What a night!

@AmbiePam (50398)
United States
April 12, 2012 2:46pm CST
When is the last time you sat back and exhaled and thought that. Thought, what a night!!! Mine was last night. Some of you may remember me telling about having to cancel on my dad one night to watch my mom while he went to church (dementia, and she doesn't do well on Wednesday nights). So last night I had a migraine and I told myself I was not going to cancel and was going to go watch her. Big mistake! It was a testament to how badly he wanted to go without her because he asked me when I got there if I had a headache and I said yes. So he said he'd hurry home after church, and left. At first I started feeling better after taking some pain meds. Then it came back in full force. When he got home he said he'd drive me back, and he did. A few hours later I started throwing up. I don't want to get too descriptive, but I turned around afterwards and there was some on the wall that had been behind me when I was facing the toilet. So there was some ricochet I was so sick. Had to call my dad and ask him to take me to the ER (they won't treat you unless someone else is with you, or I wouldn't ask him). He came, took me there, and they treated me. Poor guy. He had to get my mom ready in the middle of the night to pick me up, and he told me today it was a nightmare trying to get her back in bed. But I had no choice. The pain was tremendous. And I've learned a lesson. It's better for everyone if I stay home when I have a migraine, whether she has to go to church with him or not.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
12 Apr 12
Honey I am so sorry that you have to put up with those headaches! I wish they could find the source and help you! My neighbor is on disability also because of migraines...I can't imagine how bad it is for you! Take care of yourself first!
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@bunnybon7 (37915)
• Holiday, Florida
12 Apr 12
poor guy. he wanted to make a quick exit when you got there so you wouldnt change your mind. but then its to bad that he has to be this desperate. i know you've heard it before but he really needs to get someone else to help even an outside nurse or something. you poor lady what was wrong ambie? have you ever thought the migraines could be the stress of having to watch her? i know you love her but it would be better for all if your dad would consent to more help.
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
12 Apr 12
He has a woman come in twice a week for about 7 hours a day. He's trying to get daycare, but it will be a while. I've had migraines since I was eight, and no one can find the cause. They have gotten worse over the years. My mom might contribute to them, but then again I've always had them.
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@bunnybon7 (37915)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Apr 12
great. it would be nice if he could talk her into staying with her on wednesday nights for all your sakes.
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• United States
13 Apr 12
Are you ok? I know you are a good daughter and you need to help your dad but you need to take better care of yourself! Ok, I'm finished doing my Jewish mother bit!
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
13 Apr 12
Thanks. : ) My headache is actually back, and at least it has not turned into a full blown migraine yet. I'm hoping it will go away. I wish I could just go to sleep.
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• United States
13 Apr 12
Why can't you just go to bed? There isn't any meds that work for you? are there any home remedies? I hope you feel better real soon.
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
13 Apr 12
I can't fall asleep. I have tried so many things. I wish I could sleep them off. I've tired herbs, I've had so many tests. They did get worse after the car accident I had over ten years ago. Sometimes, and I know it isn't true, I think I must have done something to deserve this.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
12 Apr 12
Aww, I'm sorry Ambie, that stinks. So you don't get as sick if you stay home?
@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
12 Apr 12
If I had stayed home I would have been lying down in a dark room, and I would not have had to drive. That probably would have kept the pain from getting out of control.
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• United States
12 Apr 12
Oh, I see..I wonder what my daughter does, because her job as a groomer requires her to do physical activity and she suffers from migraines too.
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
12 Apr 12
Sometimes you don't have a choice. I remember working and having a migraine. But I never threw up at work. If I had thrown up at work with a migraine I think they would have made me go home. But I remmeber when I did work with a migraine (it was hardly ever a full day) people kept coming up to me and asking what was wrong. Your poor daughter!
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@katsmeow1213 (29043)
• United States
17 Apr 12
I'm sorry for your migraines.. but I just feel so awful for your dad, the poor guy. He just can't catch a break! I'm sure if you had someone else around to drive you, you wouldn't ask him for this.. because you understand what he's going through. It's just a real shame there isn't anyone else around who can drive you when you need it.
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
17 Apr 12
I know. It wasn't a big deal before my mom got really bad. And it isn't the fact taht he minds getting up. It's the fact that he has to get my mom up. When I get a boyfriend again someday, I'll be calling him! Good news though. My dad might be getting daycare soon. So if this happened again, he might be able to just ship her off the next day and catch up on his sleep without any damage being done.
• United States
20 Apr 12
That'll be great! He sure does deserve the break!
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
16 Apr 12
What a raw deal for both of you
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
17 Apr 12
I wish they would treat me without someone with me. I tried that twice. Once they refused to give me anything, and the other time they gave me a prescription. I filled it, and got so sick on the way home from filling it I had to pull over to throw up. Later that night I looked it up - the medicine - and it was only a small dosage of an anti-nausea medication. Nothing to treat the migraine itself. I guess I understand, I just hate how inconvenient it is for my dad. And he's actually lost patience with me before for having to call him. But the next day he felt terrible for getting annoyed with me.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
17 Apr 12
Seems like they would treat ya and keep you there till ya could drive yourself
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@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
15 Apr 12
Poor Ambie thats a real nightmare with the migraines you suffer from. Hope things have gotten better for you by now and no migraines any more. The last bad night was this week. Our neighbours upstairs had started a marital argument somewhen around midnight with a lot of yelling etc. etc and when I had to get up at 4 am to get to work they still had it going on. My husband needs a CPAP sleep apnea mask so he had a real good sleep and I was just barely keeping my eyes open this day.
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
15 Apr 12
If you called the police, would they come? I've done that before. Several years ago when I was on the bottom floor. She was saying she was going to kill him, and it was 3am. The police came and they were shut up. But if you remember, they figured out it was me who told on them!
• Lippstadt, Germany
15 Apr 12
no dear Ambie the police would not come as it was just a shouting match up there with some Greek and/or Turkish as they are bilingual with both languages. There has to be a definite threat when calling the police plus they would have told me to go upstairs and fix matters myself first, i.e. telling them to keep quiet in the middle of the night. They are nice people other wise and their parents plus his younger brother with his newlywed wife own the best restaurant in town so it would also mean to think twice before we travel the road to get the police to shut them up.
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
Hi ambie, I hope your fine by now. As I remember (please correct me if I'm wrong) i responded to you once like the same story you have a head ache and you have to watch your mom and you can't I think because you also have a head ache. I advice you that to take a rest rather tried to be with your mom because I know the feeling of having a migraine you can't really control what will happened to you if it strike, it happened to me all the time, I was to trow up every time my migraine strikes. That's why i learn a lesson from it, I rather stay and rest.
@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
15 Apr 12
This happens a lot, but my dad has got to get a break. This time I should have stayed home. Because the time before that you are referencing, when I actually canceled on him, I was in less pain than this time around.
• United States
13 Apr 12
I have Never Felt Like That, Im Sorry Bout Your Headache :(
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
13 Apr 12
Thank you.
@GardenGerty (105303)
• United States
12 Apr 12
I was hoping that you were having some better luck with your headaches, as we are seeing you more often online. You probably should have gone ahead and stayed at his house. Do the pain meds make you sick at your stomach? I hope you are doing better today. I certainly wish you had a friend nearby to help all of you out.
@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
12 Apr 12
No, the pain meds never upset my stomach thank goodness. I couldn't stay at his house because my night medicine was at my house, as was my mouth piece (that keeps me from grinding my teeth - I grind them so hard I once chipped 1/4 of a piece of tooth).
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
12 Apr 12
gosh, I can't remember, except maybe when I went to the hospital with that headache in 2008 and they took out my gall bladder..
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
12 Apr 12
That's a pretty bad night!
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@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
27 Apr 12
Sorry to hear about your Bad migraine my friend. Migraines are NO FUN. I have had enough of them to last a lifetime really. I have had ones where I am sick to my stomach before the headache comes and wonder why. I need to keep on top of them myself from time to time to make sure I do not end up with one of my Bad ones as well.
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@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
27 Apr 12
Wow...you were sick. Ricochets are definitely a sure sign. I think that your right that it is better that you stay home and take care of yourself when you have a migraine. Sounds like you have some pretty intense ones. Take care.
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
13 Apr 12
I've only ever had a few migraines, though they run in my family. I know how horrible they can be but never have physically been sick because of them. I'm sorry you had such a night but I am glad you're doing better now.
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@unique16 (1531)
• United States
12 Apr 12
Hi, That is so sad. That there was no else to take you to the hospital. You were trying to do the right thing helping them but you had take care of yourself too. I am so sorry you get those bad, bad migranines. They are no fun and being at hospital is even worse. You feel exhusted and tired today. I respect you for helping your parents they way you are. Not many children in there 30 or 40's do that. God is looking for you. I hope you feel better and never ever got another like that one for a long long time. I know that is not the case with migranes they have a mind of there own and are very selfish in letting go. Take care. Sincerely Unique16
@SinfulRose (3529)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Apr 12
You really should have listened to your body. It won't complain if there is nothing wrong with it. It does not lie like each one of us is capable of. And I have to say, not to be rude or anything, serves you right. I know you have responsibilities, but you have responsibilities to yourself too. In order to even care for another, you also have to take care of yourself. That's why you need a healthy person to take care of the sick, right? I hope this won't happen to you again. Get well soon. I hope your migraine wasn't serious. (What triggered it anyway? You don't just get a headache/migraine without something wrong is going on in your body.) Rest and eat well...and get yourself to a doctor and complain about that migraine to him. Have a nice day and Happy MyLotting!
@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
13 Apr 12
Um, I actually take offense at the serves you right comment. Which is funny because another guy on another discussion told me I owed it to come to take care of her migraine or no migraine.
• Davao, Philippines
13 Apr 12
I'm sorry about that! I'm just too concerned about health right now because I have just been in a situation where I had been sick for almost 3 months and didn't know what was already happening to me. I found my mother was taking care of me and my siblings while she, herself is sick. It's a good thing my siblings aren't as sick as me but my mom really got stressed out. Really stressed out and I can see it everyday in how haggard she look even right now that I am better. Whenever I hear or see people in a situation similar to my mother's situation, I suddenly react. Maybe I have said too much. I'm really sorry! The guy is correct on one thing, you really owe it to take care of her migraine or no migraine--it's a responsibility placed on you because she is your mother. But you should be healthy to properly take care of your mom. If you had been caring for your mother that time and she saw your situation where you threw up, the blow/stress on your mom will double--because she's your mom and she feels your pain.
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
15 Apr 12
It's okay. I'm just sensitive about the situation. In another discussion a guy told me I should help with my mom whether I was sick or not! I don't live with my parents, so my mom hasn't seen me get sick. However, my dad has had to fetch my medicine before from the pharmacy, so I hate to stress him out.