My friend didn't pay me back, should I rat him out on facebook?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
September 19, 2011 9:09pm CST
I had posted my discussion on this friend of mine who need money to buy an airplane ticket from Honduras back to Atlanta, I actually trust him and pay for his ticket through spirit airline website. Over 2 weeks already, he hadn't contacted me, nor his old number no longer active, I just need my money back. Recently, I saw him active in facebook again, where he made new friends, and play facebook game there. I tried to communicate with him through facebook, and send many messages, he just didn't reply, or should I said, he just avoiding me. I knew that I made a wrong choice in trust such person like that. The question is, I am really mad about this, should I rat him out on facebook, and let people know about what type of person he actually is? There many mutual friends there, and I believe they should know what kind of person he is.
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10 responses
@jodylee (946)
• United States
20 Sep 11
I can't imagine lending money with the intention of getting it back. If a friend needs money I give it freely, if I can. I would not expect repayment. If they pay you back all the better, but gifts are much easier to deal with. I don't know about ratting out on facebook, that seems like a bit of a drama war to me. But, it is for you to decided, perhaps you like that sort of thing??? I hope things get better for you!
@KelceyHappy (65)
• United States
20 Sep 11
I don't think ratting him out is the good way to go. I've seen things like this happen before, and you just need to give it times. When people borrow from others, they tend to avoid the people until they can pay them back. If you still don't get your money back after awhile, I'd recommend going to his house... if he lives close... :D hope I helped!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Sep 11
This person was to repay it as soon as he got to where he needed to go. The person who lent the money could not afford to "give" the money away. That is the whole point! This person is avoiding the person who lent the money also so they have no intent on paying it back.
@jodylee (946)
• United States
20 Sep 11
For me, if I can't afford to give it away, I cannot give it... I am not saying the person who borrowed the money is right, just saying you have to be careful if you do not have money to give. I know the feeling of giving money and not having it returned, which is why I now live by my rule of I gift not lend... sorry if it was taken wrong, just giving my opinion...
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
26 Sep 11
First off, did you make an agreement with him to pay you back when he gets the money? If not, let it go, cut your loses and forget about it. Just write him off if you feel he screwed you. Do not start a fight on FaceBook, that is a totally stupid thing to do. If you did make an agreement with him to pay you back, and you know his parents, call them and tell them about it. Now if you did not make an agreement then like I said, forget it and move on.
@shadow41 (2351)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
I'm sorry for that. I also experienced that. My friend borrowed money and never came back. In fact I also posted a discussion about that before. Lol. Try to contact him again. Give it some time like 3-5 more days. If he still won't reply then I think it's just right that you warn other friends of him and also yours about his bad attitude. He should not be trusted.
shadow41
@rafiholmes (2896)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
y neede the money back real in a hurry..yes ..go ahead and do that..it works sometimes..
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Sep 11
I think that if a person is abusing you, abusing your friendship there is no reason to stay polite. It's clear that he doesn't feel the need to even answer you!
A real friend would do so and if not able to pay you back give you an explaination for that.
I would say: you are in your right. Do what you have to do to show him you don't agree with the way he is abusing other people. If you just ignore this he will do it to others sooner or later too. If a kid behaves badly it get punished to.. that is what we call to raise it well. It's my opinion you should do that to an adult too and you should surely warn other people for this type of person.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Oh.. i think you have much money to let your money borrowed by other people..Well,that person will not pay you back,don't allow it again even it is friends,or etc..
I know some people if they owed money, thy are doing to avoid it to see the owner because they can't pay for it..
Now if you are doing to do it face book, i think it is better you talk personally,and maybe if you do it on face book,the person may not met you any more and try to stay away and hide and hide..
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Sep 11
I would. People need to know what type of person these people are. They will keep using people if people do not know their true colors upfront.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 Sep 11
You can if the idea is to embarrass the person. I don't think it is going to get the person to actually pay you any quicker. I believe the person will be so angry that perhaps you will not even see a sign of this person ever again.
It sounds like you have done all you can to date to try and get your money back, so rating him out might just be worth the loss.
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
Hi, you have done the RIGHT THING!
OBVIOUSLY, he is avoiding you and not be bothered to pay back your money.
I know you're an angel for lending him money ...too bad, he's just a devil disguising himself to be a poor chipmunk wanting for help.
If I'm you, I'm gonna knock the door of his house and YELL OUT loud for him to pay back! Then, go to the police and report him for cheating your money.
Good luck
xo
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
well you can tell others about it but after you have confronted him. it's too bad that you have given your trust to that person maybe you should see him and clarify yourself with him and that you need your money back. yes we know that he is your friend but you need the money so it's your time to ask it from him. but still again you should not make gossips do not be too carried by your feelings about the money. still be the nice friend ever. :)
