What makes me avoid some discussions

@Suggar (3606)
Bulgaria
July 20, 2012 6:29am CST
Are the people who start them. I have nothing against anyone, no hard feelings, I don't want to criticize anyone, but I am here only since 2-3 days and I already am seeing how some people doesn't answer to the responders in their own discussions. It may be caused because the posters are busy posting new discussions, answering to discussions where they already participated or something else. It's all good, we all earn because of our activity, not the activity of the others. But the responders of our discussions are helping us earn better money. It is connected because if you see that your responders are posting more and you answer them, it will give you a chances to increase your own activity and build better connection with the online friends.
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• United States
20 Jul 12
Mylot's notification system has been off for a bit, and I've noticed that people have been responding to my discussions, but I haven't been getting notified properly. Without the emails it's very hard to keep up with a discussion.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Probably that is one of the reasons. I am not using the emails for what most people probably use them. I log in here and check "started" and "responded". It helps me very good. Even if I have to open the discussions where I responded and never have been answered by the poster, I do check them. It might be considered as wasted time, but I would like to be able to pay attention for everyone who paid attention for me.
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• United States
20 Jul 12
I've noticed that you have to wait a couple days. A lot of people do many different things to earn online, and it takers them about 4 days to respond to a discussion. Patients is always a virtue, but I admit it is a bit frustrating when I set aside time to do MyLot and I get no responses. My only point is don't take it personal, people have different ideas of what constitutes a timely response.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
I will say now why I take it little bit more personal. Because it looks the way that people just post and post and post to earn. So to count one more number of posts for having new discussion where there are responses. I am used to take this place little bit more personal since longer than now.
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• United States
20 Jul 12
Yeah, I'm brand new here, but already started a discussion, and figured that it was just common courtesy to respond to everyone's answers. I'm sure that the people who don't do so have their own reasons for it, but I personally always repsond :)
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
I am very glad for you doing so, and realized it's a key to the better.
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@besweet (9861)
• Ireland
20 Jul 12
Welcome to mylot! It's nice to hear this from a new member, because usually the opposite happens.
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• United States
20 Jul 12
Thank you both :) I have met such nice people on here already, I really like it, so I figured why not respond? lol
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jul 12
suggar you are so wrong on this p ost and post discussions just to make money and they are real idiots as if they do not comment on the responses we make and we get paid for, the discussion alone is paid only one or two cents so if they made twenty discussions and never commented on any responses they would only make 20 cents and to me thats not a good way to make earnings. but if you make fewer discussions , get good responses and comment back to each one you will make some good earnings.I have been here going on five years and commenting back really has paid me well. I make over a dollar a day mostly commenting back on responses t o my discussions and on responding to other disucssions with quality responses. I will not respond anymore to those who make discussions and fail to return and even try' to comment back. I have decided I do not want tol waste my time and energy on rude people who do not understand making two dozen discussions is n ot going to m ke them anytmoney. here I again warn new P eople :YOU DO NOT GET PAID FOR OUR RESPONSES. WE DID THE TYPING AND WE GET THE EARNINGS.so you comment back and earn well or you abandon your discussions and you just make pennies. beside it is very rude.so if you will not comment back to me I will nor respond again to your discussions.,
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Exactly! Thanks for understanding me so well Hatley! As I said just few minutes ago for me a real discussion is when people share and respond. Do you know how this got in my mind? Well I will share now. Once, while I have been searching for an interesting topic to write there, I found this small boxes where people (called from many new users here veterans), exchange opinions, laugh, make jokes and so on. I was fresh here, so I was only responding and running away to the next topic which I thought for interesting. One day I saw few people chatting in such small box below some responders and I said myself - it's so cool that way. I would like some day to be able and join in this smaller boxes where people talk as they knew each other for all of their life. And I am very happy that I learned how it works.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
20 Jul 12
Hello Suggar, What is a smaller box? I've seen discussions where people talk easily but not sure what you mean by people chatting in small box?
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
20 Jul 12
Hello Hatley, my friend To be honest I feel like I am making waves sometimes and here I am in a very small boat. Someone throw me a life preserver. My intentions are good though. I just want to be helpful in this discussion if I can do so. There are so many good things about Mylot and so many things we can agree on. I do agree we should have great discussions and we should try to interact often with others. Replying and making comments, saying how we feel and sharing our opinion is really the best thing to do. I think most people agree with that though some may not care to. That will always be true, I guess. I just think we do not gain much by calling people names.(an idiot) Regardless if they are wrong or acting inappropriately, it is really not going to help. Can I convince people by having a discussion about this that this is true? I’m just suggesting it but if I’m wrong, I’m wrong and never afraid to say, oops I was wrong and make a correction.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
20 Jul 12
I admit that perhaps half of the talks I proposed on mylot, I have not managed to respond to everyone who answered me, or I did not answer because I thought I said all I had to say on topic, but every time I read all the answers, no matter how old was discussing I proposed, of respect to all mylot users.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jul 12
hi didi If I at age 85 can comment b ack on all the responses I get what the hell is the reason you cannot,its rude and the people you do not comment on their responses are apt to realize they wasted their time and not give you any nmore responses at all. Its not about what you said in your discussion, its about replying to me and others your intake on what we said.its called a discussion because we are to discuss this back a nd forth. so no' nmatter how deep your topic if you do not comment on my response you will get no more resp;nses from em.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Hey Didi, no you were not the reason for this discussion. But if you think you have something to include in your own discussions, to make people more comfortable responding and keep commenting it would be nice. Anyway I don't judge anyone, just saying why it is so for myself.
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
20 Jul 12
Hope it is ok to say this. I think many of your discussions are very deep in thought didi13 and for this reason I can understand what you mean by not answering because you said all you needed. I'm glad you read all the answers and only thought well she doesn't answer much but that is her choice. It did not make me anywhere near upset that you didn't reply only maybe a little sad because I find what you write so well.
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
20 Jul 12
I see discussions too that seem to be just looking for a quick response and that is all. Sometimes I'll drop in a comment not expecting anything back though it does make it much more difficult to find the ones you really think you would like to see someone get back to. If you aren't sure I mean it is work for us. It takes time to go back and scan them. Did they reply yet, no not yet. It happens I guess. I'm happy to say that the majority by far in my dicussions I've created have replies. I've kept to that...
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
I can surely say it wastes a bit of my time to check if anyone replied to my response. But I truly like when I see someone who posted a discussion is really interested to know what others will say. It makes the discussion more touchy for me.
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
20 Jul 12
I don't mind going and checking but is discouraging when there seems to be nothing there. I see your point about finding out what others say about the same topic and it is a good one.
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@besweet (9861)
• Ireland
20 Jul 12
Hello! Generally, I am trying to respond to everyone but sometimes it depends on the comments! The e-mail notifications definitely help because I can see if there is new activity to my old discussions. Also, I am trying to respond as soon as I see the comments because I think that it's better to give the answers quickly and not after one week (although I've done this too). Judging from myself, I feel good when other respond back to my comments when I participate in their discussions and I want to do the same. I appreciate all the responses and I always rate them positively because those members have taken time to read my discussion and to respond. I want to offer back with my vote and show my appreciation with my response.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jul 12
hi suggar you are so right in trying t o respond back with comments as soon as possible because if i delay too long its a much huger job and I want to comment with everyone as it'mnoves the discussion into a real discussion.but if I wait its a long harder and m ore time consuming to comment back to all my friends responses.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Yes, Hatley, if we delay too long it gets harder and I can say for myself that I loose my feeling for the topic when I leave it pass on before I post a respond. My moods are changed in a while, I just don't want to discuss what have been discussed time ago or if I still post something ... it will be just different than my first thoughts about the topic.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
I am also trying to respond as soon as possible, because if delay the answer, it will be a lot of work for me at one moment to answer all of the posts. And yes it feels great when people are noticing your answer. Specially in the discussions about problems, whatever topic it is. If someone needs advice, receive it and it's useful - that's great.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
20 Jul 12
Hi Suggar I for one definitely DO NOT respond to discussions from some lotters. Even dont want to get anywhere near them. I have faced and seen much filth for me and I have also found that reporting DOES NOT help. The lotters might get banned and then get a re-entry via another id and I have known this to happen. So I skip this segment all together. They are more than people to discuss anything ! For others, yes, Religion and Politics are still a NO - only once a while if you are a close friend and I havent been on any of your discussions of late. For responding back to all those who respond to my discussions, since the past 2-3 weeks I am more ill and so I am guilty, I havent responded to all on all my discussions. But I will when I get feeling a little better like a few days back, I completed responding to all on a week old discussion of mine.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
20 Jul 12
Of course, I remember some of those past discussions from you and there was a day or two in between when you re-surfaced and then re-vanished.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Hey buddy. Well that's how I felt just before leaving Mylot one year ago. I just didn't want to discuss anything and that's why I left. I felt it little boring, but not because people were writing boring things, just I wasn't feeling well and attached to my own discussions anymore. I also avoid religion and politic too. So far it works for me.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
20 Jul 12
It was a sure pain for me also when I came here initially. But I learned and myLot population taught me how to react. No pain - no gain, simply write blindly 'with a quality' mode, and keep wiriting, with no soul. This what people want here...
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• India
20 Jul 12
Hi, Thanks for your response. Forget everything, post and comment what you feel and just. That is what we really need to do and we will get at least some kind of pleasure and joy. Do waht we feel good and that is all for everything, even here also. Regards
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Hello Thanks, glad to meet you here! Well I explained it once in the higher post, but I will say it again, it leaves me with the feeling that some people are posting posts just to increase their numbers of posting, but never care what others respond.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 12
There are some of them who are actively making new discussions but forgot to keep answering or replying to all the comments they have. I said 'all' because they prefer to select and reply to some of the responds not each one of it. I am fine with it since they must be busy making new, replying and keep posting. At least they still reply to some of them. The one that make me a bit upset is when they don't even reply to anyone there. That a bit sad~ they should at least grab the opportunity to earn for themselves or know other members.(^^)
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 12
I don't accept any friend request anymore as I am not sure they will see me again in other discussions. It will be me who will send them friend request if I think they have good topics to be discussed with. lately I just go to discussions in my email box. I think I should go and look at other discussions available started by other members who are not in my friend list.(^^)
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
25 Jul 12
For me knowing other members is precious, because you get to know what others like and that gives you orientation about that type of topics are interesting for them. Collecting a big friend list is not that important. I get requests from members here all the time, most of them are new members, I don't accept such requests so much, because I have seen how fast people loose interest about being here and writing. Important for me is what other people find for interesting. Hugs CTHanum :)
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
20 Jul 12
suggar much depends on the commitment of members to their work, family and other interests. i see to it i reply for all responses whenever i finalise best response. even after that whenever i get time i reply for responses. also i do not start many discussions but only a few.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Hello Ravisivan, it really depends on many things. Sometimes I do the same. To be honest discussions which I posted one year ago I haven't reviewed that much now. I saw I am having a new response to one very old discussion, so I will have to pay little attention to answer. Best responses I choose after a while ...
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• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jul 12
If your talking about the people that post tons of discussions and do not respond to any of them and just keep starting them I agree with you on that one. However, if your talking about others then many people have lives off here as well. I know I have 3 kids to take care of so I don't always get on here to respond in a good amount of time. I come here when I can type of thing. Sometimes I can get on once a day, sometimes it's every 2-3 days and sometimes its once a week! People are busy with other things besides just being here...
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Yes, I am talking about most active in posting new discussions, but who never care to come back and answer as a sign of respect to their responders. I know what you talking about the life. Specially now in the summer it's a normal thing if people go on holidays, spend the weekend outside of home and so on. I myself log in every day, just because I have put a small new goal for myself and started to be very active, because what I earn here will go for something special. If it was not that, I would probably never come back with such activity.
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Jul 12
Thank you for the BR!
• Liechtenstein
23 Jul 12
I sometimes don't respond back because I don't even know what to respond. You can't blame me for not reply back. After all I will only respond if I know what to say. So you can't tell me that I'm disrespectful and also I have a busy schedule.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
23 Jul 12
It is everyone's business what he does here online! I am saying what the things are for myself. Everyone has his own opinion and a way to be here. I think no one has been judged or blamed for anything.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
24 Jul 12
I believe that's what build a discussion - sharing. It is not that much efforts in making money.
• Liechtenstein
23 Jul 12
I see. Although I like the fact you try to make an effort to reply to every single comment. But I'm not sure if anybody can respond to each user if they have like 100 plus replies on their post. But if you can then I salute you.
• United States
20 Jul 12
dear Yes i have heard that the more you socilize the more you will earn. This is a social site to earn and i just don't respond to discussions because i want money.I would like to socialize with the person and actally have a discussion instead of just responding to the answer.I wish mylot would do a bit better in that part of mylot.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Discussion is something we build while participating. Without answers, without communication, without feeling as you have something to say, what discussion it would be?
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• India
20 Jul 12
Hi friend, you are right, we must place comments to all our replies and interact with the persons whoever replied to our topics, it will help us to increase our earnings as well as we can make some good friends with this kind of interactions. I am interested in placing comments to all my replies as well as interact with my commentators to make my discussion lively.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Yes, actually this is a discussion - when people talk! If posters just post and responders only respond without answers from the poster, it's close to poll, just a poll with more different words or instead of poll I may use lexicon.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
sometimes people are just like that. Yes it helps both ways to keep on talking or reaponding ro each others discussion in athread but that would really depend on the thread starter. Iadmit sometimes people responds almost the same and there is not much to say anyway soi leave some replies without a comment from me... But of course i try to still acknowlesge the person or people who took time and participated in my topic.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
21 Jul 12
You are right, some responses are close with each other, but still the best discussions about my topics I have had when I answer ... One topic for me is never closed, specially when people think little different.
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
20 Jul 12
Hi, I try to comment back on every response to the discussions I have started. I find it nice and engaging to interact with members here. The more we comment back, the further the conversation lengthens and we also get to know a lot of things from others via interaction. The only time I would not respond back to a comment would be when someone has posted a referral link in his response as someone did today in one of my discussions. There was no reason to post that referral link and he had certainly not read the guidelines. Also, sometimes it so happens that I do not get notifications of new responses. So I have to come back and check if there is a new response. I tend to respond more to discussions started by other members than starting my own topics. I find a lot of interesting topics to share my thoughts on.
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
20 Jul 12
Yes I agree with your points my friend. I love to interact here. Each day that I spend some time here, I gain some valuable knowledge. I have got to know the likes and dislikes of members too through these discussions.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Exactly that was my point Oindy. When we interact we get closer, at the past I have had the experience to just communicate with other people in my discussions or someone's else discussions and it was giving me an idea for a new discussion I may post. Also when we get closer we get to know what people like to comment which gives us a good direction of what is interesting and what people may be feel touched of.
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
20 Jul 12
Hello Suggar, That's the reason i don't start discussions these days because i don't get much of the time to be active here and i myself feel guilty when i leave any response commenting back.No doubt this is courtesy poster should comment back to the responses but that's their wish may be they don't know the way to do Mylotting and losing the opportunity to earn.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Hello sjvg1976, well don't feel guilty, everyone is having his own schedule of life and so on. No one must be forced to do anything. I wouldn't say it's a big pain, I only say that I would like more if people answer their responders. That is a very nice thing to be done in one discussion. I am very very happy you understood my point of view.
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