How to forget someone You Love?

Indonesia
December 10, 2011 5:00pm CST
I'm 19 years old boy. At this age, I just felt my first love. She's an amazing girl I've ever met. Now we live in different cities, because I moved to other place for continuing study. But I still can't forget her until now. I know there's someone she love, and it's not me. So I just want to erase this feeling, because It's really hurt to feel. Can anyone please tell me, how to forget someone you love so much that would never be yours?
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21 responses
10 Dec 11
To forget her you should spent more time with your friend and don't make your self alone.When you a alone you will thinking about her so much this will make your heart hurt.
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@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 11
The question:Have you expressed his feeling to her and has she known about it yet?Are you still in touch with her?My experience...I broke up with my BF with whom I had been in relationship for 7 years after he moved to other city. Actually, we knew we still loved each other,however I realized maybe he is not the one for me. Last April he got married, and i don`t know why...I don`t feel sad. Time heals.Keep yourself busy in positive activity..
• Indonesia
11 Dec 11
thank you so much, I didn't have any experience in it, because this is first time for me feeling something called 'Love'. I will try to get better and find another one for myself..
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
11 Dec 11
rian, I don't think you ever forget the loves in your life but I also think to get over a love that never happen until you meet someone else that replaces that void in your heart, I think we humans are meant to love and until we find a replacement we do dwell on our last one...I hope you find a new love soon...
@soulist (2985)
• United States
5 Mar 12
Sometimes it is hard to forget someone we have been in love with. It takes time to forget someone we love. For me it took a few years and ot being around each other or talking for me to forget about him. I did things that I was passionate about.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
2 Mar 12
Moving on is not really an easy task to do. All you can do is to give all your love to a woman and value respect to her.
• Indonesia
11 Dec 11
You can be really strong and it's still going to hurt. The process take time and you have to accept that. You can't hope to forget in 2 days someone you loved for..So now what ? Are you going to sit and cry for the rest of your life or do you intend to do something ? Was that ending your fault or are you not the one to blame ? Is there something you can to do fix it ? Its all depend on you, here my advice : 1. Cry out everything you have to cry about ! When we get hurt, it's normal and good to cry. Don't ever think you are being weak for crying. 2. Get busy ! When you're trying to get someone out of your head, You need to put other things inside of it. 3. Avoid the person ! Try not to go to places you know you can meet that person. 4. Go out and see some different faces ! Being at home give you more time to think about it. 5. Take good care of yourself !!!!!!!!!! Good Luck ....!!!!
• Indonesia
11 Dec 11
thank you so much for the suggestion.. that's all I'm trying to do. But now is still the same. I still can't forget her. And I can't contain myself from that.. I just hope I can find another one who will be my true love then..
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
11 Dec 11
Simple...forget her. Don't keep thinking about her. Divert your mind with other things and make new friends from your new place.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Dec 11
I honestly don't think that there is a way that you can forget someone that you really love even if there is no way that you can be with that person. The reason that I say this is because of the fact that I fell in love for the first time in my life when I was 19 years old. I'm 31 years old and married to someone else, but I have to admit that there is still a large part of me that still loves the person that I fell in love with first.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
11 Dec 11
Hi dear! I don't think we can forget those we love. But give it time, if she doesn't come back to you either you'll end up together or you'll find someone that you'll love as much you love her but you might take sometime to see cause the love will be different. Pay attention to those who values you instead of only her, that also helps. But time, time heals EVERYTHING
@airamtheb (370)
11 Dec 11
I understand what you have been feeling over a lost love and it is common among those who have love and lost it.Definitely, you cannot forget it rather you have to divert your thoughts about her on your life's goals.If you are still studying, better focus yourself in your studies.Get involved in campus organizations where you do not only make yourself busy but as well as have the opportunity to meet beautiful girls, much better than your ex-girlfriend.As the saying goes, to mend a broken heart is to find another heart.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
11 Dec 11
try to enjoy your self. Hang out with your classmates when you have free time and do something that will make you forget her..
• Philippines
11 Dec 11
I am also experiencing the same thing at this point, the only difference is that the feeling is mutual. For now, I am making myself busy with some stuffs so that I will be able to forget the heartache I am having right now. Hopefully, I'll be over this pain.
@kicysmile (213)
• China
12 Dec 11
hi rainhid,You are so young,regard as a experience and happy momeries,you must believe a lot of trouble in your life.pick yourself up.my best friend
@FluxNL (503)
• Netherlands
11 Dec 11
Iam a 17 year old boy and I can say to you it is hard! But hang out with your friends and/or hang out with new girls, because (what Iam going to say is a little harsh) she is not the only girl in the world. Enough girls and maybe you will find the perfect match? Good luck!
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
11 Dec 11
Hello Friend, You are just 19 and I assume that the girl is even more younger, may be 17 or 18. This is nothing but puppy love. But since puppy love is also our first love, it is very painful and hurts a lot as our heart breaks for the first time. we all know this as we all go through this tender experiences in our life. The only medication or solutions to this problem is "TIME"........only time can heal such sensitive wounds.........as time will pass you will learn to live without her and that will help you to forget her. Also may be meanwhile you will find someone else and you will discover that this one is more amazing than the first one.... and you will start smiling again. This is life.......just give yourself some time and all will end well. Best of luck.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
11 Dec 11
It is very hard to forget first love but I am lucky I not fall in love because at the age 23 I got married. I will suggest you this age is to making the career so dont waste the time in love. No true love will get you after making career now only attraction is there. Hmmmm I know finally this will happen now you are missing her so dont fall in love next time.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
11 Dec 11
There is no solution for your problems. Feelings are there and it takes time to feel less, to feel happy again. It took me 14 years. I hope it won't work for you that way since it's a very big waste of your life I can assure you that. So please feel but also go on with your life and promise yourself to make yourself happy every day no matter what.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
11 Dec 11
I think most of us are to surpass such painful romantic periods in youth times. Such love affairs at 19 years of age of a boy, needn't be with the gravity as it feel to your heart at now. You are fortunate to get a place change at present and another angel would enter to your life taking all the space in your heart. This is what happened to 99% of youngsters throughout the past time. So just wait trying to analyze the realities.
@mgx682 (28)
• China
11 Dec 11
If there is one day,someone you loved and couldnot be leaving has disappeared, It does not matter,Time will bring you the most right people.Before the right person come around you,what you have to do is taking care of yourself. Please be sure,love does not belong to the two fixed.
11 Dec 11
i think the best way that you have to do is trying to look another activities that help you to forget her. maybe you can do some of your hobbies, you can do football, tennis, basketball or anything that could help you. and awake yourself from your past, and your sorrowness. i think you can find a better girl for you, you can get another love bro. so try it and keep struggling, for your best okay. hopefully you will get it fast okay. :)