Celebrities

My view point here is that till children really become adults[say 18 or so] there should be no discusson about the behaviour or style of celbrities in front of them.If they gossip in school and come back home to carry it further then this practice should be gently discouraged because there are other important things and facts and much general knowledge to be acquired by children if they are to shine in life. THere should be no deep discussions but just a plain casual dismissal of this.I am not against their watching any movies at all; however, the focus on movies too must be different in tune with their age. This is of course my personal opinion and there are different styles of upbringing and there is no absolute way of doing anything.

Actually, it's quite hard to discriminate between the good and bad. Take Crazy English Li Yang as an example, who is quite famous in China while dealing english learning methods. people cannot deny the fact that, the guy really did a lot for the chinese students who wanna develop a better oral english, and he made it. However, he is also a man of domestic violence at the same time. But if his wife didnot speak her miserable life out or the TV station or something like that didnot show deeper, people will never know what a guy really is. Now here comes my idea, it's not of the problem whether a man is behaving well or not, but the point one is showing outside towards others, which is of the great importance. And during this process, from the celebrities showing their behavior to the point how you yourself is thinking about their acctions, and by analysing the incidents or events, then learing something that belong to you. If one can behave like that, I suppose, he has gotten the point.

The issue is not so much the celebrities they are people like everyone else, they have their good and bad days. The difference is if they have a bad day, their most embarrassing moments their worst moments are splashed across several magazines for all the world to see and judge. This is nothing new, gossip mags have existed for centuries, what is different is this obsession with fame. People will do almost anything to be famous, only not to handle the pressure of the constant scrutiny and implode. Previously agents and journalists would prevent the most damaging gossip from being published the famous living in glass castles but the illusion fell. Children look around them to see what is acceptable and what is not, they see that fame is the most important thing to have, to be popular is considered essential, and celebrities are the epitome of being in the A crowd. How many make over movies, where a girl/boy is an outsider starts hanging out with the in crowd becomes popular and finally gets everything she/he wants even though she/he realizes that she/he prefers being who she/he were but they are forever changed. The only way is to give balance, show that that lifestyle is actually destroying these people, there are celebrities that do a lot of good it is just by showing that not all artist have to be self destructive is it possible to give a balanced outlook on fame.

Of late, you say? Oh, celebrities have been misbehaving for decades!!! It is just, due to the internet and more tv stations, it is more apparent. I always taught my kids not to idolize them, or sports figures, but to idolize real heroes, even ones not famous. I do not read the stories on celebrities, although I may see them, in passing. A lot is made up by the media, or twisted, too, so I am never sure what to believe. Also, I have real family and friends, I do not need to live through the lives of people I do not know, nor care to know.

I will never take any celebrity as my role model. They shine on the outside but their private life is usually nothing to pray for . Even I try not to expose my children to all of them and when I do I do it with explanation so they will know that it is not all that glitters that is gold.

This is something that really bothers me as well. The best example that I can think of is Lindsay Lohan who found her fame on the Disney Channel and also Miley Cyrus. Both of these are girls that my daughter really admired and now that they are a little bit older, they are not setting forth a good example at all. I think that children today need to have role models that make the right decisions and the celebrities are making a lot of wrong decisions that none of us want our children to make.

Today's celebrities hardly can be called role models. Most of them are just rich and have some sort of a talent, but mostly they are rude and misbehave exactly as the people you mentioned. I don't think being rich and famous gives them the right to behave this way, because, like it or not, our children adore them and accept them as role models. BUT - I believe there is someone I WOULD like to recommend as a decent celebrity who deserves to be exampled as a role model - Christina Applegate. Aside from being extremely beautiful, she has proved herself to be modest, generous, brave enough to have a double mastectomy after cancer diagnosis, never misbehaved and being a great mother.