Using mylot to talk about problems

@jonnifc (1021)
Philippines
May 7, 2012 12:44am CST
Do you find that mylot is a way for you to talk about some of your problems that you don't want to talk with your friends or family outside of mylot? I find that I do that most of the time. It's like my virtual think tank. 241,729 people can give you their opinion all in one place. Granted that only a fraction of that will actually give their response, it's still good to hear from someone who might not be affected by biases because they know you personally. Thanks mylotters!
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19 responses
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
8 May 12
First off of all the Mylot memebers alot are not active for alot of reasons! Anyway I try to talk about my problems on Mylot. Alot of people are getting sick of me complaining! So they ignore me or delete me as a friend! I am going through alot of crap lately and when I need the help the must I am not getting it! Even people at work are getting sick of me complaining! That is so dumb because I don't complain like some of the others at work! SOme of my co-workers complain about everything and it is every day! They want me to feel sorry for them! Not! So when I need the attetnion I am on my own! Right now I feel alone and frustrated! I suffer from depression on top of this which makes things worse! I try yo work on myself but it never lasts! I have no paitence! I can't trust myself! I am sick of trying to fix problems,steaming from my childhood,which I never can get over the wall with! I am morbidly obese! I have given up trying to lose wieght and have bad acid relix that no matter what I seem to do is helping it right now! I turn 50 later this month! Things get so much harder as we age and I am sick of it! I am going to call a hypnotis this week and make an appiontment so I can lose weight! I think mind control is my last hope! I am sick of battling with myself! I feel like the devil is pocessing me! It never ends! I need peace of mind! If not I will end up in a mental institution!
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
12 May 12
Oh my! What a predicament you have. Can I say something about the things you said? Well you can stop reading if you don't want to read further. It might just make you feel worse. Sorry dude! First of all, mylotters have the option to ignore or delete anyone they please. If we are at the end of that, we can't do anything about that. Just think that it's their loss, not yours. Maybe some people replied to you a long time ago but you didn't actually listen to what they were saying? And when you keep on talking about something, they just got tired of telling you the same things. I don't know what you went through in the past in mylot. I don't know what you wanted to talk about before. I'm just saying that maybe.... Now, you yourself admit that you complain a lot. Although, you say, it's not as bad as the others in your office, it's still bad because a lot of people have noticed it and are taking it against you. So what will you do about that? Keep complaining just because you're not as bad as the others? Keep thinking that everyone else is the problem simply because they have a problem with you? You know your weaknesses already. It's up to you to address them if you want to change for the better. Even of the whole world gives us advice, it's still up to us to actually make the first steps to change ourselves. We might need the support of others to keep going, though. We also have to be optimistic that there is always hope. Another day is another chance to live better and be better. We just have to find it in ourselves to ACTUALLY live better and be better. Knowing is different from doing. May I also greet you Happy Birthday? So happy birthday! I hope things work out for you! Take care!
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
13 May 12
I actually read another response from you in another topic after I answered here and realized that you're a dudette. My bad! You're right! I may not totally get you since I don't really know what you went through or are still going through. So I will just wish you well. Hope that hypnosis thing you are exploring will help you in the changes that you want for your life. Think positive, sister! There is always hope. All the best to you, friend! =)
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
8 May 12
It is what i do. When i have a problem, i cant say to anyone, i can ask people in mylot. I have to thank to all of mylotter who spend their time for my asking. I don't need to hide my problems in here because i can get useful advices. Thank to mylot!
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
12 May 12
I'm glad for you. I'm glad that you find help and advice here. Happy mylotting and hope to discuss with you again soon!
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
13 May 12
Yes, it is. And mylot is always a nice site for me to get advices to solve problems that i get in my life.
• Philippines
8 May 12
Its really fun here in mylot. You can share everything without hesitation. In this page, you can hear different thoughts and conversation.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
8 May 12
You are right, I love to read discussions in mylot.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
12 May 12
I agree! Sometimes I just read at what other people are talking about and I get entertained and I learn some too. I can eavesdrop on other people's conversations without abandon. Haha! Thanks for responding daisy_dion and ryanong!
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
I just have to say that we need to be careful. Sometimes, when we are ranting and having some hard problem, we can't control ourselves well and do something irrational and bad. Just be careful not to share our personal information or our personal problem too much, especially on the internet, a place where everyone can read your posts. It might harm ourselves..
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
8 May 12
I agree. The internet can be a very dangerous place. We should all proceed with caution if we do anything in the net. We will never know if someone is stalking us and making note of everything about us. Kinda like, profiling us already. Then they might steal your identity. I don't think that kind of thing is too far out. Thanks for your input!
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
19 May 12
That's why I think it's best to be just anonymous in most time on internet... For me, it is just a lot safest..
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
7 May 12
I do that as well. When I need to rant about something, I come here. When something made me tear up, I come here. It's like a good release of things in my mind. And the good thing is I get paid for it!
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
7 May 12
So true! It's cathartic sometimes, right? Definitely way better than getting a therapist. =) Thanks for responding!
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Yes, it is! And you get to know how other people (who do not really know you, hence, are impartial) think about your issues. And, sometimes you even know when you get sincere responses.
• India
12 May 12
Hello friend, Yes you are right. I also agree with you about the matter. It is a helpfull site for me. Have a nice day.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
13 May 12
It is very helpful, isn't it? It's great that in just one place, we can get connected with strangers all over the world and can discuss with them our problems. Happy mylotting!
• China
8 May 12
It is a sounded place for sharing ideas and opinions and I do like it very much.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
12 May 12
Right! There is freedom to say what we want to say without people judging us here. There might be some who will judge us but it will be of no consequence to us because we don't know them personally anyway. Thanks for sharing!
@much2say (40041)
• United States
8 May 12
Oh yah! I definitely use myLot to talk behind the backs of my friends and family - ha ha! But I do stay anonymous here and to my knowledge no one I know personally is here - so I think I'm ok! MyLot therapy is the best - hee hee!
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
12 May 12
So true! As long as we maintain our anonimity and just have our mylot personality, then we can say whatever we feel here. As far as I know, I've got no offline friends here too. Thanks for responding mylot-user-who-I-don't-know-personally. Haha!
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
7 May 12
I actually think it is a great place to talk about problems. I think that often when we are upset, we may exagerate a situation or just need to vent and let off some steam. We get a variety of opinions and suggestions from all walks of life which we can take or leave. The best part is that we often get alot of the anger, hurt or frustration out of our system so that we are then able to better deal with the problem head on from a less emotional state. Another thing, I don't think it is always good to talk about relationship issues with others close to you because these are people that probably love and care about you. It is only natural for them to form a negative opinion about anyone who is causing you to feel hurt or upset. Then if you go and find a way to work things out, rather than be supportive, they are not. I'm a fairly private person. If I feel the need for advice, I would rather get it here than to have everyone that knows me, know my personal business.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
12 May 12
I'm that way too. I don't feel comfortable talking about my issues with people I know because I fear they might take it against me or look down on me for having such issues. They know me personally, so for sure I will have to interact with them some time. But here, we are anonymous. That takes away our inhibitions somehow. Thus, making us talk freely and without abandon. Within the confines of mylot rules, of course. Thanks for responding!
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
7 May 12
Yes it is ok. You find out what people from other cultures think about your issue. You find out things about their culture, religion, problems. It's really a nice thing.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Yeah! We don't only get other ideas and opinions, we also end up learning about how things work in other cultures. We might not be able to learn about that especially if our set of offline friends are of the same race. Thanks for responding!
• Philippines
7 May 12
I believe it is easier to share problems with people you don't personally know. It is an easy way to receive objective responses in the sense that these people do not know you personally and would not latch any sort of familiarity with you to the problem. You get so many different opinions, and most of the time, it's surprising to see how a lot of people agree or disagree about a certain issue. If you see that they agree over something, then you usually can also agree with this. I air most of my problems on myLot because I am sure that there will be someone to respond and share or disagree with my sentiments. I find it the easiest way to look for unbiased opinions and it's the easiest way if you want to get something off your chest. :-)
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
8 May 12
IKR? It helps to get varied objective ideas and opinions about our problems. Sometimes it's hard for us to see our problems that way because we are already in too deep with our issues. We need a fresh pair of eyes, or many fresh eyes, to see things differently. Mylot gives us that. Thanks for your response!
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
Yes. In myLot, I often tell my problem. I feel, there are a lot of people, who can give me a lot of opinions. I also feel lighter, face all my problems.
@yanzalong (10174)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
All mylotters are friends and it is easier to talk thins over with other mylotters. Opinion given is often honest.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
7 May 12
You said it! We don't have to be pretentious or reserved when we are responding to topics because we don't really personally know who we're discussing with. Takes away a lot of pressure, too! Thanks and happy mylotting!
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
7 May 12
That's a thing I like about mylot, too. There are some problems I either doin't want to talk about with my family or friends, and there are stuff which they are biased in and want to hear someone's response who doesn't know me.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Right! Sometimes it's good to look at our situation through a stranger's eyes. Gives us an idea about what we're going through without our personal biases. And sometimes, we feel shy or ashamed to talk about something with our friends and families. And since we don't personally know each one here, it takes away our inhibitions. Isn't that great! Thanks for responding!
• United States
7 May 12
Yes I love to come on here and help others and get advice as well. I have been going through a lot lately and it helps to know that I am not alone. I have not posted a question in a while, but I am planning on it this week. I like the idea that nobody on here judges others and that we care about each other.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Right! I like that too! I hope you're doing well, though, since you said that you're going through a lot lately. We're all here for you, buddy! Thanks for your time!
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
7 May 12
I share stuff here that I don't share with my friends outside of mylot. I agree that we really get fast response from so many different nationalities when we share our thoughts, experiences and problems here. I also learn a lot of things by just reading one discussion. One thing that is good here in mylot is that I don't feel ashamed of sharing what ever it is I wish to share, because I really feel very welcome here and I know the members are very nice and friendly.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
7 May 12
That's so true. No one condemns you for your ideas here. As it should be. Sometimes with our offline friends, we get put down for thinking certain things or a certain way. Thanks for responding!
@sishy7 (27606)
• Australia
7 May 12
One more member joined after you post this topic... To me, myLot is like a hiding place from those who know me offline. I like it here where I can talk about anything that interest me without having to deal with anyone personally.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Wow! Your post made me check. We have a few new members since I posted this. 241,750 at this moment. And growing strong! Love it! You know, my thoughts exactly. It's so good to have a place where you can talk to so many people without having to see them personally. Sometimes that alone makes us courageous enough to keep talking about our ideas. Thanks for your time!
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
7 May 12
i do that as well.. not exactly tell problems.. just sharing what i think...ranting
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
7 May 12
I know, right? Sometimes we don't feel like ranting to a somebody face to face, even if it wasn't about them. It's great that when we let it out in mylot, suddenly we read about someone halfway across the world who is in the exact situation. Make us feel like we're not the only one experiencing it. Thanks for responding!
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct 12
I want somebody to hear me personally but if I can't find any of my offline friend, I prepare to open up it here. I understand many members can relate everyone's situation. Based on my observation, I got a positive from myLotters than an offline friend. From now on, I will always post it here everytime I have problem.