I don't like being threatened!!

I had already come out to the car and was waiting for them to come along. If I was picking them up I may or may not have gone to the door. And it being during the late part of the day(4:30ish) I didn't see a problem. I wouldn't think there would be any reason for the police. Again I only do this once or twice one or two times a week. It's not like it is every day!

I think he has been waiting quite a long time to say something and so he was doubly frustrated about it.

Maybe he remembers you. lol Yeah, he could have probably made a polite request, but it's possible the language barrier was frustrating him, or maybe he was just plain being mean about it. It really isn't nice to make the first comment about it a threat, so I can totally see why that would make you irritated.

I fully understand the day sleeper thing. I really can. My problem is his attitude and threatening me.

I still think he could have been more cordial.

Its one or two honks once or twice a week. I can't see where there is such a problem. If it was ever day over and over I could definitely see a problem. I think he could have handled it better. Even with a foreign language in the way.

Very interesting. THanks for your input.

I think he was rude too. I think that when anyone is asking another for something it is smart to be nice. Talking does solve alot of problems but when there is a language breakdown that can be a problem.

Very true. But if there are any other dealings with this person they had best be cordial or I will say something.

I wish that were the case. No honking that I heard. I am there all day!

celticeagle, it's possible that you were the nth person to honk or make some loud noise that day so the man's anger was partly the fault of other people. A bit unfair but it's annoying when lots of people irritate you in short space of time, even if they're not connected.

In fact I hate to say it but my son would have came out yelling and screaming if he was the one who was woken up out of his sleep all the time. He has a temper on him.

I thank you for your honesty. I have always suffered from over sensitivity.

I was so glad to live in the country with no neighbors to disturb me for most of my working years. I would get frustrated and maybe scream to myself but not to anyone else.

thats not right they speak broken English yet you arent the minority there grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Ya, I just looked at him like he was totally weird and said, "Oookay". Them following rules has got me alittle paranoid around here. We are not the minority and they are being very compliant and good. If we do ANYTHING wrong we could get evicted. Makes me nervous.

I meant to say we ARE NOW the minority. It stinks. There are probably three Americans in our corner down here in the three bedrooms. And that is out of about 19 apartments.

I allways have done the same and I would be upset if someone threatened me. hope it works out for you.

Thanks.

We have a curfew here too. It is 10p. til 8a. and I am always respectful of that and make sure the kids are too. And, I agree, night workers are sort of over looked and not respected. I used to work nights too.

I have heard there are fines in other countries. Not here in US. I have social anxiety so reunions with the other tenants isn't an option. I just feel he could have been more cordial.

I can understand what you are saying but I still think he could have been nicer and not threatened me. That bothered me.

Ya, I agree. If I had known their was a day sleeper I may of been using the horn less. ANd again, I was doing it once or twice probably two times a week. It wasn't like I was doing it repeatedly everyday. THere is rule in the complex that we are to be quiet during the hours of 10p. and 8a. and I always am respectful of that. I think I am a respectful person and if he would have something to me in a nice way I would trip all over myself to keep us all quiet for him. Really!

PointlessQuestions, you say you choose to be a night worker. I suspect that many night workers are poor and do night work because they didn't have many job options.

Many people working days are also poor. Working nights usually affords people a little bit better pay... I did choose to work at night. I worked all shifts, and found that night time was my niche.. and it paid better too.. I made a dollar an hour more at night, because no one wants nights. It was good for me. Being a nurse at night was a good thing... working 12 hour shifts at night, was long and hard sometimes, but it was a good job. Working nights doesn't mean you are poor... we are all poor for that matter. I owned a house, but still wasn't comfortable.. why? Because I was doing it by myself! If you are working, you chose a certain job to work... whatever shift you work is the one you chose to keep working there. If they need you on nights, you choose to work nights or work somewhere else... no one forces us to take a job against our will.. at least not here in the states. Yes, you take what you can get, but you still make the choice to work that job or not. Graveyard shift isn't such a bad deal. I worked it for more than 20 years. The only bad thing was that my daughter didn't see much of me. She is grown now and understands that I had to make a sacrifice to provide for her when her father refused to step up and support his child in any way. I wasn't a victim to work nights... it was a privilege to have a job and to make decent money at it. Celtic.. I believe you are a very nice person... that's why I said if you knew you would have been more mindful of a day sleeper. You didn't know and the guy who said something was quite rude to you. The way I feel about it, is that if I'm working at night... that's my problem to deal with. I can't expect the world to stop because I work nights. Yes, I have been irritated and aggravated, but still, I don't have a right to force the world to stop and work according to my work schedule. I'm the one working abnormal hours, not them. It's my obligation to make my sleep time possible.. buying ear plugs is probably the best thing to do to shut out the noise of people talking near your window... that's irritating and drove me nuts in the trailer park... at home in my house that dad built and gave me was different... we had no neighbors. My mom always had a sign "Day Sleeper" or something like that.. and "No Soliciting" because salesmen would knock... so it is up to us to make our sleep environment better for us. I really enjoyed nights because it was a slower pace and paid much more a pay period.. I got $80 more every 2 weeks than the day person. I'm a very mindful person... so if I knew someone was a day sleeper, I would do my best to stay quiet. I lived at home with my dad growing up... he never went to bed in all the years of my growing up. He worked two jobs... he just napped between them on the couch and got up and made his day on each job and then came home to nap and then get up to do it all over again. He didn't complain... except when we made too much noise... it was bad for me cause I couldn't watch my cartoons when he was laying on the couch.. it would keep him awake. So I appreciate day sleepers and what they go through... but I think we have to make it work for us the best we can without making other people miserable in the process.

Oh, I certainly don't want any trouble. I just think he could of been nicer. I don't like being threatened when someone is asking me to do something for them.

I REALLLLy don't have a problem with the honking situation. It is his attitude and the way in which he ask me. THreatening someone is not a good way to get ME to do ANYTHING. It just makes me mad and I want to go honk my horn daily several times. I am rather nervous around here anymore anyway. These foreigners are all very quiet and keep to them selves. Never a problem. If my family does anything wrong I am afraid we will be kicked out of here. We are now the minority. I am sorry to hear of your eviction. That is what I am up against here. There are so many rules and I really think housing likes having these people here. They are easier to get along with and have around than Americans.

Alittle. THis has caused me to rethink my actions. It probably gets irritating for the kids too.

And, like I had said previously, there is a rule in the complex that we are to be quiet during the hours of 10p and 8a. and I am always quiet during that time and make sure the kids are as well. I don't mind changing my way of doing things if someone is polite and nice when they ask me.

it isn't like I do this all the time or off hours. THere is a rule that we are supposed to be quiet between the hours of 10p and 8a. and I have always done that and made the kids abide by it. But this is like two times a week. If I was a light sleeper I could really understand it. Being a deep sleeper i guess I don't so much.