Do you ever decide not to start a discussion because someone may disagree?

Discussions are not one-sided, are they after all. You made a super good comment. And yes, their opinion is their opinion--not what I think.

I have to make up my mind whether or not I want to go back that route. It is just so much more comfortable to have peace of mind than to let someone upset me or get upset cause I have a different point of view.

Oh, but some of these people have gotten vicious with me. Don't want to go through that again if I can help it. It doesn't help my feelings and it hurts my numbers.

Then what is part of having a discussion if you can't disagree with someone or someone disagree with you? Isn't a discussion open to all points of view weather it does or doesn't upset you. That is life when your out in the world your going to talk to people face to face and they are going to bring things up that you might not like or want to be a part of but you have to be part of it and can't just run and hide from it. Your an adult so you just do weather someone agree with you or not. You can look at discussions of mine and you will find there are people that agree with me on some parts or the whole thing and then there are people that don't. Its all about how you approach it and someone will find what you say either insightful or they will fine it offensive and it all depends on how they interpret what you say and its all about who you intercept what they say. You shouldn't care what other people think or feel about what you think and feel if it bothers you then there isn't any real point to starting or being in any discussion then. There are people I could get mad at all day they wouldn't care and I wouldn't care because we are friends and that wouldn't stop us from being friends because we don't like what each other feelings or things.

You know, when I first started mylot, I participated in more discussions but I started skipping some also that I didn't like or disagreed with. I like everything conflict free also. It is a whole lot more enjoyable!

Exactly.

Thanks free_man. Those are very good advice. Kind of like Momma saying 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'. If you can't rate nice, don't rate, but problem is Momma isn't watching!

Moms are always watching whether we know it or not. I learned the same saying from my mother. Hope my advice helps you to have a better outlook on the way people reply. Good luck my friend!

Oh, it will! Thanks so much!

I wonder if they even understood the DRS system if they would bother to go by it. Some people just do not like it when you disagree with them. I used to go ahead and start them but it did me more harm than good.

hi chrystal one has to be so careful not toget personal, or it sets off a fight,and at times one can do this without meaning to and that leads to fights and deletion which is not worth it .

I try so hard not to do that anymore.

Thanks BasilFawlty and welcome to Mylot. It is great to have you here as a new member. You will enjoy yourself here. There are lots of nice friendly people, some experts and more. You can learn alot here. Thanks for all your opinions. You are so right about everything and that is exactly the way I need to look at it.

ALRIGHT...!! Good luck with you also!

Thanks for the welcome. I'll add you as a friend and hopefully double my total :-) Good luck with your questions.

We actually are allowed to disagree, but we are not according to the guidelines allowed to give negative ratings because someone disagrees, but as we all know everyone does what they want anyways.

Yes unfortunately. There will be more who will probably break the rules then those who won't. You know what they say 'rules are to be broken'.

Thats true you will always get people that break the rules

That is a super good quote to go by. I really like it and it makes so much sense. It's senseless to argue, isn't it. The quote kind of reminds me of what a lady said once in a conference that if a bad guy is lying on the floor and a good guy on the couch, the good guy might as well give up as far as helping the bad guy cause it's easier to pull the good guy down to the bad guys level, and that's what usually happen. You end up at a lower level in the end.

They will eventually eliminate themselves from the site. That is really the way it works. But yes there are always exceptions to everything and that includes people who will rate negative if you disagree strongly with them.

I press plus when I see someone has responded. It's habit. I mean after all when we start discussions I feel like we are wanting opinions on the subject and if we aren't maybe we shouldn't answer or start one.

Hi, my friend, MissPiggy, why in the world would you be afraid that no one would respond to you. It takes a little time sometimes too get acquainted but as you are seen more, more people will be responded to you. Everytime I take off and am gone 2 or 3 months and come back, I have to start all over again with 0 responses or 2 or 3, and then it picks up again. I hope you do will. 10 more and you'll have a star.

After you have written on 100 posts your star will appear with a 1 on it, and as your total goes up, your number will grow from 1 to 10 and will change colors as it grows as you can see on the banner at the beginning of my discussion. Earnings grow as number grows. The rating in the star grows from ratings by mylotters who read what you write. You earn when you write.

Thank you, Chrystaltears, for your support. :D I used to have only one friend when I started a discussion and that made me feel like giving up. But then she asked me to keep responding and I did. And also added some interests and friends. Now luckily I'm doing well. I'm not giving up even if I got little respond, at least someone respond. Lol. And what's with this star thing? I don't get it...

yes, bjc66bjc, it is a whole lot more fun to be kinder to each other than rude, but some people get the biggest kick out of being rude. They just can't help themselves! I wish everyone would think like you on that subject. Wouldn't it be peaceful?

Right? That is what makes everything interesting. I mean even some of the best romances and longest marriages have lastest because opposites attract!

I just got kindof shy for a while, because I was speaking my opinion and it was causing some issues and my ratings kept going down and I didn't like that at all, so I just decided not to be myself to a point and tone it down. That way it's more peaceful.

Well, number one, I am competitive and number 2 it affects your earnings.

What happens if you get a negative rating?. I dont think that you should be scared to express yourself but i do understand.

I don't mind getting disagreeing responses, I just don't like getting low or negative ratings that hurt what I am trying to accomplish on mylot.

Different is like a salt in food. are we try Food without salt, we find that the food has no tast, thus life is without a defirence. To illustrate, imagine a couple on the compatabiliy of a holistic and not a difference throughout their lives. Do we judge that they are happy?. Somtime problems and differences are the salt of life between the spouses.

Oh my goodness. I love the way you have the gift of wording things. Do you use this gift to earn by writing. I certainly would if I had it. God certainly wouldn't want to give it to someone and for them to waste it.

That is the first I have heard (seen) it put that way. But I like the way you worded and your point of view of looking at it. You are so very right. It is also a gift. Thanks

It's not that I don't like the disagreements. Those are to be expected, and you are correct--you can learn that way, and I have had my opinions changed by having others disagree with me. Just as long as it's not a real angry fight.

Thank you jricky1. Thanks also for the words of encouragement. I am glad you haven't experienced this. It is no fun, and maybe it won't happen to me again. You have nice day too.

That is so true. You couldn't have said it better. 'If they don't like it, they shouldn't ask the question in the first place'.

There is apparently a way to do that, but I don't know how. I have heard January5, mylotter, several times say thank goodness for spell check, but I have wondered if mylot has it's own built in system. I know if you misspell something, the word will be underlined in red. I don't know if you need to just continue to try to spell it correctly or what.