Would you do this in public?

Singapore
March 21, 2012 1:58am CST
I know there is no rule against doing this but we should observe some social etiquette right? Just the other day I boarded a crowded bus, and very luckily got a seat. Beside me, the guy moved a bit and gave me a little more space. Just when I was thinking he was a nice guy, he took out his nail clippers and starting cutting his fingernails! The whole trip I sat beside him I was feeling very uncomfortable. I thought it is just a very nasty action to do in public. What do you think? Have you met people doing unpleasant things in public? What will you do?
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45 responses
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Ive also encountered almost the same situation here mostly in the mall. not exactly the same, but it was an embarrassing scene i know not only in my eyes but also for others.I saw two men kissing in public. How's that? mostly two girls kissing lips to lips on public.i dont know how should i react on that but since im not the person concerned. i just let them do it. how would you react on it?hahaha! i just dont know. the first thing that came to my mind was to stop them, but as of what ive said, im not concerned, i didnt. i just let them do it.again and again.
• Singapore
21 Mar 12
This action is quite unpleasant to witness rather than embarrassing. I once saw a couple in the train who was kissing each other on the lips every few seconds or so, and they continued doing that for 15 minutes! I mean I understand they are in love and all that, but do they have to display their affection so much?! However nobody said anything even though we all felt embarrassed.
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@wqdayang (137)
• China
21 Mar 12
Once I took the bus back home after work,I saw two teenagers looks likes middle school students,the girl was plumpy,pretty and sexy ,she was sitting on the boy's knees and the boy hug her in his arms,they were talking face to face softly,I think they are minors,but they act as they were skilled in love,at that time I felt very unpleasant and uncomfortable,so I got down the bus and walk home,I didn't want to stop them,I can do nothing.
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
Recently there were many cases of teenagers kissing and doing intimate acts in public, they were caught on videos and uploaded on the internet. I do wonder why they do not feel embarrassed! and how their parents will feel seeing their immature kids doing such things.
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Haha! That must be funny. I can imagine some of his nails falling on you. Atleast he wants his fingernails clean and presentable right? I have not tried clipping my nails in a public transportation though.
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@SIMPLYD (84951)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Yes, bhonti, like you i found it funny that he would be clipping his fingernails in a public transport. Can't he not wait to get into the office? People can really do some things at a public transport. I have even seen a woman putting on her make-up in front of all of us at the jeepney. She started with her foundation. Then , the eyeshadow, then mascara, then blush on , then lipstick. Lastly, she put a clip one her hair. Oh my, i think my mouth is open all the time watching her!
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• Singapore
21 Mar 12
Hi bhonti, You are so right! I am trying to edge myself as far away from him as possible! I could see his nails all dropping onto his bag which he put on his lap, and then he just swipe them away freely onto the floor of the bus. He swiped them off so many times, my, he must have very long nails to begin with! Well, it must be difficult to aim accurately on a bus which is turning and jerking all the way, he has "good skills"! SimplyD, The office is also a public place you know... Yeah, people putting on make-up is a very common sight in public. Some even managed to do the full set! They are not embarrassed to let people see the "before" and "after" effect! LOL!
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• Philippines
21 Mar 12
The stories were funny. You will never know what people can do in desperation. The guy is probably a neat freak and do not want to waste time waiting to get home to have clean fingernails. And as for the lady, I bet she is late for work. We do have different views on on what is what is not right thing to do in public. We cannot enforce our views on them unless it is mandated by the law. So if we can stand those kind of action then we better stay away from it. And if we are stuck in the situation, oh well nothing you can do with that but to live with it:D
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@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
5 May 12
I have heard of this things before but haven't experienced seeing them personally. If there are, maybe I can name a few...Well, there are people who go to cinemas and take off their shoes and even hang their feet in seats in front of them... I wonder how it smells like...eewwy! hehe There are also people who does the dialing inside their noses while in the streets, I think...disgusting, isn't it? Yes, it can really feel uncomfortable but if they are far away from you, would you still mind to talk to them and lat them behave the way to behave in public?
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• Singapore
5 May 12
Hi annavi, Haven't seen you for a long time~! Oooooo yuck! Poof the smelly feet smells like rotten fish! If I see someone doing all these disgusting things on the street, I would avoid them, walk on the opposite of the street, take a different route etc.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
6 May 12
Hi Vi! I think there's a lot of people doing unpleasant things on public but the most that I hate are those guys who are peeing on the street walls.
@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
7 May 12
It can be they are not that aware that what they are doing can affect others. Or it can also be they just don't mind what others would say, they just want to do their thing eventhough it's not good to do it in public...
@Mashnn (4503)
21 Mar 12
That not a very pleasant experience to come across. I would probably have told him I was getting very uncomfortable by what he was doing. It was very disgusting indeed. Where was he throwing the cut nails? on the floor or he had a tissue to put them.
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
I didn't really telling him off and drawing everybody's attention. Well, he flicked them onto the floor like it was in his own house, it was quite horrifying!
@Mashnn (4503)
23 Mar 12
Next time you seat next to such person, just be frank enough to air your views. You can always do it in low tone to avoid creating a scene.
• Singapore
26 Mar 12
That's a good suggestion, thanks! I wish I have the nerve :)
• India
21 Mar 12
well i wud say..the person was utilizing his time doing something rather than just sitting...i have come across instances which made people around uncomfortable, however i feel clipping nails is not that offensive ..m sure u did not like it....however that person m sure never intended to hurt ur feeling. had u mentioned abt ur feelings, he wud have stopped it right there and then...
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
Maybe it was nothing to him but maybe someone would protest (not like me who prefer to keep quiet).
• India
23 Mar 12
yes, in can understand. Infant i suggest in future you should always speak your opinion out. It would at least convey the other person that it is not right.
• Singapore
26 Mar 12
Many people suggested the same thing here, I guess I should work on my courage.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
21 Mar 12
I don't think it's good manners to clip your nails on public transport, plus do a whole load of other things. I used to commute a long distance to and from work each day on crowded trains, and some of the things the other passengers would get up to were horrible. Not wrong or illegal, but just not the sort of things you really should do in public.
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
You are right, some of these are not wrong or illegal, just cause irritation to people. As for those that are wrong, like teenagers doing their act in public, probably others would interfere.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
21 Mar 12
Now no there is no law but it is rude either way. I think I would have been very uncomfortable myself. It is one thing if he is doing it in a way that controls where the nail that falls goes, but another if he is doing it and letting it just fall wherever it may.
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
He has his bag on his lap and the nails went there, then he flicked the nails onto the floor. Is he disposing the nails the right way? There is no law against cutting nails but there is a law for throwing rubbish, maybe he should be fined for that?!!
@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
21 Mar 12
it could be really disgusting for someone to be clipping his nails in a public place ,apart from been unhygienic .this person didn't consider the feelings of other people in that same bus. The worst part is that you cant do anything about it since it is a public bus
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
He was seated right at the corner at the back of the seat, so not that many people witnessed his behaviour. Even if they had seen him, they were not so affected because I was the only person seated beside him. The only choice I have is to get off, or squeeze to the front, it was really crowded at that time and I don't fancy being squashed by others, so I stay put.
@maezee (34016)
• United States
21 Mar 12
That is DISGUSTING!!! I don't know why people do gross things like that in public. I would be totally uncomfortable too. Just like when people pick at their wedgies in public, pick their nose, etc. I find it disgusting. Go to the bathroom to do that or do that at home.
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
I think even at home, such actions like picking the nose should be contained within the bathroom.
@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
21 Mar 12
It is annoying. Some people can't seem to care that everybody sees whatever they do in public. Perhaps they are never alone, like always with their family members at home too, so they don't bother, or simply never learned that there is something like social etiquette. I have seen a bus driver (not a passenger) who, while driving, kept scratching himself and cleaning and cutting his nails.
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
There are some social rules we should obey whether we like it or not, and I think everyone should have basic courtesy. Just put ourselves in others' shoes. Would you like it if someone behave like that, if not, then probably we should not do that action. The above is my definition of public behaviour. I know sometimes we cannot help scratching an itch but it should also be kept to a minimum right?
• United States
21 Mar 12
That is odd. And very bad manners. Worst is when someone picks their nose and then plays with the snot between their fingers. Ew I just grossed myself out!
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
That is indeed disgusting! Wonder how people can behave like that? Do they like people doing that to them? These people should be taught a lesson!
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
21 Mar 12
Doing this kind of things is nasty for him and impolite for others .Indeed sometimes someone should do this without considering others' feelings.I have ever met with this, in which case i turn around to think of my own business.
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
It is indeed inconsiderate. If he is really rushed for time, should at least go near a rubbish bin and cut his nails there, without causing discomfort to others.
• Ireland
21 Mar 12
Hi bluemoonpavilion, I agree with you, it's not a very sociable thing to do is it? Clipping one's nails in public. What next?, shaving, cleaning ears?? I'm all for being neat, presentable and taking care of personal hygiene in the confines of my own home or somewhere else indoors, just not in public view! I'd find it distasteful to be sat next to someone while they were pruning themselves and, like you, would have been edging away from them! It's an unhygienic way of maintaining hygiene I think! I probably wouldn't say anything but perhaps the look on my face would say it all.......! IrishGal77 :)
• Singapore
23 Mar 12
Hi IrishGal, Shaving, cleaning ears...hahaha, I think I would like to witness that just to see how that person can do that, he has to have a mirror, wash basin, soap, towel.... Yes, they are causing inconvenience to others, I think I should ask for some kind of compensation for causing mental discomfort!
21 Mar 12
that is incredibly...stupid do in public..anyway..its a public bus...you cant report it to the police anyway..so leave that crap..it will just annoy you more..believe me..
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
It's quite a short trip so I grit my teeth and bear it out.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
I've seen people cutting their nails in public, I also don't like that but haven't experience someone do that beside me. I pet hate sleeping beside me while their head touch my shoulder or head on a trip. I might forget what they've done but definitely there are people I've seen do things they shouldn't do in public.
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• Singapore
23 Mar 12
Yes, this is another unpleasant sight which we often see in public. Once the man beside was almost lying on my shoulder, so I tap him awake and told him, "excuse me!" I could see him trying to control himself after that. Phew!
• India
21 Mar 12
yes you are right. it is very unfortable for me also. but i don't face the situation anytime. so i don't know about this matter. but i thing it is very unpleasant thing. have a nice day my friend.
• Singapore
23 Mar 12
Yes, most people would find this uncomfortable. Luckily there are not so many inconsiderate people around. Have a nice day too!
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
it's very unbecoming do the clipping of nails in public but for my own sake i'll pretend i didn't see what he's doing i might get in trouble. cause i've seen such situation between two passengers who were arguing. the other passenger shouted the other with bad words even though she already asked for an appology.
• Singapore
23 Mar 12
Nowadays people are more short-tempered, arguments can spark off from the most trivial of things. I have experienced many quarrels between passengers, especially between man and woman where the woman would shout out that she has been touched by the man, whether intentional or not we can't tell. A lot of such problems occur because trains are so crowded that we no longer have a personal space. Many times I'm forced to kiss the walls of the trains.
• United States
21 Mar 12
I'm never too surprised at what people do in public. That's a disadvantage of public transportation. He probably was trying to be considerate by making room for you. I doubt that he knew that clipping his nails would be a pet peeve for you. Just a guess.
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• Singapore
21 Mar 12
He doesn't look local so maybe such an action is acceptable in his hometown, but to me, it is quite unpleasant. I don't think this feeling is unique to me, I'm sure there are many others who felt irritated. I think he is being inconsiderate.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
6 May 12
Hi there! I haven't been with someone like you mention but I think if I happen to sit beside him, I will just ignore him as long as his fingernails didn't go my way...haha For myself, I don't do such things in public coz it will be so uncomfortable for me as well, but there are times, without knowing I bit my finger nails... but when I realize that i am doing that, I stop right away...hehe
@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
7 May 12
It's true that some people do those cutting fingernails in public. I guess it doesn't matter as long as their nails won't come to you..sometimes it's disgusting to see them flew away directly at you...hahah You mentioned there are guys who pee on street walls. Yes, it's not right to do those things cause there are grasses instead of walls, right? Just do it when no one watches... Sometimes stress or too much nervousness comes along our way that makes us do the fingernail biting stuffs. I never did that. I guess I am not really like that even in our house. I like to cut it instead of biting it. Even in pencils or pens, I don't like the idea of biting it...
• Singapore
7 May 12
Hi ckyera, Are you nervous so you bite your nails? Or is it a habit? Be careful of doing that because you don't know that your nails are clean all the time, you might catch some disease! annavi, how about finding a toilet instead of grasses and walls? Go to the right place for the right action, hee hee...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Vi, Actually, I usually bring a nail cutter with me, coz my husband always ask me if I bring a nail cutter, hehe coz sometimes we find a need for it, but then again we don't cut our nails in public, we do it inside the car or somewhere far from people. haha, but in cities, there's not much grasses at all, some do it on posts! hehe I am also guilty of biting pens/pen caps...haha but that was before, now not at all... Bmp, I am not really nervous and i can't also say that its a habit coz I don't always do it. I don't know, it just happen sometimes, maybe hen I am thinking or just nothing to do...
@else22 (4319)
• India
22 Mar 12
It is against etiquette.I would never do so in public places where people see me.It seems there is no law in your country that prohibits it.In my country,India,there is no such law.You can see people here doing all sorts of things on the roads and other public places.I can understand how uncomfortable you must be feeling seeing the boy cutting his nails in the bus.I don't know what to do on such occasions.If I were you,I would have done nothing other than watching him.Advising such persons not to do do such things in public is likely to result in exchange of words.
• Singapore
26 Mar 12
There is no law against that here in my country too. I have seen many a quarrel break out in the public and I don't want to be in the limelight for doing that too. This is definitely against social etiquette.
@else22 (4319)
• India
26 Mar 12
We should not do such things whether there is a law against it or not.It's just commonsense.
• Singapore
26 Mar 12
That is absolutely correct!