Oh Well, Time To Clean Out The Old Friends List

United States
July 24, 2012 7:03pm CST
Yes, it's that time again where I clean out my friends list here on myLot. People who have been gone for quite some time and also people who don't feel they need to reply to my responses. That gets old, ya know? I feel if you respond to discussions, you should at least have the politeness to reply, even if it's just a thanks for responding. I get tired answering their questions and then they skip over me...um, no thank you. I'm not talking about once in a while, I'm talking about too many times. If you ask a question and want an answer, and I answer, whether you agree or not, you should respond. Don't you think? I'm not so much talking about new people who don't know better, but friends you've had for a long time. I'll keep who I feel are my real friends and say goodby to the others.......so goodby. Do you clean out your friends list on occasion too? Do you get upset when they don't reply back or is this just me?
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15 responses
@allknowing (55103)
• India
25 Jul 12
I too feel the same way as you do but I do nothing to that list. There is no harm in keeping the list untouched. One need not interact with those who have annoyed us.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
You are absolutely right allknowing. I guess I just get aggravated sometimes because it's not the first time its happened. Those are the one's who get deleted because I find myself responding all the time, with no response. I have other people I'd rather talk to so I don't find any need to have these people on my friends list any longer. I guess I get a bit fiesty once in a while.
@allknowing (55103)
• India
25 Jul 12
Sometimes the very same who have annoyed us could mend their ways and so....
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• United States
25 Jul 12
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@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I haven't done that since I lost my computer years ago. If I had time I would, but I didn't have internet all day today due to a storm that came through, so I got some revision done on my story and really should concentrate on that..But if I even get the time, I probably will..
• United States
25 Jul 12
I guess I just got kind of fed up today. You had a storm? I must have missed that one. Usually I watch the weather and see what weather you're getting along with me, haha! You're the only one I know that lives so close to me, but so far, lol! Glad you got something done today anyways. I've been a bum all day and this was about the only thing that was interesting for me to do, hah.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Yes we had a storm, it wasn't bad like horrible fast moving winds, but enough that we lost power for about 20-30 seconds, and the internet for hours. Of course we did get some good rain, so that was a plus..
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Some of these storms lately have been so bad! I'm glad yours went over with just a little problem. Yes, the rain is really needed. We were suppose to get some showers today but nothing happened...go figure. The lawns here look awful!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I think it down right rude when people don't respond back to u. Seems that's the least they could do. guess they are too busy writing a dozen or more boring discussions. I haven't cleaned mine out in awhile, probably need to do that.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
You know Antiquelady, I can handle no responses as long as I'm not overlooked and ignored and the people AFTER me get a response. That's when I'm done, and I noticed it more than once. I understand people can't do everything and sometimes there is no time to respond, crap happens..I can dig it, haha. Just don't ignore me and answer others, because THAT is really rude. So now I don't have to respond to this persons discussions anymore...and take that, lol!!!!
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@bunnybon7 (32513)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Jul 12
zactly!!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
25 Jul 12
U go girls,
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@ARIES1973 (9441)
• Legaspi, Philippines
25 Jul 12
I never did it since my first coming in to myLot. We came from different cultures, we have different backgrounds and upbringing. So I understand if some of my friends can not relate to what I am talking about. There are also times that they might just be very busy so they don't have time to reply to my post. I am still open to friendship even if they reply or not in my discussion.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Well that's good Aries1973 and I do understand about different cultures. I also understand about being very busy. I don't understand when I give a response and take my time to do so and then I'm overlooked and the people after me get a response. That just seems rude to me but that's me. Thanks for responding.
@GardenGerty (90133)
• Marion, Kansas
25 Jul 12
A lot of people get upset if they are ignored or skipped a lot. In general, I do not, if the person at least makes discussions I can post to. If they do not comment back it is their loss. I have cleaned out more friends this year than I ever have before. I have had some friends who just do not post any discussion that I can get a handle on in any way. I accepted one of these, then after about a year, deleted that person. They requested again, I accepted again, nothing had changed. Nothing I could respond to and no responses to me. I deleted them again. I find if I take the time to go in and delete someone that I usually look around the page and people who have never participated, or have been gone a very long time get deleted at the same time. If I look up a profile, I may take the time to delete a few others then. I am not going to spend a lot of time doing so, but I will do it.
• United States
25 Jul 12
I gotcha GG. I guess I just get aggravated with certain people that skip over but respond to people who have commented after me. I still feel I have something to say and I should be counted just like they were, whether you like it or not. I don't think I'd go through what you did with deleting, accepting, and deleting again. I don't have the patiece for that, can you tell?
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• United States
25 Jul 12
I don't think it is possible to get back every one who has made are sponse. it will take me days to gget back toresponding back to others
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• United States
25 Jul 12
No, I understand what you're talking about giftsandbags and I totally agree with you. I'm talking about particular friends who just seem to overlook you and respond to other people that are after you. That's what gets old to me and it's not just once in a while..it's repeatedly. Done with that.
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@oindy54 (3446)
• India
25 Jul 12
Hi, I have not cleaned my friend list for some time and I think it is time for me to do that. Actually all my inactive referrals are also there in my friend list. So I need to remove them. Just a few days ago I responded to a discussion started by someone on my friend list. Now I find that person has responded to every other response except mine. How rude is that? I had written my thoughts on that post which was about a social issue but I feel so bad that the creator chose to skip my response and comment back on all others. My response was not the last one that he has failed to comment back but it is the third one in his discussion. I have taken a vow not to respond to that person again though I have not yet decided whether to delete him from my friend list. I am fully in your support that you should keep real friends in your list. Good day
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Hi oindy54, To quote you..."Just a few days ago I responded to a discussion started by someone on my friend list. Now I find that person has responded to every other response except mine. How rude is that?" THAT is exactly why I wrote this discussion. It's not the first time its happened with this person and I decided to quit trying my hardest to stay friends. I got fed up and decided I'm done with this because it was putting me in a lousy mood. I have many fun friends here and that's what myLot is all about. I don't do anything or say anything nasty to people to deserve being ignored and skipped. If you ask my advice, I will give it, but you can't get all pi$$y with me just because I might kindly disagree. That's what myLot is all about, a discussion. And I would never tell anyone anything that would hurt them, it would only be good advice coming from an old lady...me.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
25 Jul 12
I agree completely. If we express our honest thoughts and they tend to be in disagreement with the proposal given by the creator, why should he overlook our response and comment back on the rest? I can understand that you have waited but still not been responded to. Very unfair and rude in my opinion. In my case, I did not even disagree but very clearly put forth my views. Honestly I am still upset and everyday I keep checking back to see if there is a comment on my response as sometimes notifications do not come in but I find that more responses are coming in and he is commenting back on all, carefully leaving mine aside.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Awww, I'd be done with it and would just hit that delete button. That's too irritating to me. People who ask a question and then get angry when you don't agree with them just don't sit well with me. I won't agree if it's something I don't feel is right, or I feel you're on the wrong path. I wanted to remark a few times "Are you ignoring me for a reason?" but thought better of it, haha.
@manleyjoe (1599)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I am sometimes guilty of not responding to discussions of people on my friends list, mostly because I do not have anything to say that would add to the discussion. I try to follow the rules as I have interpreted them, and if I cannot add to the discussion then I skip on by. I will sometimes add some ditty of nonsense to someone else's comment because it strikes me as funny, odd, or something. So go ahead and delete me if you need to but this is the first time that I have ever been notified that you have started a discussion. I never start them anymore. So I see nothing wrong with not answering ones that I know nothing about.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Well hello again there manleyjoe, I'm kind of confused about your quote here that you said ....."So go ahead and delete me if you need to but this is the first time that I have ever been notified that you have started a discussion. I never start them anymore. So I see nothing wrong with not answering ones that I know nothing about." I have no reason to delete you, why would I? All I'm talking about, and maybe I should have explained myself a bit clearer to people, is that I don't like being skipped over when I respond to a discussion that someone started. Someone I know has skipped over me too many times in their discussions and responded to people after me and just ignored me like I wasn't there. So I figured they don't like me anymore after all these years, and I deleted them. That's what this discussion is about. I very rarely start discussions. The two that I just started yesterday were the first one's I've done in a long, long, long time. I usually only respond. And I don't answer everyone's discussions either if I have nothing to add to them. I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I do exactly what you said you do when you're here.
@manleyjoe (1599)
• United States
27 Jul 12
sorry to confuse you, That was not the intent I can assure you. What I was trying to get across is that sometimes Mylot has a little glitch in their program and the notifiers do not get sent out or my email ships them off into cyber-space to forever be lost. Like you I usually only respond to others discussions and have been "jummped" over but I usually marked it up to the fact that whoever was making the rounds did not have anything of importance to add to my comment. Or maybe they are the ones getting into my shine storage. Anyway I try to keep it lite and was in no way meaning any negativeness toward you or anyone.
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• United States
30 Jul 12
Oh I agree completely about all the glitches here on myLot. I came back to this discussion to make sure I answered everyone back, and sure enough, there are quite a few that I was never notified about. I really didn't feel you were negative at all, I just thought you misunderstood what I was saying. I don't care if I'm jumped over once in a while, no biggie, but when you keep getting jumped over by the same person on different discussions started by them, its time to leave. And I did. Have a good one!
• United States
25 Jul 12
I have not cleaned out my friends list recently, but I do understand what you are saying about being ignored on some discussions. It does make me wonder what was wrong with my response that it was ignored and every other one was answered. There have even been a couple of times that I thought it might have been a mistake ... maybe an oversight when responding and mine was accidentally overlooked ... so I went back and commented on my response, especially since I noticed some new responses that had not been commented on yet. When I went back later, though, the new responses had been answered and mine was still ignored.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Hi purplealabster, I still have more cleaning out to do. I think there are some people who haven't been here forever it seems, so time to hit that delete button. I always wait for quite a while but I think now some of them have been gone for a year or more. Yes, I understand what you're saying and I also thought maybe it was just an oversight. The problem was that it wasn't the first time that I noticed this and it goes back to quite a few months ago when they asked "What do you think?" Well, I gave my opinion and didn't quite agree with what this person was going to do. I was not mean or nasty by no means. After that is when I noticed quite a few of my responses were just skipped over. I don't need that, I have to many fun friends here to bother with someone like this. And this was a friend I had for years. It's a shame but I'm not going to agree with you just to stay friends and let you mess up your life. I'm past that.
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• United States
27 Jul 12
Yeah, I probably should do some cleaning out myself. I don't really see a problem with letting people sit in my friends list, even if they have not been active in a long time. However, there are times when I am looking for a particular friend, and it takes a while to find him or her due to all the names there ... and some of them I don't even remember interacting with. There are a few friends that have gone missing that will continue to sit on the list, though, because if they do come back I want to make sure I have a way to contact them. Unfortunately there are some people that ask for opinions but then only want to hear ones that agree with what they are saying. I think this is actually a little sad, because they will never learn anything if they do not want to listen to anything that anybody else has to say. There are some times when I start discussions and I am hoping for most of the responders to have a different opinion than I have, because I am trying to understand the reasoning and thought process behind the other opinions as it is a learning experience.
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• United States
30 Jul 12
Your last paragraph says it all and that's exactly how I feel. And I really don't feel all the people that respond and agree, really do agree. I can't agree with someone if I feel what they're doing is wrong or they're going to be really sorry about it later. And I also like different opinions because sometimes you don't think of those particular answers and a light bulb goes off in your head...like, yeh, I never thought of that. I don't know, people are so strange sometimes, lol!
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@bunnybon7 (32513)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Jul 12
its not just you and i get totally upset. i tell myself well maybe they are just taking a break or will answer when they catch up. which is what ive been trying to do for days. i made way to many discussions for a few days there. have no idea why. maybe about 5 or 6 discussions in a row then have taken forever to catch up. which is why i get so annoyed at others that make 10 plus a day or so and never reply back if you respond these are the ones i eventually clean off my list. yes, trouble is that some friends on my list dont come back here for a year or so it seems. then i take them off and boom! there i see them in a discussion. in fact i dont think id seen you for quite a while? lol. so i know exactly what you mean. also its the reason i try to catch up with my best responses. because sometimes visiting my old discussions, i find there were responses, id missed
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• United States
25 Jul 12
I can understand not having the time to really catch up because there are so many responses and it's hard. I just don't understand why anyone would be overlooked and then the people after you get a response. That's what aggravates me. It's as if what I had to say is of no importance so I can be ignored. No thanks. And I'm also talking about more than one time. I noticed it once when I responded to a particular discussion and I guess I didn't say what she wanted to hear. I wasn't nasty in no way, just said what I felt in a pleasant manner. Ever since then I'm basically ignored. Can't please everyone and if you ask a question, expect all kinds of answers, including one's you might not like, right?
@bunnybon7 (32513)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Jul 12
right dear and i have a friend ive seen do it but not always just at me. i will be reading her responses and think maybe she didnt get back to her discussion yet then on down i see a response from her but like you said, it would be different if sometimes she skipped someone else then you would know its an accident, but every time!? No, you dont need that kind of friend.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Not every time but quite a few times...it's still annoying to me. I have quite a few friends here that are much more fun and that's worth keeping to me.
@jugsjugs (13046)
29 Jul 12
I have cleared some of the friends on my list, as they are no longer here, or they no longer post anything on here.I feel that with all the people that I have as friends in my list, there are only say half of them now that do still come on here.I also do not add people as friends anymore for the reason that they will not be on here in say a few months time and there are always discussions that are being started, so I will always be able to respond to discussions.I do not mind if people do not reply to my discussions, as I feel that some people may not have the time or that they may not want to answer a discussion that I have started, I never take it to heart.
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• United States
30 Jul 12
Hi jugsjugs, I still have more to clean out too. I'll add new one's if I look at there discussions and see that they're interesting and not just about making money. I don't care if all my friends don't respond to my discussions either, as you said, some may not have the time and that's fine with me. What my discussion here is having my responses skipped over all the time by particular people on their discussions, like I wasn't even there. I don't mind that once in a while but when it happens one time to many, it's time to delete that person as far as I'm concerned. I just find it kind of rude. The only time I might skip over someone is when I feel they're trying to start trouble..you can always tell.
• India
25 Jul 12
Hi friend, i agree, we must clean out our friends list frequently to avoid spams and scams. Some persons will start to send spam messages after approving their request, always i will delete this kind of persons instantly, apart from it, i will clean my friends list once in a while
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Right you are vidhyaprakash_2, I still need to clean out more as some of them have not been here to myLot in over a year. Time to delete. When someone sends me a friends request I check to see what their responses and discussions are about. If it's all about money I don't approve them as I know that's all they're interested in. No spammers for me. Thanks for responding.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I seriously need to do that and a few other things but there's been alot of things happening around here that some days I don't even get on mylot!
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Hi there jillhill, Yes, I know what you mean. There has been even a couple weeks here and there that I couldn't get over here, or the discussions had so many responses, that I didn't feel I could add anything new, haha. I still have some weeding to do. I think there are some people on my list that haven't been here in over a year or so. I doubt they're coming back anymore. Are you getting ready with your crafts for Christmas or are you already done, lol!
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I haven't cleaned my list of friends and I think i will do that soon since many of them are no longer active here in myLot. I go away but then come back mostly because I'm busy working on my lenses. Hmm i never noticed someone skip me but i have seen so many rude people here but mostly nice people hang in here. I will clean out my old friend list soon.
• United States
25 Jul 12
Yes, I still have some weeding to do. I think some of them in my friends list haven't been here in a couple of years, but I'll have to check further before I delete. I'm not here every day either or sometimes I don't feel I have anything to really add to the discussions as most of the answers are the same. But yes, it's the skipping part that is aggravating to me and I just feel that it's just plain rude. I don't need to be friends with someone like that and I'd rather keep my fun friends and stay in a good mood, lol! I feel silly asking this but what are the lenses that you're talking about?
@Hatley (157567)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 12
hi Kashmeresmycat oh do I ever as I took time to respond with my best intelligence and the person did not even say he agreed or disagreed or kiss my foot he just did not come back to reply to any of our responses. so I wrote this person off. I need to weed out my list too as a lot have been gone for months so I feel like they need not be there at all.I need to do this although sometimes people have good reason to be gone a long time.but sometimes they have just left for keeps too.
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• United States
25 Jul 12
Hi my sweetie! So you do understand what I'm talking about and yes, it's just rude to me and I guess I feel offended. I am like you, try my hardest to at least think intelligently about what I want to say and sometimes I even do some research on the subject too, and then I'm ignored???? I can handle it if they just don't respond to anyone, but when they just overlook you and respond to the people that answered after you did, that's when I get aggravated. Like you said the other day which made me laugh so hard "WHAT AM I CHOPPED LIVER?".. I still have more weeding out to do but being the fiesty little person that I am, I decided this particular person just plain needed to go.