The first year of marriage life

Vietnam
October 10, 2011 12:14am CST
I got married on July. I'm happy with my present life. The beginning time of marriage life, I feel discomfort when I must live together with another person in the same room. I still keep the habits when I was single. Now, I gradually get used to the presence of my husband. I sometimes feel discomfort because he's in the house. But if he leaves far, I feel sad, miss and worry
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15 responses
• United States
10 Oct 11
Yes when newly married it is an adjustment period, where one has to get use to having another person with them at home. While the adjustment period can be smooth for some it can be a bit difficult for others. I am pleased to hear that you are adjusting well. The fact that you feel sad and miss him, means you really love him and enjoy having him around.
@Swaana (1208)
• India
10 Oct 11
Hi, I think before marriage you have been highly independent and you have never allowed any one to take decisions for you or even discussed with anyone to take decisions. Now after marriage, you are forced to do all the above along with having to accomodate and also to accept him to be a part of your rest of your life. Though you still have your basic feelings left in you, you feel his presence as a discomfort and you missing him shows that you have started to love him deep in your heart. Dont worry you will definitely get used to everything once you learn to live the life as it is. Try to do some compromises whenever needed. After all married life is always a give and take life. So enjoy, keep going you will soon find your marriage full of bliss.
@r3jcorp (1383)
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
The first year of marriage is the beginning of a long adjustment period. You will discover things that you don't know about him when you are still single. Just be reminded always of your wedding vow. So whatever it is, you have to accept, understand and talk it over. Goodluck to your marriage life, I am wishing for a longtime happiness for both of you!
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@indahfth (11171)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 11
I was pleased, your married life, happy. Hopefully, your wedding will always bring happiness. When your husband away, and you miss your husband, this means you really love your husband. I hope, your love will always exist, and never faded.
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@celticeagle (122466)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Oct 11
It is something to get used to having someone else in your life. Imprtant to commmunicate and be honest with him at all times. SOme habits will have to be changed now that you are married. You have someone else to think about. Normal to feel sad when he is gone for awhile.
• Kottayam, India
10 Oct 11
Husband is your body(as per biblical philosophy) then how you feel another person in your room, try to accommodate and you will find more grace in that situation
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@aerous (13465)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
Wow! I want to say congratulations with your new life, friend. I hope the relationship will be forever...
@aeiou78 (3457)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 11
You were suppose not getting used to your husband's family and not your husband because he is your husband. Both of you were knowing each other for quite sometimes before your marriage. Unless, you married to him by an introducer and the knowing period was short before your marriage, then you should have a problem to live together with him at the beginning. Anyhow, congratulation to your new marriage.
@cerebellum (3870)
• United States
12 Oct 11
There are many adjustments to make in the first year or two of marriage. In time though it will all be worth it.
@sid556 (31000)
• United States
11 Oct 11
You'll adjust. It takes time. it is really difficult to live with someone be it your husband or even just a friend. After a while you'll get so comfortable that you will just be yourself. that is the one thing that I could never get used to in dating after I got divorced and maybe what I missed the most...that comfort zone. No matter what went wrong in our relationship...we KNEW each other and there was no awkwardness. Even when things went bad..we were comfortable with each other. We knew each other inside and out...good and bad. You'll get there, Tkonlinevn. Don't get so comfortable that you take each other for granted...just comfortable enough to not feel uncomfortable around each other. Congratulations!
• United Arab Emirates
11 Oct 11
You will get used to it in time. Sometimes it is difficult to break from what we used to do or how we like things. It is normal to feel that way and things will gradually be alright the least time you expected.
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
Congratulations and welcome to married life my friend! Well, that's normal. First few years of being married is still adjustment period. That's only the beginning my dear, expect more in the long run. ;-) That is just one of the many among the lists ;-D Just bear with it and be patient because there's still more that you may or may not like it. Just don't forget the love that bounds you together forever. Stay happy and good luck my friend! ;-)
• Indonesia
11 Oct 11
I'm not merried yet, but i thought that the early years after the wedding is the most beautiful times. Even the grief and pain, are also a part the beauty of it. And after marriage, beginning in year three, people have to start getting ready to face tough time trials of marriage. So, be prepared to face the temptations and trials of your married life. Congratulations to your married life!
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
10 Oct 11
I know what you mean. You both have to make separate time for yourself.
@Hatley (164354)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 11
hi tkonlinevn oddly I never did feel that when I got married as I wanted the man I loved to be with me always. I know there were a few times when I realized there was still much I did not know about my own husband but I can truly say I never felt uncomfortable with him in a room with me. Marriage is supposed to be about love and togetherness.But I think sometimes people marry without knowing anything about each other. that's why there used to be a period of courtship while you both learned about each other before marriage. In marriage you should be happy to be with the person you love.