Why do I not look like the Clark side, my dad 's side of the family ?

@Hatley (118277)
Garden Grove, California
May 4, 2012 8:44pm CST
was just thinking how in my own family so m any of us did not really resemble our parents then I saw this visitor sit down beside the new resident at the next table over. They at first looked like twins but then I studied the visitor. He appeared about twenty years older than the new resident. But he had the square lean face of our new resident, the tall lanky leannesss of the new resident and his hair style was the same b t his hair had a few traces of grey in it so he might have been older than I thought. the new resident appears to be in his late forties but dad must be in his late sixties They even talk alike. Your take fellow residents, why do my self and my sister and ev end my son not look like the Clarks , my dad's side, at all? My son when he is with me in V ns makes the clerks always say"my its easy to tell this is your son, He really looks like you."B ut my hair was much lighter brown almost blonde and my son's hair is dark brown but we both have blue green eyes like the richey side my mom's side of the family.the thing is my son has the same identical shaped face as mine down to the crooked smile. Also I have a picture of m y grandpa richey when he was 20, and my son compared his o wn picture when he was twenty,amazing the resemblance, the only trait I seemed to have got from the C larks was my pale almost blonde hair, it was the palest of browns the hair stylist said I was an ash blonde.
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@pergammano (7737)
• Canada
5 May 12
Good evening, my dearest Ms. Hatley! Long time, no talk, I have been "missing in action!" Genetics are an amazing thing aren't they? But I do remember my Science classes...and there are dominant and recessive genes...and you are so right, it's weird, both my parents were extremely blonde..and I have amber red type hair..(the old expression used to be; someone dark in the wood pile)..LOL! My father; 6 foot 5 inches, My Mother; 4 foot 8 inches...and I am a paltry 5 foot 4".....but my son is 6 foot 2...go figure? First time I have been near No.1 to respond....HUGZ
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@ravisivan (13733)
• India
5 May 12
pergamannai--- see see you have beaten me. I wanted to post my response as the first for aunty's discussion. you succeeded. no problem. enjoy. it is said that in the world there are seven people resembling each other. yes. talking of big personalities --- Hitler -- there might have been six other people resembling him. So resembling aunty there must be six people all around the world. same thing applies to me and you also. good day.
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• Canada
5 May 12
It's a guarantee, dearest ravisivan....I will never be as handsome as you.....but how about being just a lady, with a good heart? does that work? Forgot to say, I would like to be considered, just a nice lady! Not often I am on the "lot" at night...so first for me being first on dear Ms. H's discussion......nice to be No.1...LOL! Take care ravisivan...I see you often amongst my dearest friends here!
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi pergammano and ravi congrats pergammano for being first. My dad was six foot mymom five nine, everyone was at least five six or seven me I am five foot two,eyes of blue,has anyone seen my gal. sorry got carried away only five ft two.also I know of two people who do look just like me b ugt sadly later I found out why, my dad was not the pious proper man he portrayed,he sired two girls my same age out of wedlock on one night stands and my poor mom never knew it and I found out I did not tell her either. their marriage was never good but they refused to divorce.My mom was the best, and she was married to a much older man who was sour and embittered on life.so I have four more people that look like me, a shorty with grey white hair and blue green eyes.wonder if I will ever get to meet them.Hi pergammano I am sure you are a pretty lady with a good heart and a very nice lady also I see from ravi picture he ie really good looking too.
@ShyBear88 (15093)
• United States
5 May 12
It's genetics it works in funny ways. Your dna is a string of mixed genes not only from your parents but other people related to you and your parents like there parents. Your not always going to have the same hair, eye color or skin tone. Take for expample my family. My mom is white with blue eyes those are resesive genes only two resesive genes parents can give her blond hair and blues my grandparents. Now my dad he is dark skin because he is hispanic so naturally he has dark eyes. Those are domintate genes because well they take over any resesive genes given to him which neither of his parents have. Now when they had me and my brothers the combations could have been blond hair black eyes, blond hair blues which is only a 25% like the other one. Now there is a 75% that we all would have dark sink, dark hair, and dark eyes and a very small chance of us having light skin dark hair and dark eyes. Now me one of my brother we look like my dad and his side of the family dark hair, dark eyes dark skin. Now my other brother he looks a bit more like my mom just with my dads dark hair and dark eyes. now when it came to me and my husband having kids we know we had a higher chance of our daughter having blond hair blue eyes because we both have those genes in us. So the luck of draw was that I gave my daughter my domintate gene of blond hair and blues that my mom gave me but it was just over powered by my father's gene. Now people say she looks like my husband because he has white skin and blues with blond hair and i don't. So now our son is more then likely to look like his big sister, but there is a small change he'll have white skin and dark hair and dark eyes or white skin with blue eyes and blond hair or even dark hair with blue eyes. But its more likely he'll look like his sister. Siblings tend to look some what smilar in genetic fetures but not all of the time its really the luck of what your parents eye and sperm had at that time of when they meet in the womb. Dna its a funny and hard world to understand.
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi shybear yes its a funny and a hard wo rld indeed to understand, My son when he was little looked like his dad and had his dads outoing personality b ut now he really looks like me, although he has dark hair he has my odd blue green eyes and the shapes of our faces are identical.My little daughter had my moms darker hair my eyes and my husband bubbly personality.The only trait I got from my own dad was my pale brown blonde hair and my shy introverted personality.and from somewhere way back I got the short gene as allof my near relatives were fairly tall. me I am five foot two with eyes of blue green. g
@ShyBear88 (15093)
• United States
6 May 12
Yeah I got the short end of the stick too in height. My second oldest brother he is the tallest of us three he is a bit taller then my dad and he is a big guy. My oldest brother he is like 5'6 and I'm like 5'0 maybe 5'1. My mom is like 4'9 so I got my mom's height and body type but personality wise the same as my parents they are both a lot a like. My daughter I think she is lot like her daddy but she has my temper a girl to fear for sure. She'll be short and thin like me so the doctors say because she doesn't gain much weight which is the same like me. I'm wounder what my little boy will be like but I have to wait another 19 weeks or so to meet him personally. Right now I think he is a bit of a soccer player like me.
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
10 May 12
hishybear you are even s horter than me, my roomioe is too I think shes five ft even. my mom was taller thane me too and my dad and my grandpa too.It will be fun seeing what your little son be will be like. so he is kicking is he maybe he will be a great soccer player who knows. what fun. do keep us posted when the great day arrivcs and he c omes out to meet the world. lol
@fheroan (622)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Hi there Hatley... When there are visitors or family friends visiting us at home.. when I'm with my dad, they'll tell me and my bro, that we looked like our dad, but when we're with our mom, they say we look our mom.. but when both of them are present, they say "What a good mix"... My parents are both filipinos, but my dad has some spanish blood... but in the end, both of me and my brother looked indians, that even indians mistakenly think we're indians... and its very awkward... One indian talked to me one time ago and I was like shocked, he keeps on talking and i don't understand a thing... But well, ya, guess this mixing or genes have to do with it.. Anyways, Have a nice day!
• Canada
5 May 12
Welcome to myLot! What a special compliment...you must be extremely handsome.....which most natives are...!
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@fheroan (622)
• Philippines
5 May 12
ahemmmm, im a lady.. :D
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• Canada
5 May 12
Truly sorry...and I hope you are NOT offended! SHAME on me for making a gender guess...Please accept my apologies?
@dragon54u (27584)
• United States
5 May 12
I have no idea, genes are a crap shoot. I got all the bad stuff from my dad's side and none of the good genes from my mom's side. I have soft teeth, a crooked back and was fat almost from birth just like my dad's side. My brother got the height, slim build and good teeth from Mom's side but my other brother, my sister and I got genes from our paternal side. Not fair!!!
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi tell me about it I got my pale white skin that look]s nordic from my irish C lark side, my dad's side, also the clark intorverted personality.I dont know wher I got my short gene bu t my mom and I both were plump. My son did not inherit my hubbys black hair and brown eyes nor did my daughter, but they both have the same optimistic personality as their dad had. He used to tease me about neither of our kids having his black hair and brown yes.I think the richey traits were too strong as both my kids had their dark blue green eyes .However my daughter had my moms hair color and my son had darker brown almost black hair.Everyone on both side were much taller than me. I am five two in shoes while my son towers over me and even my mom was five nine.the only traits I got from my dad's clark side are very pale skin that sunburns very easily and pale ash blonde hair now ash white while I have the Richey dark blue green eyes. I am so glad that my husband taught me to be more sunny, more positive in thinking.
@ravisivan (13733)
• India
5 May 12
Hatley aunty: Resemblance with parents -- yes this is the main topic whenever a new child is born. In South India we normally say if a girl child resembles her dad she will be lucky. Similarly it is also told that if a boy child resembles his mother he will be lucky. I was resembling my mother when I was young. But as I am getting aged--I think I resemble my dad--for that matter my brother resembles 100% my dad. My daughter resembles me and my son resembles my wife. --interesting.
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@celticeagle (76023)
• Boise, Idaho
5 May 12
Hey, Miss Hatley. Maybe you just can't see similarities. I know I didn't think my uncle and my grandma looked familiar. Nor my granpa. But when you see him in a photo you can really see the similarities. Odd, huh? I am not getting your discussions in my inbox or others much since that server problem.
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@celticeagle (76023)
• Boise, Idaho
5 May 12
I worked alittle lastnight trying to find discussions to answer and have only gotten comments back. Aggravating. Odd how herity works.
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi cleltic eagle I am only getting responses and comments to my own disucssions bu t no friends discussions and here I was so glad the glitch had not hit mylot in southern California,.yes heredity is so strange.I would have thought that my husbands brown eyes and jet black hair would be dominant genes b ut they were not.
@celticeagle (76023)
• Boise, Idaho
5 May 12
Me too. Ugh! Hope they fix it.
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@GardenGerty (75408)
• Marion, Kansas
6 May 12
The genetics is an obvious part of family resemblance, but the behaviors, and mannerisms come from being around that person or that part of the family. Both the physical characteristics and the mannerisms combine to make you look like your family. You probably spent more time with your mom's family. I know I did, so although I can see some of the family in my dad's side, I mostly see my mom's side when I look in a mirror.
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
8 May 12
ugh typo factors not factord darn.
• United States
5 May 12
I had always been told that I looked like my Mom when I was a kid. My Mother always said I did not look like her but like my Father. Though, I did not believe her til I saw my first and only picture of him about 10yrs ago. I knew I kinda looked like my half sister but did not really sink in until I got that picture. Now my Aunt will tell you sometimes that she's see's my Grandfather's looks here and there in kids and I don't see it at all. Though my Uncle looks like my Grandfather except face shape. My kids, well the oldest looks like Hubby, the middle is the spitt'n image of me except Hubby's eyes (they all have his eyes) and the lil guy I think he looks more like me. Oh well it's a crap shoot with every child who's looks will be more dominant. As long as everyone is healthy is all that matters.
• Canada
5 May 12
Just a haunty story....My Mother dumped me, when I was 2.5 years old.....I saw her at 12, but it was so traumatic, I didn't remember much of the occasion! Last March, she passed, and of course, I had to get involved...and the ONE picture I have of her....I am IDENTICAL...THANK GOD, not my hear...NOR my soul! It was almost creepy, how much I look like her, but how different I am as a person! Scared me ...a bit, 3Snuggles.
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi p ergammano oh my dear I am so glad that its just looks not the person inside when you saw the picture of your mom,thank God too as whats inside us is what really counts anyway.I bet it was a shock.My son as a baby looked a bit like my dad but as he grew older he looked like my grandad Richey then as he p assed the forty mark we do look so much alike and people always say I would know thats your son,he looks like you. My daughter had dark brown hair like my moms and brown eyes from her dad, but her face was shaped like my mom's., oddly my childrene did not get many traits of looks from my husband and he us ed to tease me about that , but my son has the same rich weird sense of humor that his dad had'and he lights up when he sees me like my husband used to do.it is as if someone shone a light behind them.Of course I was very close to my husband when he w as alive a nd now to my son too. Our daughter too had the same sunny outlook and extroverted pesonality as my husband,I always called hin the cockeyed optimist. I was the introverted one like my dad, shy and uneasy in a large crowd. I wo rked best alone.
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@blue65packer (11836)
• United States
5 May 12
I look like both parents. I know my family tree. Mostly on my dad's side. Years ago my dad and his brother's started looking into are family tree. We have a very well kept tree on my dad's side! I know alot about my family. My older brother,my half brother,has been working on our mom's side of the family. It is not as complete as my dad's but it is hard to track down some of the relatives because my grandpa's family,only half of them immigrated here!The rest stayed in Germany! On my dad's side I am Germany,too. So many people know a days don't know their family tree! I am glad I do and it will be kept up by my younger brother and some of my cousins!
@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi blue65packer I got the urge to use the net to do my genealory'and I have now got both sides of my family tree pretty much covered.I mostly have my mom's Richey looks the blue green eyes, the shape of my face is like my moms but the only C lark traits I have are su per fair white skin and ash blonde hair now ash white. lol.Also I think I got my shorty status from my dads people too. Neither of our children got my husbands dark brown eyes and black hair. though my sons is a very dark brown but he has the same dark blue green 'eyes that I have. I really enjoy working on my family tree and i met so m any great people and umpty nine cousins I did not know I had either.We were all looking for Thomas C Richey sr, parents and still have not found them either.Also I found that Clarks are Irish and came from Andweiler Clark in Derry Ireland,.I did follow the Ladd side which was my great grandmother Elizabeth Ladd's family clear back to John the imigrant Ladd and Bathsheba Lovett, who was resued from being tried as a witch by John the immigrant.She was only fifteen., lol.
@mr_pearl (5038)
• India
5 May 12
Hello Dear.. I really do not know things about genetics etc.. But these things are amazing. I have heard since my school days, that I looked like my Dad. The same goes with my brother too. And amazing thing is people still think that me and my brother are twins... LOL.. There are many among family friends and relatives, who still don't know who's who. It is all about genes, I understand. And those magical, tiny things cause a lot of fun and sometimes trouble... LOL... Take care my friend...
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi mr. pearl you are back, good to see you again.yes I think the genes all got mixed up in my Clark and Ric hey sides. I look like my mom and grandpa. My children neither one got my hubby' s dark brown eyes and black hair which was surprising. my son does have dark dark brown hair like my moms and also those dark blue green Richey eyes like mine and my moms and granddads. My son does look exactly like a male version of me but hes much taller. I did get the Clark's too fair skin and ash blonde hair now ash white hair, and maybe I got the short gene from the Clarks. I am only five foot two in shoes and have blue green eyes.I am so grateful that my hubby taught m e to be much less shy and more optimistic too.
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Good morning Madam, I don't have siblings, my height is from my mom and my face is from my dad, they told me that I am more look a like with my dad some says it's on my mom. My two daughters , Ann is almost look at his dad (did you see Annrielyn's avatar) and my youngest looks like her dad too. They don't have the same father. I'm glad that they are both tall that they got from their dad. Ann is more lighter skin and the youngest is more darker. Most of my friends told me they are regretting that no one from my daughters look like me.
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi lynboobsy my hubby used to tease me as neither of our two children had the combination of black hair and brown e yes he had. my daughter might have g ot some trait of darker hair from him but she had the same auburn brown hair as my moms, but she did get my husbands sunny outlook and love of people.my son now looks like a male copy of me.He has the same dark blue green eyes all the Richey side of the family have.His dark hair gene might come from my hubby but its a dark brown not black.My son is darker skinned than me so thats another trait from my dads Clark side that I have that same white white complexion, very fair, easily sunburned.also I have the clark ash blonde hair now ash white. .
@thesids (22553)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 May 12
Dear Ms. Hatley My parents are quite healthy and so is my brother. But I have been a skeleton since all times. I feel that it is about genetics and genes. but pesonally, dear ms hatley, do the looks matter? I feel in any family, it is not the physical resemblance but the emotional bonding, the caring and the feeling of being there which matters.
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@Hatley (118277)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 12
hi thesids no really they don't as its whats inside each of us that counts.I will always thank my husband for teaching me to really like myself, to think of myself as attractive even as' hort and plump as I am. He was dark to my light but in the things that really mattered he lit u p a room when he entered and my son now has that same trait. Its like someone turned on a light inside them and to me it was the reaching out of love from them to me.My dad must have had something tragic happen in his youth as he was a brooder who did not trust anyone at all, and all the time I knew him he was sour and embittered fro some reason..I did inherit his introversion but my husband helped me to become more optimistic and sunny too. My son resembles me in so many ways and he too lights up when he comes to see me.It seems to b e some special thing that only happened between me and my husband and now he is bone,its between my son and myself. Other people have noted that both my husband and myson do this when they first see me. that special glow to me means they really cared for me.
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
5 May 12
dear Hatley, Me and my siblings has a close resemblance to each other. But me and sister almost looks a like, aside from our body build- she is sexy and I am chubby (hehehe) When people see us- those who doesn't know us in person ask if we're twins or, they can easily tell we're sisters. Sometimes it depends on how people looks at us too, because some say I resembles like my dad, some say I look like my mom. But my three kids looks more of their dad than me. My daughter is a female version of her dad. Have a great weekend ma'm
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@KrauseHome (28093)
• United States
11 May 12
Well, when you look at everyone you will often see resemblences maybe in some of the people to you, while others you may not always look like. I know I look mostly like my Grandmother, and something like my real dad that I never really knew. I do have a brother who looks like both parents, who has a different dad than me, but it is quite interesting many times when looking at people who are related when sometimes you can see the resemblence in them, and other times you cannot.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
9 May 12
It is all about genetics. For example, my husband and I both have brown hair and brown eyes and I assumed that all of our children would follow in those footsteps. Well, our oldest did and has dark hair and eyes. She also inherited my husband's darker skin tone (he is part Cherokee Indian). Then, Paul was born. He was born with jet black hair and the bluest eyes that you've ever seen. We didn't know where it came from. I knew that I carried the blond/blue combination in my genes because my father was light eyed and had light hair when he was younger. However, my husband has still not been able to find a person in his past that had blue eyes, but it has to exist because of Paul's appearance.