How can one develop patience and coolness?

Yes, it sure does takes all types of people to make a world. I think discipline is what is needed to develop patience and coolness. And if you practice meditation I think this will help you learn to be patient. It is a very good characteristic to undertake and it does take practice.

hi, You can aim not to get flustered under any circumstances and make it a goal the day is dedicated to patience. When we have such a mindset we tend to put a break / stop /pause before losing our temper. Developing patience is much like physical exercise because it requires persistence and effort. I used to prepare myself both the ways i.e. if the day goes smooth or the day is bad, that gives you time to rethink and respond to adverse situations over the matters, mostly at work.

Any reaction a person has gotten into the habit of using can be changed by planning ahead. It may not be easy, but the idea is to prepare in advance for specific things we know will set us off by having a well practiced answer in mind. If it is a difficult person who tends to get us flustered, one way to handle it is by saying back what they have said only rephrased. Example: A man tells his wife he thinks she is putting on a few pounds. She could get mad and scream, or be sad and cry, or she could simple say, "It seems to me that you are concerned with my weight." Or, what I would probably say would be "Excellent observation! Therefore I guess I will not cook any dinner for us tonight." We can all be patient without being door mats, RFLOL.

Dear friend, I feel it is a part of controlling our mind that is connected to our body movements. May meditation, yoga, and techniques of stress and anger management could help a lot to develop patience. May we need that willpower and confidence on our of controlling our mind.

U are thinking great ,, Most important about a person is the NEEDS,, eg,, food shelter and clothing etc.,,I guess u will agree. some need a lot more than the others,, that is why there are different types of people. One important aspect of my life is patience and everything else is secondary. You may write a book about this topic,if asked to,all I can think about right now is to listen (well patience)more and realize the situation,, think and then act.We are living in a modern time now, therefore we have to be ready for the surprises,, Be good to all ,,Never run out of patience,,U will never lose ur composure.Have faith in the Almighty,,U will succeed in whatever u wish for. Enjoy ur day.

I think I am cool.Others around me also think I am calm and cool,calm and patient.I don't get irritated easily.But it is difficult for me to say how I became so.An old gardener who comes to our house daily says that I was not so when I was in my teens.I don't remember how I was then.He says and I just smile and keep silent.May be my habit of reading religious books reformed me.I tend to read a lot.That may be a reason although I may be wrong.

It is not easy to develop coolness if you are not a cool person, and that was what I used to be like. I have practised meditation every for he past 30 years or so, and patience is a quality that I seemed to have developed from the discipline. I wasn't particularly looking for it, but it just gradually happened over time. _Derek

Dear Kalav Great discussion. And I need to read some new things here which would help me. I read that meditation helps in what you ask - stay cool and patient. Tried it but never knew if the way I was meditating was right (I did mention this on another discussion from you). So I cannot say on whether this helps or not. For me, what helps most of the times is - I ask myself the "Why" of everything instead of confronting the other people involved. That asking myself why helps in many ways - I might find the reason or not but surely it takes time. During this time, the impatience, the fuming etc - you realize these arent worth it. Again, by the time (if you fail on all fronts) you are free from the unanswered why, the other people have left the place and moved on with other things and you too start to realize that you should move on and there is nothing much you can do about the spilled milk but only clean up the mess (if it still exists). And yes, I would also mention this works for me maybe because I am at home most of the time with almost no one around most of the time. But I did start doing thing some 10 years back when I was better in health and also working at office.

I think most of the time people are patient or cool on the outside but on the inside... no one knows... I wouldn't worry too much, as long as I am being truthful to my own feelings and thoughts...

It is one of the best habit that we should follow on our entire life. If we are soft in nature we may be a cool guy, as observed in my personal expeince. I could say that there is nothing other than patients and cool in our day to day life. We can develop tis good habit by doing pactices, not a special one, but the life itself.

We can master them only by being scientific being spiced with humanity. Is it possible?

Hi kala, normally i am a calm person with lot of endurance. We can develop patience by our training, just be calm and keep silence when you are in a critical position and try your maximum to avoid and control anger, at the beginning, it is hard,. but you will become cool with your continuous practice