Do you like to chat with your girl/boy friend in the public place or feel shy?
By smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
India
November 5, 2011 7:34am CST
Imagine before marriage or after marriage you have girl or boy friend then you can talk with your girl/boy friend in any place even if the people are watching you or you will feel shy because you afraid ohhhhhhhh no if someone will be my family members then what will happen.
Now young generation not feel this they can stand any place and can laugh and talk they not think about public. What you think you can also do this or feel shy. This is good to talk in public place about your love and future life.
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30 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
hi surekha,
On my own opinion there is nothing wrong talking with your boyfriend in public as long as you are not getting too intimate too each other
But in a so called conservative country this action is not allowed but now a days everything is slowly changing 
.
Once I talked and kissed my ex boyfriend in public but not too much kissing scene 
happy mylotting
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Once I talked and kissed my ex boyfriend in public but not too much kissing scene
happy mylotting
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
bhaby,
Oh yeah...not too much kissing in public huh?
Hehehe....
Well...everything in the world is now changing 
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
You are right everything should under limit and slowly slowly changes is happening day by day in culture. In India some Metro Cities people not feel shy but in small town or city they feel shy.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
5 Nov 11
Why would we feel shame about it to talk my girlfriend in the public place. Would it be a crime if you express your love in front of whole group of people to your girlfriend? Nothing will stop me, and that is not the issue though. I just do what I like to do, and I didn't bother any one. The same for other people. They just do their things.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
No friend this is not crime but you are brave at least not fear from public and your family members if you love, if a person is fear then dont jump in love. But some lovers are only showing and talking loudly and kissing also their voice should at least slow.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
Shy? Not really..if i am chatting / talking to my boyfriend/ husband in the presence of another person, there is no reason to be shy my friend.. i am proud and happy to be with him. I cannot see any reason why i would be shy :)) i even love talking to him in front of everyone else because i love him and i am proud of him since he is one great human being. ;)
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
dear sis,
There is nothing wrong chatting or talking with boyfriend/girlfriend in public.
It is better that way than doing things in private right?
Anyway,...youngsters now are doing things in private and this is reality.
As long as they do not do any obscene things in public...it's fine.
have a good day 
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
Yes my dear sis this is true now youngsters not chat in public place because they fear if any family member will watch them then what will happen.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
6 Nov 11
Hi surekha ji, well i don't have boy friend as of now, i have online friend but never try or have that intention to meet and talk just good friends that's it, sharing everything online family matters, friends, studies, job etc., so i didn't face this problem.
Have a nice day.
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@ehleonkyrietales (452)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
I will never be shy about it - why you may ask? Well, it's like asking you also why you'll be shy about it. Love is something common to everyone so - nevertheless people around you will/should understand you, especially friends. I always call my girlfriend when we were both vacant in school - and people were like "Oh..okay... your not here again.". ;)
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Nov 11
okay try again copy paste. this must be an Indian Cultural thing as in the US nobody worries about couples talking with each other in public.in fact most people in public places are so into themselves you can be almost in front of them and u nless they cannot walk past you they will not even see you.we all couples married or engaged talk to each other in public. why not?here we are free and we can talk with whomever we please when we please and its nobodyd business but our own.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
Madam if couples are talking to each other in public place then not problem but girl and boy friend are also talk to each other in public place they are kissing also and I think this is not good.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
You are right everywhere culture is different in our culture still some restrictions of elders so mostly people feel shy for doing kissing, hugging, talking in public place.
@anil02 (24688)
• India
5 Nov 11
Hello Surekha, It is difference of time and place. In a small town it is hard to talk with boy friend or girl friend. But is big cities it is normal thing. I am living in a small city. In my young age it was a challanging job to talk with girl friend or boy friend. Now time in changed in these days it is routine thing.
@anil02 (24688)
• India
5 Nov 11
Surekha it is not good one to say attitude of any one wrong. We are sharing here our personal views. So I think in present time it is not fair to not o talk with wife at any place. What is wrong in talking with wife or husband in public places. Although it is tradition and culture in deep Rajasthan. But my city is not so. I will celebrate silver Jubli of marriage life in this month. I talk with my wife at every place at any time. She is my closet one
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
You are right sir small town it is not allowed and even the members of small town are feel shy talking with their own wife also. Like my husband never talk with me in public place.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
You are right sir you are only talking but some person voice is very loudly and they talk very loudly and public watch them and laugh and comments also so I think they should concentrate on their voice.
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
5 Nov 11
Well, again, whats the difference. if they want to talk a little louder then others, whats the difference. They have that right, and besides, other people should just mind their business. It's not a crime to talk in public with someone you care about. Do not ever let anyone tell you that you cannot do something.
@omchesunche (1755)
• Indonesia
5 Nov 11
well, yes off course. sometimes not only chatting but also walking closely and hold hands together..Although we need to observe the situation and where we are in public place.. If we are at the mall it's no problem, I have observed some couples even touch and kissing each other, maybe that's depends on placed we live in as well..
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
Yes friend in mall no problem and some people are kissing also but they should observe how public are watching them. Voice should slow.
@ceasar09 (442)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
Maybe from other countries including yours have retained their culture that couples or persons in relationship are shy to talk or chat in public. But here in our country its been normal for person that have relationship to talk with each other, in my opinion it is also important to a relationship because no matter where they are they still chat or expresses their feeling with things or towards each other which in turn will build a better and strengthen relationship.
I usually asks my girlfriend to go out and spend time which each other and even though we are at public places I enjoy chatting with her and makes me feel good also. =)
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
You are lucky man to residing in free thinking country in our country lots of people are narrow minded and even if two person one is girl and second is boy (both are brother and sister) but people feel they are girl and boyfriend. So now big brother not ready to go with young age sisters like same age.
@LaraTecson (726)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
hello. i cant understand why couples would be afraid talking when they are in public places. i think talking wiyh your loved one is m
normal and i dont see what is wrong with it. maybe in your culture, couples should not be seen talking in public places but good thing that does not apply to us. in our country, you would see couples not just talking but some are also hugging and kissing in public. it is okay to be affectionate in our country.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
5 Nov 11
You have rightly stated it depends on the culture in each country. When I was young I never use to talk to girls freely because of shyness. Only after my becoming a short hand teacher out of necessity I had to talk to girls and boys for teaching. Slowly I got over my shyness.
Even nowadays in colleges in Chennai boys and girls do not talk in public--unless they decide to make a pair. It is rare--one in hundred cases may be like that.
Of course in offices especially software companies they do not hesitate to talk --one out of necessity and two it is the age for their finding life partner-- many love marriages take place in software companies out of such meetings in public or private.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
You are right my Lara they should not feel shy if they are really true friend or lover but at least their voice should slow because when public heard private talking means they laughing only.
Uncle after maturity(means office job, after marriage) no problem but before maturity they feel shy because they worry if someone tell about them to their family members then...
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
Thanks to share your view your right if everything is under limit then not wrong.
@hongqistreet (321)
• China
5 Nov 11
I like to chat with my husband both now and before our marriage. We talk everywhere, not only in private place but also in public place. but if it is a private topic, i think we would chat in low voice in public and make sure that no one around us could hear it.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Nov 11
Thats absolutely right and good habit my friend if we are talking about private topic then our voice should be slow and I started this topic only for knowing this. Nice thought.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Nov 11
I've never been shy about talking to my husband when we are in a public place. The reason that I don't worry about talking with him is because of the fact that he is the person that knows me the best and thus the person that I feel the most comfortable talking to.
I don't understand couples at all that are not able to talk to each other, it bothers me.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
8 Nov 11
Basically i am living in village community. As a boy i have no shy, but, coming to friends, i can think from their side also, so i won't in public, if anything about studies is there, i can talk every where.
But, others(mainly the elder) not understood a good friends relation, they definitely misunderstand us.
@koperty3 (1876)
•
6 Nov 11
I can talk with anyone I want in public places and my family got nothing to do with it. Times changed. Now people thinking different than 10 or 20 years ago. So talking is five but I don't like when other people kissing each other in public places. I think they can do it at home. I'm not hyper conservative or religious person but when I see couple kissing I don't feel that this is appropriate. They should do it at home. I do it at home not in public places.
