What is standard etiquitte for myLot.com?

United States
September 29, 2011 12:42pm CST
I'm fairly new here and try to both start discussions and ask questions. I find that I can't answer every reply, but saw one person complaining yesterday that many times their reply was not answered. It is proper to answer every reply? And is it appropriate to comment on other people's replies in other discussions? Any tips on me being proper here will be appreciated.
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• United States
29 Sep 11
Not everyone can reply to everyone because some people just don't have the time. You should do what you can do and not worry about what others can do.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Sep 11
hi gifts I say relax and have fun and just do the best you can. I know that most do not have the advantage I have of being retired as they are doing their best and I do not get tied in knots if my responses are not commented on right away. I know that off line life has to come first. Also I found out that if you start out with the mentality of got to make x number of posts every day you will burn out and also not make anything but you slow down and make quality posts that are intelligent you will have fun and surprisingly you will make more earnings too.
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• United States
29 Sep 11
Although I do not start many discussions, I am one who does comment to each and every responders. The only time I can honestly say that perhaps I have not commented is that maybe I accidentally overlooked and or did not get the alert. However, because I do not start many and far in between, I do visit my active discussions frequently. It is certainly a preference and if there are some responses that seem to be duplicated, I can see that at times some members have difficulty in commenting, but I feel that it is because they are going in too many directions with way too many started discussions in one sitting. See I and many others diligently try our best to provide useful, helpful and well thought out responses and there are many like me as well. Therefore, I find that it is my duty and responsibility to acknowledge the responses. I can certainly understand if a member runs out of comments however, with time if the same members do get ignored they will stop responding to discussions. Therefore, use your judgement as there is no rule that says you must comment to all, however, keep in mind that when the responses lessen then there is no one to blame as think of it as offline conversations where someone responds with something and the person it was directed to turns their back and speaks to someone else. I don't think that person will continually put themselves in this type of situation, continuously. What I can suggest is that if time is a restriction that one stop posting so many discussions in one sitting and dedicate time to the one started. Best of luck and know that the many of us active here, have seen this happened to numerous times. At some point we expect to see a discussion that says, why are members not responding to my discussions, so I thought I add this here as we see it happen daily.
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@GardenGerty (99286)
• United States
29 Sep 11
I do not think it is really proper etiquette to complain all the time. It is nice, and to your advantage to comment back to every response, with something other than "thank you for participating" or whatever. I do not think anyone can answer all responses, but give it a try. That allows you to keep on earning from the discussion and it lets people know you are reading their responses, even if you do not always comment. It is appropriate to comment in other boxes, or on other replies when you have something that you can say about them. A lot of us enjoy the interaction. Once in a while you run across a grumpy person who will tell you to stay out of their discussion, but that is few and far between. Think of it as if you are talking in a group. I would never say that you cannot talk about what I have said. You also are not going to just end things in mid air without discussing them. Participation is the key.
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
29 Sep 11
Hello GardenGerty, Have you ever met any grumpy () person to ask you to stay out of their discussion?
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• United States
29 Sep 11
I totally agree with garden,
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@GardenGerty (99286)
• United States
29 Sep 11
@inu, yes, I have been told that I do not know sh--- about what I was saying and I should get the he--- I am talking about and this discussion is not for people like me anyway. I have also been told I was the wrong race to be participating in things.
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@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
29 Sep 11
Hello Kizzy and welcome to myLot! I don't know how you came to the conclusion you can't answer every reply. I rather say you should answer to every reply. There is no rule about this but it is in your interest to do so. First, there is the respect you show to those who took time to respond to your discussion. If there is somebody whose answer you don't comment back, maybe they'll feel discriminated and disappointed. Secondly, if you don't comment all the responses you got into the discussion you started, you loose a good chance of increasing your earnings by discussing a subject that you like. About commenting other people's replies in other discussions, there is no rule to forbid that. As long as you have something of substance to say (or you're simply having fun with your friends) I don't see any reason why you can't do this.
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• United States
29 Sep 11
I do my very best to keep up with my responses. But,I have don't have a ful time job and kids to care for. there are people who can't possibly respond to everyone who responds to them. now trying there very best is great. But there is no way I can see everyone being able to respond to everyone. plus if you start a lot of posts some get buried so deep you lose them. I saw a post the other day brought back to the top that i posted year ago. I had forgot all about that post. that does not mean I was ignoring anyone. I don't know I just feel there is no way to get to all of them if you are an really active member. no harm intended..
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@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
29 Sep 11
I agree with you: not everybody has time to be here for hours. But I think it is never too late to comment back an older discussion. I may not have time to comment all my responses the day they were written but, the next day I log in myLot I feel it's my duty to be there into my discussion to continue what I started. Nobody should be "buried" into their own discussions. We have to be reasonable about the number of discussion we start. I, for one, don't start more discussions that I can keep it up with.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Sep 11
hi mike and inu I agree with you both.when I was green I literally painted myself into a corner with making too many discussions and then having an awful time commenting back as then at that time I still had a part time job so I had less hours to be here than I do now. but I have also learned even when retired sometimes life packs a whammy. I had started several discussions after the first of February and then the day after Valentines day I had a bad fall ending up in rehab hospital for 20 days. I am sure a lot of my friends thought the worst of me as they had all responded and I had not commented back on any of them.Lying there in pain I was wondering what and how am I going to explain why I was not responding to their responses but people really were most kind to me when I finally got back and began commenting on all those responses.so its really better to make just a few discussions, make them quality then comment back.
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@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
29 Sep 11
I think if you beging a discussion is your responsibility to keep the discussion on, because a dicussion is not a discussion where there is only one person talking, so you can't beging a discussion and just abandoned the discussion to begin another and another and another. And about commenting in the reply of the others I think is proper because maybe that person have a question and have the experience on that so you can help that person with that answer. So feel free my friend mylot you can do it. And welcome to mylot
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• United States
29 Sep 11
There is no right or wrong when it comes to commenting on those that respond to your discussion If you can comment then do if you have the time and if you cant then thats fine too you are not always going to have something to say to EVERY person here. commenting on other peoples responses is actually encouraged If you read a response and want to discuss it them by all means jump right in and discuss it thats what this site is all about
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@petersum (4526)
• United States
29 Sep 11
But now the user has gone off to start other discussions and is completely ignoring this one! Now that is BAD etiquette! "If you have the time" is a valid excuse but time to post elsewhere - no!
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• United States
29 Sep 11
I am starting to see that petersum they have logged in since starting this discussion but so fail havent been back to this discussion ODD!
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• United States
29 Sep 11
hi Hatley! long time no see yeah you are right getting tired of the OP never commenting back I have deleted many people from my friends list over the years for that very reason
@petersum (4526)
• United States
29 Sep 11
Basically there isn't any etiquette but we should discuss. So that means to me that we should comment on comments, and do whatever is humanly possible to carry on a discussion. Of course it isn't always possible. Sometimes I haven't got a clue on how to answer a reply. I might not even understand the reply! Again, it often isn't up to you. People leave a comment and then never come back. In that case, it's like talking to yourself. When you start a discussion, just stay with it and see what happens. Some take off like rockets, some just fizzle out! Hijacking another person's discussion is actually permissible and good fun!
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Sep 11
hi petersum yes I was thinkinbg the same thing as I have had others sort of hijack my discussion and got more comments on comment and ended up having more fun than ever,just like a lot of people joined me and several others and we all began discussing my discussion ending with some great and new ideas. I learn so much here as you are never too old to learn from friends here.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
29 Sep 11
I think everyone can understand we do the best we can. Some people have more time than others. Some people can work for hours in front of their computer, others (like me) have to come and go and multitask. I try to answer all the replies in the subjects I start but often have to go back and respond days maybe even weeks later. We all have various things to do in life and this is a hobby. I think we are all grateful to fellow members and feel some obligations, but have to balance that with what must be done in our private lives.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
2 Oct 11
Alot of people here, expect a reply but that is not always possible. It is proper to respond as much as possible though. Just do as you can here and you will be fine.
• Indonesia
30 Sep 11
hmmm... I think it was our right to reply all of the respond. But, at least we should reply one of the best respond one, or if there's something not right about the respond. As long as the comment are correct and connect with the question, I think it can be appropriate. Maybe this will help a little. hhe Thanks ... :)
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Sep 11
hi Kizzycatfish welcome let me one of the oldest users here try to help . yes we really owe it to our friends to comment back on their responses to your discussion.just do not make many discussions as you will not have time to properly comment back. try to do more responding to others discussions instead. yes really we owe it to our friends to comment back on each,how would you feel if you make good responses to a discussion and the discussion poster never ever comments on your response? also we can comment on others comments too as this is part of the enjoyment of friendships here, its very proper to do so and remember you type you earn and I type I earn.you do not get paid for our responses to your discussions. we do so to make good earnings yes comment back to each response. do not get carried away trying to make a zillion posts a day as that is not the way to make good earnings. the way is to slow down and make thoughtful well worded posts that are quality not one sentence crap that will not get paid,. here the key word is quality not quantity and above all have fun and enjoy interacting with us from all over the world.