please understand other people

@adhyz82 (36289)
Indonesia
March 6, 2012 11:37pm CST
i noticed many people need another man understand what they want, understand what they need but when another people ask the same thing, they forget how to understand people.. it was pity had you ever get the same situation?? and what is your solution when you get the case??
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@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 12
As humans, we must always understand each other. But the selfish nature of man is hard to resist. When it feels right, others are forced to understand. As long as there is selfishness, mutual understanding, it is difficult to achieve.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 12
@sql : thats right our habit sometimes is bad..we only want to fulfill our needs but forgot we sometimes hurt somebody else
@zaahro (749)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
Ah.... I can feel it. well I know I am selfish, but I always try to understand people as good as they do. But it depends on their attitude to me, if they are good and nice to me, I'll try to be as good as they are, if they are not I'll try not to get into trouble with them or I'll be as bad as they are . Even if I understand them, I won't show it if they are not good to me, just keep my hand up on the air and say [u][/u]I don't care
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 12
really?? how do you feel that you are so selfish?? or your friend ever said that you are selfish? so how do you reduce your selfishness??
@SIMPLYD (72944)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Yes, we should always try to understand some people. Let's put ourselves in their stead so as to really feel how it is to be in their situation. However, sometimes when we help after understanding their situation, they should also learn how to help themselves after that. Other people when helped would then be already dependent for your help. As it is said " Don't give a man a fish, but teach him how to fish".
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
if we want someone understand us, we should understand them too it was balance i think
@kheydia (883)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Uhm, sometimes when i am in a situation that people are judging another i just simply listen and say my comments and then later on when i heard both sides that is when i try to understand the situation and try to understand someone why they are doing that.. Sometimes almost all of us are easily misjudging people because of what we see and heard from other people, but when we go beyond that and try to look at the big picture, there's more to what we just saw and heard. Sometimes, i caught in a situation that people judge me and criticizes me because of the way i look or because of what they have just heard fron others, its painful inside hearing all those stuff against me and doesn't understand me of who i am. But i will just comfort myself and think positive about life.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
misjudging?? thats human basic habit.. so what is your solution for preventing not misjudging another people??
8 Mar 12
We have a proverb that 'dont judge the book by its cove' that means no matter what ugly the face and appearance of such person the most important thing was her/his attitude,behavior and virtue.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 12
thats right sometimes its right if we can see from their face and appearance..but its no guarantee that the innocent face always had a good heart welcome to mylot jemarth
@atleya (947)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 12
Yeah, this world will peace if people can understand one each other. No fight, no war. However, because I love peace, I myself, I will try to understand other people in many situation. Understanding is the key to life peace. But, sometime is difficult to do it.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 12
thats colourful life if we get someone which understand us.. how are you atleya?? what is your condition now?? do you believe that in your office, there your office mate always understand you??
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@atleya (947)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 12
Hi, I am fine, thanks.. hope all is well with you, too. No, not all my colleague in office always understand me. No problem, I understand this is not an easy thing, for someone could understand the others. But, if you can do that, your life will be comfortable. Just try it.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 12
thats good job if all of our office mate understand us.. it will make our focus for working is maximal..
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
It's frustrating when that happens. You try to understand someone and in the end, that someone does not understand you. It's more frustrating when you give effort to really understand that person and that person won't do the same thing. What I do in situations like that is that I just ignore the person. It's annoying and instead of getting angry, I just ignore the person. That's the best thing to do than spend energy in being angry. At some point, I will try my best to make the person understand me. But most of the time, I couldn't care less.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 12
of course we are easily getting angry and frustrated when get the situation like that.. sometimes i dont know.. they only want i respect them, but they never make same thing.. so why i must respect and understand them??
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
Why do you have to respect and understand them? Because you're a better person than them.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 12
i think i give them my respect because i think they are human
@CarlHalling (3629)
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 12
Sadly, I think it is a problem with human nature; as a Christian I would call it: sin, which produces self-centredness,and we all share this quality to a greater or lesser degree. That said, some people are more sympathetic than others, which is to say, they seem to be born with a gift for sensing the conditions of others, for good or ill.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
iam not christian carl.. maybe you must explain with a simple language so i can understand :)
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 12
Well, while some people are more understanding and kind than others, sadly I don't believe it can be expected. However, there are many truly lovely people in the world; it's just that...understanding isn't universal...and I don't think ever could be. That does not mean, though, that it doesn't exist...because it surely does.
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 12
What I mean is...every country everywhere has truly lovely people...however, I don't think it's possible for every person to be understanding. Sadly.
• Indonesia
29 Mar 12
I tend to avoid those kind of people. It's just hard to get along with people who has selfishness like that. But yes, it's not a good thing to do. In fact, we should love and get along with all people, every characteristic they had. The thing is, if we could show the right way, how they should understand others, it would be a good achievement for us, him/her and mutual benefit together.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 12
sometimes we did not avoid the kind of that people they only need us for understanding them but they?? they never give a little respect for us so?? its difficult when you get a workmate like that..
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
13 Mar 12
Understanding has to be on both sides. Before we jump to conclusions or ask for anything, be sure to put ourselves in their shoes. There are too many times in life where we took everything for granted, expected to be understood, get what we want or even demand. It's just so sad there are more demanding people in this world than understanding people. The same goes for parents, friends who are close to us, in fact people who understands us most are our enemies, because they know how to exploit our weakness.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 12
thats right if we did not want somebody else insult us, maybe we should not insult someone else..
@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 12
As humans, we must always understand each other. But the selfish nature of man is hard to resist. When it feels right, others are forced to understand. As long as there is selfishness, mutual understanding, it is difficult to achieve.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 12
thats right its our bad habits.. sometimes we never realize that a person had a same feeling like us when we need someone understand us, we must understand them too
• Mexico
10 Mar 12
Hi adhyz: Yes, so many times. I think sometimes humans are coherent to what we ask and what we give. Sometimes we don't give what we expect. We hate when they don't listen to us but we sometimes not listen to the others and we may ask for understanding when we don't try to understand the others. This should lead us to think about what we are doing and if we are really coherent between what we preach and what we really offer. ALVARO
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 12
so maybe we must think if somebody else did not respect us, its hurt for us.. so don`t do it for another person
@sanofer (525)
• India
8 Mar 12
we can understand others only by putting our legs in their shoes. we should not discourage or hurt people because of their weakness because we don't know in what kind of trauma they are. even though we can't help them,we can help them by keeping our mouth shut sometimes. whenever we try to hurt others,we should think what i will do if the same situation happens to me. this kind of thinking help us to do good deeds and save us from hurting others.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 12
sometimes we can`t shut down our mouth because we are hurt by them
• Canada
8 Mar 12
I think that all of us want others to understand us but it can be difficult to understand others. However, I do try and make an effort to understand others and their point of view especially of friends and family. It can be very difficult to understand others as they all have different attitudes, characteristics, feelings, points of views and opinions whihc makes us all unique as a person....
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 12
thats right we sometimes only thinks our interest..thats our negative habits i think
@Hatley (152075)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Mar 12
hi adhyz82 I really try to understand others all the time, and if they need or ask for help I will do my best to aid and assist. I sometimes cannot help a person who has fallen or needs help with both my hands.I have a shoulder joint replacement in my left shoulder and never got much use of my left arm back,in spite of a lot of physical therapy which was supposed to teach new muscles to lift my left arm. They just did not help much.But if I cannot help physically I will get someone who can help and come back to see the person is being helped.It m akes me sad when I cannot help someone physically because I do not look helpless like that.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 12
thats right.. we are social human.. we want help someone, but sometimes we need helping from someone.. right?
@sishy7 (24725)
• Australia
7 Mar 12
I'm somewhat a believer of 'what comes around, goes around'. So if you believe that you always do good to others, just also believe that something good will come your way from others; and the same goes with bad deeds. The effect of your deeds do not always come instantly; it even could take place long after your lifetime.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
i always try to give the best when iam working or making friends with someone.. but everyone had another aim or purpose when make relationship with another person.. maybe they become friends because had another purpose
@chiyosan (29389)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
i think i was in the situation before, however i know of course wheni would need to give people their space especially if they are pressured already. i would expect them to given their understanding to me too.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
thats rught chiyosan.. but its the life..there are something that we never want, but happens to us
• India
7 Mar 12
I had a childhood friend he is a very angry man but i used to understand him a lot, so he liked to be with me, but all others hated him, I had told him many times that if he will not change it will be hard to live a happy life, but he still remained same, I gave him respect but he never respected me, many times I felt bad but I thought he will understand me one day and that day is still not come.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
wow..you are patient man how come you can threat and respect him when he never give respect to you??
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
Everyone always wants to understand. I always try, to understand other people. But, I feel, no one would understand me. I always been forced, to understand other people. Foster mutual understanding, it is very difficult.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
so it happen to me maybe i always try to understand another people try to give easiness or maybe giving some help but i dont know..everyone had another opinion
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
I do understand people specially friends, that's why even I have to refuse for their request I can't say no to them. And your right I hope It will come in time that they will do also understand other people.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
thats right our life will be colourful if we had a friend which understand too, we understand them and they understand us.. its great life i think
• India
7 Mar 12
When you thing from other point of view you can understand them...most people are not doing that so problem will arise between them... and it is also difficult to understand others...
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
sometimes i only said to several people, i need their help but i think they are so busy... they always had their request when come to me..but when i ask for some helping, they run away from me.. i dont know..iam speechless