I may not be impotant to you.. but did you ever know what you mean to me!

@thesids (22455)
Bhubaneswar, India
January 5, 2012 2:23am CST
Hi Lotters and Friends Last year I had done a picture of my family @ MyLot here - http://www.mylot.com/w/image/2433068.aspx During the past 12 months, things did not go right between me and a few lotters (and they left MyLot for reasons known to them). I know I am not the reason for them to leave but then, I am also not the reason that could hold them back here. Their wish and preferences, I respect those. But I am not going to leave Mylot fr any reason except one - They Ban Me. Never mind. All I wanted to share was that many of our friends here at mylot or anywhere else, many a times dont know what they meant to us. If only they knew and respected that... things would have been much different. Do you ever give any importance to the friends you have on a virtual platform? If so, then why do you think to quit. I fail to understand this and maybe you dear ones can help me understand it better. Already been 4/5 days into the new year... but still some friend of mine said - It is never too late for wishes from the heart. So here is my sincere wishes to you all for a HAPPY and Healthy 2012. Cheers, theSids.
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
5 Jan 12
Dear Sidhu, So those incidents still haunt you? Oh leave it and I think many people left us in last year for their own reasons. However, I am glad that I have still communication with them (those who were my friends) Your family members must be grown up by now I know many people become more close to you. So cheer up and enjoy your time. Past is past and you must forget the bitter incidents.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
dear sis Nice to see you once again Happy New Year
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@akp100 (13188)
• India
5 Jan 12
I am sure you will be in higher listing than "we meet occasionally" in his last year portrait.. I guess better he make new one this year.. I can't see my face clearly in this pic.. Hairs covers my whole face..
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
5 Jan 12
Dear sister, Happy New Year to you too. Anand, I am promoted and now is his dear didi.
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@akp100 (13188)
• India
5 Jan 12
Happy New Year Bro.. I thought you will release new portrait this year too.. But I guess you haven't made yet.. Surely I respect and love to all my online friends. I always think about them like my offline friends.. Even I will never leave this site.. Yes I can be inactive for sometime because of some work, but it will never means that I left this site..
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
5 Jan 12
Anand, Happy New Year to you Provide him a good photo of yours for next picture, so that the face should visible
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@akp100 (13188)
• India
5 Jan 12
Happy New Year Sree.. Well, Actually I was changing my avatar too frequently at last year.. And he just crop the photo with those long hairs.. But now I have decided not to change any and stick with this pic with big glass.. So I can have good pic.
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@Sreekala (18782)
• India
5 Jan 12
Yes, that will be nice, and everybody can recognize you easily with your glass.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
5 Jan 12
You know sweetie, i never got around to taste that cake. Anyhow, i know who's my friends here. Thise who leave for whatever reason, such is life. You win some, you lose some. Now smile. Have an awesome 2012.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jan 12
Hi Saphrina As always, you bring me smiles and I am grateful to you here. I was feeling a little low when I started the discussion and the recent portrait didnt upload. I saw your response and felt happy, smiled and said to myself - At least I have one friend who has been with me since my first discussion - and that made my evening
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
6 Jan 12
Well, let me see what my payment will be then for my sevices here. uumm, 10 cases of vodka, thank you very much.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Jan 12
10 cases - 10 cases of vodka for saphrina.

for all others: Please dont brand me bad :)
Ah, it took me a long time to find exactly the 10 you needed. (Hope they get uploaded this time as this discussion already started out without uploading this years pic.
• United States
5 Jan 12
Oh Bhai! I will Never leave you. We are family! I still keep think of how fun it was writing an Unmarried Woman on a PM! And how you told Kavita about me and you both welcomed me into your family. It makes me feel so warm inside! I will always be here for you Always! I know how it is. You met here . You connect and then they disappear. My Swedish brother did just that. On Monday it will be a year , 365 since I heard from him. I will Never know what happened.I hope he is ok.Other friends just fade away. I had another that we just lost touch. It does feel empthy But we both need to be thankful for the friends we Still have.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi behen Of course, we are family now and I am so happy that we are connected outside mylot too. You are quite right, we should always be thankful with what we have and find places to enjoy the moment. I hope that the Swede Brother returns back. I too miss three people and I regret that I did not send them PMs for their emails. Maybe we would have been better connected then
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@MsTickle (24965)
• Australia
15 Jan 12
Hi sarahruthbeth. I too, miss fjaril very much. He was the most genuinely understanding, loving person I have met and I often wonder about him and cannot understand what happened to him.
• United States
15 Jan 12
I fear the worse. He didn't seem to be an insensitive person In fact he was the complete opposite! I feel if he could be online , he would be. Monday was his birthday. I thought about him and I send an email and a PM here . He didn't respond.
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
sids Whatever their reason for quitting I am pretty sure they are remembering you. They quit for some good reasons maybe which you and all close to them here before will never know anymore. Some people don't attach themselves too much to others here which is good coz they won't feel anything when they leave... But sadly, most myLotters here specially those that have find good friends online and offline are being too attach and expect this virtual friendship will remain... like how you feel now and I'm sure a lot of others. Now don't be too sad Mr. Snowman Just enjoy being here making new friends while still keeping the old ones and cherish the memories you had with those that have already left.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi godmom They quit because of some reasons and logic beyond my understanding. But yes, I too hope that I am at least in their good books. I dont know why of this but I have developed many emotional attachments here and I am happy to have them this way. Worst is I dont want to change myself because I know I had been a machine years back and it gave me nothing. Today, I am happy that I have a granny, godmom, four sisters, some bothers, a GF (though she has been away for a while now) - all these and plenty of friends who make my family
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
yummy chocolate cake - cake choco
See godson, you still have a big family here Now here's your treat so you won't feel lonely.... I just took a slice of it... sorry, I couldn't resist the temptation Not allowed in jai's disc so, eat it here
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jan 12
@sjvg1976 (13821)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 12
Hello Sids, Like you i too treat my online friends equally as offline friends and its painful when any one of them goes away from us. Recently one of my offline friend shifted to PUNE and its now really tough to meet him as we used to often when he was in DELHI NCR. Yes in the past i too have seen many MYLOTTERS leaving away by their own as circumstances made them to quit but really its not good to leave friends suddenly as i cannot do it when we have a strong bondings with them.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi sjvg How is your wife's health? you havent responded where you asked me. Anyways, you can always pick up that cell phone and call up to catch your buddy. Lucky friend and you I dont have any contacts of those who went away from here. But now, lesson learned : I will be PM-ing all to stay connected
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@sjvg1976 (13821)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 12
She is well now. Yes that's what i do but still it makes difference as i cannot expect him to be with me whenever i need him.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
5 Jan 12
Hi Sids{{{{HUGS}}}} What a nice discussion! Yes, I do try to let all my friends know how very important they are to me but I have to say that some may not be aware of it. There are of course, my real-life friends and then the ones here on Mylot. I never believed that you could get to know and feel close to someone on the net but this place has proven me wrong in that thinking. There are so many here that I feel as if I know them even though we have never actually met. All are important!! Happy and Healthy 2012 to you too Sids and to all the others whom I've come to know and love here!
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jan 12
Hi sid So very true. We have become more attached to many here than in our offline world and the reasons are quite simple - we get to participate in many discussions which are too personal and we all do have a lot of fun on many others. This is what brings us close and more attached. I always wish, we all stay around as a family for ever here or anywhere else.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
5 Jan 12
Hi thesids, I was not in your list that time but am happy to see your circle. Accept those friends as the seasonal friends who shared a laugh (views, experience) with you. There are people who walk in and out of our life many times. It is not necessary all remains in touch with us but somehow we happened to remmeber them occasionally. I do understand you are missing the old group but do try to develop new friends as well. At the end, either you learn a lesson or you have a great friend. Yes,of course i do respect all those who know me online or offline. It is equally important that i too enjoy the respect and importance from them. Have a great day.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jan 12
Hi viju Unfortunately, yes, you were not on my last years list. This year there are many changes - many left me and a few joined me. You are quite right, I should see friends who go away as seasonal.
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
Hello sids, I'm sorry but I thought of something romantic when I read your discussion. It may not be what you meant by this and I may just be being silly and girly here. Haha, I thought of my long time crush. He doesn't know me and I know that I am not important to him but he doesn't know what he really meant to me. Haha, silly me. Sorry for being like this Happy new year!
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi girl_thinking Nah, you are right. It is a love story that doesnt have that great ending we all wanted. My friends are the only possessions of mine, maybe here or elsewhere and when they just go without any reason that I can understand, it does make me feel that I wasnt that important. The world - of yours and mine - and hopefully many others - would have been much pleasant and happier if we could tell and explain how important they were and they realized that they were important
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@khare_1005 (1311)
• India
5 Jan 12
i was probably not there when you made this image, but i can still find my avatar there which might be of saphy at that time. dear sid i value all my online friends and even though i have not met any of them in person, i really get affected by their happiness and sorrow. and am sorry i acted mean and didn't even wish any of my mylot friend a happy new year but even i didn't receive any wishing. anyways lets forget all these. and i hope your new year brings you many more happiness in your life and make you talented in multi tasking.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi khare Of course you were there so what if not on MyLot and you are right, those days, this avatar was of my dearest Saphrina. I do not know what the new year gets for me in terms of MyLot and Friends, but yes, I am certain that this year I will be a better person. Maybe Grow up in age or even think to stay more positive. Somethings that my love for chocos and cakes will continue and I am sure sooner or later I am going to need you help in fixing my tooth issues That is another reason I need you to be around... And I will not multi task as if I did, I dont know what will happen to my laziness
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• India
5 Jan 12
your laziness will be no where around if you do multi tasking and don;t worry i'll be there to fix your dental issues if you have any and most of all i wish you never have a dental issue at first place as i hate extracting tooth of my near and dear
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@sjvg1976 (13821)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 12
Hi Khare how are you? Nice to see you. Happy new year.... But sids don't have denatal issues i thought you extract teeth when people don't have even denatal issues.
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@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
I think you caught some virus.You are being emotional and i am so not used to it. :p Oh,maybe the anesthesia from the cut that eagle got in to you is making all this:-D lolz Honestly,i consider myself as newbie here,but the love and friendship my friends here,like you,ayiiiiii :p,is giving me makes me feel that i was here for a long time.And the love you are all throwing at makes me want to stay. Blessed new year sid :-D
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi tamirs This year they are playing googlies with me... First, the portrait didnt upload and the discussion got through, then, you are mentioning some Virus infected me and it might seem so too... I am still feeling drowsy and sleepy I am not throwing any love dear. It is what I am made of. I love all and everyone and will NEVER want to see anyone go. It just puts a thorn in my heart. I am happy that you make me feel at home and that starts the worry... in case you ever went away, it would be a family member leaving me... This is what I feel about all those who have left me. I only wish I was Important to them at least to make them stay
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@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
See,You really caught a virus.That i am so certain :-) Honestly speaking,i peek at the link you gave and search for my face :-) It took me ten minutes but didn't see my picture or i am just blinded by jealousy.I wish to see my picture in the family tree you got there :-) lolz ...
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Unfortunately yes, we did not meet until last year and the link that is on my discussion was posted on 1st Jan 2011. This years portrait has you for sure and more of where will be revealed on that discussion. You are not blinded by jealousy... just that I missed the lunch today... some fried rice
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 12
Hi thesids, I think people who leave because of some issue between the members here are too emotional. Why need to leave just because of that? Why can't we just give and take what ever it is, as we all from all around the world, and everyone will have a different background and different kind of thinking, and if there are sibling that have a close relationship that fight with each other, so, it is not a surprise for two person that are no relationship at all to argue with each other. And of course it is better to give and take whatever it is. I think if everyone respect other opinion and appreciate their help and comment, it will be quite peaceful. It is better to have more friends than having one enemy. So, never turn any of your friend into an enemy. Happy new year!
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi yspmyl Well, I read that it is always better to have at least one enemy because that one keeps you on. your toes and you are always in constant fight to keep ahead of the enemy But then, all lotters cannot have the same feelings, right I will never dare to think to turn a friend into an enemy as I am quite aware that such an enemy is much more dangerous than the other enemies
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
6 Jan 12
That is quite true also, if your friends turn into an enemy, then you will be in big trouble because he knew everything about you, including your weaknesses. So, he can attack you easily.
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
sids, I don't want to sound emotional on this topic. But yes, its really sad to know that some are missing or even leave for good. I missed a few and seen few coming back.. We You know me and I do not need to justify or explain myself here. When it comes to friendship and sincerity- I hope you knew me more than any mylotters do.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
I know you my dear di and I do not need explanation from you as I believe what you and I think is good
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
As you say my brother
@vandana7 (57183)
• India
5 Jan 12
I know that you and me, we will never fight. I am hoping you will drop in sometime soon so that my house becomes clean. (Daddy only allows me to settle the house when somebody is coming otherwise it is always a mess). And of course, I love to make others a guinea pig. My maid literally got scared of my proposed experiment, which I am going to do the day after even if the hell breaks lose. And I am so...........busy right now...just came to say hello because you'd mark me absent..dont recollect we fought over something last time, did we?
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jan 12
Hi Vandana Yes, I and my wife have to visit you this year. It is a must do thing on the plans right now. Dont worry about the cleaning thing, I will have lots of time to assist you in that (also be a real time test to prove if my wife's lessons on these were rightly grasped by the student of hers) I have no thoughts of ever thinking you as away or offline. I am so grateful and happy to have you amongst my family. Ah, yes the last one - We never have fought anywhere and if ever we did I am sure it would be a sweet pillow fight that you do with your kith and kin at times
@Hatley (157523)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jan 12
hi thesids to me all my many mylot friends are indeed important to me. Its like I started on a long jourmey and along the way met many others too on the quest for mylot. we became friends and all my friends still mean a lot to me.They gave me hope, friendship, 'inspiration and a lot of encouragement. so yes they are very important to me, I hate it when some of my closest friends leave and give no reason.I have only had one friend who did not get along with me. heres to all my friends at my lot
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jan 12
Dear Ms Hately They gave me hope, friendship, 'inspiration and a lot of encouragement. - My words and thoughts Like in a journey, in case we find anyone that great, we collect some information to stay in touch even after the journey, I think this is a better way to stay connected and at times it helps too.
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
5 Jan 12
I like the picture that you made last year. It is a nice way to remember everyone. It is sad when old friends decide to leave. I have been a member of Mylot since 2008 and many of the members that I remember from that time are no longer here today. My online friends are important to me. I know that I am never going to meet all of them in person because we live in different parts of the world, but I really enjoy "talking" to them when I meet them online. I also wish you a very happy 2012
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi porcospino You speak my words here dear. It is quite sad that some had to leave because of reasons best to them. Meeting all the friends is something I wished was easier but as you rightly mention, we are countries and continents apart and hence this is impossible. But yes, sharing and discussing what we have been doing at least conveys many a times about their well being and other things. You did not feature on the last years portrait though, but this year, you are on it and it will be available on the next discussion from me.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
5 Jan 12
I have come to care very much for the people I have made friends with here. I have also missed those that have moved on for whatever the reason be. I think that the reason you give...being banned...would be the only reason that I can think of that I would be away too. I have also worried deeply about a few of them that I haven't heard from. I can only hope that they are doing well. Happy 2012 to you too thesids!
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 12
Hi JenInTN I will be sending out PMs to many of my available friends to get their emails. Hopefuly, I will be better connected with them then - in case at any time, they decide to quit mylot or otherwise. I dont feel comfortable to be at a place where I know nothing about my friends.
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@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
Well, you know friend we can't please every body. Even if how good we do to anyone else. There people still not please on what we do even if that is good enough to help and please someone else... Do not be dismay if some of your friends here ban you or telling something bad about you. Consider things that is life...all thing that happen in this life are trials and it should not be affect our daily activities in life... Have a happy lifestyle this 2012
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
6 Jan 12
I know most of them in your friend list..and there are friends some more in my list too and quite many of them quit from this site due to many reasons- they never mentioned anything just quit so it is quite 'many' reasons for me..I miss them and hope they will get back to this site but I can't see any chance of it. But I will always continue hoping for it~(^^) Happy and healthy forever, sids.
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@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
6 Jan 12
I haven't quit yet but deleted a lot of "friends" about 6 months ago. Now I have two. Why? You ask. I started a business. Busy making money and out in the neighborhood talking to people. It's fun and rewarding when I walk into a grocery store and 15 people know me! I change my business cards just to start a conversation! "Here's my new business card!"
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