What will trigger a man to cheat?

@larish (2195)
Philippines
March 2, 2012 3:25am CST
Is it a man's nature to cheat even if they have an almost perfect girlfriend/wife? I really don't understand why a particular guy will cheat his girl. One man will claim that he cheats because his wife is a nagger, another because her wife was so lousy in bed, another will be her girlfriend was an obsessive compulsive. The thing here is that I know men who are with these type of women but still remain to be faithful for a long time.
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2 Mar 12
They cheat for exactly the same reasons women cheat on their men. And those reasons are always excuses for just being an unfaithful idiot, no matter the gender.
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@Mashnn (4503)
2 Mar 12
I do not think nagging wives, a woman being lousy in bed can lead a man to cheating. They only do that because they feel that they are entitled to do what they want and they can simply escape with it. Men are very selfish in nature. I have come across men who have the best women you can ever find and still they cheat on them.
2 Mar 12
i agree
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
well said Mashn :)
@Mashnn (4503)
3 Mar 12
Sometimes I just wonder why we do have to fall in love with these funny, selfish creatures.
@UmiNoor (3478)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 12
People do things because they have the means, the opportunity and the motivation. Men cheat because they feel that they're justified to do so perhaps like you say, the wife is a nagger, or the wife is not good in bed, etc. He also must have the opportunity and the means to do so. If he's a poor and shy guy, he'd probably won't cheat because he's incapable of doing so. There are of course a lot of other factors why men cheat. Perhaps he's weak and cannot fight the temptation that exists around him. Perhaps he's just bored with his life. But it's never the wife's fault. Like you said, some men can remain faithful despite all the wife's fault. So the men who cheat are just weak and cannot think with his head.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
hm, i would suggest that women never tolerate men who cheat.
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@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
2 Mar 12
It is also possible that a man may not cheat on his despite all those negative things listed, he is not shy too but would want to hold the sanctity of marriage?
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Hi Uminoor, yes it can be a factor that a man cheats because it's his weakness. Hi Aja, should women tolerate men who cheats? Hi Gadhisunu, wish all guys would really respect and practice the sanctity of marriage. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@Metatronik (5910)
• Pasay, Philippines
2 Mar 12
Face it there are some men who are really lacking of manliness and their brains are only located down there between the legs. No wonder there are so many suspects of rape and they can make plenty of women as victim. For those who tends to cheat then I really doubt it if love is really running to their heart and mind. It is just about being pervert at all.
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
lol! Thanks for your answer. I totally agree with you. Thanks for putting a smile on my face.
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• Pasay, Philippines
8 Mar 12
Wow Thanks a Lot for giving me the credit or reward.
• Romania
2 Mar 12
well yes men cheats even if they have the most perfect girl next to them. They are so easy, no men can resist if a beautiful young superb big brest blonde come to him and start flirting he will instantly forget about his gf/wife. men can`t resist cause they r weak. Even the Bill Clinton, the most powerful man in the wolrd at that time was so weak when Monica teased him :D. So no excuses for us, we are just weak.
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
Why not break the partner first then court/flirt with another person? That case no cheating will happen.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
I think i won't, but if my wife or partner has lost her interest in me, i think i'll just leave her, not cheat, if you can just talk it out be civilized about it and just separate ways, were in it will not get ugly and both involved are in good terms. But i admit i'll be drinking and passing -out in most bars that i know for about a month then i'll be good.
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Hi deodavid, Thank you for sharing your stand about reason why men cheat. Your wife/girlfriend is lucky to have you. Hope that you'll never cheat on her. Kudos.
2 Mar 12
i don't think there is a trigger, if a man is going to cheat he will, there doesn't have to be a reason
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
he cheats = he has no reason. got it, trinkabelle. Thanks for you input.
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
It's not man's nature to cheat. I give the benefit of the doubt to a man who cheats on his wife/girlfriend. I am of the opinion that there's always a reason to do so...and two of the simplest reasons are machismo and the need to feed the ego.
@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
2 Mar 12
This seems closer home.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
I would like to know the answer to this question myself. There are many factors to consider and there's the man's personality and views on his relationship with his partner.
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Me too. Hope more guys will participate in this discussion.
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
5 Mar 12
So many reasons. One of the main ones is retaliation to the belief that they were cheated on first. Or at least they have convinced themselves that. Of course, two wrongs do not make a right, but there are just going to be many times where people cheat on someone as revenge for thinking that they were cheated on first. Which if true, makes both partners look rather awful. It is childish reasoning. Also some crisis of life to sure. Often times the fabled midlife crisis can cause a man(or a woman, let’s be fair here after all), where they think they need to make up for some of the things right in their life. Sometimes however, it is just for no good reason at all. That is just the fact of the matter. Some people get caught up in a rather tempting moment and don’t feel the need to resist in any way.
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@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
3 Mar 12
It seems to me that the most common reason that men cheat is example. A man will cheat if his father or other influential male was a cheater. Today, the example may be movies or TV, or maybe even political figure.
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
For me a husband will cheat force to cheat if his wife nagging him only and suspect him that have something to hide even do the husband is cleared... For those husband that cheat their wives because they are not contented in one flesh. Those people are evils and no discipline
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3 Mar 12
Perhaps they are like a child with sweeities (candy) They may have their favourite, but there are so many others and they don't want to miss out on trying them all
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@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
3 Mar 12
What causes a man to cheat? His own selfish greed, and immaturity. People who cheat men or women do it because they only think of themselves and their own needs, they have no consideration or respect for the person they married. They blame the husband or wife and accuse them of being a nag or lousy in bad which might possibly be true but they are only using that as a way to justify their own terrible behavior. If they are so unhappy with their spouse then they should get out of the marriage or work on the marriage with their spouse by seeing a marriage counselor to help work through their problems. Cheating is just a selfish thing to do.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
3 Mar 12
Because they are born that way![just kidding...but with a bit of true] the fact is we all cheat man and woman as well, why do this happens? I just put it as a way of insecurity, looking for something you wish you had and may be searching for that love that only live in your dreams! but at the end of the day some people cheat because they can get away with it! and some cheat because they are cheaters in any way in life including themselves.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
we really can not tell why even the most ideal husband can cheat is wife. you are right that men have their reasons why they have to cheat on their wives but no matter what it is it is not reasonable at all. we cannot just accept when they said because my wife is nagger and so on, but because he is just weak to resist the temptations. women by nature are nagger because one we are sensitive and we can eel when our husband is doing something fishy. and i agree that there men who are really faithful to their wives and i believe they are the real strong men.
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• Canada
3 Mar 12
yes and most of the time the other girl is HOT!
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@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
3 Mar 12
Hello, larish. I am a guy, and I will tell you that the real reason is because he just does not care that much for the girl he is with. I am willing to bet that this guy you are talking about, is always looking for things that he does not like about his girlfriend, so he has an "excuse" to do the things he does. He may want out of the relationship and he is trying to destroy it. He has a problem with committing himself to one woman. There are many reasons, but to tell you the truth, it has to do with his mindset. He is only thinking about his wants and needs for sure. That is what I know. I hope that this perspective helps you out some. Have a great day. :) :) :)
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@TheIzers (680)
2 Mar 12
I think only irresponsible men are cheating. A responsible man will talk instead of cheat when relationship seems wrong or even doesn't work. They don't cheat because they care about hurting other person feeling. When talk does not make good result divorce or break up is still good thing to offer to their partners than cheat behind their back. It's a coward thing to me. (sorry for using that word)
@surfer222 (1715)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
There's many reason for people (men or women). Some of them ego, some of them just for the excitement, bla bla bla... but that's all i know just in theory... in real life, i've seen both man and woman cheat because too many pressure/demand given by their spouse and at some point in their life, the loosen their guard to a nice stranger and the cheating suddenly happen without them planning it before.
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