I Am In Trouble...Please Help Me...

@Dassodils (2013)
India
September 15, 2012 1:54pm CST
Hai Mylotters... I am in trouble.My brother loves s girl who studies in our college as my junior.She is not that much fair.Especially comparing to him.That's not a problem.And a lot of people come to me and said about her character that she is not a good girl.I given some clues to my brother.But he is in a dream world.I lost him.He loves her sincerely.All people feels very pity by seeing him.I don't like to see him in a sad situation.If this is continuing, He will realize that all that glitters are not gold.I am sure about it.as a sister I have the responsibility to call him back.I tried my best.she is like a flirt.I don't know that why he fallen in love with her. I think that god will help me to prove that truth. and What should I do??? Suggestions please..
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17 responses
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
15 Sep 12
Dassodils i am able to now relate to your previous discussions --your feeling sad about your brother going away from you -- not friendly to you-- your feeling said and even telling that you think world is nothing without brother -- another discussion of yours where you said you have fallen in love with a co-student---now your brother loves a girl you think is not a good girl. you cannot do anything in this. he will tell in return about you. also he will not be in a position to listen to your words. maximum you can tell your parents about it and their advice may also go in airs. let him learn it in the tough way--he will be devadoss after love failure.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
15 Sep 12
I am sure that these all will end there by sadness.I am in love also.But we are not seeing everyday.Just about after one month.and we are in same caste.But my brothers lover is in other caste and religion.So parents will not allow him to do that.And I didn't avoid him by saying our love.I maintain all relations in a good way.And I am not behaving like him. Means avoiding me for lover.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
15 Sep 12
Good. you are very clear about what you have and what you should do. no problem will come for you. learn to detach yourself mentally and your parents may take care of it and advise him properly. probably he is trying spend time happily at the cost of the girl?
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
15 Sep 12
In fact I asked you once -- how come both of you are in the same class -- are you twin children or has he failed in a class? of course that is not relevant now.
@Hatley (164671)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 12
hi dassodils I am afraid your brother will have to learn the hard way as if you run her down to him he will just dig in and be more stubborn.love sometimes is blind and sees only the good part.I do not think you can do much to dissuade him .but to be there for him when He realize she is not a good girl after all.My prayers to you both.to find a better girl for your brother.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
15 Sep 12
By continuing this relationship,he is just avoiding me too.He is using the time which we used as talking something in a day.Now He have no time to talk with me.If I am ask some thing,He will be very angry.I wonder that he said to me that He hates me because of talking about her more.It's just difficult to believe
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
15 Sep 12
Dassodils tell your parents; see that the money he gets is just optimum; also watch he doesn't resort to stealing or taking away from grand parents's savings or bank account. Let him think, and know that the girl will change after his coming out of the college.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Sep 12
Probably if you push, he will be more drawn toward her and feel protective. You may need to leave him to find out on his own.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
16 Sep 12
Ya..that is true.But If I am not listening to him,I am sure that I will miss him
@lokisdad (4267)
• United States
26 Dec 15
I know how you feel they're horrible situations to be in but I wouldn't say anything without proof. You don't want him to say you're involved in gossip. Without proof its just that. As for flirting it doesn't really mean much as long there was nothing done. Good luck
• Greece
17 Nov 12
I have the same problem with my brother and I can understand how you feel about it. But if we tried to interfere with our brother's relationship, we may end up being the villain in their love story and may affect our relationship with our brother. Being their sister, I think the best we can do is to let them see the mistakes by their own and console them if they get hurt. They will soon see their mistake. The most important thing is we're here for our brothers and that we support their decision. They're in love now and being in love, they won't see what we can see. But if you're really desperate, you can try seeking the help of your brother's friends. Guys know what to do and they can convince their fellow guys more than we girls can.
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
25 Sep 12
What about your and his Parents.If they could not persuading to leave that girl, I have a suggestion that will advise him his closest colleagues may be more influential.
• China
25 Sep 12
love without reason,sometimes we can't understand why he loves the girl who is not good,but we can't control it,maybe she will change,when we love,we can only see each other ,when we don't love,we will see lots of the person who you love is bad,so i think we should go with the flow,good luck!
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Did you talk to your brother about it and told him straight about the rumors you hear about this girl? If he counters the rumors you said then maybe you should try to see what really made him fall for this girl. Maybe you were hearing from other people is not true. Maybe you were just judging? I think it will greatly help if you try to know this girl personally and that's when you can judge if she's really not a good girl. That's just my suggestion.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
17 Sep 12
Honestly, there is really nothing that you can do to help your brother with this kind of a situation. The reason that I say that is because of the fact that love is blind. In saying this, I mean that it doesn't matter what a person says to someone that is in love, they are really not going to be able to see your points. I know that this is something that is true because of the fact that I've been that person that was involved in a terrible relationship and I didn't recognize that the naysayers were correct until the relationship was over.
@litvillegas (1275)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Hello Dassodils I know how you fell. Like you I always wish that my younger brother will choose the right girl for him. You mentioned above that the girl is like a flirt. That's pitty! I hope your brother can wake up to the truth.Perhaps the girl is beautiful and he was deceive by her outside beauty. I guess it's a good idea to tell your parents also. Thanks for sharing..
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
16 Sep 12
Hi Dassodils, As difficult as it is to watch, your brother does need to learn for himself just what this girl is all about. And who knows...perhaps the stories that you are hearing about her are wrong. Either way, the more you push to break them up, the more he will push you away. IF she is as bad as you say, the worst that will happen is that his feelings will get hurt but he will learn. To save your relationship with your brother, I would just back out of it if I were you.
@else22 (4319)
• India
16 Sep 12
If I am not wrong,then your brother must be a little more or less your age.Boys and girls in this age are attracted towards the opposite gender.So it must be just physical attraction.I too had experienced it when I was in your age group.I would like to suggest you to keep informing him about the girl's character.You may take the help from your parents as well.If everyone keeps saying to him the same thing about the girl,then he may realize his fault.Otherwise he would learn the hard way.
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Guide him , explain to him the foreseen things in a very subtle and loving way..Be very cool and always have that respect for him and talk always like a best friend to him.
@yugasini (12816)
• Anantapur, India
16 Sep 12
Hi Dsassodils, Your intention to save your brother from that girl is good, do one thing try to caught the girl red handed and show it to your brother then he may believe that he had fallen in love with a bad girl. If still he likes that girl that is his fate, nobody can escape from our fate,we have to experience the ill fates in life. Have a nice day.
@shibham (17025)
• India
16 Sep 12
Hi Dassoldils... It seems that he is blind on her sugar coated love and there is no way to make him return from her love. If you love your brother then i think you should go with sting operation and that way he will be benefited and learn a lot about her. have a nice time.
• China
16 Sep 12
well,I think your brother isn't mature,he is too childish,I couldn't figure it out,is he your young brother? For love,we must keep a right attitude,your brother is not,he don't care about anything but that girl.It's a iresponsible action,he lost too much.I really feel sorry about this because I have no good suggestions.you konw,he will not get back to the right way until he realised his mistake by himself.what you can do is just telling him she do not worth to love.Finally he will know you rae right.
• Mexico
16 Sep 12
Hi Dassodils: I just can say love is blind. It's truth. I know you must feel sad because he doesn't listen to your advice but some people when they fell in love they won't hear anything. Tell what you think about it once and if he doesn't listen pray for him. If you insist things could get worse and he might think that you are not helping him and make a big drama about it. ALVARO