Promise and you.

India
September 23, 2011 8:25am CST
There are some who rarely promise; some, if promise, always try to keep it while there are some who, as if, promise to break it subsequently. Which group do you belong to or do you belong to a completely different group?
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18 responses
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 11
For me I will always keep my promise. A promise is a vow to that we should never break as it will paint a bad picture about us if we don't fulfill our promise. I am always true to my words.
• India
23 Sep 11
I think you may try to always keep your promise but it may so happen that you may not succeed in keeping your promise because everything is not always under your control.
@vasumathi (438)
• India
17 Oct 11
I used to do promises very often. but i will always try to keep the promises
@toniganzon (49989)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I don't like it when people make promises because according to my own experience, they always get broken. I'd rather see my friends put those words into actions without even saying they would. I'd rather be surprised by their kindness through action than just mere utterance that would never put into reality. I don't make promises as i don't want to disappoint the people around me.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
28 Sep 11
I never make promises, as something which happens subsequently could cause me to break them which would be a thing I'd hate to do. I'll tell someone that I'll try my best to do something, rather than promise to do it.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I am definitely a person that is from the group of people that does not make a promise unless it is something that I definitely know that I am going to be able to keep. The reason that I'm like this is because of the fact that I don't like to have someone tell me that they are going to do something unless they intend to do it, so I won't make promises that I can't keep.
@celticeagle (118276)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Sep 11
I rearely make any promises. They are hard to keep and I hate to let people down or show myself not to be trust worthy. I wouldn't want to be promised something that wasn't kept and so I don't want to do that either. It is good to make deals with kids to get them to do stuff but only when you are able to keep it.
@Nubein (20)
• United States
24 Sep 11
About one week ago I was speaking with an associate and making plans for later that evening, and while parting from one another I asked them to promise me. They responded by telling me that people who make promises are pathological liars. I guess in a way it makes sense. I am not sure what group my associate falls into. I try not to make promises, but when I do, there are times when I know that I am lying and there are times when I know that I am going to do everything in my power to live up to that promise.
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I keep my promises, always. Sometimes life gets in the way of a time limit I've set to keep the promise but that can't be helped and I will keep that promise as soon as is humanly possible. My husband is the complete opposite. He makes promises all the time without ever thinking about them first. He makes the promises because they are convenient for what he wants at the time. He has promised me so many things throughout our marriage and has not kept one single promise. Now, whenever he says he's going to do anything, my response is, "Yeah, right" or "We'll see" because I do not believe him any more. Of course, his track record for breaking promises has not waivered one bit; he still breaks them all.
@Triple0 (1907)
• Australia
24 Sep 11
For me, I hardly ever make promises, my friends don't either. When you utter that word, you already have to commit in doing what you've promised or else you might hurt the other person who you promised. It's a strong word and we shouldn't use it so sparingly or freely. Generally, when promises are made, it's always broken and it hurts when a person who has promised you something breaks it and you'll lose your trust in them. That's why my friends never promise, we just say "maybe" so that the other person doesn't have to be too hopeful. Only say promise when you really mean it and if you are confident enough to do what you promised.
@derek_a (10902)
24 Sep 11
It is very important for me to keep a promise as I feel that if I don't, then my integrity is at stake. I have found that this is one of the most important thing in life, because as I therapist, I have seen so many people getting stressed and negative because they cannot keep their promise or commitment. If a person is not committed to do what it takes to improve their life, then nothing is going to work. A mind that keeps changing, creates feeling of insecurity and lack of confidence. This may not appear quickly, but it does happen, even if not for a few years. _Derek
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
24 Sep 11
Hi I It depends on the person who make a promise at what situation. I don't use the word promise rather I say I can do or I will try to do the best. But when dealing with my children they ask me to make a promise to something so I don't easily agree until unless they explain me. But yes trying to keep our word is what make a person trustworthy. Similarly when i ask someone to do something for me... I don't like asking them is it a promise, but I say I expect it from them. Good to know and read about various opinions here.
@yugasini (12816)
• Anantapur, India
24 Sep 11
hi didi, how are you after long brake i am posting response to your discussion in mylot, i am away with the net since 14 days due to continues tour to Goa and Bangalore, mostly i do not promise if i promise i will stick on the promise, but i know my limits what ever passsible and in my extent then only i will promise,have a nice day
@hexebella (1140)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I always keep my promise and that's the reason I seldom do it....I always say, I will do my best but no promises.....:)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I'm the first two . I rarely promise So when I do I keep my promises 99% of the time. The 1% is because tried my best but it just didn't work out.not because I didn't mean to keep the promise. And when it doesn't happen, I really feel bad.
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Maybe I belong to those who always want to keep what they have promised. However, it is not sometimes followed. Some say that promises are made to be broken.. Well, for me it could not be broken if you have really the intention and obligation to stick with what you have promised. Commitment on what you have said will always be the best thing to do so that you could fulfill what you have promised.
@shibham (17025)
• India
23 Sep 11
I seldom promise but when i promise, i try to fulfill it... well, no one believes me if i take god promise because they know that i am an atheist.
• India
23 Sep 11
ya there are people to make promises and do not follow their promises they belive that it does not have any meaning to them. Actually i feel promises are made to just keep the thing which we want or we do not want to happen by one of the people we love for. For me actually promise does not mean a much to me and i am really cannot explain what i feel about the promises because sometime i do follow them and sometime i do not so!!!
• United States
23 Sep 11
I am a woman of my word at all times. I don't try to agree to everything immediately as promising someone no matter what far and beyond I come through. However, life has it's draw backs sometimes and anyone who knows me, knows that if I have to take back a promise it is only because something was completely out of my control. Such as a life emergency, however I am the type that will always make up for any promise that I could not fulfill and help in any way.