Beauty of Adoption!!
By besthope44
@besthope44 (12123)
India
April 20, 2012 12:02pm CST
I have seen many media and society 75% doesn't encourage the process of adopting kids. But psychologically it is proved that attachment of adopted kids are greater than normal kids in most cases. I really planning to adopt another kid and ofcourse a financial support is necessary to do so. How do you feel about adoption? You like it or dislike adopting?
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@all_about_steph (45)
• United States
20 Apr 12
I think adopting is great! Giving a child a loving, caring family and giving them a place to call home is amazing. I dont have kids nor have I adopted any, because I am only 20, but I also have diabetes which decreases my chances of having kids, so its nice to know that one day I can too have a family of my own, whether they came from me or if I adopte some. I have talked to my fiance about it and he is 100% open to adopting a kid if I cant have any myself. And who knows, we might adopte a child even if we can have kids just because there are kids out there without families that need one.
@all_about_steph (45)
• United States
20 Apr 12
Yeah I wished alot more people would adopte, all those poor kids out there, I just feel soo bad for them..
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
21 Apr 12
with us there are not a lot of poor kids free for adoption even not if you want to adopt them from abroad. There are way more rules, tests, years of waiting, hoping, paying (over 45000 euro! for 1 kid), also you should be young, if it comes to certain countries even have a high income, be high eductated, no kids of your own, etc etc. Weird if you consider where those kids come frome. Seems to me it has nothing to do with taking care or love or giving a safe home but way more with big (financial) business! The kids you can adopt are mostly very handicaped, so kids people just don't like in their own country so as a foster parent you need a very good medical insurance as well or be stinky rich.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Apr 12
I think that is wonderful of you to want to adopt..
I am totally for it, it is better than abortion, it gives the child a chance to grow up and life a life he or she was meant to live..
I am totally for it, it is better than abortion, it gives the child a chance to grow up and life a life he or she was meant to live..@besthope44 (12123)
• India
20 Apr 12
Thank u Carme!!Its so nice to hear that you encourage adoption. True its much better than abortion, giving chance for bud to bloom rather to destroy.
I have already planned and my hubby full support it so as my daughters to welcome a new relation!
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Apr 12
I am so excited for you and your husband..
I can't wait to hear more as the proceedings to adopt go forward..:)
I can't wait to hear more as the proceedings to adopt go forward..:)@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Apr 12
Oh yeah carme..Am eagerly waiting for it! I heard the process will take some time, but am readily waiting for that day more than the days i was pregnant. Its wonderful experience!!
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Apr 12
It should be a win win situation but it seldom is. Many adopted kids end up in foster families, homes. As a kid you can not choose the parent you feel a connetion with as a parent you have to wait and see what they will give you and you have to pay a lot for it and also be happy.
Where is the win win situation if you are not allowed to adopt and have plenty of love to give? If adoption is only free for those with a fat wallet?
If there are so many kids who really need a home never will get that chance and are forced to live on the street or grow up in a orphid home?
If the kids is grown up and blames the adoption parent because the home country is way better? I think there should be rules, it should be a win win situation but there is (still) something seriously wrong the way it works now and it has very less to do with making some people/children happy. Way more with making money.
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@loveandpeace (470)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 12
Hi, I really support anyone who want to adopt, truly. I always glad whenever I heard someone adopt a kid as long as they really love and willing to give the best for the adopting child. I myself have children and also can't afford to adopt any child. I wish you good luck .
. @WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Apr 12
A child is a child no matter if it's my own or someone elses. But fact is it's hard to adopt in own country and it will cost a lot of money if you want to adopt a child from abroad. I find it annoying (or is it a shame?) that so much of the money you pay is not even for the kid or the foster home the kid been at. Also I wonder how come so many kids are longing for a home and won't get any and the kids we can only adopt over here (it's getting less and less) are all SN (special need kids).
And now with the Columbian scandal I doubt if the way those organisations are sending over kids to adopt are safe too. It's not nice to go to so much trouble, been screened for years, pay a lot of money to find out the kid you adopt actually been stolen from it's mother. Adoption should not be that way.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Apr 12
Thats quite true!! I have heard of many things that happen in the name of adoption and making it a business for money and stealing from mother. Thankfully few organizations have taken strict actions against those fraudulents and am happy that adoptions are now stopped from more money than as a service care. I really appreciate that happening here.
@leighz (456)
•
21 Apr 12
That's really great of you to take such action. I am kinda adopted as well by mom's sister, though not legally but the connection and love that I have for her is even greater than what I feel towards my biological parents.
I hope that the child who will be blessed to be part of your family, will bring so much joy. Share the love! :)
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
20 Apr 12
I do think that adoption is a wonderful choice. I have seen many people saying that it is great for people that are not able to have children, but I would love to adopt, even though I am perfectly capable of giving birth to children. Unfortunately, there are many stumbling blocks on the road to adoption, and the two of the biggest ones are the long waiting lists, even though there are thousands (probably more) of children waiting and hoping to be accepted into a good and loving home, and the costs associated with the adoption process.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
Adapting a child is a noble did which is giving hope who have less in life. I for one is in favor of adaption. If I can afford financially and have the time I'm willing to adopt to share my blessings on them.
@shirley2all (141)
• China
21 Apr 12
If possible to afford a kid I think I will adopt a kid.Once I bring him/her home,I should take responsibility to bring him/her up in a healthy life. Otherwise better not.
@malasrivastava (33)
• India
21 Apr 12
I like the concept of adoption as it gives a child a new life. I respect people very who adopt kids. I also think that if a woman is not able to conceive and is visiting hospitals to get fertility treatments, it would be good if she and her husband decides to adopt a child. This will give that child an opportunity to fulfill his or her dreams and get all the love and support he or she deserves. But one should adopt a child only when he or she is financially stable and is able to spend quality time with that child.
