" I rather be happy than thin."

I agree! Real women have some curves!

Oh no! I'm so sorry. The main thing is you have your health. When the doctor say you can eat Anything, try some of the " bad for you" stuff. And.. ask about weight lifting/ training program. There may be a way to gain weight in a healthy way. I wish you luck and good health. ps. I hope my post didn't make you feel worse.

Ok. I'll try not to worry. Take Care.

awww no don't worry, don't be sorry. maybe i'll just to eat even more hehehe. i just want my body before, more meat and i looked healthier.

Thanks my friend.

Thanks Hatley. It was yet another good week!

hi youless great advice and I am so happy for sarahruthbeth as at one time from her discussions I felt she was so unhappy. love to hear when people here are happy with what they have and comfortable in their own skins as it makes me feel happy too. happiness comes from within and when we are happy we also look g ood and feel good too.

Hi Bhai! I'm glad you are at peace with yourself. With your help I'm getting there. Your support helps me too, more than I can say.

Don't get me wrong. I am all for the heavy person who hates the way they Feel.and they lose the weight for themselves , not for society! Once they make their ideal size, they better be happy!I started this post for the people who were told , like me, that you Had to be a size 6 or less To be loved and happy. as a teen I thought love was not for me because I was too big.So I never looked for it. I started this post for the women out there you are a size 6 and Still think , if they get to be a size 0, then they will be happy. Happiness= being real thin. I'm living proof you don't have to lose weight to be loveable.

I have never been thin so my size never made me miserable. I never will be thin.

Will you forgive me for this post? I totally forgot your size! I have always been chubby/ fat all my life. So I was teased and I Never thought Anyone would like me. Instead of " blowing it off" , I dismissed the person all together. The kids who teased me I didn't see them. They were less than dirt to me. I so I would walk away. My guy is not skinny either. you can call him pleasantly plump. But then again I have Always preferred hunky men. So Hubby would be too skinny in my eyes, sorry. The main thing is you are healthy and hubby loves Just the way you are , inside and out.I'm as healthy as I'm going to be and my guy loves my curves. And... all your friends and family, like me, Know you are just naturally thin and it doesn't matter!

You don't have to apologize! (You are forgiven nonetheless if that will make you feel better lol!) I chuckled when I saw this discussion and decided to tackle it since I have a different perspective on the issue. This might sound odd, but I think it's better that you have never been skinny. It's easier because you don't know anything else. You don't have to look back at a time when you were skinny and feel bad about how you are now. Am I right? You've always been this way so why doing anything differently if you're happy the way you are? In a sense, I'm in the same boat because I've never been overweight. All I've ever known is being skinny. If I were sick and couldn't eat, I'd be scared there would be none of me left when it was over! Speaking of which, I have to share this with you. I had a coworker a few years ago who wasn't skinny, but she wasn't horribly overweight either. She was one of the the sweetest ladies I'd ever known and had a personality that everyone took to. One particular day we were discussing health or weight for whatever reason. She said that if she were to get sick and couldn't eat for a while, she'd last probably a good month or two before she would need to worry about wasting away to nothing. Now me, on the other hand, I'd probably die within a couple days from malnutrition or something. I thought that was great the way she explained it! She's got more to lose than me, so she'd stick around a lot longer if she were sick. We had a great laugh that afternoon. It always helps to look on the bright side of things! I had another larger man tell me that he refers to his extra weight as "character." So when we discussed weight, we would actually say character instead. So much fun! I like when people accept their weight and are confident enough with who they are not to be offended by people like me who couldn't gain weight if they wanted to. I don't know how many people have rolled their eyes at me when I explain how I struggled with weight too. "I'd rather have that problem than mine," they'd say, but it's still hard! Regardless of what people think, though, I'm content. I'm glad you are too!

Sarah, I was going back reading through the responses on this post, and I have to agree with everyone. It's more important to be happy than to be the size everyone wants you to be. Since when do we owe them anything? When I was younger, I thought, "If I could just gain 30 lbs. more, I'd be happy." I gained the 30 lbs., but I wasn't happy. I was still too skinny by "Hollywood standards." Who cares, though. I'm happy now because I've decided not to care! I'm content with the way I look, and I'm glad I don't live by their standards anymore. My husband has always been skinny, too, and we joke together about it. While I didn't marry him for his size, I think it's funny how much we are alike physically too. The fact that he's always been skinny and can't gain weight is refreshing to me because we understand each other. We know the pressure. Had I been with someone who didn't struggle with weight, I don't think he would've understood what I was going through. My husband understands, so we can be skinny together forever lol! I'm glad you're happy with who you are and don't care what others think. I hate when people judge others by what's on the outside. I feel like I'd be missing out if I prejudged everyone based on their looks because it's what's inside that counts!