WHY do we have so many obese instructors, trainers, coaches etc????

@mommyboo (13207)
United States
February 18, 2012 8:10pm CST
I just saw an ad for a show called Dance Moms or something like that. I am appalled at the fact that this 'instructor' is like 300 lbs and not even a nice kind attractive person either. All I can say is that if I'm going to put myself in the hands of someone who is supposed to teach me how to do a rockin routine or someone who is supposed to train me to run an ironman or someone who is going to give me the knowledge and skills to learn to be a black belt or join the Dallas cheerleaders um.... the INSTRUCTOR or TRAINER ought to be fit and in good shape! NOT 300 lbs with a bad attitude!!! Sorry, actions (and presentation) speaks louder than all the words you can throw at me! Where do all these people who are obviously fat and lazy and don't take care of themselves come from?? WHO ever thought it was a good idea for any of them to COACH someone else?? To me that would be an explicit advertisement AGAINST them coaching someone else!
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@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
It does seem very ironic that someone who's supposed to make you fit isn't that fit himself. I have nothing against obese people. Actually, I'm even concerned about their health. But you have a point that they shouldn't take jobs that deals with fitness. I mean, they wouldn't be credible enough to teach something that they don't seem to have taught themselves.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
19 Feb 12
Obviously. I am not usually this up in arms about this but I think trainers, coaches, and instructors SHOULD BE good role models and good examples. Kids already don't listen to you if you don't put into practice what you TELL them... how many teens actually listen to parents who say 'don't smoke and drink and don't sleep around' and yet the teens see the parents smoking, drinking, and having affairs? Really? This is just another example of the same thing.
• United States
19 Feb 12
I watch dance moms and I would recommend the show to anyone who wanted a great teacher who loves kids. She is a winner because she is good. I think there it is great them showing the world everyone does not need ot be thin and trim to be great. She has a strong additude and because of it she has won many dance completions.. as long as the parents like her than she is good.
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@Hatley (164036)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Feb 12
hi gifts now that som ething I had not thought of, new slant.I have heard others talk about D ance Moms but have never ot to watch it.
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
19 Feb 12
She seemed kind of rude to me, yelling at someone telling them SHE KNEW EVERYTHING.... to me she seemed to have an attitude. When you think too much of yourself, you are also not a good example to kids, same as if you have self esteem issues. Neither is a good example in the long run. I look for trainers and instructors who mirror what they are teaching - if they want my child to be respectful, they must be respectful to me and my child. If they encourage healthy habits, physical fitness, practicing, etc, then I expect THEM to also MODEL healthy habits, physical fitness, and practicing. Like I stated in the original posting, if I'm looking for someone to help me train for a marathon, I'm going to look for someone who has run some and done well and is probably in fabulous shape, not someone who has never run one and probably couldn't run a mile and just thinks they know how to train someone without ever having done it themselves.
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• United States
19 Feb 12
Most of the time the moms are rude to her. But,she is good to those girls and she is a winner over anything. That is what I would look for in a trainer someone who would put my best foot forward. I am going to a gym in the summer and I don't care if the trainer is fat as long as I turn out thinner I am fine.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
hi, i also observed that especially when i was in college and most of our instructor in the University were obese and even some trainers in the subject of physical education,i they are always move and do exercise but no control in eating habit.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
17 Dec 12
I know that a lot of people might put on weight or stop caring about how they look if their lives get too busy but when your JOB or CAREER revolves around training, physical education, or sports, you really should pay more attention to the example you will be setting for your class, clients, etc. Some people clearly don't care, because they are also obese, out of shape, or not going to the class or trainer for specific reasons, maybe they have to take the course for school and are only interested in doing well enough not to fail, maybe they have been sent to a trainer by their doctor, and some people might choose someone who is also a similar body type because they are intimidated by a fit person. I guess it depends on your motivation but I think for the sake of kids, these adults need to pay attention to their example, not just what they are teaching. I don't want some 300 lb obese smoking guy to teach my daughter kung fu lol
@dawnald (84156)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Feb 12
proof that out of shape people can get up and do it? Just think, you're 250 lbs, you want to exercise, you show up and there's this 110 lb bundle of energy. You get all discouraged because you think you'll never look like that. You quit... idk
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Bah. This happens on Biggest Loser every single season.Those people dont quit lol. Honestly, like I told several other responders, it's not about them being 'fat' or 'a bigger person'. There are extremely fit people who are in shape who may still be overweight or 'larger'. The thing is... these people model healthy habits. So what if they don't weigh 110 lbs? At least they are working out 2 hours a day and they probably are well off - healthwise. Coaches, instructors, and trainers should bottom line be FIT and DEMONSTRATE all the healthy habits they expect to encourage YOU to do. Doesn't mean they need to be thin but they need to model the habits and not be unhealthy. The person in the example I was specifying didn't appear to even be ABLE to do the routines she was expecting of her clients/students. We're talking 35-50 lb little girls here. I highly doubt she was even in shape enough to ATTEMPT jumping around the way the girls do.
@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
22 Feb 12
There are a variety of reasons that people are overweight, and it isn't always because of the fact that they are fat or lazy. That being said, I do think that coaches and instructors should be able to do the sport or activity that they are teaching. I know that I assist with coaching tee-ball and I am a big girl, but I'm able to keep up with the kids and play ball and it is all part of my journey to becoming the person that I want to be.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
24 Feb 12
This woman on the show I happened to see when I came up with this discussion was NOT dancing with the girls, she was doing pretty much nothing but yelling at the parents of the girls and sashaying around acting like she was God's gift to the dance world while I'm sitting here thinking ' I would not take dance from you in a MILLION years'. My daughter did ballet and tap when she was in preschool and jazz when she was in 1st grade. She has had a few teachers and all of them actually took dance lessons when they were little girls and grew up in the dance studios where they now teach. They compete and go to classes themselves so they are able to stay current and teach the girls what they need to know as well as prep for recital and performances. They are not necessarily the thinnest girls ever but they are FIT and in SHAPE and they were beautiful dancers with great technique and talent. I was just fine having them teach my daughter - and none of them ever yelled at her or me or critiqued her unfairly.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
19 Feb 12
I have never really been one to judge a person's capabilities because of their weight BUT if I were trying to lose it, I don't think I would want an instructor that wasn't doing very well with their own. I just read an article where it said that overweight doctors are less likely to mention weight to patients. I can see that. I would feel kind of bad if I were telling someone else something they needed to do while standing there with the same issues.
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• United States
19 Feb 12
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
19 Feb 12
I'll check it out . There are a lot of programs out there, I'm actually a distance runner and I cross train at jazzercise. I don't do a ton of other 'outside' things but I run because I enjoy it, not because I need to lose any weight. I just feel it's silly for someone who is selling health and fitness to be obviously unhealthy and unfit and to have no excuse for why they aren't.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Like woah!!! I am surprised about this! Are they getting any clients???
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
19 Feb 12
Oh yes... some of them DO get clients. And some of them are on tv shows no less. Disturbing.
@Hatley (164036)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Feb 12
hi mommyboo glad to see you again. I think coaches and fitness instructors should be slim and toned other wise they are going to make people wonder if they are qualified to train us. Same way with doctors. I was sent to a cardiologist as I was overweight and this doctor while very good at his profession looked like he weighed'300 pounds, Now it seemed silly that this far man was telling ne what to eat and not eat. If a doctor is telling his patients they should not be overweight as its hard on one's heart should not that doctor also be slim and trim as he could have a heart attack while telling you how to be slim and trim.Wonder if they ever think about how this looks to'us who come to them for help?
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
19 Feb 12
Hi! It's good to see you here again as well! I agree about doctors - and actually there have been one or two doctors who were on Biggest Loser who mentioned that they were undertaking this to become healthy and become a good example to their patients as well. I don't think I could take health advice seriously from someone who was really obese, who didn't own a pair of workout shoes, and who was sucking down 5 hour energy shots and a frappuccino while talking to me lol.
• Marikina, Philippines
22 Feb 12
I think the reason why some people hired the instructor or the trainers even if they are obese is just that they do not want to discriminate obese people. Maybe they give them a chance to instruct other people or to coach other people. It is difficult to judge them, but if they are rude, maybe they are not fit to be instructor or to be coaches. Character is the best rather than being obese. I always remember the saying “don’t judge the book by its cover”.
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Well... if the 'obese person' was actually fit and actually modeling the behavior (healthy habits) they expected from their clients or students, I wouldn't be up in arms about this. The issue is that the trainer or instructor is acting as if they are the Queen of (insert field here) yet they couldn't even perform the routines or sport they are 'coaching'! They critique and rant about the client's or student's meals or snacks yet you see them chowing down on whatever. It's just really disrespectful and doesn't make much sense.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Hi there mommyboo, I so totally agree with you how can a person be a mentor to someone if he himself does not look like what he tries to sell, i know there are a lot of coaches out there who are great yet dont look good but those people started with a reputation looking good then became a legend. But this new people, how can they inspire people like me to work out if we are of the same weight or much worse the trainor is hevier and more out of shape, im just saying inspiration sometimes begin with what you initially see.
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Absolutely . It's all about attitude and modeling the behavior. It's hard to trust somebody who is smoking like a chimney and looks like they are going to keel over any minute.... who critiques your lunch at subway (you ate too much bread and cut the mayo!) yet while you're out running 15 miles you see them driving along beside you eating snickers bars and chugging red bull.
• United States
19 Feb 12
Because of all the crap that is put into our food, it isn't hard for us to be obese. It sure is hard to loose it. The percentage of obese people in this country is 1/3 the population. You put too much emphasis on peoples looks. It's what they know that should count.
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Um.... no, it's about people who encourage you or TELL you to do healthy things when THEY clearly do not. This isn't just about how they look or what they weigh. It's also about what they say matching up with what they do, their attitude. A good leader is not someone who barks orders. A good leader is one who gets to know you, who listens, and who most of all would get in the trenches side by side with you and help you dig your way out of a hole. Not only would they do that but if they advocate a specific diet, THEY will model it. If they ask for a certain workout or calorie burn, they will be doing it too - being a good example. If you are not a good example, I don't care what you tell me. I need to SEE that you believe in what you tell me, and the only way to see that is if you are modeling it and following it.