I really hate it when someone use my things without permission!

Secretbear.... I do the same....My sister always tries to take my things...I will scold her on that time...She will not buy my permission...We will quarrel for a long time...After that my mom will interfere in that case...I will beat her...And she will cry aloud...etc...She will not take care of my things...I cares my things a s gold... But she will leave it some where else...She always tries to put my dress,My laptop, My pendrive etc....I will not allow her to touch my things...Some times,She will request me to get something...Then I will give the thing that she want... Thank you....

LoL oh how I've been in you shoes one to many times. I think it is a respect issue myself BUT there are more of them then us that think like that. So, I guess now the older I get and trying to stress over less and less, I find looking at the non-asked usage from all sides to find reasons why someone would feel it's okay to do it or maybe they just needed it more then I. I guess when you have had almost nothing in life like me YOU can relate to wanting what everyone else has. TAKE A DEEP BREATH && GET YOU SOME ICEREAM! LOL

You should have a sit-down with the cousin and explain as you did to MyLot just how it makes you feel when someone takes with out asking. If this cousin is a minor the person to speak to is the mother.

Get the lollipop instead as it will make your day sweeter. Since I come from a big family sharing has always been instilled in my upbringing. This might not always come out good especially during the hard times as we want to be thrifty yet someone else is taking advantage of our leniency and that would upset the whole plans of trying to be thrifty. I understand your dilemma.

Yeah you need an ice cream. Anyway, did you talk to your cousin already about your dislike on his or her behavior? and what did he or she said to you. If they did not listen to you, you have to put your belonging in a place they did not know. I think it's the only the way so that your stuff are not used by them. You gotta a tough work

I really hate that kind of person, why do they have to use someone else's things? That happened to me too. At work, my office mate will always use my iPhone when I'm out of my room. I just tried to ignore it but it's really getting on my nerves. We are not that even close for him to use my phone. Lol we are the same, I also like ice cream when I'm angry (double chocolate flavor)

My housemate used to have that annoying habit but it was mostly through taking my food that I had bought. Treats etc that I would put in the fridge or cupboard so I could indulge myself after a long slog at work. I would go to the cupboard or fridge and it would be gone! I used to find hiding places trouble is with ice cream there is only one place you can put it and you can't exactly hide it! So instead of buying it I would go without. So I punished myself too. No matter how many times I would tell them NOT to take my food it went ignored. Trouble is I didn't like the things they bought so I couldn't exactly get my own back! All my other things I kept in my room even bathroom toiletries. Another reason to live alone!

I am the same way. I don't mind to share but I would like for someone to give me the respect to ask me. My daughter takes my clothes all the time. She'll come in from school and there she is wearing my boots! Or my jeans! I don't have near the clothes that she does but she just can not help herself. Well...the last time I took her shopping..I told her I didn't like certain clothes that I really did...if I tell her I don't like them, she'll get them...lol...I am on to her. Anyway...now I have some clothes that I can take from her too.

good day secretbear, i do understand what you feel. as same thing that i also hates. when somebody is using my things without my consent. i am not a selfish person but, i just want everything in order. that is to ask permission first before using my things. well except if that thing is too personal such as facial soap and make-ups. thus, it is not that difficult to ask permission before using anybody's things, isn't it.

Same here my friend I really hate it when someone borrows my things without my permission. I experienced that before when I was residing in a dormitory during my first year college. I was washing my clothes, soaked my shirts for conditioner, removed my shirts, and left the basin with conditioner to get some hangers. When I came back, somebody is already using my basin and threw the conditioner away!! I was super mad but tried to calm myself. But then, I can't, and yes, I got mad. Have you eaten your ice cream?

Same here, I had an experience like that with my sister-in-law. I was so pissed but kept my mouth shut for the good of all. Here's how the story goes: I had a blouse which is kind'a branded, it was given to me by my sister. I think I just worn it a few times before. This sister-in-law of mine likes to collect branded blouses, she always have new ones and I don't understand why on earth one day, I saw her going to work wearing my blouse!...and I don't remember her borrowing it or asking permission from me...the nerve, she didn't even gave it back, as in, nadah, she wore it as if its hers Anyway, I just keep my cool, thinking that it's only a piece of cloth, I can have lots of them. Now, she passed it over to my mother-in-law and everytime I see it, I just laugh by myself and think...some people...

I know exactly how that feels! My sister thinks she can just help herself to anything essecially when it is something I paid for myself. The other day as we were leaving the house I noticed she was wearing a pair of my Ed Hardy shoes! Those shows were like $100 I was so mad!! I worked very hard to get the money for those and she thinks she can just take them

you really need ice cream to chill your mood.. me too..i also don't like other people using my things without permission..i'm willing to share to them what i got, but they must ask permission for it..it's a sign of respect also..

I know how you feel but I think you should confront your cousin because if you don't, then it will go on forever.

Yeah, that's bad manners when people do that and it's almost like theft too. Whichever way you look at it, taking something that doesn't belong to you without permnission is wrong. Speak to your cousin and ask if she thinks she has some entitlement to your stuff. Explain the way things are and tell her to ask in future. If it was me, I'd be inclined to not be prepared to share with her if she is going to act this way. Chocolate or vanilla?

I have that kind of attitude towards things which I own that get used without permission. It goes with clothing most of the time. I really get annoyed when my brothers would use my thing without actually telling me that they would be using them. They would either say, 'well, you weren't present that time so I really couldn't ask if I can borrow it.' or 'I just borrowed it only that time, you're so selfish!' Anyway, that was before. These days, that doesn't happen as much as it use to. Now, they really know how I feel about my things being used without my consent. I would usually tell them that they should have sent me a text message when they are using something, and I am not around for them to ask permission, so I wouldn't be wondering where something is when I am looking for it. I am like that with clothing 'cause those are the things that are really fit for me and having someone else use it would change the size in some way which makes the authenticity of my ownership altered. For things that consumable, shampoo, soap, conditioners, toothpaste and so on, I really don't mind even if they don't ask. I find not ownership towards those things and I do buy those things with the intent to share. I can always purchase new supplies, unlike clothing which isn't conveniently replaced when you do try to compare. (^_^") Why not try to do the initiative to purchase for them things that they could use if you really can't tolerate how they would use your things without permission? That way, they would know that you are quite considerate and they might consider to ask you personally if their supplies run out. Or better yet, you can talk to them about that problem so that things get cleared out and a solution from both would come up which both would also agree on after settling things through. Just an idea though..

i know how you feel. we should ask permission if we use something in someone's house. it would be like someone opening your cupboards in the kitchen or taking something out of the fridge. it is better to ask before we do anything such as this. i would let her know in a nice way about how you feel.

YES! I understand that, because i don't like someone to use things without my permission too. They can use it on the sly but i will definitely find out since i can sense the difference. It's a feeling of attachment on my side, rather than what u are experiencing, secret ^^ Sometimes even if they were to ask, i might not even lend it to them for some people, are such wasteful people byu using lots when it's actually not necessarily so

laundry soap will not pissed me i am okay with that. but dont touch my things that are complicated and expensive. like dont touch my guitars. even my wife does not touch it. she knows i will be mad. nobody touches my gadgets and my things i used for work. for if it breaks i might break someones neck too har har har. even my son does not touch things that he knows are very delicate and sensitive. if someone will stay at our house for a time... like your cousin. my wife tells a few rules. they can stay here but they still need to remember that this is our house if they need something they need to ask. they can not just get something. in this case getting mad can be avoided. my wife tends to be a little nagger when she is pissed... so better make sure she is okay har har har.

I can certainly understand how you feel. I think that the best thing is to just sit down and talk to her about how you feel. If you don't, it is difficult for her to know that this is bothering you. It is better to simply tell her. Otherwise, it could make things worse.