what's the worst that could happen?
By luxlyangels
@luxlyangels (1286)
August 24, 2012 5:15am CST
My friend has been dating this girl for a long time now, we bacame friends just last year and that was when I first knew her, the problem is that they are always fighting, every little thing makes them fight, even things that do not matter or mean anything, I mean it was so bad one time that I recommended a Psychiatric home for the both of them, I felt they needed to see a professional because what they were doing to themseleves wasn't looking normal anymore, but later on I realised that it was because they loved themselves too much, now, towards the end of last year,our last days in a particular state together , the girl got pregnant for him,and he told her he wasn't ready for a baby, clearly because he had no job and we were still doing a national thing with the government where they government pays peanuts, anyways, she terminated the pregnancy and they eventually broke up. Another friend of ours got married last 3 weeks and this brought all of us together, including my friend and his ex, something led to another and he forced him self on her without protection, at least that's what she told me,and now she's pregnant again. The thing now is , he's got a good paying job now but he's telling her that he is still not ready for a baby that she should terminate it too. She called me last night and told me everything and I was like, WTF? She said she needed advice and I said she should keep the baby and move on but she didn't seem satisfied with the advice I gave her. Now mylotters, if you were in my shoes, what candid advice would you give her?
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7 responses
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
24 Aug 12
interesting and sad story, it looks like your friend only wants to play and have some fun with her and she is quite serious about building up a family life.
I think that she should drop this pregnancy and then start a new life with someone else bcoz this guy will never marry her so it better to move ahead otherwise he will never stop playing with her life.
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@luxlyangels (1286)
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24 Aug 12
My friend, you are not thinking about the complications that come with termination of pregnancy, what if something happens to her? That would be the worst that can heppen you know, and it won't just be fair at all
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Aug 12
they shoulkd n ot ever use aborton as birth control., they are killing a life and what did that baby to be do to the m?thats the unfair part,keep the child and leave the playboy user.
If she does n ot want to raise the baby put it up for adoptionkits a real life do not kill it.
@lyricmemphis (260)
• United States
24 Aug 12
The thing that stood out to me the most about your statement was "he forced himself on her without protection".....REPORT him first of all. If this was a forced thing I agree she should get an abortion or put the baby up for adoption. If she wanted to have a child with him I would advise that she keep it, not to try to keep him or anything..but it seems as if she wants a child. Just wouldn't want a child brought into an already difficult situation.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Aug 12
;people keep sayin get an abortion stop it is killing a baby,.'
adopt it out but do not kill it.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
I think if I were in your shoes, I would have told her to file charges against her because as she said "he forced himself on her" that sounds a lot like rape.
Further, if it's not true at all, then I would probably say "let them be" they're both consenting adults and they should learn to fix things themselves.
As for the baby. It would be sad if she'd terminate this one again but if she feels that there's no hope for them both but she is getting older, then she should keep the baby. I wouldn't advise her on terminating because I don't believe in abortion.
Anyhow, I think you're right, they're too selfish themselves. That's the main reason why the relationship wouldn't work any time. But well, there's no real perfect formula for a relationship, so perhaps it would work on the long term.
Have a great MYLot experience ahead!
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
25 Aug 12
You've heard that "too many cooks spoil the broth"? Well, this is why: it looks like the two each want something different in their lives. I can't say what they should want, because I don't know what they do want ... I have a feeling they don't know what they really want, but it won't do any good to tell them that unless they tell you so themselves.
Him: I don't know if he EVER wants to settle down (He might get bored with single life--even WITH the money he's got now--but I don't know). Her: she might want to settle down, or she might want to go on being 'that kind of girl.' I dunno.
However, you're NEVER 'ready to have' your first child. You can't do a good job raising a child and THEN have the child, but the first child is a learning process.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
24 Aug 12
so sad, she is just spoiling her life, she should just move on, terminate the pregnancy, the boy is just playing, she wouldn't have allowed him ,the second time, may be the boy wanted to take the revenge, first time, she aborted according to her interest, now the boy also want the same, cant he see, she is suffering, aborting is not so easy its not a game, a lot of pain is involved in it, she should move on, he will not marry her for sure.
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@luxlyangels (1286)
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24 Aug 12
According to her, he was the one who told her to terminate the first pregnancy, i mean the guy is still a kid upstairs and i pray he grows up soon and take care of his responsibilities.
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@Ciel08 (29)
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24 Aug 12
it a sad story...
if i were in your shoes i will tell her the same.. keep the baby and move on...
she should not terminate the baby because its not the baby's fault....
she can survive without the guy.... i'm sure the right guy for her will come someday.. there are people that i know that a single parent... and they manage to have their lives straight...
seek for help if she need one....
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@luxlyangels (1286)
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24 Aug 12
Yes. This is exactly what I told her.
But its still gonna be a difficult road ahead.
I ll make some prayers for the lady and hope the guy grows up and stands up to his responsibilities
@Ciel08 (29)
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27 Aug 12
yes.. its going to be difficult for her....
more prayers and guidance for her... so she can make the right choices in the future...
and as for the guy hope that he'll find it in him the realization of the situation he made and be the man that he needs to be..... and not run away once he already started something...
