First impressions

@missybear (11396)
United States
July 29, 2012 9:24am CST
I have to admit I'm guilty of judging people the minute I meet them which is not always goodbut 8 out of 10 times my judgment is correct...even I can be wrong at times. Do you go by first impressions?
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
29 Jul 12
Hello missybear. I think judgment depends on the situation and the setting. Sometime the person acts like a jerk so you figure he or she is a jerk and you don't want to be around them any more to learn if they are any different. I try to go by actions and not how they dress or how they wear their hair. I do tend to be very open minded when meeting new people.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
You made a very good point there, once you look like a fool it's likely you are a fool.
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@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
29 Jul 12
hi dear missybear, no I dont judge people the minute I meet them, any more. Reason is that people who seemed to be nice and easy to get along with from this first impression in fact were these who made my life miserable or misused my trust later on and others I didnt care for so much when meeting first time were the ones who were nice and helpful becoming close friends later on.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
So what you're you're saying is...take another look
• Lippstadt, Germany
29 Jul 12
not only that but wait for quite some time before you form an opinion on others and see how life surprises you.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
hi, i could say that i am also faster to judge people but not always because i know its bad,though i still did sometimes,there are times in my life that i looked at first impression or my impression to a person even i still didn't know him/her yet.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
25 Oct 12
Sometimes it pays to take a second glance.
• United States
3 Sep 12
I usually do trust my first impressions I have a pretty good intuition about people there have been times when someone I meet comes off wrong and something tells me to give them another chance and that has always turned out well
@missybear (11396)
• United States
3 Sep 12
I'm right about my first impressions 9 out of 10 times
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Aug 12
I think that I react more to the feelings or vibes I get from someone more than what they present me with the first time. These, of course, can be misread too though sometimes. It is natural to kind of take what we can from that first impressions but I do try not to let them guide me too much. Those vibes though..I don't usually ignore those. It has been a mistake to do so in the past.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Like they always say...."go with your first instincts" so if you get a bad vibe don't ignore it
@SIMPLYD (76464)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Just like you my friend, i would always be taken by first impressions. But then, when that first impression is not good , i always make a room for something positive about the person to come out. It's a bad way, but i can't help it.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
30 Jul 12
Nothing wrong with giving a second chance but after that it's pretty clear what a person is like
@hsofyan (3452)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
29 Jul 12
Usually the first impression, is the heart. The next impression was mixed with the assessment according to reason. I always have a first impression. Maybe 50:50 is right or wrong.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
so you saying you half right and half wrong?
@sk66rc (4262)
• United States
29 Jul 12
I don't go by first impressions at all & I majored in forensic psychology when I was in college... We were taught to always look for things that aren't obvious... There are times when I feel funny about a person & turns out to be a very nice & decent person... Most of the time, I can tell about a person with in first 5 minutes of having a conversation & by observing them... But then a person could be having a bad day... Person could've just lost someone... There are so many variations to judge someone simply by looking at them for the first time...
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
Now a day it's so hard to figure people out, taking 2 or 3 looks couldn't set you straight
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Jul 12
Not since somebody i didn't like on the first impression turned out to be a really great guy and a good friend.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
See
@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
29 Jul 12
I try to go by first impressions. Sometimes I have friends who will convince me to give someone a second chance. All is well and good then boom my gut starts yelling at me that I should have listened to it. 9 times out of 10 those who told me to try again come back to say they wish they had listened to me and not gone with their heart. I know way too many do gooders!
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
The gut is always right
@Axai2012 (371)
29 Jul 12
I do recognize that first impressions are important but I do not judge right away Especially in an informal setting.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
things change, so do people. You never know what tomorrow brings
• United States
29 Jul 12
Yes i go by first impressions about 80% of the time, and like you i am usually right. Sometimes I am stuck with the person whether i like them or not, in that case i try to end the relationship as quickly as possible. It is very hard to do in the case of an in-law, many times if that is the case it seems you are just stuck with them, and so to keep the peace you just hide your feelings toward the person. The thing we have to do is not to make snap judgments, give every thing a chance to fit in. Then if your first impression is right you can taker action
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
I'm so quick on making snap judgments and I really have to knock it off
@riyauro (6431)
• India
29 Jul 12
First impression is okay to judge, but it is not always true. We are capable of misjudging in first meet. Once you know more of a person then the first impression that you had about him or her might change. So always do a second check. it is good. have a good day.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
29 Jul 12
Yeah, I might be misconstrued the first time