Youngsters Go Gaga When It Comes to Love

Philippines
April 5, 2012 9:11am CST
Is it me or am i just getting old? I honestly find it pathetic when the youth only think about crushes or love matters. I dont really see this as a sign of a matured person but for them to discuss stuff about love makes them feel that they are already matured. When i was their age (college days that is), all i think about is passing my exams. What do you observe with the youth of today? Why are they so hurry to fall in relationships? I wanted to tell them... hey hey hey... finish college first before you start flirting around! Am i being a killjoy????
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@maezee (32587)
• United States
5 Apr 12
You are kind of being a kill joy. . And I think the term "pathetic" is a little harsh. We were all teenagers once, with all those hormones raging through our bodies. Of course we should have priorities - but rarely do we at that age. It seems like it's all about who you are dating, and boyfriend troubles can totally rule you if you allow them to. I wasn't ever all that bad, but mainly because I have only had a handful (a few) boyfriends and none of them lasted that long. But I have friends (and used to have friends as well) that made their boyfriends their LIFE. My ex-best friend and her boyfriend are attached at the hip. She could never find time to hang out with me (WITHOUT HER BOYFRIEND - NO, NEVER!) so that's why we drifted apart. I can't imagine making my boyfriend MY ENTIRE LIFE. But then again, I need my personal space and have always been like that. Anyways, at a young age, I can see how it might seem like the most important thing in the world (even though of course it is not).
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
10 Apr 12
I can kind of see where maezee is coming from with this. I was in highschool in the 70's and I think we were all kind of like that back then too. I remember a group of us girls getting all mad at each other over this one guy that we all thought was so hot and well...he asked me out. Was I the lucky one? NO. Not only did my friends all get mad at me, he turned out to be a real jerk. And there was this other guy, I dated for almost 2 yrs and I just wanted to die when we broke up...oh the drama! But it's always been like this I think. nothing new.
@toniganzon (51693)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I think you are being a kill joy indeed. You're just getting old maybe lol! My son started having a crush at the age of 6 and that didn't worry me. I do understand the youth nowadays but sometimes it's too much. I thought i was mature then when i was discussing about love when i was in college. In fact what i discussed then was true.
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
I agree with you one hundred percent! Studies should always come first before love. I have seen a lot of batchmates in school who never make it to graduation because they suddenly got pregnant. It is so sad but it happens to a lot of youth. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend may be fun and may be a source of inspiration for some youth in their studies or something but hormones are something that are hard to control when temptation comes. You're not being a kill joy. Love at the wrong time even with the right guy is never right. So I am with you on that!
@megamatt (14329)
• United States
8 Apr 12
Love can be both a great and dangerous thing. Of course, there are times where when someone experiences something new, some new feelings, and it tends to overwhelm them. To the point where they don't think things through. Of course, we do hope that they have a chance to think things through too much, understand that there are just really a lot of flaws with love. Of course, there are times where people get tied up with things that I think that are useless and a waste of my time and there are more important things. There is a time for relationships but there is a time to really focus on things that matter more for the time. When people are young, they tend to get all excited about the possibilities, perhaps a little bit too excited. Thus they get into a sticky situation.
@webearn99 (1744)
• India
6 Apr 12
No! you are not being a killjoy! You are concerned about the younger generation's future. You want them to study and be better prepared for what life holds for them in future. You are right in thinking physical enjoyment is secondary at this stage in life. The world is turning materialistic, it possession and enjoyment that matters now. People barely stop to think of the future. I too feel sorry for them, because I think they will be in an unholy mess later. What else can it be with an uncertain future and a past not worth mentioning?
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
youth are all the same. they love talking about love and what makes them happy. it is sad to hear that all you think back then was passing your exam. have you seen adults talking about love as well. have you seen adults flirting? it is fun to see love in the air. you can not tell people to stop it for love makes the world go around. i can not say that you are kill joy for you dont tell them to stop... you just feel awkward with it. i guess you need to start realizing and accepting that people gets inspire with love as well.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 12
I don't think this has anything to do with youth. People are different and these kind of people you find with all kind of ages.
@in2day (120)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 12
It's all because of influence by media. children are exposed more and more younger to adult stuff. Youngsters just want to fit in. A lot of parents never get to know the latest hype. So they can't really warn their children about the dangers about it. Youngsters only see the fun in relationships they want to experiment. Some parents even encourage it... They don't look at it in a different kind of view. When parents started to have a relationship when they were very young, their children will follow the same pattern most of the time. Youngsters are full of raging hormones. Some aren't smart or patient enough to wait. Thankfully you're not the only one with the same point of view. Count me in! ;)