some people!!!

India
October 17, 2011 3:58am CST
some people have nothing better to do but complain.i come across many people of the category quite often and once in a while i feel like being surrounded with people who just keep on pouring complains on me.no matter how hard i try to please them,i get only one thing in return,yet another complain.do you also face such situation?how do you deal with such people?
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@akp100 (13294)
• India
17 Oct 11
Hi Khare Not much but yes sometimes even I faced some people who always used to complaining. I don't know about people you faced but so far I faced people are always unhappy with the things even they having good things and situation in their life. What I do ?? Just ignore them as I know if I would go for solve them then I would never see end !!
• India
17 Oct 11
i do get to see few people who are always complaining about their current situation as to everything is going on bad with then despite being in a better position.and even if things are not good at your side,what will you gain by complaining about it unnecessarily? would it not be better if you try to resolve that issue n your own rather than sitting over and just complaining about the same?
@akp100 (13294)
• India
17 Oct 11
Surely that's the better way to come over any situation. Only complaining will not solve anything.
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• India
17 Oct 11
yes if you don't look into your issues yourself,then nobody is going to lend you a helping hand to take over your problem,not even god. remember god helps those who help themselves.
@dpk262006 (55811)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 11
Hi Shweta! I think many of us are in the habit of making complaints. In the process of making complaints people forget that - "if they point one finger of theirs towards other person, three of their own fingers, point towards them." Perhpahs some want to prove that they are superior or better than other and they want to score over others. May be finding fault with others, help them feel they they do not have any faults. If someone complains me, I listen to him/her patiently. If the third person is not known to me, then I remain netural. If the third person is known to me, I use my own wisdom and experience and my relations with that person to defend him/her. I am not an exception, I also make complaints and may be others also do about me, when am not in front of them. What about you? Do you make complaints?
• India
17 Oct 11
yes i too am not an exception and i too complain about some thing that i find out of place and un usual.but i never go over to keep on complaining without stopping in a middle to take a deep breath.
@dpk262006 (55811)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 11
It means that you take a deep breath and then start your complaint session again.
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• India
17 Oct 11
lol only when its related to my husband.otherwise a rarely pose a complaint
@sjvg1976 (15659)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 11
Hello Khare, Oh yes i also find people in my sarroundings who are more complaining but how to deal with them will always be a quetion mark for me too. This happens because they don't get satisfaction from the things they do.I have an example of my wife here whenever i try to help her in the kitchen she will be very happy and as soon as the work gets completed she will shout at me and her words will be exactly like"why did you leave knife on the slab?" "why din't you keep the water jug on its place?" at that time she will forget that i had saved her time and energy.And afterwards she cools down she realises what she said and say sorry.
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• India
17 Oct 11
lol, well wives do have a rite to complain about their husbands don't you think so?even i do the same.every time my husband is eager helping me out in kitchen and prepare some dish for me,i ought to have a messy kitchen that will take more time for me to clean it up.and sometimes i do complain about this that you left the kitchen more messy and later on realize that he was just trying to help me in his own unique way.
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@Jlyn10 (10481)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 11
Aaaww, poor sj got scolded by the wife. Well, you should do your job well and know where exactly to put the things. If you want to help, do it all the way and not just halfway.
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@sjvg1976 (15659)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 11
Ok jenny i will do less work next time but with perfection hehehe
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@shibham (17025)
• India
17 Oct 11
Here is proverb in my mother tongue... Who has enough stool on his butt always try to smell others. Hope u have got the answer.
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@sjvg1976 (15659)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 11
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• India
17 Oct 11
bro you feel smelly.
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@Jlyn10 (10481)
• Malaysia
18 Oct 11
@SIMPLYD (75854)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I hate those types of people. I avoid them the next time around they come to me to complain. Or i would be frank with them about their complaints and how i feel about them. That way, they will know how i feel about it and most likely stop being so.
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• India
17 Oct 11
i hope it could have been that easier to me to avoid such people.i do try to avoid a few of them but i can't let them think that i feel annoyed by their behavior as they may get hurt.yet they should also feel the same way for me too.i keep on trying to sort out their complains and every time i sort out one problem,i have another complain awaiting to be herd again.do they don;t have the heart to say a word of appreciation for whatever i am trying to give them at the best i can?
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@SIMPLYD (75854)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I think you should sometimes show your annoyance with their doing that, my friend. If not they will really be coming back always, with their complaints.
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• India
17 Oct 11
thanks for the suggestion dear,i did try this sometime,but i was given a tag of being rude.i do get annoyed and need a space to vent off.
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@SIMPLYD (75854)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
You are so kind my friend. That's why they keep coming back to you.
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• India
17 Oct 11
and i can't opt to be rude or else i'll again be given yet another complain of being rude.
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@SIMPLYD (75854)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
Well, that's right my friend. if it will involve our job, we better just be patient to people. But had it not involved our job, if i were in your shoes, i would show them my annoyance by not smiling at all.
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• India
17 Oct 11
i won't get to smile if i hear a complain would i?i can't even forcefully implement a smile if am feeling bad about something.
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@allknowing (56716)
• India
17 Oct 11
For some the glass is always half empty. It is never full for anyone but some see it as half full atleast. There is nothing much you can do about those who only look at the negative side of any situation. I have one such friend who will call me every single day and complain. I know she has a lot to thank God for but if I bring that to her notice she will so neatly argue that at the end of the talk I get brain washed into believing that she in fact has lot of problems!.
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• India
17 Oct 11
yes you are right.some people have this in their genes to keep on complaining.and you did mention about your friend some where else.you need to be very patient with such people as they have a never ending list of complains.
• India
17 Oct 11
yes you are right.some people have this in their genes to keep on complaining.and you did mention about your friend some where else.you need to be very patient with such people as they have a never ending list of complains.
@Hatley (161854)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Oct 11
hi khare oh yes. her name was A lice and I had been good to her so she imprinted me like a duck to a mama hen. She had to sit me down and tell me in great details how rotten all the food was.so I agreed with her then started say ing oh but they make a great eggplant parmesan or great spaghetti or really good beef stew.she had to agree with me on those things so she starting thinking about positive things. she used to leave me with a head ache u ntil I learned to talk positive back at her.the other A lice also complains about the food and will not be stopped so I try to dodge her a lot here. lol lol I am not much of a complainer as it always depresses me when I do that.
• India
18 Oct 11
that so good of you that you don't complain about anything at all.i too try to give a positive boost up to people who are over indulgent in complaining but to some people its out of use.they just can' change their attitude towards life as they have been complaining about one or the other things from years.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 11
Yes they complain alot, i guess they show their fear and insecurities by vexing out poison and complaints to bring down everyone optimistics to depression level.They just can't handle they own unstable emotions and pour out to infect other people with their incestious comments and negativities.I guess have to avoid them and sometime cannot have to train to ignore their voice.
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• India
17 Oct 11
i think you are right,they just try to find a vent to release out their own insecurities.i try my level best to avoid such people so that there negativity never influence me.
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@ralphs (209)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I know how you feel its irritating , they complain so much why they dont accept the fact that it all happen because god is doing our faith so stop complain , just pray hard stay faithful to god and all will be safe and sound.
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• India
17 Oct 11
i wish they could do so.no matter how hard i try to please them,they always try to find one or the other faults.they are too busy searching about faults that they don't tend to see what all good am doing.
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@shskumbla (3341)
• India
17 Oct 11
I agree with you. Some people find pleasure in making complaints,rather than working.
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• India
17 Oct 11
yes and i feel if they a bit more of attention to their own problems,they would be in much better position to find a solution.
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• United States
17 Oct 11
My thoughts is that it has to do with their personality and or just a bad day. I personally do not like to circle myself with complainers. I can be very patient in trying to make the situation better but at some point I do have to distance myself. Simply because I can sense the negativity transferring over to me. I try to remain as polite and pleasant as possible as my own ill feelings and situations are no ones fault. I know a person that no matter what one does and or say all we get is complaints, complaints, so it is at the point that I say, I am about to leave and when you feel a bit better call me. lol
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• India
17 Oct 11
hello HWG, you are always considered as a problem solver here and who ever has some problem here,they try to contact you for resolution.i hope i have your id too where i could disturb you every time am in some problem.lol. you see its too much of negativity encircling me with continuous nagging and complaining about one or the other thing.some people have nothing better then to just complain about.i guess they take it as a source of entertainment and even if you are not interested in listening to them,they keep on troubling you with the same thing.
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@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
17 Oct 11
I don't have complaining people surrounded on me. So ask yourself how come you attract them? Sounds as if you take them all serious and you are willing to help them out? So they keep running to you not noticing you get tired of them. You have to change your own attitude. Go look for positive people, full of life energy, not for the ones who need you. And yes some people complain just to complain. Nothing wrong with that. It's a way of ventilating, get rid of the stress. Not a way to ask for help. There is a dutch saying: those who complain are not in need. Remember that saying if you hear someone complain and just turn away and go on with your life. And if the complaining person is following you start complaining yourself!
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• India
17 Oct 11
wow i loved your post.i think i need to look at problems this way.i truly appreciate the way you put this.i do have to look around finding people full of energy and enthusiasm to gain positive motivation.
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@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Oct 11
I'm not complaining, but I also hate people like that. My good mood will totally be spoiled because of their constant complaining and negativity. I am trying to avoid them, especially in the morning. Because if I interact with them in the morning, my mood for the whole will be totally spoiled.
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• India
17 Oct 11
yes i agree,nobody likes an early morning argument.if my hubby's go on complaining about something early in the morning,i just cut him short and tell him that we can speak about it later on as its no good spoiling up our mood for the whole day.
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@khat009 (62)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
hello Khare...well, i also hate people who keeps on complaining and i have some friends who are like that..If i with them and they keep on complaining what i always did is to keep quite and walk away for a little while..haha..because i'm not the talker type of person so i just do that..hehe
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• India
17 Oct 11
yes if its about friends,you can at least talk to them about this issue as to why they are always in a mood of complaining.but frankly speaking,true freinds never go on for complaining.else they are always understanding and try to adjust with you as far as possible.
@vasumathi (438)
• India
17 Oct 11
There are people in this world, who doesnot satify with anything. They always complain about something. even if they get some good thing also they will not be satified. It is very difficult to handle such people. So better avoid in trying to make them perfect.
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• India
17 Oct 11
i know dear that such people can never get satisfied no matter how hard you try.its in their blood and they don't forget to find mistakes in the work you think you did perfectly. i wish i could avoid them,but i come across these kind daily and i can't even avoid them.they make my temper raise high every time they pose a complaint.i try my best to keep my anger in check so that i don;t blast over.but i do need a vent to let these negative thought flow away.
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@Jlyn10 (10481)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 11
Well, some people are like that, and some people are not like that. Some people are good, and some people are bad. Some people talk alot, and some people just talk less. Some people like to boast, and some people are so humble. Some people just can't get enough, and some people just don't ask for too much. All these kind of people, I too have come across. How do I deal with such people? Just listen from one ear and out the other ear but please do try to solve their problems if you think you can. If they keep complaining about the same thing, just repeat the same answer over and over again until it gets into their head. Some are just not satisfied with whatever they got, so they tend to seek until they find what they want. Have patience, my dear.
• India
17 Oct 11
i guess the last phrase that you entered hold good here.i can nevr satisfy them,no matter how hard i try.they are ever ready with new complains,nor do i have choice to keep myself away from them.i try my nest to let it enter from one year and go from the other,but am certainly not able to by pass the brain that comes in between.i can do nothing better then being patient.
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@Jlyn10 (10481)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 11
So, why not just give them what they want to hear?
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• India
17 Oct 11
ho ho ho look who is complaining.i am busy solving your issues and you are saying am not paying enough attention?see this is the real problem am facing.
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@kalav56 (11503)
• India
18 Oct 11
It is very difficult to deal with cribbing people because they will always find someting or the other to keep complaining about ; I am sure they would complain that they have nothing to complain about on a particular day if it happens; it is a mindset and the less we deal with them it is better.If , perforce we have to deal with them , we should turn a completely deaf ear to their complains and rants.
• India
19 Oct 11
i agree its in mindset of few people and they can never forget complaining about one or the other thing.so its completely useless to give an ear to them
• China
18 Oct 11
Yes!You are right!There are many this kind of people in this world.Though in others eyes their life is happy and perfect, they always complain the god day by day! I think their bad behaviour from character.
• India
18 Oct 11
yes i too agree with this.they are never content with whatever they get from others and whatever they already have.they have plenty of complaints about one or the other thing.
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@amelly (1558)
• Malaysia
18 Oct 11
well..that how the world it is..my brother likes to complain on other people..about the way they dress up..mingle..but i guess he didn't realised that he is not even that perfect to start with..
• India
18 Oct 11
yes you are right my friend.nobody is perfect in this world and when we raise a finger to someone else,we fail to remember that three fingers are pointing to ourselves too.
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