children should be allowed to make mistakes

@roshigo58 (4871)
Pune, India
November 27, 2012 9:22pm CST
Parents and teachers are always expect perfection from the children.But very few children do the things perfectly. Children can not play,study or do anything without mistakes.They learn from the mistakes. Scolding,threshing or being rude is not of any use. Children should be guaranteed that its OK. They are bound to make mistakes but always try to improve. Parents should not ignore their mistakes.On the contrary the children should taught as to what is wrong and what is right politely with soft and loving words. What do you do when children make mistakes?
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30 responses
@CloudXD (84)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
kids have the right to make mistake because they don't know yet what they are doing just guide them... :)
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
vERY true cloud! YES they don't know yet what to do. And it is the parents role to make them understand things.
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
We parents are the one responsible for that. you cannot blame childrens if they do mistakes. it's all about on how the parents handle this situation.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, Children are very innocent and they don't do the mistake knowingly. Parents should try to avoid doing mistakes in front of their children because children always try to copy the elders. Thank you for the response.
@Mavic123456 (7931)
• Thailand
28 Nov 12
whew, with a lot of parenting issues and the studies that resulting to this kind of treatment are there still parents like these? scolding and saying not so good things to their children? These parents will never learn really very disappointing. Yes, we all became children, and even adults make mistake all the times. I just talk to them. Tell them the implications of the mistakes they have done. that's all I can do. I am not really into violence and spanking. and all
@deazil (4556)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Here you are! I wondered where you went. Are we working as a tag team tonight? How about making them stand in the corner? Just kidding.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
28 Nov 12
Hi, Sometimes children make big mistake then we have to punish them. But the punishment should not be very strict. Violence may damage children's mental health. thank you for the response.
• Thailand
28 Nov 12
Deazil yes, this is tag team tonight. Sorry I need to work for a little while LOL, then back to mylotting. Yes, I agree and children learn fast. That's why whatever lessons we give them they absorb so quickly and implanted in their heads. Abused children are more vulnerable to depression as they grow older. http://www.reformtalk.net/2011/08/17/review-study-abused-children-twice-the-risk-for-persistent-depression/ and in 3 abused children 1 becomes abusers themselves. abcnews.go.com/Primetime/...cycle-abuse/story?id=8549642 Your turn, Deazil.
@ShyBear88 (16899)
• United States
28 Nov 12
I do agree that children need to learn from there mistakes but not all mistakes should be treat with just niceness from the parents. Some mistakes can be very life threatening and that is when a parent should be a friend. There is times in which yes a mistake should be treated with genteelness with a softer tone voice and others with more of a harsh tone where if they do it ago more then just a consequence will happen something else might happen where others can get hurt.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. Some mistakes should be handled strictly which hurt someone. Children should be punished strictly for the big mistakes but enough care should be taken. Thank you for the response.
@ShyBear88 (16899)
• United States
1 Dec 12
Your welcome
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Of course yes, that is where they learn when they make mistakes. I'm not a perfectionist but I have big expectations with my daughter, but I let her learn lessons through her mistakes. It's just needs a lot of patience and needs loads of deep understanding. I was a Sunday school for eight years I think, I though spank my kids when they don't really really listens to me but instead play with other kids. SO what I do is when my kids are not listening anymore I can't make them, I dismiss them early co's I know they probably need some break.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
28 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. We should give some break to our children. They get bored by doing the same thing again and again. They need some change. We should understand children psychology. Thank you for the response.
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@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Children has rights and we need to give them that rights even though they are still very young and provoking sometimes. The saying that goes "If you can't beat them, join them!" is very applicable in handling kids. hahahaha
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Mistakes are always part of our life. Not only on children but it is for all of us. Well if you speak of children mistakes yes you are right, children are bound to have mistakes because it is the only way for them to know what is right from wrong. But that doesn't mean that you will just let them do the mistakes again. Being a parent we must guide our children to make it right! We should really let them understand simple mistakes for them to make it straight.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
28 Nov 12
Hi, you are right. Children are allowed to make mistakes doesn't mean that let them do mistakes again. When they do mistake in doing anything we should teach them how that particular thing should be done. Thank you for the response.
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
But i guess some parents understand it wrongly when it comes to a child mistakes.Considering that it is just a child they will just let them do what they want even though it is wrong. That is why many children today are very spoiled because they are not being guided by their parents.I hope every parents will realize that it is very important for a child to know what they are doing.
@allknowing (56854)
• India
28 Nov 12
Why only children all should be allowed to make mistakes. To err is human after all!
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
28 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. All should be allowed to make mistakes. But we should not make mistakes again and again and we should learn something from our mistakes and try to improve ourselves. Thank you for the response.
@allknowing (56854)
• India
28 Nov 12
From the consequences that follow because of repeated mistakes I am sure people will learn their lesson, hopefully!
@deazil (4556)
• United States
28 Nov 12
You're right, roshigo. Children learn by their mistakes. It's how we all learn. Shouting at them is not good for their little minds. They don't make mistakes on purpose. That's why it's called a mistake. Patience and kindness go a long way in calmly teaching a child the proper way of doing things. This also helps to form their personalities towards being more productive and it gives them a better outlook on life in general.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
28 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. Children don't make mistakes on purpose. Proper way of molding character of our children improves their personality and they can become good human beings. Thank you for the response.
@deazil (4556)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Hi roshigo. Thanks for commenting!
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 12
I normally use a more holistic approach. Explained to them why is it wrong and do not repeat the same mistake again. Also enlighten them about the consequences. I hope by guiding them this way it will help to shape their character.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. We should guide the children what is wrong and what is right. By doing this we can shape our children's character properly. thank you for the response.
@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
30 Nov 12
It really depends on what kind of mistakes that my child has been making. When it is mistakes that could hurt someone, those, my children will be punished for. The reason that I punish for those kinds of mistakes is because of the fact that they are putting themselves or others in danger. Now when it comes to mistakes at school, I will allow them to make their mistakes, but I will also work with them so that they would be able to improve in the future. This is something that I think is very important for parents to do for their children.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. When children make the mistake that give hurt or trouble someone, they should be punished properly for that. Otherwise for small mistakes we can forgive them. Thank you for the response.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
29 Nov 12
Children are human beings and they will make mistakes, we can guide them as parents but we also have to give them the freedom to make choices too. Making misakes is how we learn in life, some mistakes are reality checks that wake us up when we need it the most.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, you are right. Children should be given freedom to make choices. It is the duty of parents to check that parents are going in right direction or not. If they are wrong parents should guide them. Thank you for the response.
• United States
29 Nov 12
They should only be allowed to make some mistakes, but there has to be a limit. Otherwise they won't learn, and then they won't succeed as an adult. Discipline is very important in making someone into a productive member of society.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. Children should be allowed to make mistake in limited proportion. Discipline is very important. Thank you for the response.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
29 Nov 12
They certainly should! Children dont know everything and the way that they learn is through the mistakes that they make and will continue to make. Just like us, grown ups have mistakes as well. For example thinking kids shouldnt make any mistakes is a mistake!!! :)
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are absolutely right. Thinking kids shouldn't make any mistakes is a mistake! Very good example. Thank you for the response.
@pahak627 (4200)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Generally, children and older people alike are not allowed however we can tolerate children's mistakes. I agree with you scolding, etc are not not among the remedies to correct their mistakes.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, you are right. Generally children and old people are not allowed to make mistakes. We all learn from our mistakes and we should try to correct them. Children should be learnt to improve by correcting their mistakes. Thank you for the response.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
28 Nov 12
Of course they should.. Thats the way they learn from their mistakes. Just like you and I did.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, you are right. Children also learn from mistakes like adults. Thank you for the response.
• United States
28 Nov 12
I agree with you in any point I am a adult and still make mistakes just to make it the next time better And of course kids make mistakes and they have to so they learn some kids learn faster some you need more time
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. some kids learn faster some you need more time. Kids who need more time to learn should be handled very kindly. Thank you for the response.
@Ahana123 (139)
• India
28 Nov 12
You are absolutely correct.Children learn from mistakes & it is the responsibility of parents to tell them what is right & what is wrong.Once they are taught the correct things it definitely helps them to be a better person in future since they can understand what is good & what is bad.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. Once they are taught the correct things it definitely helps them to be a better person in future. They should be taught in soft manner as far as possible. Thank you for the response.
@elsino91 (443)
• Poland
28 Nov 12
I agree, and I think it holds for all people. People shouldn't fear making mistakes because if everyone did everything perfectly nobody would learn everything. Mistakes are what give us experience and teach us, we learn from mistakes. If children are taught to do everything perfectly then when they grow up they are going to be afraid of doing things they haven't done before because of the fear of doing them wrong.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. If children are taught to do everything perfectly then they always would have fear of doing things wrong. They would lose their confidence. We should encourage the children to do the things without any fear. Thank you for the response.
@savypat (20248)
• United States
28 Nov 12
First you have to make sure it's a mistake, often it's an attempt to attract attention, even if it's negative attention. If it is a real mistake, then it can be treated as a learning experience. After all history shows us that many of the best things that have happened in the human world were the result of mistakes. To my mind the worse thing a parent can do to a child is treat a mistake as though it was the end of the world. If that mistake ended in injury then of course proper healing needs to be applied, but if it was spilt milk or such, then no big deal should be made. Spilt milk can result in a clean floor. A positive outlook can be learned but first it must be taught.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. All history shows us that many of the best things that have happened in the human world were the result of mistakes. If mistakes make injuries to anyone then then the children should be warned that that mistake should not happen again. Thank you for the response.
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
As a teacher, I discipline children with love.I don't get angry easily if they got mistakes but I help them to correct it.Because , the more we get angry to them ,the more they will not learn.So, its better to give them good advice rather than scolding them.And using polite words even if they're wrong can really help them to become a good child.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, You must be a favorite teacher of the students as you behave softly and gently with them. Thank you for the response.
@roberten (3134)
• United States
28 Nov 12
I give them "the look" if they are off the charts bad. I call them on behavior that might hurt them or someone else with an explanation as to why their behavior is not the best choice while providing suggestions for better choices. Children are individuals who cannot be treated the same so I try to respond in a manner in which the child can understand. Too much touchy feely stuff is not always the best method, it can seen the wrong or confusing messages. Whatever works without harming the child is what I try to do. The real world is not touchy feely.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Nov 12
Hi, giving the angry look and showing our disagreement without rude or harsh words for the wrong behavior of the children is the best method. Thank you for the response.