 Sep 11
Hello Thanks, Yes it hurts when someone pretend to be so needy but when he/she get helped by you that fellow turned out to be a cheater but in my opinion if we have this sort of experience in the past with few people that does not mean that every body is liar in the world there may be some true people also in the world who actually require your help and support the only thing is you need to check first if that person is actually a needy one or not.Doing bind faith on any one is not good.
• India
12 Sep 11
People whom know me well, used to tell the same what you said. But I am in such a nature by birth and I used to control it. Still, someone come for a help in any way, I jump over there and fulfill it. Later on I would cry. There is a saying that "the cat which fell in the hot water will scare of even the ordinary water as well" - This is my condition. Even if there is genuine and reasonable one, I feel scared to attach as the people around me are so cunning and business minded. I now only feel help those who are really in need and in my judgement it is required, or for the most needed people I am there always. Thank-s
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
10 Sep 11
I always feel bad when I hear someone was betrayed. It is an awful feeling and so unnecessary. When it happens to me I try to be philosophical about it and tell myself karma will get them... sometimes that helps.
@bonbon664 (3480)
• Canada
10 Sep 11
I really hope "what goes around, comes around". I've tried to be a good person my whole life, and this is what I get for it.
@riverblue (183)
• India
10 Sep 11
Yes,but not on the internet. Many times I have been the victim of sob stories of one of my family members.But not any more.So don't be taken in by this kind of stories on the net.The thing is,we ask ourselves 'what if the story is true and we don't help out?'It is this kindness that is being exploited by some.
@bonbon664 (3480)
• Canada
10 Sep 11
I blame myself. I should have known better. I will know better next time. It will be a long time before I trust again.
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Yes there are people out there, whose joy in life is treading upon other people. SOmetimes, other people's ruin is their comfort. I don't know why. They are really rude and I do wish that people like them could change for the better not out harming other people.
@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
10 Sep 11
It's really to bad you have to feel like you can never trust anyone again but rightfully so...What are you supposed to think? I have never given money out because I have always been the one who needed it. Honestly I have never had enough to share and there were times I did have to borrow from my brother. Never more than 20.00 at a time for groceries but I always paid every dime back even when he said No don't worry about it. There's never been a day go by where I haven't had to do tight budgeting then I hear of people like you who want to help. I can only assume you're betrayed because you are not being paid back and that is wrong on all levels BUT... Let there be no confusion what goes around does indeed come around. You can not believe that we can crap all over people for years and walk free. NOT So Much and Not Going To Happen My Friend!!! Thank You for your kindness in being a good friend to those ignorant and sadly misinformed persons. They will have their day, Promise you that.
• United States
10 Sep 11
I can relate bonbon664, I had a friend, well I thought she was a friend, who was so very jealous of me. I considered her one of my best friends. If I went to the mall and bought an outfit, I would buy her one too. Well one day, I heard from another friend that she had been trying to talk to this boy that she knew I liked. I knew from that point on that she could not be trusted. Everyone had warned me that she was envious of me but I didn't believe it. It was not until that point that everything everyone had said really made a difference to me. I dropped her as a friend and started hanging out with my other friends who were not jealous of me.
@sjvg1976 (16808)
• Delhi, India
10 Sep 11
Hello Bonbon, When ever i read it on net about someone needing help then i always feel upset thinking me to be helpless to help them for few minutes but then i realize the truth that most of the people in this virtual world are the cheaters and try to take advantage from you.We cannot say that everyone is a liar but few bunch of bad people have made this perception in my mind. In offline life i never got cheated by people whom i helped as i always investigate if they really require help or not.But online i have never tried to help people as don't believe so easily.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Hi, bonbon664. I can form a group meeting because of this! I have never really helped someone over the Internet. But, I have, given someone some money for an online job that I have applied for and I never received the information that was supposed to be given to me. I waited for over two weeks and I still have not heard anything from the seller at all. I checked my email address constantly, but still there was no response from the seller. I created an brand new Yahoo email account, because of this. I wanted to make sure that I received this information without any mix ups at all. So, I filed an dispute against the seller at Paypal and I was unable to get a complete refund because the item that I have ordered was considered to be virtual and an intangible good. That meant, the seller knew this, so he/she ran off with my money knowing that if I was not satisfied, that they would still profit, except for me. This really made me so upset, because this is all the money that I had on me. It took me about two months to earn this money online, only to have someone dishonest to steal it from me. I understand what you mean by saying that there are some very cruel and nasty people in this world. I have met many and this seller, won't be the first! I am very sorry that someone has taken advantage of your generosity. In cases as this, that is why many people are so skeptical about assisting someone because of them being burned by someone else in the past.
@chiwasaki (4666)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Hi bonbon! I've been in that situation and I exactly know how you feel. You will help them but in the end they will betray you. It is so irritating that you will encounter people like that once in awhile.
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Yes, bonbon, I agree with you. There are people who are not trustworthy, and it's awfully more frustrating, when you thought you knew them, but actually don't. I spent a good part of my life in California. Now, I find some who do not know the meaning of respect, loyalty and gratitude. I do not have any control over other people's actions, attitudes and preferences, but I have control over mine. I let them know how I feel, it's my duty to be honest about it. But for them to be sorry and make amends is their option, not mine. So, I stay away from them, I can be cordial, but not familiar. Be wary of people who take advantage of others, bonbon, learn from your mistake. Be consoled with the thought that what goes around, comes around. Their day will come.
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
You don't easily trust somebody online that asks you money right? if that was a site, then you should have researched first and look for reviews before joining in. But if it personal like you have met someone, then its up to you. For me I can say that do not put your trust easily on people you meet online. Be extra careful and hoping next time this will not happen again to you. It is important that you try not to expect much when it comes to people. Some even if you have done your best, it was still not enough, we cannot please everyone.
10 Sep 11
Dear bonbon, you have not understood the world in the proper way. 95% of the people in the world are bad and not trust worthy. Never expect any gratitude from any body. Never expect any help from any body. If you expect you will be disappointed. Help from God will come automatically. If you commit sin you will suffer and if you do some good deeds you will certainly get the reward and help from God. God, the ruler of the universe is still alive and therefore you don't worry.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
I have been betrayed too before, by a friend and by a relative. I understand that after something like this, it will not be easy trusting people again. For a while, I was angry of myself, for trusting too much on people. I got scared and felt like there is nobody to trust anymore. I have never trust people online or on the internet. I would understand if people will not trust me either. I think that we can't just trust on people without personally knowing them. O am sad with what happened to you. But what they did to you will have a price. Leave it to karma and have it a lesson for yourself, not to let it happen again next time.
@waflay (2723)
• Nairobi, Kenya
10 Sep 11
It's good not to trust anyone especially in the internet and scamming people is prevalent here though it has never happened to me.It's so hurting especially now that you did it in good faith but don't worry whoever did this to you may have made it once but believe me you won't fall to such a trap again.
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
i can relate to your topic..since i also experienced to be betrayed by someone i think was my friend..i trusted her so much that i even treated her as my sister..but in the end she will just betray me and waste the good relationship we had.. i thought she is worth my trust and concern but she proves me wrong.. sad to say that there are people who just play around and uses other people for their own benefit..