Is it okay to ask for money from your parents even if you are in your 20's

@deodavid (4150)
Philippines
January 31, 2012 4:04pm CST
Hi guys, This may be a question most applicable to Westerners but also for some Asians, since most western countries people age 18 becomes more independent of there parents compared to us Asians but on some occasions it will fit some Asians, anyway the question is do you still ask money from your parents even though your in your 20's?
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@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
Whenever I am in a critical financial situation, my mom is always my lifesaver. I know I am an adult and I am supposed to be the one taking care of mom but she has more money that I do and she is very willing to share some with me when I need it. I happen to be an only child and mom has some properties that earn money so she does not have to work like others do. Mom has always been there for me through whatever difficulties I meet in my life. However, I do not abuse the goodwill of my mother since I only ask for assistance when I am already hopeless. There just happens to be unfortunate situations that occur in life where we need some emergency cash.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
I think in emergent times you really do cling on to the one that truly holds you dear, your parents.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
31 Jan 12
Dear friend, I frankly speaking, when I was in my twenties, I never had the habit of asking money from my parents. All that I could buy me then, maybe came from gifts made ??by other relatives, or perhaps some work done by me during the school years. For me the correct definition to this question is the following: You have to see the economic status of the family. If parents have the opportunity to contribute to their children low sums of money ok (Of course if there are more children, this amount should be divided equally). Otherwise, as in my case should make it understood to them that if they want to enjoy some vice "unfortunately" have work to do to earn. In all, however, so we should not spoil their children when they grow up .. well .. otherwise might have serious problems!
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
well in my opinion if rally the family cannot afford to help then why be a bum and burden your family right but if they are well to do and you cant find a job then i think it is fine to lend a helping hand. Food and roof will do i think.
@fannitia (2170)
• Bulgaria
31 Jan 12
Hi, Deodavid, I think that things are changing for all of us. My daughter is 25 year old and still lives with me. She is frustrated and wants to be independent but after finishing her studies she still has no proper job and she has to rely on me. We live in Eastern Europe in a small country with low wages and high rents. It is very hard to earn a living and I don't blame my daughter that she still ask money from me.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
Hi fannitia, i like people like you even though your girl has grown you still hlp hr out and it is practical anyways. I am the same age and i hope your daughter tries not to be frustrated job will come, i know because ive been out of work for a long tim before...
• United States
1 Feb 12
If you need it and it's okay with them then I don't see a problem there. I myself have promised myself that I won't borrow from my mother, I couldn't if I want to anyways because she's not working and the money that she has is the money that I am able to give her, but even though I'm living with my mother I don't want to depend too much on her and cause her to worry about me cause she shouldn't since I'm already a grown up. If your parents do want to help you and they are able to then just talk to them and it should be fine.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
I see the point, no need to ask if you are independent but in times of need ask assistance if they can help, right?
• United States
2 Feb 12
Yeah if you need assistance and there is no other way then I don't see no problem with it.
@dodo19 (31996)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Feb 12
Yes, I do think that it's okay for kids to ask, if they feel the need to. Being in my 20s, I don't like asking them for money, as I much prefer doing things myself, and being independent, but there have been times when I needed a few extra dollars, and needed a little help from my parents. As much as I've never liked it, I do still think that it's alright for kids to ask money from their parents.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
true!
@salonga (27994)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
Well if you don't have work and still studying then there is no problem with asking money from parents even in your 20's but if not studying then a person should find a way to have a job so that at 20 up he could at least support himself and give some to his parents instead of asking from them.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
So true my friend so true, i was a bum onc in my life and i say to myself now, if you ever find yourself to be like your old self again jump out of a building elevator and apply in a call center!!!
@Hatley (164728)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jan 12
hi deodavid as a mom whose son even at fifty two sometimes had to borrow money from me,yes its okay.no parent who loves his or her kids is going to say no if they have the money.however although I did not expect to be paid back my son almost always repaid it.He called it a loan,.I think even here in the US with the economy so bad that its okay for a man in his twenties to ask for money but I would try to repay it if I were you.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
I agree with you hatley 100 percent i ow so much to my mom i love hr a lot and my life is hers to spare, that is why m and my sister is paying for her house. sh maks enough for her needs but since her house costs around $220 a month (which is a lot in my country, a family of 3 can survive a month with just that) i dont even budge and just think that im am doing this for the first woman that i have loved, and forever will my mom.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 12
I don't see anything wrong to ask for a 'soft loan' from our parents. I often ask mom to help me out when I am broke. I wouldn't have asked if I know that she has an empty bowl. But mom seems like a walking bank as she is always keeping money in the house for emergency cases.
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@angelako (280)
• Italy
1 Feb 12
Its ok for me,but you hav to think also that in your age you have to find a job so you can help your parents and provide your own needs.Its common to us filipinos even older than that age still asking to their parents but i think its a bad habbit,it will enable our child to be too much independent and when they have their own family it will be ahrd for them.
@Mashnn (4503)
1 Feb 12
This depends on whether Iam working and whether Iam living with my parents. If have a stable income then I would not ask any money from my parents or if I was leaving away from them.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 12
i didnt see any problem no matter whats your age is and if your in badly need of money and your parents have it then why not ask, better that way than asking and begging from friend nor begging at the street right? even though who have family of their own if thy need money and if their parents have the capacity to give they will also ask from them unless your parents dont have money to give.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
Yes what is the point of having a family that loves you and has more money than you do, need the help , get the help, repay the help and in the future be the help!!!
• United States
31 Jan 12
I try not to ask my parents for money, I usually save up for things I want and have to have a lot of patience.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
Correct! patience is key in making real money!
• Canada
1 Feb 12
There's not reason you shouldn't. They are your parents after all. You shouldn't feel bad if you need help once in a while. If they've cared for you since you were born then of course they can provide support when you get older. Your parents are the people you can definitely depend on, right?
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
Nope! I lived with my mom and since I started to had some part time jobs when I was 18 years old and make money on my own till now. I always give my half salary to my mom . I never ask money to my mom. Even if the time comes that I don't have money on my pocket. I feel ashamed in myself when I think of asking money to my mom.
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
It is still okay because I still ask from them. I'm quite ashamed to tell this but this is the truth. I still ask money from my parents especially that I don't have a job. I only ask money if I'm going to spend it for the expenses needed in our house.
• China
1 Feb 12
Well, I don't like to ask money from my parents. But given my current situation, i have no alternative. I just attended entrance exam for postgraduates in my country. No matter i make it or not, i will stop the embarrassing behavior and live on myself. Anyway, as an adult, it is my responsibility to bring home the bacon. However, i am no able to feed myself right now. I am some kind of shamed. And i swear that i won't let it happen again!
@shaggin (36314)
• United States
1 Feb 12
I think it really matters on what the relationship is between the parents. Some people have no problem asking their parents for money and being expected that it wont have to be paid back. Me I could never borrow money off anyone and if I did havec to for whatever reason I would make sure to pay it back as soon as possible.
@cupkitties (6952)
• United States
1 Feb 12
Not as long as there was a way to get the money on my own. I did have to ask once and since that was my first time to ever ask them for anything they didn't make too much fuss about it.
@digidogo (446)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
Yes I do. I go to a university and would be finishing soon. I still depend on my parents for my allowance and what I need for school and thank God they do. Though after my graduation, I plan to go fully independent. I want to feeling of being able to stand on my own. My father has informed me that he will still continue to provide me with allowance on my first few months at work so that I would be able to slowy adapt to the changes upon entering the real world.
• Singapore
1 Feb 12
hi, Yes I still ask for money from my parents when I was in my 20's but for good and honest reasons (like finance school projects and activities) especially if my savings in no longer enough. :)