How to Get Fellow myLotters to Answer Friends'- More than Their Own-Discussions?

I just had another thought and although I have not done any, is one could remove the member off their list so that the discussion alerts don't bug a member so much, I guess.

I guess the part where you wrote "he cuts off; branches that ARE producing," seems like yo meant that one should stop responding as the more responses a member receives the more likely they are to respond. Being that I understood it that way I figure if someone was really bothered then they could either do one of the two. Again, I have not done either and nor have I turned off alerts. I really don't have set cafeteria's and to date only respond where I can add something of significance and or quality. Then I read "Don't participate with members who aren't participating with others." Well only speaking out of the area of "listed friends", though I am very active I don't respond to all their discussions, granted a great many do interest me but I can't say all of them and or any where it appears to be a question and answer, and it is already answered. If that were the case I suppose I probably would only respond to a few as not very many of my own listed friends do answer my discussions. As you can see I am not bothered with it as I am very active. I don't set any type of criteria when I do opt to participate here outside of interest to topics.

I'm not seeing where people are getting that I said "Stop responding to all the discussions on myLot." You don't have to take the member off your list to stop receiving their alerts. Although it takes longer, you can-find them on your friendlist and -turn the alerts off for their discussion-starts.

That's how I LIKE to join new discussions, through links from the margins of other discussions I join; but this is to help some friends see why other friends don't always answer their discussions

A good thing to do would be to speculate, to project what would happen in the future if they continue starting-and-not-responding; and then asking them if that is the same projection they see and -if that is how they want to end up.

I sure hope you didn't hear that suggestion from me! My suggestion was more like 'Don't participate with members who aren't participating with others.'

Every participation has value. It doesn't make any difference how many discussions a person starts or responds to, the ratio of those activities or anything else. "Don't participate with members who aren't participating with others" is a self-fulfilling instruction since, to not participate with others, those people won't be starting or responding. Therefore, no one can respond to them. I really don't understand this sudden surge in "stop responding to people who don't meet my criteria" discussions.

In terms of 'flow to myLot,' you're right; all the credit goes to myLot for any action on myLot. In the myLot-microcosm, however; if member X only concentrates on member X's discussions (or only starts new ones), member Y gets none of the 'flow' with member X unless he goes over to member X's discussions. I'm not saying he should--if he sees a discussion that might be interesting--use 'who started the discussion' as a reason to avoid-OR-join the discussion. You're right though. It's just that sometimes my mind gets clouded by the microcosm.

I didn't say "stop responding to all discussions by everyone," I said something more like 'stop responding to the discussions of members who are adding more discussions than they are responding-to.'

if that happens ,means as u said not to respond to those discussions where there can not be a discussion carried on further,becasue they do not respond back.However it can be that they dont know about notifications or notified ,or may be after sometime we can get our response back.

That's when it would be good to send them a PM to remind them; even if it's just a subject-line "Go to your 'Settings' and enable new-discussion notifications" and a Body that just says ":-)"

Right. And members who are sacrificing quantity for quality, how else can we convince them that they've chosen wrongly?

Honestly, yes, that is the best way. You should really just ignore low quality/spam discussions. Even if you don't care about showing them they've chosen wrongly, it's still a better idea to post good quality responses to good quality discussions than it is to post good quality responses to poor quality discussions.

Sounds good!

And you respond well. Two-a-day is a good limit!