"Smile" Though Your Heart is Aching!
By rberon1985
@rberon1985 (5359)
Philippines
October 15, 2012 9:49am CST
A lot of people is saying that we have to smile because it makes us younger.But other people say that how can you smile if your heart is aching?How do you handle the situation?I came to this point. I have experienced it. Just like others, I smile back with others though I felt something inside. I know if I will be negative and show it to them, ny background or sorroundings will be affected.So sometimes you have to show a poker face, so you won't give negative vibes with other people.What about you? can you still get to SMILE even your heart is aching?
let me know your thoughts...
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15 responses
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
hi there rberon1985,
what you have posted is true, that we need to smile though the heart is aching. despite of many trials in life, a smile should still be seen in the face of each other.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
Trials and challenges is already part of our life. without these, our life will be useless. this are just spice of life. i know by smiling it won't resolve any problems or any issue that you currently have, but at least it would ease the pain that you feel as of the moment.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 12
I smile though it has nothing happen, but deep down my heart is aching, at home when with family I can reveal my real face to them as my mother know well my behaviour, if I am pretending then she will confront me. As I know, hiding your feelings is sometimes a weapon when other want to attack you.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
As the saying goes, "Mother's knows best". even we don't tell her about our situation or how do we feel, she knows it just by simply looking at our eyes.and when she talked to you, she would ask what happen and will try to resolve the problem. that is how good parents are.I was able to hide my true feelings at home, they don't notice that my heart is aching that time. but there is this instance that I can't really resist my feelings, that was the time of my break up, i cried a lot that time, and I'm sure my brother heard it. i covered my mouth so would barely here it but because of two much pain, i cried out loud that time. i know they knew about but they did not approach me, they respected my feelings.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct 12
Forgive me but is that from a Michael Jackson song, I vaguely remember him singing that line and it's truly profound and I believe the song was entitled Smile, a lovely ballad. I find it very difficult to smile and my face gives away my emotions. I suffer with depression and anxiety and stranger issues, so I hardly ever smile, I guess I give off negative aura and people tend to steer clear of me, I was told I was intimidating and aloof and somewhat hostile. My mum always tells me that my face gives away everything, it is very difficult to adopt a poker face, if I am sad or happy then my face will tell you straight away, I cannot hide my emotions.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct 12
Thank you, yes I will do that, I am supposed to be seeing her tomorrow, but she hasn't texted or emailed me or left a message on my Facebook page, normally I would text her to check that it was ok to go, but I am not going to to see if she bothers to text me.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
what happen to your friend? would you mind if you share it here? i think it is better to play "One Friend" by Dan Seal for a song for a friend. The message of that song is really nice. I really love it.This song is me and my bestfriend's theme song. I miss my bestfriend. before we work together, late August,he filled his resignation because he is not enjoying the job anymore. we just see other once a month or sometimes not because both of us were busy with our different fields. i miss him so much!
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Yeah I guess for as long as the pain is bearable you can do that. But when the pain inside is really hard then that is the time you have to let go of it and one way to release that is to cry/shout it out of your system depending on your situation of course. But I think your suggestion to smile is the ideal reaction when you are confronted with the situation. If you can still bear with it you can smile and forget you have some heartaches in your life.
Although from time to time it is good to let it out to lighten our burdens but it is also not good to always do it since it becomes a habit and eventually becomes part of you already. Release the negatives and welcome always the positives in your life.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Yeah it is not good to put this feeling inside of you for a long time. You need to detoxify yourself so from time to time you have to do what you are doing. another way is to have a trusted friend be with you to console you having a person to confide with can help you heal faster than doing it on your own.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I have my bestfriend who I always confide my feeling and emotions. He always listen to me. When I'm mad,he acts like a vacuum cleaner, he absorbs everything. when I'm already done sharing all my sentiments. He will speak up and tell me, are you already okay? If not, continue speaking until your fine. It is really good to have someone on your side especially when your down.I'm so lucky that I have a bestfriend like him.Only few people we can trust nowadays.So we really have to be very careful to disclosing our secrets to anyone.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Showing our true feelings makes us more comfortable rather than hiding it. but sometimes we have to hide for the benefits of the people that surrounds us, of course we do not want to give negative energy to everyone. as what i mentioned in my previous comments, if I can't really resist it, i just go out my room. listen to a very solemn song ng start to cry out what I feel.
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@cloud31 (5809)
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15 Oct 12
I can manage to smile though my heart is aching,but I'm not so sure if someone can tell its not a real smile though.But I usually can divert my mood easily when needed.I don't want anyone to discern I'm in pain so whatever the situation I usually smile.
Smile is good for the heart!
But I usually can divert my mood easily when needed.I don't want anyone to discern I'm in pain so whatever the situation I usually smile.
Smile is good for the heart!@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
Smile makes us young and Laugh makes us younger
One time I smiled back to a friend and she told me directly that she don't find my smile as true because it can be see in my eyes that i have a problem. I just apoligized to her and confessed my problems to her.
and Laugh makes us younger
One time I smiled back to a friend and she told me directly that she don't find my smile as true because it can be see in my eyes that i have a problem. I just apoligized to her and confessed my problems to her.@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
you should be laughingit can make you younger, smile can just make you young
it can make you younger, smile can just make you young
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
15 Oct 12
I like to smile, but it hard sometimes. I like to be honest. if Im upset or sad Ill tell you. I will never put on a fake smile. Have agreat week at mylot.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
Being true to how you feel is fine,but sometimes you have to hide it for the benefit of the people that surrounds you. i don't say that your idea is not correct.actually, it is right, you are just being honest and you really want to show how you feel on that specific sitaution.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Oct 12
It's hard to pretend that everything gonna be Okay even though not. Sometimes you need to hide it from others specially if people around got their good vibes from you. I did it many times specially during working hours. After all, I keep myself very sad alone.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
most guys are very showy with their emotions especially in the moment that we are mad. we have to admit that. in your sitaution since you are working abroad, i can say that its hard to smile especially if you are alone. you get to think of your wife and your family when you are already in your room.with the current situation of our country, we have to set aside what we feel. the most important thing is to think of the betterment of our family.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Oct 12
hi rberon I do smile even when I was furious and upset and scared an lonely when I was forced to have to come to this retirement center because we w ere homeless and broke. still here but i m ake m yself happy and then I start feeling well and well happy. Why frown and growl and scold? it would just makeyou ill emotionally and most probably physical too. four years ago
I cam to this place. five y ears ago I found my lot and made so many great friends from around the world. so yes I do smile
and its sa id the world smiles withy ou.is there not a song
called"smile though your heart is aching"?
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
It's good that you can get to smile even your furious and upset.Other's really show their emotions just like julyteen who commented in this below's response. It is gppd that you are already in the retirement center because you are secure and safe in that place rather than outside. we really do not know what is supposed to happen to you, so let's be thankful and this brings you also the courage to find mylot.if you did not see mylot, you can only with your co-retirees.they were only your friends, here your friends is the world. people from different countries.
@jultyteen
it is common among us(men) that we show our emotions when we are mad. that is our way how we handle things up. some men even destroy things near them when they are emotionally affected.
@jultyteen
it is common among us(men) that we show our emotions when we are mad. that is our way how we handle things up. some men even destroy things near them when they are emotionally affected.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
15 Oct 12
I know its hard to smile when your heart is aching and i believe family and friends can always get you through it. They can bring out the real person in you and have fun with you and make you smile the most and remember the good times with them and not the bad that might have just happened. Always remember the good times when your feeling down and have a heart breaking day. We have all gone through break ups and posisbly divorces in life but always remember that there is someone else out there for you and will be waiting one day for you. its life and its hard no one ever said its a simple road.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
In order to hide the pain and to let your friends not to worry about you, I still manage to smile even if i'm bleeding inside.However If i'm alone I let myself burst out the real feelings deep inside me.I pretend to be okay even if not since my mother has a bad health condition and her doctor told her not to worry anything.
@litvillegas (1274)
• Philippines
1 Nov 12
I think it's not good to hide our true feelings to our friends. It's good to let them know what we feel if we are hurt, sad or angry.
But in my case I try to hide my feeling depends on the situation. Same with you, I don't wanna give them a negative feedback so I just choose to hide my true feelings. I can smile though my heart is aching but my close friends know me well. Our eyes reveal our true feelings even though we try to hide it.
Have a great day
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
We may be pretentious at times but we needed to smile even though our hearts are aching. We,ll this happens to me most of the time because I am a church worker and a pastor's wife.
I just cannot tell people about my hearts aches and worries because, most of them comes to me for advice. The only people I could tell my woes are my dearest friend, those who understand me as me and most of all God.
When I don't feel good and worries is almost over me. What I do is go to a friend, I don't need to tell her my aching's all I do is sit down with her, have coffee, do a little chit chat, laugh more and I will go home not fully okay, but to be with her or them kind of drove some negative spirits away. :)
Happy mylotting and thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
In your situation, it is really hard to show your emotion. ypu have to be an example to the people that surrounds you. they can't see you weak.it's good to hear that you have a friend that you can share with over coffee.at least on that point you get to share what you feel inside. it is really hard to keep feelings especially negative ones, we really have to release in or else anytime soon we can burst out.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
I can relate. At some point we came to a point when we are so down. We want to show what we really feel inside but in doing so, many will get affected, a lot of questions will be raised and sometimes we just don't want to talked about it. We don't want to hear any arguments and we don't even want to answer these questions thrown to us. I have been in such situation. Numerous time. All i could do was to fake my smile. I dont wanna cry infront of people as much as I want to. I want to show them I am strong and can handle it but the fact is I am deeply hurt. It is not easy and will never be easy to smile when you are crying deep within. But the good thing about it is it is reminding us that whatever sad situation we are into, a simple smile form a friend can brightens our day. A simple smile from our end reminds us that there is hope so smile:)
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
It is very common among human that we are showy with our emotions especially when were feeling down and we get hurt.The problem there is that people that surrounds us sometimes misinterpret that behavior. That is why when I'm hurt or I am emotionally down, i just stay in my room. Just listen to a love song or an emotional song, then later on without noticing, a tear fall from my eyes and I will fall asleep. Upon waking up, I'm already okay.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Ohhh.. that reminds me of something. I used to do that when I was in college. When I was badly hurt by a guy I fall inlove with. I used to just stay in my room, listen to my favorite songs.. relate to the message of the song untill such time I didn't realized tears already falling down my face. For quite a while, I would reminisce, asked a lot of things and answer it myself. I have a lot of "if only"s and "why"s. It took me hours in such scenario untill such time I fall asleep. But now thinking about it, it makes me smile. When the pain goes away, even how painful it was before, all you can do is to smile because acceptance is already in our heart..
@Magz1989 (271)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Yeah...i also encountered that...and i really smile though my heart is aching...for i know that if i let that person go, that would be the best for him. I can no longer see him suffer...so before he go..he want me to smile so that he can leave me...so i smile perfectly like what he ask me and my heart was bursting....but still i smile
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
having this said, you mean to say that you sacrifice your feelings just to make him happy? that's the way i understand what you've said. sometimes it is really hard to let go a person that you really love. it take sometime before the wound really heals.but you have to bear in mind that moving on and accepting things are the best thing to do for you to be happy. do it for yourself. love yourself first before loving others.
