Being friends with a guy that like you

I react like you , after knowing we weren't as close because i dont go for lunch alone with him anymore and i try not to ever be alone with him to give him any wrong ideas . We still enjoy laughing and talking but only in group . Wow you encounter 3 at the same time , that is a lot to deal with . Having to hurt all their feelings . I agree being to close will only give them hope that you will eventually crush .

It was quite a lot to deal with! I was in such a state that I couldn't trust any guy on this earth and never wanted any guy as my friend also. Thankfully, I am out of such dilemma now and I am still friends with them, but as you siad in groups and never alone!

That can happen , we go to a state that guys and girl can never be just friend . I am happy you are out of that also , because three at the same time is more than I could handle . Seeing their disappointed look .

Hey Sids I almost didn't recognize you because of the change of pic .. Good for you , it ok to learn from others if you can especially with case like these . My fiance was my best friend , our friendship turn into lover but that was mutual feelings . The thing is this guy is my friend , I am already in a relationship and I have no feelings for him . We are not as close because I dont want to give him the wrong impression . So we only hang out in group now . I think our friendship has survive the awkwardness , its not like that anymore .

Well you and your wife make sure to have a happy Diwali Totally true , one sided feelings can leave a lot of hurt and it is not nice for anyone . Also agree with that part that most do not move on and that is the main cause for having bad future relationships . Yes no more single and I am happy he now have a girlfriend and change his life in becoming a christian .

yup, my wife took this pic as the first one on her new cell phone some days back when we were together (she stays at a different city due to her work). And yester-evening she arrived here for the weekend and Diwali. So I uploaded this pic as my avatar. Ours is a love marriage too. And we did start off as colleagues, then friends and then the mutual love. Mutual love is okay and normal - must come up from friendship. But the one-sided thing messes up relations (the ones I mentioned above were one sided ones). Here in India, many people are more hurtful due to the social stuff (the thinking and outlook is not that great and many fail to move on in case of such failures - I think this not moving on is the reason behind the sour relations). You are a better person (as you cleared off the air between you and this guy) and also a smart one (when you say- "we hang out in group now") And also, I would say the guy to be a better and understanding friend who is learning that one cannot have everything s/he wants and one must learn to move on in case of failures without damaging and hurting others.

I agree , I would not enjoy being harass every single day . The sooner the accept the fact the sooner everyone can move on . I dont find it cute either , its hard having to repeat yourself . Have a good day .

Thats very hard , you actually now friends with a guy that you once had a relationship with , that is a very hard to almost impossible thing to accomplish. Happy you tell him clear that you are married and all you need is a friend . Also good that he is now becoming friend with your husband also . All the best have a nice day

Lol nothing you could do to get away from him , sound like my friend !I agree with with that action , if he happen to do anything bad , he should be cut off . Hope your friendship remain in good health for many years .

I think your friendship is strong enough to make it since you have been friends from such a young age . The best friendship normally comes when we are young .

I'd like to think so, too. I mean, we've know each other since grade school and now that were older, we have remained the best of friends.

The only problem was he was the first friend I made , it was after realizing he likes me I made two girl friends so that way , we are never alone . We are not that close after knowing how he feels , but we are still friends .

I know because my best friend which was a guy is now my fiance , but he I know I like . This guy I have no feelings for than friendship but he understand. Happy we didnt have to end our friendship . Yes my fiance is comfortable with him . He now have a girlfriend and become a christian , so we all planning on meeting up and going out since we haven't seen each other for a long time now and so much have change.

You are joking , never been in a romantic relationship . Well there is still time for you to go out there and steal that one girl heart . Sometimes friendship can lead to more but both have to feel the same .

Yes he is attractive to me but I dont think so anymore because I tell him we will never be . He is now my fiance Facebook friends and he is a christian now .

I agree we can never have too many friends but we cannot make that blind us from the truth . As you mention , if he accept that its just friendship , then the friendship can remain but dont try to trick us are else its over.

I agree with you its not enough to close a door as long as the person dont take advantage of your friendship and understand that it will be just that .