Why couldn't he sense it?

Your husband is the opposite of my husband, Toni. I would be telling him (whenever our daughter seem ill) that she has no fever, but he would insist that she has and has to take a medicine. Thus, we would get the thermometer only to find out that her temperature is normal. But my husband would still ask for other aches that she might have.

I think there are two reasons for this. one, the mother and son bond seems to be very strong and seems to last all the way through life. The is just something more about a mother's bond with the child. you carry them in your womb and feel all their little kicks and movements, you sing and read to them before they are even born and have this almost unconscious urge to rub and pat your little bump, in a sense getting to know them before they are even here. And although dads can take part in some of this there is just so much it is impossible for them to experience. The bonds created are also just so different. Secondly, it could just be that you have, as they call it 'womens intuition' and so realise the small things, and cues he may not pick up on. As for the fever, your husband may have just thought your son was hot and didn't think it was as serious as a fever, some people just don't worry as much as others do; it is by no means a reflection on how much your husband cares about your little one. He may also just not really know how to act in different situations, parenthood is something no one can prepare you for. Even if you read all the book and listen to all the doctors and midwives have to say, it is just something you have to take a day at a time and learn as you go along because no one parents experience is the same as another's.

Men generally don't have to be very observant about such things. That duty generally falls to women. So, we are usually the ones to notice the little things about other's health--especially that of our children--faster than men do. My boyfriend would likely be the same way with a child. Although, I sincerely hope that he would notice if the child had a fever. I wouldn't bet on it, though...

Sometimes, your h/b may not noticed or he must have thinking of stomach ache cannot be associated with a fever. I think this fever must have happend as he was suffering from stomach ache and the fever developed later on, which he may not noticed. Any way, hope your son is dong will and continuing medicine. It is belived that fever is not a desease, it is a symptom or indication towards some desease as our body is trying to eliminate the deseased cells from our body by natural way.

because he's a man, plain and simple. men have a tendency not to notice things woman do.. maybe its because they can't do two things at once. or maybe it's because women always seem to fear the worst? not always a bad thing such as in the case of your son, but sometimes women can over react.

Oh that's bad. Maybe your husband is just not familiar with symptoms of illnesses. Maybe he has very strong resistance and doesn't get sick easily, so he isn't very familiar with those stuff. My husband, in the contrary, takes symptoms seriously. He also has a good grasp on over the counter medicines that we can use for simple illnesses like fever, common cough and cold, because he used to be a medical representative and is familiar with different kinds of medicines.

Mother is different from a father sense specially if the father not all the time with his kids or children. You should consider also the situation maybe you hubby didn't detect that his son is hot because he was also hot at that time. Both hot person cannot detect someone's feeling. I am sorry if your hubby made a mistakes

Because people are different, and he isn't you. You need to get over the idea that your husband is just like you. He's not. He doesn't have the same abilities and skills you have, nor do you have the same abilities and skills he has. You need to accept that things that seem obvious to you, will not be obvious at all to him. You two are different. Not the same, and you need to lower your expectations.

Because men are not as good as us woman when it comes to things like that. I hope your on is going to be ok I hate it when one of my kids are sick.Your son will be in my prayers and I hope he makes a speedy recovery.

Did you take his temp when he felt hot? A child can feel hot to one person and not to another. If your hands are cooler than your hubby's you may feel it more than him. Most men are not alarmists. I'm glad that you put your foot down about the needed surgery. Moms are often more intuitive than fathers I think.

I wouldn't be hard on your husband. Sometimes we men don't even notice that we ourselves are sick until it gets really bad. In your shoes it might be helpful to calmly point out your sons fever and insist on having it taken care of. Just consider the two of yourselves a team. You as a woman will definitely notice things that he is not going to.

I don't understand why your husband would say your son does not have a fever when he was in fact burning hot. A fever in a child can be a VERY dangerous thing. I hope that your son is going to be okay, you should keep a very close eye on him at all times. Concentrate on your son right now, NOT your husband. Your son needs you.

well maybe shall I say your husband is insensitive? Or he just failed to understand your son since when he was still a child, he was also never treated like that with his father..

I'm sorry to hear about your son's condition. I can't actually judge your husband's behavior why he is acting that way perhaps he's just too optimistic to think that your son's health is okay or that your son can bear the pain. It is a nature of a woman specially a mother to be more sensitive towards our son's health in fact sometimes we do over react but we can't blame it, that's how we are.

Hello tonign. One of the reasons that your husband did not realize your son was sick is because men are not as intune with their children as mothers are. After all mothers spend so much more time with their children so can tell a lot by just looking at their child. They can tell by the cry pretty much when something is not good or well with their children. For a mother there is a number of different crys and a mother can recognize each one for what it is. Mothers are always on the look out to make sure every thing is ok. A man isn't as much aware as mothers are.

You cant evern really rely on a husband/boyfriend to figure out what is wrong with a child. I may only have a dog and when i ask my boyfriend questions about the dog like what did u feed him to make him throw up he doesnt remember of course. The other day the dog was burning up and had a really bad fever and had not been drinking alot of water and i was afraid of getting dehydrated so here comes mommy to the rescue and do what i can do. I feel for your son and i hope he feels better soon, i hope you are giving him lots of liquids to drink and giving him tylenol to get his fever reduced.

Well, dear friend Toniganzon, I certainly do not want to get in the way between you and your husband. However, from what I could tell in your question, I think you had better diagnosed with the illness of your beloved son. You know I like you, we are not doctors. So the thing that I always recommend to anyone accuse symptoms of discomfort of any kind, is to contact a doctor immediately. In medicine, there is nothing in my opinion should be underestimated.

I hate to say this but it seems normal to me that your husband did not sense anything wrong. The only time fathers usually sense these things is if they are a single father and they have to be mommy and daddy. Other than that, fathers don't usually sense these kinds of things. I know my husband never has, and neither has any other man in my family. My father did not think anything was wrong with me when I had my seizure, my mother knew and insisted we go to the hospital. So to me, your husband sounds like a normal father. We are the ones that mostly take care of our children from birth so we know these things about them. Most good mothers can sense when something is wrong...

Hi, I feel very sorry for your son. I can't understand why your husband is behaving like this?

I am really sorry for your son and i hope your husband is all right because I think he is not okay. The son is his also and he is just next to him, how can he not know that the son has no fever. Maybe your husband's mind is somewhere else. maybe he has some tensions that he cannot concentrate at home. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.