Quiet and in the corner

United States
September 9, 2012 9:52pm CST
Are you more aware of someone that doesn't do much talking or some one who is outgoing? I know I've been called "stuck up" before, because I just sit back and listen to the conversation and get to know what the other person is like before I start talking. After,I get to know a little more about a person, then I'm more at ease to be involved in conversation. That particular person (that at first called me "stuck up") then later apologized to me, because I opened up to them.
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• United States
10 Sep 12
Me too! I've been called stuck up and obnoxious from people who have never spoken to me in their life all because I just tend to sit there and nt talk to people and not be more of a social butterfly. People see me and because I like to keep my self looking neat and in place and my values are different to theirs.. Like some girls think more about boys and i Focused more on my education and people say I'm stuck up! Then when they get to know me then have to take their words back lol
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10 Sep 12
hey jodee, Its really hard for someone to make me speak, mostly i am really reluctant to talk to people at first but then later when i open to them i still stay quite :D, but my friends are really outgoing so they are actually helping me to change me in a positive way, and i guess its good to speak up only in front of those who know you, and first impression is a last impression and i guess we shoulden't let anyone to think we are easy to tackle:D.
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@shokriw (26)
• Eritrea
10 Sep 12
i used to be talkative and never full of joy. When i went to university everything changed. I'm more serious now. Many of my old friends used to say jokes that made me laugh like crazy, now there are not funny at all. They told me that i've became i different person. Now i don't go out often, actually i like to stay home. I lost most of my old friends and i don't know how to make new ones.
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@jillhill (37384)
• United States
10 Sep 12
I am the same. People think at first that I am unfriendly....but I like you also enjoy getting to know then first. At work with customers it's different but if I am entering a new area of friends or could be friends at a gathering etc. I just sit back and listen to what they have to say..then make a decision if I would enjoy their company after the gathering!
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@sishy7 (27647)
• Australia
10 Sep 12
I have to admit that I pay more attention to my first born because he is the quietest compared to his brothers. Throughout his school years, all his teachers never have any complains about him; but I'm a bit worried that he would be somewhat 'ignored' because he is such a quiet student. I realize that it is his personality, but I'd just like to make sure that it does not hinder him socially.
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• Italy
10 Sep 12
Oh yes I know your situation. People who don't really know me, think that I am rude and stubborn. That's because I am very straight in my opinions. If i don't like something, I don't like it and I say it out loud, due to which people think that I am being rude to them or something. But people who really know, they don't have the same opinion. They call me straight forward which I actually am. And hey if you don't like my opinion why ask for it ? right ? :)
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@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Yeah I guess most of the person I meet here at Mylot has that same personality of not starting the conversation but would rather wait for the other person to start before they follow. I would admit I am like that as well. I am more of the silent type that would not initiate conversation unless the other party start to encourage me.
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10 Sep 12
yeah i am like that too. and i think its the way you should be.
10 Sep 12
hey i think yu need to speak to make someone realise that you are present too, they should value too, your can talk for yourself, they don't have to speak out for you everytime. I think people should try to be little more convenient to talk so by that way its easy to bridge out distances.
@caopaopao (8621)
• China
10 Sep 12
Sounds like me. I don't talk if I am not familiar with the others , either. I should say I am not an outgoing person. But when I am together with my family or my friends, I won't keep quiet , either.
10 Sep 12
Sounds like me,too.
10 Sep 12
hey stout, I am not at all like a person who stand in the corner i rather talk and don't let others to speak:D, I am a really outgoing person but later when i realise how somebody respond to me only then i think before speaking anything because not everybody like to hear your stories.
@cupkitties (7175)
• United States
10 Sep 12
That's me and I do notice other quite people, but never assume them to be stuck up without good reason. People assume that we think we are too good to speak to anyone and that's where they get that we are "stuck up". Nothing could be farther from the truth. Stuck up people would never let the fact that they believe they are better than someone keep them from speaking to that person. After all it is their duty as stuck ups to let us all know how they think we should live our lives
@shaggin (36845)
• United States
10 Sep 12
People need to understand that just because people dont talk a lot it doesnt mean they are stuck up it can mean that they are very shy. In large groups or around people that I dont know I am shy and I have a hard time coming up with things to talk about. Im not introverted or extraverted but I can be either very outgoing or very shy at times.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
10 Sep 12
i always do the same ,even if i am not well acquainted with someone i dont feel like i can catch up or share something to them,i would rather be silent and keep staring thats all i can do at the most
@marguicha (94653)
• Chile
10 Sep 12
Not everyone does much talking. And I must add: "thanks be given!". There are some people who have a compultion to talk. But I rather like quiet ppeople around. I have found out that when they do open their mouths, their conversation is more interesting.
• United States
10 Sep 12
When I am in a room with a lot of people. I can't find myself able to talk to people. I be wanting to go home and sometimes I will cry if i have to wait for someone to bring me home. I don't go out often because of this as well.
@kris3rdE (156)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
I'm a silent type of person. Or I must say that I'm a good listener than speaker.
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Those who are more outgoing are often the ones who gets noticed cause they are the ones who are out there doing things. I on the other hand am rarely the one who starts the conversation but when I get in the mood I can be as outgoing and enthusiastic as the next guy.
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
I guess I'm also that kind of person. I don't talk much to new acquaintances. I'm just also a listener sometimes. If I get to know them and they are good then that's the time I will become open to them too. I guess I'm still timid until now. LOL. Happy mylotting.
@kongno (431)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
lately i am one of those you may call stuck up too, but i used to be talkative, i don't know i just wake up one day and everything in my life is changing by itself, the good times that i used to do, don't thrill me anymore...
@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
10 Sep 12
I am a silent type person too. I am not an outgoing person either. I would stay in one corner and do my job. This is my characteristic different and distinct to most of my groupmates. But they got used to it already with several months that we are staying together.