Responsible parenhood......Does it requires the right age and the right time?

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@myzhian (586)
Philippines
February 2, 2012 11:25pm CST
This is an issue concerning Parenthood and family matters having many forms of discussions and point of views from different family cultures and traditions around the world! Does parenthood really needs to meet certain requirements and standards such as right age and right time? How will you comment on this matters?
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14 responses
• India
3 Feb 12
Hello myzhian, a couple of decades ago, there existed what was believed to be the right age for having children, that early 20s and 30s, but now with more and more couples first opting to earn money and save a tidy sum of money and achieve a certain lifestyle, many couples now avoid having children until late 30s. Also since ample medical care is available to ensure smooth pregnancies and a number of tests to determine normalcy of such pregnancies, i think it is okay. Having children late does not mean they are not responsible. Responsible parenthood only means that they are willing to take care of children and provide for their medical and other needs, spend time with them etc. SO the Right age criteria has definitely changed, and as for the right time, as soon as one is ready and committed, that's the right time!
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
And this financial stability is very essential to secure the family needs and services. And yet their are some admirable young couples who are facing massive adjustment and taking their responsibilities as parents in all good means to give or provide needs for their family. Constant communication and being open minded within couples is one factor that will lead them to responsible parenthood!
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Yes I like your comment. Being a responsible parent is not exactly preparation but instead it is more on dedication. You can't say that it is my time and my age to be a parent but it is more likely to reality that it is my destiny to be a parent and have a family and i will stand and dignify for it.
• India
3 Feb 12
Thank you myzhian, parenthood is totally about dedication. Personally, I too had my only son at the age of 34 and gave up my career after his birth. My husband too, who is an artist, took up very few assignments until my son was 1 year old. We saved up some money first so we could have free time for an entire year to take care of my son. Also since we have no one else in the family, we had to take this decision. I am really proud of my husband who gave up valuable time of his career to be with me and the baby, but then its all worth it! Although, sadly there are so many of our friends who ridiculed us and simply entrusted their own children at daycare centers at very young ages of 3 and 4 months
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
3 Feb 12
What is responsible depends on where you live, your culture, the society. It's the same with the right age and/or right time. I don't think there is a right time or right age, you just need the right parent, or perhaps the right kid. Since it will be the kid who will say one day if you were a great parent to him/her.
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@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Nice opinion my friend. You're child will be the one to compromise if you have been a loving and responsible parent for them.
@joyito (21)
• Nigeria
3 Feb 12
parenthood is not a child's play it needs a lot of maturity and understanding.the couple must posses the needed in the parenting tasks as a lot is involved in both child bearing and child rearing processes. they is a certain age when one can boast of the maturity and understanding needed to push through the tasks involved in parenting
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
I agree with you my friend that parenthood is not a child's play, and it needs more a mature understanding and obligation. Sad to see some children being left alone and not given enough attention and love by their who are mature enough and financially stable to raise a family.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
3 Feb 12
Hi Myzhian, No, I really don't think that age and timing are requirements for whether or not parents are going to be responsible or not. I think it really depends on the parents & what kind of people they are. I would NEVER recommend any teen to deliberatly get pregnant no matter how responsible they are. It's not an easy way to start out and the odds of both parents staying together are against them. Still, it happens..it's life and I've seen some amazing young parents. Ive seen older people that, well, they had no business procreating to begin with. Timing? Oh gosh, If I waited for the "right time", I'd never have had kids.
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@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Yes my friend. You got the point. Parenthood is not only providing the material needs of your family but also inculcating good moral values , and spiritual ways that will bring you closer to God's grace!
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Being a parent needs proper planning and preparation. The couple must be matured enough to accept the responsibility of rearing a child. There is no particular age when couples are ready to have a child since not all people reach maturity at the same age. That is the reason why there are contraceptives in order that the planning of the family can be done since the child will be the one suffering if the parents are not ready to bring up a child. Most unwanted children grow up to be psychologically affected when they are deprived of the love and affection they deserve. Responsible parenthood is now being taught in schools because society has realized that it is not just having a child that is the primary concern but the responsibility of being able to bring up a child as a good citizen.
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Yes my friend this is a good point. There are some cases also like accidental pregnancy or early pregnancy wherein preparation and planning is not discuss on both parties.And a greater parenting responsibility is at stake for them to deal with. Good parenting in some other cases is not only with the planning and readiness but also needs adjustments and developments.
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
28 Feb 12
It requires the right backround. If you have good parents that teach you well you will get through.
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@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
hi, You really made a good sense my friend. Yes having a good family background really helps you a lot to make yourself responsible to everything you do and have in your life specially for your family, and I think it is more effective if you had a good personality also.
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
1 Mar 12
We owe a lot to our parents. School stops at some point. Lessons from our parents keep on for life.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
3 Feb 12
I believe that responsibility and maturity go hand in hand. Parenthood falls in the same category. i don't think that any certain age makes you a better parent than anyone else. If you don't have some sense of responsibility and the maturity to handle that responsibility then parenthood can be a harder course of life to follow.
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
yes, Parenthood is a lifetime responsibility that needs a lot of sacrifices and dedications. Your family is your life, your home, your environment and your heaven, so we must have to make the best to make it worth living, because you don't know how long you will be with them.
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Hi! I think somehow it affects the level of maturity. In the study of psychology regarding the developmental stages of a person. Each age must achieve a specific goal to function normally. If a teenager becomes a parent there is a tendency that she'he will not become be able to provide all the emotional needs of the child since she /he is not yet that mature and is still in the stage of enjoying life without a responsibility. However I believe this is not generally true but only to majority.:)
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@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
That is a factual study my friend. And basing from psychological and sociological study women are more capable of embracing parenthood at early age than man, and man needs more to be counseling, support and advices when it comes to family responsibilities because they play a greater part of it, and he needs the this factors with the help of more mature people or a family counsel personnel. The fact that the women bears the child for 9 months and feel the pain of giving birth she is more closer and concern about the baby. And she can be the best mother for his child if she have all the support she needs at this sensitive and difficult task....!
@maximax8 (28247)
• United Kingdom
3 Feb 12
I had my first son when I was 22 years old and I already bought a home at 19 years old. I think I had him rather early in my life. The ideal time for a lady to have her first baby is between ages 25 and 29 years old. The right time is when the couple are stable and have enough money. They should have similar or the same parenting style. My disabled son was born when I was 34 years old and my daughter when I was 36 years old. I am a responsible parent and I love my children. Some ladies have a surprise pregnancy and this can happen at any age from 15 until 45 years old in most cases. In that case a lady can improve her life to be good enough.
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@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
More responsible and admirable parents are coming in,cause they really know what parenthood actually means. They are the ones who really sacrifices everything for the sake of their family, even set aside their own personal needs just to provide what is best for their kids and family. Because for them the happiest moments that they have in their life is to see their children growing to be a nice, loving and better person! I'm so proud of you my friend for being such a great mommy!... God bless you and your family!
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
I think age does contribute in some aspects. First of all, you cannot support your family if you became a parent at the age of 15! But I think, in being a responsible parent, you must be emotionally ready and have great love for your children and wife/husband.
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@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
All of us is planing for the right age and right time to get marry and have children, and this is usually typical in our society even if we have different cultures and traditions. Marrying and becoming a parent at the age of 15 is not advisable. But there are some instances wherein humans are week and to be a victim of abuses, and this could put themselves into unexpected or unwanted pregnancy without any preparation. Abortion is more of a mortal sin. They need someone's support to carry on and be responsible for the next phase of their lives! Chance for them to lived as parents with their children.
@digidogo (446)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Hmm, I will respond base on my opinion alright. I do not think that there is right age or time for parenthood. One or both parents should be able to support the child they plan to conceive and I mean financial support. That is what really matter nowadays. Also, parent should be able to provide a proper environment or atmosphere for the child to grow up. Now that is responsible parenthood. Without the proper environment/atmosphere and financial support, you can call it parenthood but not a responsible one.
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@joyito (21)
• Nigeria
3 Feb 12
marriage and parenthood is not a child's play so a certain age should be attained by a couple for effective parenting to take place.the act of parenthood requires a lot of of maturity understanding and patience which a minor can not have so it really requires the attainment of adulthood for an effective parenting
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@prinzcy (5058)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 12
I agree on the right time but not the right age. For me, there's no right age to be a parent. But to be parents, the couple must be mature mentally to accept the huge responsibility and commitment that they will face. Being parents meant being responsible towards another person's life that you will bring into this world. Children is like a piece of white cloth, it's up to the parents to decorate it. It's not an easy task.
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi prinzcy, Yes this is so true, the right time to be a parent is not set on day, date and time. It is upon embracing your responsibilities and making the best out of it. And to add more opinion to this...judgement of parenthood is not base on early age or late age their involve with but instead their complimented with the quality of family they will raised.... Good day to you!
@mavil85 (350)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
right age NO. right time YES. some people don't know how to be good parents whatever age they have. parenthood or being a good parent is not something that can be achieved with age but with experience.
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
hello mavil, your response exactly have a point. Our society is constituted and build with numbers of families and yet this so called organization was giving criticism and unfair judgement about parenthood specially when it comes to early or late ages and financial state in life.Being a good parent is giving your child the experience to live in a good family.