Would u b willing 2 embrace the religion of your loved one just to be w/ him/her

@JER616 (551)
Philippines
December 3, 2011 8:33am CST
In the recently held Miss Universe pageant,a question was raised: "Would you change your religious beliefs to the person you love and why?" I believe this question was raised because there are religions today which require a couple to be wed to have the same faith. Personally, I see this as a convenient way of adding up membership to a religious organization even without having the needed faith to embrace such, but only the desire to be with a member of a religious organization. If such question is posed at me my answer would be conditional. I will be willing to turn away from my present faith if the faith I am about to embrace will definitely bring me closer to God, assure my salvation, teach me how to lead a holy life through the Scriptures and teach me the truths and mysteries in the Bible. Nonetheless, if the religion of the person I will be sharing my life with will just teach me to kill and be killed for the sake of a messenger who profess to be an angel, I will just say: "You can definitely have your god and I will keep my faith." How about you, fellow mylotters, what would your reaction be on this question?
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@iuliuxd (4453)
• Romania
3 Dec 11
That is a silly question but still better than many they ask on the Miss Universe contest. Your answer also is silly :"I will be willing to turn away from my present faith if the faith I am about to embrace will definitely bring me closer to God, assure my salvation, teach me how to lead a holy life through the Scriptures and teach me the truths and mysteries in the Bible" If you find such a church then you should join even if your loved one doesn`t ask you that.
• Brazil
4 Dec 11
If someone asked me this, first i would say a resounding "NO" then i ask him if he would be willing to do what he asked me.
@JER616 (551)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
@iuliuxd: I did find that religion and joined it already without getting advice and permission from nobody.
@iuliuxd (4453)
• Romania
5 Dec 11
I`m happy for you but you asked another question: "Will you change your religion if your beloved one will ask you that ? " ...well something like that.Now let me translate : Are you willing to risk and go to hell just because your beloved one wants you to risk ? This is the right question.If you join a better religion there is no risk and you should join it even if your beloved one doesn`t ask you to join.Going to heaven is not risky .
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@Galena (9123)
3 Dec 11
no I would not. if it's true love, they love you as the person you are, and not the person they want to change you to be. if someone would have me abandon my Gods, and my sincerely held spiritual beleifs, then I would know that they do not love me. they love a version of me that is not true, and not the real me. likewise, I would not expect someone I loved to change their deeply held beleifs and pretend to follow mine (Because you believe what you believe, you can't just decide to believe something else and change how you feel) if you truly love one another, you accept something that is so large a part of who a person is.
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@Jhovarie (1169)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
are you sure that your beliefs is correct? how many percent?
@Galena (9123)
3 Dec 11
I beleive them to be true. I don't think spirituality is the sort of thing that can be quantified with percentages, but I have no doubt in my heart and no doubt in my soul. it's not my place to dictate what other people should beleive. and to do so to a person I profess to love would be the ultimate betrayal of them.
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@dsailor (44)
• United States
3 Dec 11
I believe that faith and god is a personal experience and should never be forced on someone else for any reason. Everyone has their own religious beliefs and no one has the right to ask someone else to give up their beliefs for some one else's beliefs. I know i would not be comfortable giving up mine for any reason.
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@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
3 Dec 11
i would say no my eternal salvation is more inportant that a love no matter how much i love them or who they are
• Brazil
4 Dec 11
This is a matter of personal faith. so i dont think coherently change religion because of someone. Indeed..i dont like religion . I like faith. Change religion is to attend another church????? If is.. well .. i can understand. But change of faith??? How is this done??? simply..can not. We dont decide to change our faith if we really believe,you konw?? Faith is not explained and there is no magic button we can push and say:- - oh..I changed my faith!! The more difficult it is to love God above all things because we love our children very very very much.( It's good) For example: I have a only daughter(beautiful lol) D├ębora. I love her more than myself. For a long time i did not understand how it's possible to love God with greater love than what i have for her. NOW I understand. Love God above all thing is the best thing we do to our children because we do so we are taking a multitude of blessings for us and for our children. God'blessing extends to children , so when we love God we are protecting our children. WHO LOVES CHILDREN MORE SHOULD RUN CLOSER TO GOD. dONT WORRY..The God's love has a peculiarity: -the more we love, the more we receive. DANGER TO CHILDREN IS HAVING PARENTS WHO DONT LOVE GOD.
@iuliuxd (4453)
• Romania
4 Dec 11
DANGER TO CHILDREN IS HAVING PARENTS WHO DONT LOVE GOD. What a terrible thing to say ...you should be like the rest of the people ,to support homosexuality and abortion,and to claim you love children
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@Galena (9123)
4 Dec 11
Wow. that's the kind of argument that often extends to people thinking that only people of their own religion should have children.
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• United States
3 Dec 11
I know some people will disagree with me, but I don't believe all who worship God worship the same god. Since I'm convinced that the God I worship is the true and living God, I would consider myself a traitor to my God if I embraced another religion for the sake of an earthly companion. My relationship with my God has to be of higher value than my relationship with anyone else.
@iuliuxd (4453)
• Romania
3 Dec 11
Smilingjack he said " I don't believe all who worship God worship the same god" How do you love someone ? Maybe he loves his god more than he loves his partner.After all the religion is asking you to have God as the most important person in your life so that`s a good answer for a believer.
• United States
4 Dec 11
smilingjack: iuliuxd is correct. I did say "don't." What I find to be endlessly sad is people refusing to acknowledge the existence of God. It has always amazed me that anyone could understand that everything man has invented had to have had intelligence behind it, but "they" don't seem to be able to acknowledge any need for intelligence when it comes to creation, even though it's obvious intelligence had to have been involved. My God is not opposed to me have relationships with other people, in fact He encourages it; but He doesn't want me to be unequally yoked to someone who doesn't believe as I do, and He certainly wouldn't want me to switch to a faith that I know is wrong. Wouldn't that be dishonest? Any relationship I have on earth will be temporary no matter how good or bad it is. If I'm faithful to God, my relationship with Him is eternal. Of course He has to be first in my life. Besides, who has done for me what He's done? How do I know that the God I worship is the true God? The God I worship is the God of the Bible. What can be proven in the Bible - the history, science, fulfilled prophecy, archeology, eyewitness accounts - have all been acknowledged to be correct. There is no other ancient writing that has the accuracy record that the Bible has. The writers of the Bible had no idea they were writing words that would be canonized into what we now know as the Bible, but there was something so profound about these writings that it was obvious they were inspired by God. Have you ever known any holy writing that has been maligned like the Bible, yet no one has ever been able to silence it. Have you ever known a book that has had the impact on people's lives like the Bible has had and is having? Why wouldn't I believe the Bible is the inspired word of God? And that being the case, why wouldn't I believe what's written in the Bible? God has to be first over everyone and everything. If you've ever read the Bible without prejudice, you know that God gives very specific instructions how we are to treat one another. If you don't know, read the Ten Commandments. The first four commandments refer to our relationship with God. The last six refer to our relationship with our fellow man. In many places in the Bible, God says what He wants from us is our obedience to Him. God wants us to be just, but also merciful and He wants our walk with Him to be humble. Our relationship with our children is vitally important to Him. Read the Gospels to see how Jesus treated the children. He is our example. If I love God the way I'm suppose to, that love will transfer to my children and to my fellow man. Do you think you'd get that from the world's system? iuliuxd: Thanks!
• United States
4 Dec 11
smilingjack: What convinces you that God is a fictional character?
@GemmaR (8526)
3 Dec 11
I honestly don't think that I would change my religion for anybody, because I have held my beliefs since I was a young child and would never want to have to change that. I wouldn't have a problem in being with somebody who was a different religion, as long as they didn't have a problem with me either. If we could not get married then I think that I would be happy simply living with them as long as they were allowed to do so. If you are in love then I think that you will do a lot of things to try to make the relationship work for you.
@Jhovarie (1169)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
All prophets are send by god to teach the people to worship only one god. a long time a go since prophets not arrive people are worshiping idols and what if you are from that people you are worshiping idols and the prophets arrive and want to teach you the true religion? would you believed him or not? what if your parents religion are worshiping stone and also you are you grew up worshiping stone and the prophets teach you the true religion will you convert into the true religion or not?
@iuliuxd (4453)
• Romania
4 Dec 11
How do you know all prophets are sent by God ? What book do you read ?
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@JER616 (551)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Jhovarie, if you are reading the Bible you would have not said that all prophets were sent by God to teach people to worship only one God. Even to this day, there really are people like iuliuxd who venerate, bow down and pray before stones, woods, plastics, metals, papers, chalk and other materials that have images of mortal men and women whom they portray as mediators before God. By using Biblical characters they portray themselves as Christians, yet their practices have pagan origin. Converting into another religion has to have a basis and Jesus pointed out that clearly: "If any man will do His will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God, or whether I speak of myself." (John 7:17) If you find the doctrines in consonance with Biblical truth, your faith should prevail and not because you love a person. That is why, Paul is admonishing us to test every spirit to determine if it comes from God (1 John 4:1)
@squallming (1777)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 11
Well, I have no problem with embracing my girlfriend's religion. As long as that religion teaches people to be a good person, does not promote violence and bad stuff. I am actually a free thinker so by embracing my girlfriend's religion, which is Buddhism, I am not turning my back on any religion =D
@Jhovarie (1169)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
what religion you know that promote violence and bad stuff?
@JER616 (551)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Jhovarie, in the Philippines there is a big religious organization which has a doctrine that allows killing a person for the sake of their revered Executive Minister. This religion teaches that someone is saved if one kills or if he is killed for the sake of their revered Messenger whom they acknowledge as an angel. That religion also prohibits their members to wed non-members of their faith. Smilingjack, to say that much smaller list to ask what religion doesn't promote violence or bad stuff, you should have at least been a member of or have known practically all of them. Do you already know the Church of God International? If not, I challenge you to check that out.
@dark_joev (3043)
• United States
6 Dec 11
No I wouldn't. I think that if you loved them and they loved you back then you would find a common ground me and the current person I am dating have different beliefs but we for the most part agree to disagree as I am an atheist but my core values of not pushing my beliefs on others in one that I have had for a long while. I don't believe force in this case is justified or even joining a religion just to be with them is an abuse on the belief system. I would go to said religious church or temple and would show respect but I wouldn't embrace a religion unless I felt a connection to it in some way. Which is pretty hard because I am far more logic based.
@globaldoc (860)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
I am afraid this is something that I will never do. My point here is this. I have a relationship with my God. I am not willing to give it up simply because my partner has another belief. In fact, if my partner understands me, then she would not mind sharing in to the relationship that I have with my God, and not the other way around.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
5 Dec 11
Due to my advanced age and the fact that I'm still married, I'm sure that I'll never personally experience that problem. However, should I be asked the question by someone younger, I'd tell her/him to first make sure that they are on the right track. Should their intended chose to join them, fine. Otherwise, they should look for someone as the same mind as they. A house divided against itself cannot stand. A non-believing spouse will eventually draw you away from God.
• United States
5 Dec 11
" Closer to G-d?" All religions get you as close to G-d as you will ever be. They All lead to G-d, the path just differs. And which religion says killed or be killed?I would never change my religion for a lover/ partner. If he is asking me to do this then he doesn't really want me. He wants another who just looks like me! My faith is as much a part of me as my eye color or my height. True I can use contacts and high heels , but I Will Still have my True eye color and my true height.So Any guy who can't accept me as is , will Never truly love me!
@derek_a (10902)
4 Dec 11
Well, I don't really have any strong religious beliefs as I am a Zen practitioner and prefer to get direct experience of what life is all about and realize higher states of consciousness. I would not change this for anybody at all and would not expect my wife or kids to change that way they are looking at life or religion. In Zen there is a precept about no interferring with the beliefs of others, as they are on their own path and need to discover what it truth and what is no truth. Ultimate truth is an on-going process from what I have experienced. Truly infininte, meaning that we are on a vast "journey" on which there is always more to discover about the true nature of the universe. I lean toward believing nothing, accepting and observing everything. _Derek
@ShyBear88 (17052)
• United States
4 Dec 11
To answer the question heck no. I my husband and I both have different faiths we agree on the basic of some things. We live each other and accept the difference of our faiths. We two peole love each other then it doesn't really matter what faith you are. Who really cares if you are or are not it makes no big differences after you marry. Most people don't even like the religion they go to because of there love it's just to make others happy and not themselves. I would never change in certain ways to fight otherwise needs besides my own.
@djbtol (5500)
• United States
4 Dec 11
If your faith is sincere and if you really follow the religion you claim to do, then you cannot just change to another religion, as if you were changing to a differnt style of shoe or something. For those people who are searching for a faith that is meaningful, they may be open to change. The truth is that for those who have a sincere faith in God, founded on the truth of God's word - some of the secular concepts like tolerance, diversity and lack of absolute truth must be set aside at times.
@luanakent (795)
• Brazil
4 Dec 11
Life has many priorities.. but God always comes first. The question actually suggests faith with different paths or there would be no reason to ask the question. seems difficult to love God above all things...but that's what we must do. marriages(unfortunately)end spouses sometimes betray , abandon..BUT God is always faithful. Jesus said : i will never forsake you. Jesus said : that person who my Father gave me,Iwill in no wise cast out. LOVES COME AND GO... God's love is eternal