My 5 year old brother still could not talk. What does he need?

Davao, Philippines
March 5, 2012 3:47am CST
We were told to admit him to a psychologist then to a special school but children in our family are just really slow in speech. It took me 6 to 7 years of my life just to be able to talk similarly like other kids. And so do the next two of my siblings. My 5 year old brother can speak quite well on basic words. But he just doesn't seem to pay any attention. Whenever we call him, he won't look up or even answer to us. However, he understands two different dialects of the Filipino language. He also knows English and Nihonggo. What else can you suggest that he might need? As his elder sister that teaches him with some things, I am at my wits' end.
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@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
i think you should bring him to a specialist not a psychologist, a EENT specialist maybe. i know some kids have a hard time speaking and learning new words and also not all of us have the same milestones development. i had a patient before that could not talk and only to find out she has ankyloglosia or what we called tongue-tied, she was then operated and had it repaired. i also have a friend whose cousin still doesn't talk at the same age as your brother, but only to find out she was just having a hard time learning new words since they travel a lot and so she hears different languages and was having a hard time communicating. i suggest you just give it a try and also seek for second opinion. i hope your brother is well and is healthy and not having any serious conditions. every child deserves to be happy and enjoy life. God Bless and take care Happy Mylotting
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• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
That seems to be a very good advice, Cherish14. Thanks! My brother seems to have the difficulty of good speech because he's watching movies of 4 different languages almost all the time. Those movies can be in English, Japanese, Korean and Chinese. Sometimes he watches them all in the same day. And our household is talking in 2 different dialects in Filipino, sometimes English. I have a feeling right now that his difficulty in speaking well is in this certain point of fact. But it's better to let a specialist have a look at him, no?
5 Mar 12
i think he needs to see a speech therapist, also have you tried to talk to him in just one language, maybe when he ignores you it may be because he doesn't understand a language, so talk to him in a different language until he understands the one your talking to him in
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• Davao, Philippines
5 Mar 12
We will bring him to a specialist. We already tried talking to him in every language we think he can understand...but he just won't answer to us. He'll answer to mama but not to us. Uguu~
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• Davao, Philippines
5 Mar 12
Some of his teachers said that to us too. They thought he has autism and that we should enroll him to a special school. We're so shocked that they can give such an expert diagnosis that we enrolled him to another school opposite to the school that told us so. He seems fine with it at first until he got bored. Then he stays at home and says gibberish things. He just can't speak well--but he's way better in handling computers than my mother. .
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5 Mar 12
maybe a hearing test, my grandson had Autism and he seems to be the same when you talk to him, we took him for all kinds of tests and we later found out why he was so quiet and never heard us, he was diagnosed with Autism, i am not saying that your boy has this but it's worth looking in to
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Mar 12
You know what I tell you DON'T WORRY ABOUT YOUR 5 YEAR OLD BROTHER. Again he is just a 5 year old brother. Because based on my experience I became like that as well that my parents thought that I am suffering from autism already. Yes they thought that I am autistic. I am not talking when I was a kid and even in school I really find very difficult. My parents even beg that I should pass the examination in our school during elementary days. But you know what happened? When I was already 7 years old I tend to talk too much. I became so much talkative as what I never did when I was a kid. So it was really normal.
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• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
Thanks, Metatronik! That gives me confidence that my brother is normal and healthy in both mind and body. You are right, he's still too young to be talking too much. But what concerns me most is that there are times that there is something he wish to tell me, but I can't understand him.
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Mar 12
If that is the case you need not to worry about it as well because I have a neighbor who is a male as well that he can't talk that much and the way he speaks it was like it can't be really understandable. Yeah in other terms it is still like a baby talk while already 5 years old. I myself didn't talk that much when I was 5 years old. Just wait for your brother when he is 7 years old already. You will be surprise that he is talking too much as in never ending. Yet you will understand what he is talking about.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
5 Mar 12
My eldest daughter did not speak one word till she was 4 years old or even older. As she start speaking she spoke perfectly sentences. No baby words. My son did the same. As he went to school at the age of 4 years old he also did not speak one word. He even did not respond if you called him by his name. For some time we thought he was deaf. Well I can tell you he is not. Both, my eldest daughter and son are intelligent. They were observering everything. Not deaf not blind. Now they talk constantly.. sometimes I wish they were more quite. It's hard to say why your brother is not talking at all. If your feeling says there is seriously something wrong with him I would let him tested. But since you say he is speaking basic words you know he can speak. Perhaps there is no reason for him to speak because you all know what he means? It was this way with my son, we all know just as we looked at him what he wanted. There was no need to speak for him, he also loves to be in his world (he is always inventing things and now he shares his inventions with us with never ending talking).
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• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
That's funny, WakeUpKitty! First they are so quiet, now they're quite the chatterbox. I can understand your disposition quite well. I have nephews who seem quiet at first, now they're so talkative, I thought they aren't breathing when they start to open their mouths at all. That's quite commendable also. No baby words. Your children are epic! Observant for now then perfect speakers. That's good. I hope my baby brother is just being observant as well...at least that's how I got my words right if my memory of my 4 to 5 years of age serves well.
• United States
5 Mar 12
Hello, That is not good at all. It might be a good idea to consider getting your brother some speech therapy. Speech therapy may help his speech develop. Please keep us posted on his progress. Have a great day!
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• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
Oh, I will, surely. Right about just now, he talking in his own gibberish way about colored pencils and drawings. He's quite artistic for such a young age. He also sees our walls as his big canvas to draw on. At least when he draws on it, it doesn't look as much as boring as it's empty of anything, no?
5 Mar 12
Hi my nepthew sounds the same it can be very hard when you talk and he doesnt listin but recentley we have just found out he is ortistic on a small leval so he still seems very normal but struggles with sentances and listining as we found out that when you are ortistic they dont hear words the same as we do it just sounds like a mess to them so they just switch off i dont mean any offence saying this but may be worth a few trips to the doctors it was about 8 times before they listened to us and since he now goes to a special shool 2 days a week for 1 to one teaching and he is now making leaps and bounds hope it helps x
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• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
That is very informative, thank you! Does children like your nephew really hears things differently? How about music? Can he get notes in a music right? Last time I've checked, my brother has good listening skills in terms of music and gets the notes right when he sings them in his own way. We try letting him listen to classical music and JPOP, I might add, and he seems to get the notes just fine...I mean, he's WAY better in getting the notes right than me. Or it this irrelevant? -__-
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 12
My disabled son was slow to learn how to speak. He had speech therapy but it didn't seem to assist. He went to a special needs playgroup and the children there were not talking. The staff were very talkative. At the same time when he was three years old he went to an ordinary play group. Amazingly at the playgroup with the normal children the words came flowing out. I know via the special needs playgroup many children that are unable to speak. Some of these kids just need more time. Your five year old brother seems to need more time. Good luck.
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@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
5 Mar 12
In such cases we must go with our children to Dr specializes in such cases. Sometimes our children have difficulty hearing or some of the defects could delay the process in speech.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
If you're a catholic and believe in heaven through faith, I'll share you my experience. My niece'son was two years old and still can not talk, I suggest to the couple to come with me and with the boy together we attended the Family Appointment With El Shaddai, we wrote in a prayer request form for the boy to talk, after a month the boy start talking and keep on talking till he grew up. Thanks God answered prayer...Another one I was alarmed by my grandson who really can't talk when he;s turning two years old already, the same thing we did and the same we're answered prayer. Of course there must be faith in us, faith in God that he will grant the children to talk. From that time on the boys love attending the Family Appointment with El Shaddai on Saturdays.
• Davao, Philippines
5 Mar 12
We believe in God that he will make my little brother talk well soon. Actually, he KNOWS how to talk...he just doesn't talk much or put those into practice. There are times, when he thought that most of us, his siblings, are asleep, I can hear him talking to my mom in a phrase or in a complete sentence. I just wonder why he won't have a conversation with us, or his teachers, or even his classmates.
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@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
I still would take him to a specialist to find out exactly what's the cause of his late speech development and what actions I would take. There are lots of possible reasons why you younger brother is still unable to talk. It could be a case of ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) or he could have some auditory problems. Or it could just be a normal thing like you said and that he would eventually speak properly. But it wouldn't hurt to be guided by someone who can actually diagnose the problem if there is one.
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• Davao, Philippines
5 Mar 12
Oh, he can hear quit well. When he hears his favorite games BGM playing in the background, he will never stop to search for the source of the sound. But we're planning to really take him to a specialist if his not wanting to go to school will still go on. I just wonder why others seem to look at him as him he's a child with some sort of disease or something when EVERYTHING about him shouts, "Hey, I'm a normal kid. It's not you, I just hate school and paying attention to you." -__-
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@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
maybe your brother could just be slow in his speech like you and will learn in time or maybe something could be wrong. so it is best to seek the help of a psychologist so he can be properly evaluated, it that way our concerns can be properly addressed and we will not be worrying too much.
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@loonys (418)
5 Mar 12
Check his ears. I belive that he wants to be left alone.
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• Ireland
5 Mar 12
He definitely needs to see a doctor regarding the issues. It may not be a psychologist he needs. Low speech levels and ignoring people could place him somewhere on the autism spectrum. I don't know much about autism, but I do know that speech and human communication are two of the issues from my experience with a friend.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 12
you just said that in your family are really slow in speech like you so maybe it's in your genes I think, not quite sure. To have a assurance, go to the doctor and tell them whats going on to your son so that you'll know whats the problem behind that and to have a solution right away.
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• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
Correction, he's my brother...he can also be a son to me because of our age difference: 20 and 5. At first, my mother and me had that same thought but we cannot be too sure, right? And yes, in order to be sure that everything about him is okay, we need to see a specialist. He's quite different compared to the rest of us because he came quite late into the world...but he's our joy.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Mar 12
hi sinful rose he could just b e a slow developer but if he hates school he may be autistic too, Has his hearing been checked for sure. He may just not hear some sounds.He does sound autistic to me.
• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
His hearing is okay. He knows the sound of his name, at least. I know because he responds to my mother. And he gets music so well when he sings them or hums them in his own way...
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
6 Mar 12
With 4 different languages, maybe his brain is just overloaded.
• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
Maybe. I hope it's only just that--an overload.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
If you're a catholic and believe in healing through faith, I'll share you my experience. My niece'son was two years old and still can not talk, I suggest to the couple to come with me and with the boy together we attended the Family Appointment With El Shaddai, we wrote in a prayer request form for the boy to talk, after a month the boy start talking and keep on talking till he grew up. Thanks God answered prayer...Another one I was alarmed by my grandson who really can't talk when he;s turning two years old already, the same thing we did and the same we're answered prayer. Of course there must be faith in us, faith in God that he will grant the children to talk. From that time on the boys love attending the Family Appointment with El Shaddai on Saturdays.
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
I think you need to bring it to the Doctor, to ask why your brother still not talk. Because as far as I know there is a medical problem with your brother in that stage
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
6 Mar 12
When my brother was around three years old he still wasn't talking very much and my mom thought that perhaps he had trouble hearing so she took him to the doctor and the doctor did a hearing test but my brother's hearing was good so the doctor suggested because my parents spoke two languages at home, German and English that my brother was confused and didn't catch on to either language so the doctor suggested that my parent stick to one language so my brother would start to talk more. My mom wanted to make sure he could talk well enough for school so she stuck to speaking English and then my brother started talking more and was alright after that and in school also.
• Canada
6 Mar 12
Has he been checked for hearing? Adnd? Autism? these are all things that could affect the speach of a child.
• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 12
He has no problem in his hearing. He has very good pitch. As for the others, we don't know yet. We still have to bring him to a specialist for that.