I hope I am not the only one...
By AsianBelle
@AsianBelle (75)
South Africa
April 27, 2012 1:47pm CST
Today is a public holiday here in Cape Town, so my sweetheart and I decided to have breakfast at one of the popular family restaurants. We sat across an old-ish couple and I noticed that they would hold hands every now and then. Just looking at them, I started tearing up. I get emotional, in that sense, so easily, these days. I wonder if there is something wrong with me.
There were other similar incidents where I would have tears in my eyes and I would have to look up to stop the tears from falling. It isn't just about the sad things, even happy moments make me all emotional!
Have you experienced something like this?
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
27 Apr 12
My daughter is very much like you, AsianBelle :) She tears up and actually cries quite easily and she has always been that way. She is very empathic... she physically seems to feel other people's emotions. When she was really small, at school, if another child got hurt on the playground, for example, my daughter would cry! The teachers would run to her to see what was wrong and she would tell them that someone else was hurt. Even now, she cries when she listens to music, she cries at television shows, even commercials at times. I think you are just a very "feeling" type of personality... not a thing wrong with that 
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@AsianBelle (75)
• South Africa
27 Apr 12
Oh she sounds like a sympathetic person! I'm sure she gets it from her mother or both parents. It never really bothered me, until recently, because it happens in public sometimes. Even when I tell my partner that I love him, it makes me cry - lol. Part of me feel that it's because of the things that I had gone through. This is the most stable relationship I have ever been in, which I didn't feel like I would be abandoned. So, I think that plays a part, but others, I'm not sure where they fall in. However, like you said, it could be that I am just a sensitive/very feeling type of person. A hug right back at you! :)
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
27 Apr 12
Well, I guess I am very much the same way... I did do personality testing some time ago and it even came up that one of my attributes is "feeling" so I guess I've passed some of that along in my raising of my girls. My daughter that I was describing, she gets very embarrassed now about reacting emotionally in public. She tries hard to hide it, actually, because she is 18 and seems to feel that she is "being childish." It's not childish at all, though, because she truly cannot control it.
I have no doubt that your relationship with your partner is having an impact on your emotions coming to the surface. If you truly trust him, love him and feel very safe with him, I think it gives you the freedom to feel everything that you feel inside and you know that it's ok to share those feelings. That has to be very cleansing and almost therapeutic for you. It takes just the right relationship, sometimes, to give us "permission" to show our true selves... and to let out true emotions.
@AsianBelle (75)
• South Africa
27 Apr 12
I took the Myers-Briggs personality test and I am an INFJ, which is Introverted Intuition with Feeling. I remember bits and pieces of the definition.
I know exactly how your daughter feels! Please let her know that coming from someone like her, she's not childish.
You are so right, thinkingoutloud! After I started this thread and read all the comments, it felt so good to be able to express what I have always wanted to. It is certainly therapeutic.
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@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Uhm, yes I do experience this sometimes too. Actually, always, these past few months, I've been really emotional always. I get what you feel. You seem so touched with the couple maybe. I get touched too whenever I see sweet old couples. I want to grow old like that. 
@AsianBelle (75)
• South Africa
28 Apr 12
I think the fact that the divorce rate here in South Africa is very high, thus seeing an old couple still in love, after so long, it gives some people hope that not all marriages cannot be worked out. Yes, I would like to grow old with my sweetheart too.
Also, my mother passed away almost 5 years ago, and until the day she left us, my parents were together and aside from the normal arguments, they stayed together and that encouraged me even more to make things work. I'm blessed with a great relationship, and it has taught me not to take advantage of it.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 12
hi asianbelle yes indeed I think we are the sensitive people who can have empathy towards those who show how much they love e ach other. I get that way and I do not think there's anything wrong with me
either. We are still sensitive enough to care about others and be glad when we see older people still much in love with each other.no I do not think there is anything wrong with you. You just show you care about others. and you were with your sweetheart.I
imagine he thinks you are very normal.WE are what I call the sensitives, people who usually end up in jobs where they can help others. the caring people.I think we also are the p eople who are glad we are alive.
to care about others and be glad when we see older people still much in love with each other.no I do not think there is anything wrong with you. You just show you care about others. and you were with your sweetheart.I
imagine he thinks you are very normal.WE are what I call the sensitives, people who usually end up in jobs where they can help others. the caring people.I think we also are the p eople who are glad we are alive.@AsianBelle (75)
• South Africa
27 Apr 12
That's right, Hatley, I do appreciate that I am alive.
All the comments I have received thus far, have opened my eyes, thanks. I think part of me felt as if something was wrong because a few friends of mine have said that I'm overly sensitive.
Thinking back, I had a hard time in primary school because of this. However, now, I see that it is not necessarily a negative characteristic.
@cloud31 (5809)
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27 Apr 12
Hello Asianbelle,
I do have the same emotions as you, my tears just fallen so easy to some incidents and situations we commonly witnessed most of the time. In my case my tears will fall when I can see someone whose suffering from disease and still trying their best to get through to it, for instance I can see somebody whose walking in the crowd just want to be normal though I can see that hes really in misery of some sickness.
In some other cases a beggar whose taking meal in the street this usually touch my emotions and that tears just can't stop from falling... I have to looked down and try to bring my attention away from such situations.
Maybe were just a human being to feel such emotions and its normal I guess. I hope I can cope up with this anyway..
Happy mylotting!
In some other cases a beggar whose taking meal in the street this usually touch my emotions and that tears just can't stop from falling... I have to looked down and try to bring my attention away from such situations.
Maybe were just a human being to feel such emotions and its normal I guess. I hope I can cope up with this anyway..
Happy mylotting!@AsianBelle (75)
• South Africa
27 Apr 12
I know what you mean! I feel the same way when I see beggars on the streets, or even when a teenager shouts at his/her parents in public.
I think we shouldn't let anyone make us feel bad for having the ability to empathize or being sensitive towards others.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Apr 12
I am the same way as you. Everyone that knows me knows I am sensitive and emotional. I cry not only at my life but many others.
I think its so sweet and cute seeing an older couple still so in love no matter what the age. I have teared up seeing that too. And it gives me hope that my husband and I will grow old together the same way.
It sounds pretty normal to me, lol. That could be because I have always been super sensitive. =)
@AsianBelle (75)
• South Africa
28 Apr 12
It is cute and sweet. The thing is that even when I see photos of abused animals, I cry. Mann, imagine if I could get pregnant... my hormones would probably be flying off the roof! :D
. I think it's a girl thing.
But be glad that it's not just you.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead! @lynnliu91 (6)
• China
28 Apr 12
Life is not easy and quite short, so we should love the people around us, especially the one that also care about us, like our lover,parents and so on.
Sometimes we may pay more attention on the trivial thing, and avoid the more important items.
