Is someone poison in your life??

Jacksonville, Florida
June 12, 2012 2:20pm CST
There is this person that I just had to get out of my life. They seemed okay at first and I was fond of them but I soon realized they were poisoning my positive energy. They brought me down so bad. Every time we spoke it was nothing but negative and she brought me to a place I did not want to be. I just didn't like the person I was around her, as in just so negative. I had to delete her existence from my life. I am not a mean person, I did it as nice as possible but I just could not handle it any longer. Man, I hate having to do things like that. It kills me. Do you have someone in your life that was or is poison to you? Did you have to delete them from your life?
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• China
13 Jun 12
Hi Lovingmybabies,I can understand your feeling.When we meet someone at first sight,someone always shows the nice side to us.We cannot judge the man is positive or negative by the frist sight.Time proves all. From my view ,you do not need to forget someone poison.All experiences in your life is great wealth for the growth.why not learn from them? I had ever tried to deplete someone from my memory,but I failed.So I have to change my mind,with a thanksgiving heart to forgive someone who had ever poisoned me.I’d rather rescue myself. Thanks
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun 12
Yes we see the good side of people at first because that is what they choose to show us... When their true colors start showing that is when we realize who they really are. Yes I have learned from this experience but I refuse to let someone bring me down constantly. There is no room for that mess in my life.
• China
14 Jun 12
Uh huh...''there is no room for that mess in my life'' I like the sentence. You are so intellectural.Come on!
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
Thank you. I liked the sentence too. I am intellectual, thank you. =)
@inertia4 (26997)
• United States
13 Jun 12
You're lucky you could actually remove that poison from your life. I am not that lucky. I still need to have some kind of communication with the evil ex because of the kids. She is more then just poison. She turns my stomach. I can no longer stand the sight of her, she is repulsive to me. But because of the kids I have to pretend for now. And I feel bad for the guy she's with, she has plans on rolling him and taking his money as well. She is a bit@h. I have no problem removing garbage like that from my life.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
Yes I am so grateful that I had the choice. I feel very bad for the people that do not have that choice... =( Like you with the evil ex. Yeah, that is how I felt about this girl too. I feel like I am walking on egg shells around her because she always wants to fight. She gets mad over the smallest things and wants to start drama. I cannot stand drama in my life and she was WAY too much of it for me. She was a user and lied to me also on several occasions. She made me so angry when I was around her and that is just not me. So, I knew she was no good for me. She was poisoning my life and my well being.
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@inertia4 (26997)
• United States
24 Jun 12
The evil ex is also a liar. She is only nice when she wants something. She is not a good person. I was talking to my therapist about the whole thing and he mentioned a name for her kind of person. She is all about money and nothing else. Well, she will never get a thing from me ever again. I am not playing games, I never did. The one thing she cannot handle is the fact that I am blunt and to the point. That she cannot say anything to. So I just go about my business.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
13 Jun 12
I think that most people experience this type of person in their lives at some point in time. It is very difficult to delete them, especially if you were at one close to them. In my particular case, two people really stand out as being poison. One is my ex-husband, whom I was married to for 24 years and finally got up the courage to leave. I haven't spoken to him since I left over 5 years ago. The other person is my older sister. I didn't even notice it for a long, long time but she is so extremely jealous of me that I finally had to just stop associating with her. She is very insecure and immature. (She is 56 years old). She is one of those people who tries to make herself look good by making others look bad and she constantly did this to me. I finally had to say enough is enough. I am not angry with her, I don't hate her, I just don't have room for all her drama in my life. In order to cut out the drama, I had to cut her out.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
Yes everyone does experience it at one time or another and that is why it made for a good discussion because most people can relate... Wow, 56 years old and still jealous of her sister. That is unbelievable, I thought that stopped at a certain age, lol. I guess not. I have never understood people that put others down to make themselves look better. I always think the people that put others down are not helping their case, they make themselves look REALLY bad. Yes I hate drama. This girl has used me since I have known her. She lies to me & expects me to drop everything for her. It is just too difficult to be friends with her, you know? It is always something with her, always. It can never be peaceful and nice. It is always extreme drama because that is the way she likes things, dramatic. I am 4 years older than her and usually that would not make much difference but in this case it REALLY does. She is SO much more immature than I am. I have always been told I am very mature for my age so to hang out with someone younger than me it is tough... That is why I just had to delete her, too much work and problems...
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
19 Jun 12
Yes, great topic for discussion and certainly most people can relate. As for my sister, well, I think she'll always be jealous. She should have been an only child. She's always so worried that someone is getting more than her, even at this stage of her life. It's really sad. Best to just move on leave people like that to their own selfish, dramatic, jealous ways. Sometimes it is the only way to deal with it.
• United States
13 Jun 12
Believe it or not, I was the poison for one " friend" I have always been positive when it comes to my friends but negative about my own life. I am a vengeful person so when I started a post about I rater be broken then Have to forgive someone, she went off. I asked Why? I am still the same person. We went back and forth on email. and I say I am not going to change. and she left. Now she is happy, I hope and I am happy. Am I prying? Of course I am! Did you have to stop talking to your bragging sister? Or was there someone else putting you down? Don't answer me I'm just be nosy! You did the right thing. You love your life And you are a good person! That's all that matters. And anyone who can't or won't see this can take a flying f@ck at a rolling donut!
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun 12
See, this negative person was not just negative in attitude like life sucks type of thing, no. That I could have dealt with but she was manipulative, lied to me several times, used me for babysitting, got mad when I went to my sisters engagement party instead of being with her, didn't ever call or text unless she needed something, etc... It was all poison. Everything about her was poison! No, it isn't my sister silly. It was my girlfriend who I cared about a lot until one day I woke up and got smacked with reality, she is no good for me.
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• United States
14 Jun 12
Good! I'm glad that it isn't your sister And that you woke up to see this person for what she truly is. You are a nice woman and you deserve True friends , not users! Brava for now being able to see the difference. I'm proud of you!
• United States
13 Jun 12
i also have a friend who is like this but unfortunately i havent been able to delete her from my life. it seems just like how you described her. i rarely hear anything positive out of her mouth. i have tried changing it to a positive for her and she always has something to come back with that is more negative than where we started. i dont mind listening but at times i will catch my attitude has changed for the worst not the better. it had crossed my mind to just not talk to her anymore but at the same time there are a lot of things going on in her life and i would hate to just abandon her like that. not saying that what you did was bad because the most important person is you and if you felt things were bad for you then you have to do what you have to do.
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun 12
I'm sorry you cannot delete her just yet. I am so proud of myself for realizing she was poison for me and deleting her because that was something I would never be able to do. I am always the one to let others walk all over me so when I did it I surprised myself. Well, this person that I deleted did not have anything going on in her life so I just could not feel guilty about it. I had to do what was best for me. She brought me down so much. I hope one day you find the strength to delete your poison... =)
• United States
14 Jun 12
it ok i guess. there are days that i have came close to deleting her but something always comes up and those plans change. i guess i am the same way i do have the habit of letting people walk all over me also. i will do whatever makes everyone else happy and i guess sometimes i am to nice. i can be mean at times but it takes a lot or a lot of smaller things built up to really make me mad. thank you and i am hoping i can find it in me to change a lot of things and if that means deleting her so that my life can go back to normal and i can feel and act diffrently then i guess it might come down to that.
@marguicha (83895)
• Chile
12 Jun 12
had to delete some people from my life from time to time. Sometimes it`s just something easy such as drifting away. But other times it has been hard and I have felt it has been a means of survival for me. Last year I did that to my older friend. We were friends since we were kids. But it suddenly dawned on me that I hadbefriended her all those years and she had used me.
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun 12
Yeah I think most people have at one time or another. For me it was hard. I felt really bad just getting her out of my life but if I didn't do it, no one would do it for me. I am just usually such a nice person but she tried to get the best of me. I do not like people that use others. That is so unacceptable and rude...
@marguicha (83895)
• Chile
13 Jun 12
I am sure that only people that you love have the power over you to make you really unhappy. That´s why all this hurts so much and it is so necessary. You´ll be better off without your bad friendf.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
Unfortunately, I know someone like this. And I'm always around this person, so I know what you mean about having whatever positive energy, and then being sucked out from you. If you've read the Harry Potter books, then you would know about dementors. I call this person my own personal dementor.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jul 12
Yeah I think we all know someone like this unfortunately. My poison just recently FINALLY got out of my life for good! She would not give up, she kept calling even though I told her I want nothing more to do with her. I used to babysit for her so she thought I would still do that for her...NOT! She lied to me constantly, wanted discounts on my services, she talked to me like I was stupid, told me she wanted to sleep with MY husband even though she is married herself! Ugh, just absolute poison!! I wish you could get rid of your poison. This girl brought me down so bad BUT I got rid of her so I am so glad for that! I wish everyone could get these kind of people out of their lives too...
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
21 Jun 12
In the past I have had a couple of them that are so negative...and yes....I dropped them like a hot potato! I think they like bringing down others because they are not happy with their own life..like they say...misery loves company!
• Jacksonville, Florida
22 Jun 12
Yup, you have to get them out now a days or they will keep doing it! That is the truth, misery does love company.
@KrauseHome (34153)
• United States
21 Jun 12
Well, for me, it was someone renting a room from us last month, and she is now out, and far away from me, so things are getting a little better. For me I should have followed the warning Flags, but chose to ignore them and it ended up not being Good at all. I do know that people like her that were constantly cutting me down and trying to hit on my husband are never going to get anywhere for sure.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Well, that sad to know my friend. But better to talk to that person about it so that everything going to be better...and he stop poisoning your mind or anything in your body
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
I have already been down the talking road but it didn't work. She is just not worth the effort to do so again. I am past that point with her...
@alutka (211)
13 Jun 12
once was in my life such a person, it was fun and nice at first, but then everything changed, I began to feel trapped, blocked, stlumiona.Nie quickly figured that this should be the end, but now I know it was a good decision, the only one that allowed me to re oddychac.To are never easy decisions are always difficult choices and moments for each of the parties, but time goes by, life goes on, and everything is back to normal ...
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
Yes, you have explained it so well. At first it was good and then all of a sudden it changes! I felt trapped, angry, uncomfortable and overall just not good at all. She had to be out of my life, that is all I felt. She lied all the time over stupid things which I absolutely cannot stand liars like that, she is a terrible mother and I am a really good mother, She has a child that acts like an animal so I was always stressed out over her house, she used me and took advantage of my kindness, and she was SUPER dramatic, she loved drama which I cannot stand! Everything she is, I cannot stand to be around...
• Uganda
13 Jun 12
What do you mean by "poisoning" your positive energy? In everyday language, a poison is a substance that causes injury when absorbed by an organism. How can "positive energy" be "poisoned"? Is this "positive energy" an organism? Is it a catalyst? How can you absorb a person into your "positive energy"? I do not understand your statement. It does not make sense to me at all.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
What I meant by poisoning my energy is she drained me of my kindness. She always wanted to start drama and fights. That is not the kind of person I am. She lied to me, used me, took advantage of my kindness and she is not a good friend at all.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
13 Jun 12
Yes, and thank God he is my ex now.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
Lol. That is good! =)
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
I have a friend who did exactly what you mean. She treats me so kindly and tells me things that she hears from other people about me. She sounds so caring about me and seems so concerned. But lately I found she is a traitor. She tells me something that a certain person tells about me- and after asking my opinion- she will turn to that person and relay my message- what a traitor I have. Slowly I cut the connection with her and she asks why I am starting to treat her cold. I never said a word and just tell her that I am busy with few things that is why I don't have much time with her. She felt maybe that I have found out her true identity and later she cut the connection between us totally.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
Yeah they always seem so sweet and so friendly when you first meet them, don't they? This girl was the same way. So openminded, friendly, down to earth, just normal... Then I got to know the real her and it was so shocking to me! She was a liar, user, dramatic, and not a good mother either. She was the total opposite of who I thought she was. Oh, I hate that kind of person that seems like your friend but is talking behind your back and telling your business. Ugh. I have had a few of those in my life too. I cannot take that mess. People like that are not worth our time...
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
Well, there are really a lot of people in our lives that really poison us and our lives. It is a typical story. But how I see into it, is that they are instruments that could ruin or make us stronger people. They could make us stronger people because the next time around we could deal with these kinds of people if we could meet someone like them in the future.
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Jun 12
Yes they can teach us lessons and make us stronger people. I don't want to have to deal with these kind of people though. I have enough going on in my life, I do not need more...
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
I've had emotionally draining, or energy-depleting people in and out of my life. They're usually officemates whom I gradually lost contact with, thank God. I guess we will always encounter such people who offer negative vibrations or suck the positive energies out of you. it's hard if such a person is a family member. On the other hand of the spectrum are the positive, cheerful and helpful people with good vibes, and who are a joy to be with. Do you have more positive people than negative & emotionally draining friends or acquaintances in your life?
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Jun 12
Yeah that is how this one was. Absolutely emotionally draining. I could not handle it anymore. At least office mates leave now and then so you get lucky with that. Lol. There will always be someone who comes in and tries to knock us down with negative things. Yes I do have more positive people in my life and I am trying to keep it that way. =)
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
13 Jun 12
I have some friends that are very negative people but I didn't push them out of my life, I tried and I still am to make them see things in a different light. I know that people can bring you down but I prefer to look at things the other way : I can make them happier. I know it sounds idealistic but if you think about it, it's true. If you are sad and you meet a friend who is very happy and starts acting silly trying to make you laugh, eventually you will. I used to be a very realistic person but I decided to be more optimistic because this way I can push myself more to achieve my dreams and no one will take that away from me. If I'll meet a person that I really can't change for the good and that really doesn't want to make things better I'll probably do what you did. But after and only after I tried my best.
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun 12
No not negative in that way. She used me for babysitting, she said mean things to me very sarcastic things, she put me down and hurt me a lot, she got mad at me for going to my sister's engagement party instead of being with her and she was a negative person in general. I did try my best to let her use me for babysitting, I didn't make her pay me the right amount because I thought she was my friend. I tried and tried to control my anger around her but it got worse and I just could not handle it anymore. I am not a door mat for people to walk all over whenever they choose to. I don't think so. That will not be me any longer...
• Bangladesh
13 Jun 12
Being with good thinking or being with good people is similar to being with God. We must be cautious so that they cant infuse bad info into us. We must declare crusade by reasons and next by weapons agaist those poisonus crap people.
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun 12
Being with good people is needed in this world. We need to weed out the bad ones. No one needs to be brought down, life does that enough.
@pormadi (1300)
• Indonesia
13 Jun 12
I have ever someone poison in my life. I think, we do not need to delete a person like that. According to me, we should try to comprehend their personality without make us be effected. We can live normally with him/her. We live in our own way.
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun 12
I think having poison in our life is not healthy for us. It is only harming us in the long run. The poison I had was using me for a babysitter all the time. She would ignore me for days and all of a sudden talk to me again if she needed a sitter. Her personality was a User. No one should have to put up with that, sorry. No one should be treated that way, I would rather never see her again than to put up with that every day...
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
13 Jun 12
My dad is the person in my life! I can't delete him from my life but he is 88 and not in the greatest health. I rarely communicate with him and only see him a few times a years. He is the root of all my problems! Some of those problems I am still trying to conquer! I won't go into details but he was a very lousey dad!
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun 12
I'm sorry. =( No you cannot delete him. I cannot delete my other poison because of being family but I just avoid them as much as possible. I'm sorry you had such a lousy dad. =(