with that, i feel like i am not normal at all
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15747)
Philippines
August 29, 2012 2:25am CST
see, last saturday, we had a birthday party, it was my husband's sister in law's bday...see there were invited guests which most are not the people i know. its their side of the family..
i do not have problems mingling with other people, but i do come when invited but i really do not initiate the talking unless i encountered her / him before and we got to talk before.. that time at the party mosts are people i have not met, have met but never talked to and not my age.
the people who are my age are also not of my genre lol.. sorry i am not stereotyping but i tried talking to them but we got nothing in common other than we were all eating letchon that day.
hubby then said go and talk to them and i was like what will i say?? i was rather spending my time with my kids that night, eating with other kids too.. i got something in common with them more hahaha. honestly. i was still enjoying that night as there was free wifi in the house and was just watching youtube on my phone and eating some desserts..
the sister in law didn't mind coz i guess she knew me somehow, she knows what type i am and she just let me be.. and i tried making small talks plus i was not snotty at all which hubby said i was and he even said that must be because i am from a prestigious school! well i totally ignored that comment and told him that is not true. i am just different i guess. i honestly would rather be with my BOOKS...and honestly i am just that type.. or i would rather play with darts and he knows i am a lot more comfortable in that kind of environment rather than the partying social types..
but i tell you i am a marketing officer..and i never had problems with dealing with people in a workplace environment. i am just thinking about this actually and well what the heck i'll move on now lol i just need to rant that out guys. sorry 
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9 responses
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
I was on the impression that you were an introvert by personality type but when I read that you were a marketing officer then you cannot be an introvert type since most introverts will not work as marketing officer. 
Well I guess your hubby must understand that you were in a place where you were not familiar with them so naturally you could not mingle with them. If they were the ones that could not connect with you then what can you really do about it.
Well I guess your hubby must understand that you were in a place where you were not familiar with them so naturally you could not mingle with them. If they were the ones that could not connect with you then what can you really do about it.1 person likes this
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Pretty weird an introvert was promoted in a position that requires extra effort for socializing and everything which intros do not prefer.
But anyway hope that party did not cause any rift between you and your hubby after the event. This usually passes away when the event ends.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
well i guess because i never really have problems with me doing presentations and talking in front of a crowd, work wise, i can do that..mingle in an office setting, office parties, deal with people. but if it is just like a normal party and stuff, i tend to go back to my shell.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Well if i would weight it, let me just say that i am more of an introvert rather than an extrovert. I would rather stay at home and read and watch tv..rather than party a lot.
I was actually promoted to marketing officer not me knowing about it.. its not something i really applied for lol
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
I am too not a social person when it comes to parties. I am okay with work and i was in sales field and I did well there. But I am not comfortable with people I don't know in the parties. We are so alike. It obvious that i don't know people here and I am not from here and all those I meet are known to my husband i try to mix around but then comes a time when i feel they just not my type..lol..I am better here online..[pooooh hahah... Have a wonderful day ahead. 
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
should i call you my sister then? 
well yes i am better online too!
well yes i am better online too!1 person likes this
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
i also do not have a sister riya in real life, i only have one brother and we are like 8 years in gap! so i also do not mind having a sister here
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
I think there are just times when one cannot really find the right words in terms of talking to people we don't really know. It's okay if we talk about our jobs because we can simple just say our marketing pitch and that's it.
I find myself more comfortable talking to people about my job and what I am marketing about rather than talking to someone whom I don't have anything in common. I am not the type who'd strike a conversation at someone else's party and like you, I think I would also be like a wallflower altogether.
I don't think you're not normal, I think you are normal. I think people who could just approach someone and talk to them about something under the sun is not normal. After all, I am an introvert working as an extrovert because of my job.
So don't worry about it, there's a lot of us. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
now i am soooo glad someone is like my..a mylotter said above that there is a term for that.. ambivert - hybrid.. 
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
29 Aug 12
One can be a social person but not do well in such an environment. I know that I'm a rather social person, but I often dislike such events where I'm stuck with people I don't know and don't feel any real connection to. Arriving really late for an event can also throw me off at an event; my boyfriend has made us really late before, and it really just jarred my sense of equilibrium all evening--being both horrendously late and being surrounded by people who just really didn't share interests with me.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
i do know how it feel like being late too and like you i also do not like being in any event. My husband often teases me that i get to excited when in fact i am not, just that i really do not like being late..i guess from habit back then i was really taught not to be late at all and yes my sense of equilibrium is lost too.
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
It depends how you define normal. :) You are not normal, in a sense that you were able to do things outside your box. People tend to categorize others into the extrovert group and the introvert group and expect them to act according to their personality. I think you being an introvert and becoming a marketing officer is really extraordinary. I am also an introvert like you, and it wouldn't be easy for me to attend a party filled with strangers. Someone had to literally drag me for me to be able to attend such party. LoL.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
hhahaha yes i amaze myself too sometimes. When it comes to office functions and when i know my work is in line, i do not have problems dealing with people But when it just for "fun" i tend to go to my own type of crowd
@Gretchen522 (715)
• China
29 Aug 12
Each one is special in this social world, and you too my friend jazel-juan.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
29 Aug 12
im also like you^^ when i have like birthday parties with my family sometimes there are other people that i dont know. so i always try to say something but i really dont know how to make the conversation going. im a bit shy also^^ but sure if i know the person well i like to talk to them but i dont like these parties full of people and with people that arent close to me. i always feel like im not happy there. i guess we just rather be near people that are important in our lives. with them talks flow and we feel comfortable^^
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
29 Aug 12
I am not shy person so I enjoy in every party if the person is not start talking with me then I start talking. I always feel I am normal because most of the family members knows my habit talking talking and only talking but not unnecessary.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
glad you never had problems with that my friend, i am who just shuts up unless that person is talking to me lol
@amritha3009 (70)
• India
29 Aug 12
sometimes we do behav improper and dats common u dnt have to think more about it and spoil ur brain with all negative thoughts.
u were good in the past and one istake wil never make u weird or different. forgt abt it and start of ur life
