Do you think it is disrespectful if you argue to person older than you?

@blinjk (609)
Philippines
August 28, 2012 6:15am CST
Respecting older people than you is right but what if you find yourself in a situation that they are the one wrong and you are right?Would you argue with them if they insist the things that is wrong? There are people like that they will insist all the things they say and would stand and argue with you even if they are wrong.And because you are younger,you will always be wrong.They would not admit that they are wrong and would make still reason out.Sometimes you will find yourself arguing with them because you cannot stand what they say. What are your thoughts about this?
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@Oktavist (396)
• Romania
28 Aug 12
No.I do not feel disrespectful if I argue with anyone.As long as you are decent,there shouldn't be a problem.Anyone who throws the "He is older.He is right" need some serious revision.Being old does not necessarily mean he is right. Now,I often show more respect to older people without them doing special things,because I consider that,in general,they have more experience.But,in an argument,there should be mutual respect.I respect you,you respect me.There is no sense in "You respect me because I am older.I can do whatever I want with you,because I am older". Again,those who use that line are not worthy of your attention an that time.
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
28 Aug 12
I totally agree with this statement. Of course, people really shouldn't be RUDE either, but in a general sense, being older really means nothing except one person has been alive longer. That's all.
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• Philippines
28 Aug 12
My father when we are young taught us to stand what is right, if they are wrong we have the privilege to open up what's in our mind. But say it with respect not arrogantly. for other elders they will surely boost that they are right because they have more experienced than the young ones. just listen to them, let them explain what they know and then humbly say maybe you are right, and for my opinion I think this is right for me...will it might turn tto hot topics just be calm explaining and if things goes right politely excused yourself out of the scene after you explain your side...Old later will realized you are right they just can't accept that you are smarter than them now lol.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
28 Aug 12
It makes no sense for anybody to ASSUME that just because someone is OLDER, it means they automatically get respect or are owed anything. Really, AGE has nothing to do with how much a person knows or how much experience they have with any one thing. HOWEVER - that said, IF the other person actually has more experience with the topic, I might just take it with a grain of salt. Usually I will remind people that opinion doesn't equal fact, and experience with something may mean more, but it doesn't mean that MY experience will be the same. I'm not necessarily arguing that the other person is wrong, but I AM saying that my experience MAY not be what theirs was, so I won't feel the same about the experience or outcome.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
28 Aug 12
It also depends how you argue or state your point lol. There are good ways to do it to make a point, and bad ways to do it. Either way though, I think you need to speak up. When people avoid speaking up, it looks like you're telling the other person they ARE right, which isn't necessarily the truth.
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@doroffee (4235)
• Hungary
28 Aug 12
I do think you should respect elderly people. But age is not an argument, and I don't think it's disrespectful if you disagree with them, especially as you express it in a polite manner. Some people just use the age excuse bvecause they don't have any more arguments and they think age is a privilege...
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• United States
28 Aug 12
I agree there is a difference between arguing disagreeing and yelling at someone. Be respectful and even back up your argument with facts if you are sure that your right. Maybe in the long run they will thank you for teaching them something new if your polite and civil.
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• Philippines
28 Aug 12
Being respectful or not depends on how you react or say things. If you don't agree with what the older person is saying, then you have all the means to speak up your mind in a positive way. But don't insist your thoughts on the other person. Arguing doesn't do any good.
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• United States
28 Aug 12
I usually do not argue with a person, who is older and who is wrong. You are not going to convince them to change their mind anyway, so why waste your time arguing with them. I just change the subject, or ignore the issue. It is not about being disrespectful or being right or being wrong. To me is is about wasting my energy on something I cannot change. Enjoy your day and your journey!
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@besweet (7348)
• Greece
28 Aug 12
If it's about work, and my field of expertise then yes, I would argue. Politely of course, but in this job we need to talk with clients that are much older. This doesn't mean though that they are always right! In personal matters, I avoid arguing with older people because I know that they have more experience in life and sometimes thay may be offened to hear a different opinion from younger people. Even if I think they are wrong, I leave things the way they are and try to find a solution somewhere in the middle! I don't think that having a different opinion means that you are disrespectful though, as long as you express it with respect to the person that is standing on the other side!
@Raine38 (8906)
• United States
28 Aug 12
We can argue with them without being disrespectful. It is all in just how we communicate our point to them. They might take it the wrong way but as long as we don't raise our voice against them nor use swear words, for example, I think it is alright to correct them.
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@miracle7 (30)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
THE BEST THING to do is to say nothing just let the older one listen their own talking and they will find out what are they talking about... surrendering your right to argue is the simplest reason to win an argument... and in fact silence is one way to have a therapeutic communication..
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Humility is the basic of all virtue!
@jersey86 (1348)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
No I think its not disrespectful that older person is the one that is disrespectful as he/she is not listening your explanation.
• India
12 Dec 12
Hi friend, there is nothing wrong in arguing if we are in the right path. Some times elder people also make mistakes, if we find out their mistake, we can point it to them, if they are still adamant, then we can argue with them to rectify their fault
@sunil76 (32)
• India
29 Aug 12
Hello friend,When it comes to argument,some say i can risk everything but argument.Many people do not like to argue as they are shy away,some don't because they think argument is useless and just a waste of time.There are some persons who argue only when there are enough reasons or some solid substance in there.Yes, when the situation comes to argue with some older people,respect comes into the picture and most of us either don't argue at all or argue without vigor as we don't want to hurt his sentiments.However,If the older person argues with the wrong reasons,then we should try to crarify our stand.But we should always remember that argument should be constructive not destructive,it should like a debate where we have to understand and respect others opinion and view point to.Thanks & regards......
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
29 Aug 12
I try to be as respectful as possible to my elders. Sometimes though it's not that possible. My grandmother and I have a weird relationship. Sometimes she annoys me to no end and I end up getting very angry and become disrespectful. Sometimes the way we interact, if we were in public people would think that I was disrespectful and that my grandmother was crude, but it's jut the way she is and the way I throw things (not literally) right back at her. I do believe that one should be respectful, but if one has to compromise and find a "relationship mannerism" that works for them and that the elder can understand and respect, then that is how it is best to be done.
@iamJB7 (123)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
I didn't find it disrespectful. But for someone who heard or sees us arguing with the elders they find it bad and shouldn't be tolerated. I remember when we had this argue with my grandma, my father heard it so he give me punishments. And I really don't like it when he's not on my side.
@freedang (320)
• China
29 Aug 12
this is a funny question.it's depends.if the issue we argued is not so important ,i would give up my point,but i if i know that i am right and the things we tolk about is really important to other things i will insist my oppinoin,but i tend to give up when the people i argue with is one of my familys
@salonga (27682)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Well they are old and they deserve some respect. Sometimes though they may be illogical and do not seem to deserve any respect. Nevertheless I believe it will not diminish my person if I would just stop arguing if an oldie if I sense that the oldie is insistent and don't want to hear any reasoning. In that way I will free myself from getting annoyed while keeping the respect at the same time.
• India
29 Aug 12
it is must to give respect to people older dan us. Its a state of concern and character and shows our dignity. But sometimes in some situations their beha'viour might be wrong or their decisions might be foolish in such situations in order to fight for what is right and true we need to argue. Some old people are too much against the present world so we need to argue against such people .
@jambi462 (4600)
• United States
29 Aug 12
I definitely think that it can be but I also don't think that people deserve respect simply because they are older than you because there are plenty of people out there that haven't gained wisdom throughout their years. If you are an unpleasant person that likes to cause arguments or disagree with people regardless of what they say then you are going to get argued with regardless of your age. Overall I like to avoid arguments at all costs because they are just pointless to take part in and usually neither side gains anything from them.
@ShepherdSpy (8564)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
29 Aug 12
It is quite possible to have a respectful argument with someone older...it's a discussion with opposing views..but just because a Person is older, if they are in the wrong,their age doesn't make them right..
@shylade (3139)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
I think it's a matter of how you argue with old people. Of course we can't restrict them from telling they are right. If they insist they are right then just keep your patient with them and the truth will come out eventually.