He was in a bad mood so?
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15745)
Philippines
July 13, 2012 10:02pm CST
Hubby was in a bad mood last night, i guess too much stress but then i am also stressed. Like i am working too! not just him but i always try my best to have a smile on my face so the kids won't be affected. We went home and i cooked the meals and try to make the aura happy... it is something i love to do but then when he is not helping i just gets irritated too! I mean it is hard when you are stressed out too but sometimes someone's got to do it right? and i did. I just got irritated at him for being that way. We had a fight over it and him saying i do not understand, how come i do not i am also working like him! 
i cried myself to sleep and i slept at the other room. I cannot help it just got so upset. I heard him left at 9 in eve, i guess he went out for a drink. I was thinking of doing that as well but my kids were there and i do not want to leave them, still someone's got to do it, and it is me, look after them...
at dawn, i felt someone squeezing in the bed, the room i slept has a small bed and i choose to sleep there to be with myself just tonight. I saw it was little boy who squeezed, Juanzen..glad he came. My daughter and my youngest slept together.. then at around 3am i then felt someone squeezed in the very small bed..and guess who it is? my husband. we were like sardines in the bed. He said sorry and i just nodded and went back to sleep. i am just so tired.
i cried myself to sleep and i slept at the other room. I cannot help it just got so upset. I heard him left at 9 in eve, i guess he went out for a drink. I was thinking of doing that as well but my kids were there and i do not want to leave them, still someone's got to do it, and it is me, look after them...
at dawn, i felt someone squeezing in the bed, the room i slept has a small bed and i choose to sleep there to be with myself just tonight. I saw it was little boy who squeezed, Juanzen..glad he came. My daughter and my youngest slept together.. then at around 3am i then felt someone squeezed in the very small bed..and guess who it is? my husband. we were like sardines in the bed. He said sorry and i just nodded and went back to sleep. i am just so tired. 3 people like this
8 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
We're in the same situation but yours is a lot better. We fought last night too, but instead of talking about it, he'd rather keep quiet and not talk about it. He ignored me the whole day saying that he needs to cool his head - when I was the one who was supposed to be angry!
Until now we're not in a speaking mood - well, he doesn't talk to me at all. It's really sad. But he'd rather distance himself and ignore me than to talk about our issues.
I'm deeply sad right now. I cried the whole day and I'm not feeling well. Didn't sleep well last night because I'm not used to not resolving things before going to bed.
It's a sad day for me. But I hope there's still hope.
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Oh i hope things are better now with you and your partner laydee. Sometimes it is hard when both of you are in disagreement over something and the other one does not lower one's pride. Eventually he will miss you and things will be better. 
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
I am happy to report that we've patched things up and we're still in love with each other and ready to continue. I am glad he talked to me and sorted things out. I guess there are times when these men just need their time out! But we've come across an understanding never to never ignore me again!
Thanks for the wishes! Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
That's the ups and downs in a relationship my dear.
Don't worry, nothing is perfect in every situation.
Just stay calm and that's the part where wives should be (which sounds unfair sometimes)
but,you have to endure for the sake of your family and kids.
You have lovely kids with you and I am sure they're the one who gives you strength all the time
it's weekend...let's enjoy 
it's weekend...let's enjoy @jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Thank you, my daughter is enjoying her math classes.. i never thought i would use math and enjoying in the same sentence!
i see mr sun today! @jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
i posted the wrong response! lol this was supposed to be in the other discussion! 
things are better now between me and hubby, we let the rain pass and things are sunny again.
things are better now between me and hubby, we let the rain pass and things are sunny again.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
14 Jul 12
I guess within in a marriage, we all have our own moment, upset, sadness, and irritation all together. We are not perfect, and we sometimes let too much stress overcome our kindness. Being a family should be supportive, and be rational. Try to stand in his shoe, and look at how to solve the problem at his side. We all trying to solve the problem on hand. not to make it worse. I hope that you and your husband can work it out, and do not commit the same mistake over again.
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
I always try to see things at his point of view king, everytime we go home, i always make things the way he wants it as i know he will get mad when things are not the way he wants it... sometimes it gets tiring because somehow how i wish he also things the way i see it.
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
15 Jul 12
I know how that feels. When my dad is in a bad mood, he would do all sorts of things that would ruin everyone's mood. He have a real bad temper when stressed out. I got this habit of his but I try to control my temper because I don't want my loved ones to get hurt. You are right for doing your best to maintain a good aura in front of your kids. Throwing a fit in front of them isn't advisable as they might get the habit. Maybe your hubby should spend a few minutes of alone time in a room first after work to relax his mind and improve his mood.
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Oh i know how it feels seriousnuts, sometimes it is better to be alone when we feel that way.. so no other people will get affected
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
14 Jul 12
Hi friend, due to our work loads we will get tension and stress easily, due to this we are getting irritation and anger, it is the reason for the bad mood, we will be cool after getting relaxation
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@grenzy8 (183)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
There are really times that you got to experience this kind of situation. Where both of you are really stressed up. It's inevitable and you can't do anything about it. Guys sometimes are just too expressive and honest with their feelings. But you should have talked it over it's not good to sleep over the problem it might get worst if both you you will keep your silence. At least your lucky that your husband knows how to say sorry. Hope both of you are okay now.
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
Yes he did say sorry and somehow i am glad he did.. we are ok now, we have not talked about it yet as i left for office early this morning while he was still sleeping.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 12
hi jazel__juan isn't it so good to be able to come here and share and sort of lighten ones m ood a bit. I am so glad your husband finally came to his senses and said sorry. thats a big admission for a lot of men,you sound like you were really exhausted by then,.
Sometimes men just do not understand til you really explain in depth that you too get tired yet someone has to care for the children and thats you a lot of the time.hope things will be
better for you now. I know I used to feel bad when we had an infrequent spat.His way of making up was cuddling and of course you know how that went. men!
aking up was cuddling and of course you know how that went. men!1 person likes this
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
Oh yes when we are happy and in those happy moments how i wish we are always like that but then again no marriage is that perfect right Ms. Hatley? Well i am also glad he was the one said sorry this time, i was just exhausted and yes i am so glad there is mylot to share this one as i do not know how else to talk to. I do have friends to share it with but all of them are also going through a lot of things and sometimes i feel like they would not understand...
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
14 Jul 12
People get into their bad moods. I think that women often handle stress better than men do, though. At least, that's been my experience within my own relationships, and it has been what I have observed with other couples.
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