Are all girlfriends like this?

China
March 21, 2012 11:45pm CST
I haven been in love with my girlfriend for about seven months.She is lovely and I love her very much.But the question is she gets angry and upset easily,so I must be very careful when talking with her because my unmeant words may make her explode.Every time she gets unhappy I feel terrible and I sometimes want to escape from her. Are all girls like this?What should I do?
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@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Well, us girls are very complicated. But I tell you a secret. Getting angry sometimes is just our strategy. Specially when we get mad at shallow or little things. That is our style to get what we want. And what we want most of the times is more love and affection. We just love it when you guys do everything just to be forgiven. You do sweet things that you do not normally do. And we love that!
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• China
22 Mar 12
Thank you,you let me know more about girls.I think my troubles result from my ignorance of girls.From now on,I should begin to study girls.
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• Philippines
22 Mar 12
I agree to you bhonti! Sometimes I get angry at my boyfriend because I just want more of his attention.
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@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
haha! All of us girls are guilty because we actually do this! We so love the extra attention they give us when they think they did something wrong.
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• Philippines
22 Mar 12
For a young girl, it's quite understandable. Though it's unusual if a person gets irritated easily. Nevertheless, I guess we just have to live with each other, having different personalities and attitude. It's just the way things are. Talking to her and getting real on what you feel towards her will somehow make a difference but you can only do so much. Remember, you can only do so much. We can't change a person, not overnight and not ever. We are tailored the way we are supposed to be. Like Lady Gaga's song, born this way. We can't change the person. We can try, but it's really up to them...
• China
23 Mar 12
But I think she is just childish,as time goes on she would be a mature lady.I think I can help her grow into a mature lady.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
young women in love think their loved guy just na turally iknows what upsets her and unless she tells you,you cannot read her mind.'remind her you and mos guys are not mindreadersl just tell you what you did wrong so you could fix it.
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
22 Mar 12
Hi,you know, men are different from women in many ways. Women tend to be more sensitive and a little narrow-minded. But sometimes it is just the evidence of these love. A woman who loves you may get angry with some small things, such as you smile at another girl, forget her important days, etc. I think if you try to be more careful, you will understand why she gets angry each time. Have you done something let her unhappy, or forget something you have promised? Most time women get angry with their men because they think their men have not pay enough attention on them, and have not showed enough love on them.
• China
22 Mar 12
I am so grateful for your answer.She always says that I didn't pay attention to her.I need correct myself. Thank you.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
and you both need to tell each other when one of you upsets the other so that nobody goes around in a pout. it is not necessary and is childish too.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
she must be demanding. but then if that makes you unhappy..why stay? in a relationship, it must be balanced... that won't work out if you are married..unless you are willing to do that for the rest of your life
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
hi jazel really a lotof younger women when first married assume oh he loves me so he knows why he upset me when the poor man is not a mind reader,this relationship can be saved if he tells her he wants to fix whatever she is upset about but can do nothing until she tells him what she is really upset about.Then he can solve the p roblem and peace will be restored. b ut after that she must just o pen her mouth and tell him what she is upset about.I was furious a new bride because my husband never put the seat down after using the toilet.instead of just telling him , iwent around all mad, and pouting thinking he had to know what was upsetting me.He told me he was not a mind reader and when I admitted i hated him not puting the toilet seat down he laughed and always put it down afterwards. you must both talk to each other.
• China
22 Mar 12
i dn;t knw abt all girls. but i knw my girl get like this very fast too. even on a small things become angry .so i m like a scared cat like that. so i just try to cooperate and escaping is not a way.. i love her and she love me too.. so just talk her try to change her i m doing this too.
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• China
23 Mar 12
Thank you.Changing her is a long way to go,I need more patience to help her.
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• Philippines
22 Mar 12
I think most young girls are like that. How old is she? I can totally see myself in her as I easily get angry and annoyed at my boyfriend too even though I know he doesn't do anything wrong. My friends are like that to their boyfriend too. So my advice is that always reassure her and always make her feel happy. As much as possible don't say anything that might potentially upset her. Maybe she's a little insecure. I admit that it's common to us young girls. And even that is her attitude, she still love you.
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• China
23 Mar 12
I know she is insecure.From now on I will put more attetion to her.
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@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
22 Mar 12
Many girls are like this, even those who are calm otherwise can do this. She opened her heart for you to see her most beautiful side, but as someone who loves she has fears and insecurities that you have to see too. She might feel that you aren't there for her when she needs you. It's very good that you love her and care about her despite these emotions, and that you try to figure out how to handle it.
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• Philippines
22 Mar 12
as a girl, i will say no,not all girls are like this, but you have to understand that girls always have mood swings., especially when it comes to there love ones, they would always want to be appreciated and treated right. just try to talk things over.. everything will surely be fine :)
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• United States
22 Mar 12
Sounds like she may possibly be spoiled and used to getting things her own way. There could of course be the possibility of anger problems, bi polar disorder or something along that line. There are many things that would cause someone to act in this way. I would rule out mental disorders and probably suggest counseling and anger management.
@doccerz (46)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Maybe she's fairly young, still. Don't tolerate it too much as it may hinder in her growth as a person. In time, though, she'll develop into a mature lady.
• China
22 Mar 12
Thank you for your comment.I have to admit that she is still a little childish.But if I do not tolerate she would be more angry and sad.I don't want to see this,I worry about her.How can she develop into a mature lady?
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
messiii tell her she has to talk this out with you,that you want her to be happy but you cannot guess at why she is upset with you and it hurts you too as you want peace not anger and sadness.
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
Don't worry about it. It just takes time. The drastic change in personality usually happens during the early 20s.
• United States
22 Mar 12
No...it sounds like you're describing a girl who is emotionally unstable. She might need some professional help with managing her temper. I would suggest that you tell her you want to spend time with her when you are both on your best behavior with each other. If she forgets to be on her best behavior you can call a time out and take a break from her. She needs to understand that she can only have time with you when she doesn't direct her frustration and anger at YOU.
• China
22 Mar 12
Does she really need professional cure?Oh,terrible.Maybe I must do something to correct her. Thank you for your advice.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
she does not need professional help she needs to know that you cannot read her mind. then she needs to sit down and say what ever it is that makes her angry only then can you know what to do. It could be something very simple but if she will not talk a bout how are you to undo or redo or fix whatever she is upset a bout?.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Messii... The question is... can you handle it??? Because, i will tell that not all girlfriends are like that.
• China
22 Mar 12
I haven't found a good way to handle it so far.Do you have any good method please?
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
hi Gracee and Mess communicate with e ach other,open your mouths and say what is bugging youk only children sulk and pout so you talk and she talks, you make changes but she should too, the key is to talk to each other openly, no hissy fit,not pouting, just talking until all is ironed out.she may have to compromise and you may have to but if love is really there open your mouths and tell each other why you are upset with e ach other,. noone is a mind reader.
• Canada
22 Mar 12
Try and talk to her about it in the nicest possible way, the only way relationships works is with communication.
• China
22 Mar 12
Thank you for your advice.We really need communication,but every time I find her upset and ask her if I have done something wrong or if she has trouble,she always answer"No".She wants me to find out why she is upset by myself.But it is difficult for me.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
you have to tell her men are not mind readers and want to please the woman they love but they have to be told what it is that is upsetting her? do not marry or form permanent relationship until this is worked out. she must talk to you not throw hissy fits but use reason and logic or the relationship is doomed.
@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
You should try to talk to her about your feelings and her feelings as well. I mean, what you like about her and dislike as well. You are both a couple now and you also have to speak to each other about how you both react to things and hope to understand each other more. Relationships needs more of communication for you to know how each other feel and to avoid misunderstandings. There can be reasons why she acts like that. Maybe she's stressed or something. You have to figure out yourself if she didn't say it. Or you two will end up fast as you can think.
• China
23 Mar 12
I am really grateful to you.Last night I talked to her,she said she just misunderstand me.You are right,relationships need communition.After communication we both felt happy.
• Australia
22 Mar 12
If you love her speak to her. 7 months is a long time to invest in someone and have to watch what you say all the time just isn't right.
• China
23 Mar 12
Thank you for your advice.I talked to her last night,she began to realize her bad temper.And now we are fine again.
• Mexico
24 Mar 12
Hi Messiii: Of course not. It's like saying that all boys are one way. We are humans and we have different personalities. As you get wiser and meet new people I am sure you'll find how different women are and maybe you find one personality that fits better with you. Anyway, it's good that you make an effort to understand your girlfriend temper. ALVARO
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
no, not all girls are like that, you girlfriend have a short and bad temper which n the long run could suffocate a good relationship. many guy are having only a girlfriend who show symptoms when they are having a red days or menstruation or bad days. though, some girls get jealous and that s normal in a small occasion. those who have the bad temper and short patience have hard time coping with their behavior and surely any guy would really get nervous. so sometimes, it is the case that would lead to break up. some girls could not just like to be tease so they get mad easily and having a bad day surely would keep her mad though frequent bad moods need to be reduce. you need to know the things which aggravate his bad moods and learn to avoid it or add so she feel better or find other ways to reduce her bad moods so she get a good feelings afterward.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
No, not all girls are like that. Tell her about what you feel every time she does that so that she will know.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
23 Mar 12
My friend, not all girls are like your girlfriend. She is immature and her behavior is definitely like a child inside a grown woman body. Throwing tantrum and upset easily is not good manner at all even in front of a boy friend. I don't know what to tell you and do in the face of this type of immaturity in your girl friend. May be running away or even break off from her permanently is the best thing you can do for yourself once a while, at least you don't have to feel terrible again and blaming yourself every time she began throwing her nonsense at you, seem like she is a very selfish girl who care only about her own self and her feeling instead of her boy friend and other who care and love her. Unfortunately, You had found yourself a child instead of a woman as girl friend so to speak....
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
Messiii oh my my mind went back to my 32yr old self angry at my husband because he never put the toilet seat down.I just thought he should know why I was angry but as you know it does not work like that.I was so naive then and I imagine your girlfriend is much younger and is thinking he has to know why i am angry.you must tell her as my husband did to me,"honey I am not a mind reader. just tell me what is that I did wrong and I will fix it." And he did. Do not get angry but softly carefully tell her you cannot read her mind.You are not a woman,you are a man.see if she does not break down tell you what it is and cry of course,but just do not get angry as that shuts us down, us females. All women think men are mind readers but of course if they are made to think logically they realize you can not read her mind. she has to tell you, to communicate.also you could tell her that it hurts you when she will not talk to you and explain what is wrong or how she feels. tell her you can not have a relationship if she is always angry with you and makes you want to run away.after all one cannot fix a problem with a mate unless the mate tells you what the problem is. good luck hugs from hatleyl