Shotgun Wedding

I think that it is still best to be married if you are sure of committing yourself to that person for life. Getting married for the reason of being pregnant may not always turn out good.

I don't think that you should ever get married just because there is a baby involved, because that doesn't mean that the relationship is going to work. I think that it would always be much better for the child if both of the parents were involved in its life but not married, because they would then be able to share the childcare duties between them. It would be much better because both of them would be happy and this means that child would not feel as though they were causing trouble between the two parents.

Any man I marry will be the wrong guy!Especially my guy. To marry just to save the family the embarrassment of me having a b@stard child will only work if after marriage my husband and I can have separate lives. I mean we get married and have the baby and then... he has his mistresses and I have my lovers. I wonder if the family would see that as more of a disgrace! there are two other options than marrying a guy you may not even love or like, it is adoption or abortion. Me? I never want to deliver a baby Ever so it is abortion. but for many the best thing to do is let the baby be adopted. That way the birth mom and dad can go on with their life And he baby is given to a couple who needs and Wants a baby. It is best in most cases.

To me being pregnant is not reason to get marry!!! but on the other hand why get pregnant with the wrong guy? what I mean is why go to bed with some one who is not worth in the first place!

I notice that too and becomes a normal routine for a relationship that when the woman got pregnant, the guy should marry her. There are so few instances that both will not marry each other but still they're together. The girl doen't want to be left alone in raising the child that's why maariage is always the solution to keep the guy by her side. Sometimes, they don't really love each other and in the end, the marriage turns out the other way around.

Its not a solution having shotgun wedding i have a neighbor like that, now the gal is suffering guy hated the gal so much.Even if they had son, it didn't change, guy had been having an affair to different gals.their marriage is worst.The guy just went home to support his son but never loved his wife.

It is usually better to get married if pregnant. The thing is if you do not, it is harder to find someone who will marry you even f you gave the child up for adoption. Even if the marriage does not work, being a divorced or a widow makes it easier to find a man who will marry you the next time, but with pregnant girls whose parents told them that they do not have to marry the father, or raise their child, the boyfriends they get will get them pregnant over and over again and may not marry them or will marry them when the children are almost ready for college. Or if the child is adopted out, the men will think the girl really does not like children, or she has to prove how good a housekeeper or cook she is to compensate for her sin.

Here at least this seems to be the best solution. The man should be responsible to a woman. If she can't get married, perhaps she has to go to have the abortion because it is not easy for a woman to bring up a child alone. And others will laugh at them, too. It is not good for a child to grow up by a parent only.

Forcing someone to marry because of pregnancy is never a good idea. First, it encourages certain young people who want to marry someone their family doesn't approve of to get pregnant because then the family has to let them marry the person. Second, it turns what may have been an "accident" that resulted in an error in judgement into a life sentence punishment as if a crime had been committed. Traditional families often believe in arranged marriage. Mates are chosen based on several things, but if a young woman finds herself pregnant, the father of the child may not be suitable husband material. First of all, he has already shown himself to be irresponsible. If a woman is over 25 and gets pregnant, it should be no one's business but her own. However, both parties should be held responsible for the welfare of the child.

Marriage is a complex commitment for life. And I doubt that a marriage by force will work out. I don`t even think that you should stay married "for the kids", even if you married for the right reasons. Children deserve a nice home and not a place ful of negative energy.

I think that one of the reasons why so many marriages are failing these days is because people are marrying for the wrong reason. Marrying someone solely because a child is on the way is an example of marrying for the wrong reason. The chances of a marriage of that nature lasting is very slim.

Hi friend, i hate this kind of marriages. It is not the punishment for the guy who did the wrong as well as the guy is not only responsible for the mistake. Both of them are the reason for the pregnancy and parents face shame due to their son/daughter activity.

Hi..There may always be some sort of pressure from family & relatives to get married especially after a woman got pregnant..It is mostly common in Roman Catholic families and depending on the culture and where you live..Getting married is a gift from God and it should be taken seriously and not some sort of an "solution" to a problem or issues..You need to listen to what your hearts says to you and after all, you're probably old enough to make that decision for yourself..You need to think it through before you make such a big decision..If you feel that you love your man enough and vice versa to make that commitment and i would say that it would be a very good thing. There are also a lot of women out there who raise their baby on their own if there isn't a man involve. It isn't easy at all even if there's a man involved..You need to be strong phsically, mentally, & emotionally..You need a lot of support from friends and family..In the end it's you who makes the call...

I dont think a woman should marry a guy just because you get pregnant thats jut wrong and sselfissh

Hi Shavkat, I haven't heard of a shotgun wedding in a long time. Few people consider it a shame when a girl gets pregnant out of wedlock anymore, in fact many couples just live together and don't marry at all. Blessings.

I would never want to marry a man who was forced into the marriage under the threat of bodily harm, that's just wrong. I am doubtful that marriages such as these work out for the best of all concerned. Forced marriages are not always the correct choice; the welfare of any child involved weighs more than the preceived shame of family members. This sort of marriage would undoubtedly make me very unhappy, especially if the guy was totally wrong for me.

marriage will never be the solution..when i got pregnant early too my mom and dad did not force us into marriage even tho my boyfriend then ( husband now ) wants us to get married.. we took it one step at a time and i am glad we did..

I do not believe in getting married just because you or your partner are pregnant. Getting married to please others is just ridiculous and will lead to an unpleasant marriage most times I feel. Arranged marriages and religious marriages (by that I mean being almost forced into a marriage due to religious pressure) are just as stupid. The only times people should marry each other is if they are truly in love with one another.

Pregnancy is never a reason to get married...not in this day and age. Forced marriages rarely last, and then who suffers? The child.

Normally such pregnancies are rare in India. We believe in getting married and then give birth to a child. Slowly things are changing in India also step by step on account of globalization. it is advisable to get married - whether the marriage works or not. if it doesn't work divorce.